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Panic, or don't panic?

Knottie41914738Knottie41914738 member
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When I went to my last appointment, my doctor told me that I should be tracking at least 6 movements per hour. Normally my baby is really active and dancing like crazy. Yesterday and today she hasn't been moving very much. Yesterday there was probably only about three 4/5 minute kicking sessions and so far this morning only 2 little kicks. My mom always said that in the 8th month of pregnancy babies chill out and work back up at month 9. I'm 8m3w and she hasn't calmed down till yesterday and today.

Should I be worried? Should I go to the hospital just to be safe?
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  • Knottie41914738Knottie41914738 member
    Okay, this is my first baby so everything makes me nervous because I don't know what's normal! My mother in law constantly makes me feel petty and says I'm "trying" to stress myself, so I figured I would get advice here.
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  • Knottie41914738Knottie41914738 member
    Well I have a heart monitor, I constantly check her heart rate and it's at 140 every time. I have that comfort so I don't completely freak out, but I'm going to go to the hospital to get checked because she is normally moving more than this. Better safe than sorry.
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  • Knottie41914738Knottie41914738 member
    My doctors told me getting a doppler was perfectly fine actually. They said that hearing your child's heartbeat can help subside anxiety. Listening to my child's heartbeat doesn't mean I'm going to neglect any issues that I feel are wrong. I'm smart enough to not let it convince me to ignore a problem, but it helps me not to freak out and think my child is dead. It's sunday, offices are closed, so I have to go to the hospital to be checked checked out. She has moved around, just not as chaotic as normal. So far she's done the 6 movements every hour today. We had a lazy day yesterday so maybe she was just relaxed.
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  • knolliepollieknolliepollie member
    My baby hasn't been too active my whole pregnancy. Sometimes she goes off for a day then follows that up with 3 quiet days. She has session or two each day where she might move a bit but that's all. My point is, you know what's normal for your baby and if you're not comfortable go get it checked out. My doctor also says all babies are different so you can't really put a number on what's normal. They told me as long as I feel her periodically during the day (even if it's one kick) then we are good.

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  • Knottie41914738Knottie41914738 member
    I was reading through other people's posts and looking at how much people are attacked. You people should really be ashamed of yourself. Nothing I said was wrong or argumentative, I was explaining why I had a doppler? I'm a first time mother with anxiety and depression that has experienced a lot of loss and the women in my family have experienced a lot of miscarriages. So far through this pregnancy I've been lucky enough to stay calm and not have to take any medication. I have never made a post on these conversation board before, so I don't know what you're little abbreviations like MUD mean. But saying that I'm "baiting" people? Baiting people for what!? I clearly said I was going to the hospital and I already went and was discharged. They said that the baby was perfectly fine. I posted to see if this was actually normal. She said to get checked out and I was on my way. I didn't post to be attacked and accused of baiting people, for what reason I'm not exactly sure. Like I said, I've never been pregnant before. You people really need to watch the way you say things and how you go at people. These boards are to be informative and helpful, not to be rude to people and attack them for trying to explain that they are calming themselves down. I read back through my post and I guess I can see where someone might have taken it the wrong way. I wouldn't post to a message board and then be mean to someone for trying to offer advise and help me. Everyone seems so ready to attack people on here instead of being helpful. We're all pregnant, we should be giving helpful and reassuring advise on here, not accusing people and trying to make them feel stupid about their concerns. Damn.
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  • Knottie41914738Knottie41914738 member
    knolliepollie said:

    My baby hasn't been too active my whole pregnancy. Sometimes she goes off for a day then follows that up with 3 quiet days. She has session or two each day where she might move a bit but that's all. My point is, you know what's normal for your baby and if you're not comfortable go get it checked out. My doctor also says all babies are different so you can't really put a number on what's normal. They told me as long as I feel her periodically during the day (even if it's one kick) then we are good.

    I was wondering if the "6 kicks every hour" was far fetched! Normally my baby goes crazy after I eat or drink, but I don't think that she goes all day long. I guess I've never paid enough attention to count how many movements I've had every hour until yesterday since I wasn't feeling constant movements. They said that since I had a lazy day yesterday that she might have just been doing the same thing! Thank you for being nice! Lol
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  • nmwheel1nmwheel1 member
    Knottie41914738 said:

    I was reading through other people's posts and looking at how much people are attacked. You people should really be ashamed of yourself. Nothing I said was wrong or argumentative, I was explaining why I had a doppler? I'm a first time mother with anxiety and depression that has experienced a lot of loss and the women in my family have experienced a lot of miscarriages. So far through this pregnancy I've been lucky enough to stay calm and not have to take any medication. I have never made a post on these conversation board before, so I don't know what you're little abbreviations like MUD mean. But saying that I'm "baiting" people? Baiting people for what!? I clearly said I was going to the hospital and I already went and was discharged. They said that the baby was perfectly fine. I posted to see if this was actually normal. She said to get checked out and I was on my way. I didn't post to be attacked and accused of baiting people, for what reason I'm not exactly sure. Like I said, I've never been pregnant before. You people really need to watch the way you say things and how you go at people. These boards are to be informative and helpful, not to be rude to people and attack them for trying to explain that they are calming themselves down. I read back through my post and I guess I can see where someone might have taken it the wrong way. I wouldn't post to a message board and then be mean to someone for trying to offer advise and help me. Everyone seems so ready to attack people on here instead of being helpful. We're all pregnant, we should be giving helpful and reassuring advise on here, not accusing people and trying to make them feel stupid about their concerns. Damn.

    But you were given very helpful advice. It just seemed you kept coming back to change the story which will make someone wonder If you are being argumentative. I've experienced two losses and a lot of my family has as well or suffered through infertility. Does pregnancy stress me out? Yes, after losses it will. My doctor told me not to get a doppler as it could provide more stress. When something doesn't seem right I call health link and speak to a registered nurse and if they say go into labour and delivery I go. Does it usually turn out to be nothing? Yes, it does, but it gives me peace of mind.
    The thing about an internet forum is we aren't medical professionals, and we also don't know your medical history. So a normal symptom for someone could potentially be an abnormal symptom for someone else, based on their personal medical history. That is why we will always say go to or call your doctor. Nobody wants to give you false hope in the event it turned out to be something serious.
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  • rachswirachswi member
    Knottie41914738 said:

    I was reading through other people's posts and looking at how much people are attacked. You people should really be ashamed of yourself. Nothing I said was wrong or argumentative, I was explaining why I had a doppler? I'm a first time mother with anxiety and depression that has experienced a lot of loss and the women in my family have experienced a lot of miscarriages. So far through this pregnancy I've been lucky enough to stay calm and not have to take any medication. I have never made a post on these conversation board before, so I don't know what you're little abbreviations like MUD mean. But saying that I'm "baiting" people? Baiting people for what!? I clearly said I was going to the hospital and I already went and was discharged. They said that the baby was perfectly fine. I posted to see if this was actually normal. She said to get checked out and I was on my way. I didn't post to be attacked and accused of baiting people, for what reason I'm not exactly sure. Like I said, I've never been pregnant before. You people really need to watch the way you say things and how you go at people. These boards are to be informative and helpful, not to be rude to people and attack them for trying to explain that they are calming themselves down. I read back through my post and I guess I can see where someone might have taken it the wrong way. I wouldn't post to a message board and then be mean to someone for trying to offer advise and help me. Everyone seems so ready to attack people on here instead of being helpful. We're all pregnant, we should be giving helpful and reassuring advise on here, not accusing people and trying to make them feel stupid about their concerns. Damn.

    If you read any other thread like yours then you know what our responses are going to be. You're lucky @mamavbs responded as kindly as she did because WE ARE NOT DOCTORS. You're obviously going to get the response of "if you think something is wrong then you need to go to your doctor." I can't in good conscience give you "reassuring advice" because I don't know your health history. I don't know your body or your pregnancy so if I told you that everything is rainbows and butterflies then I'm being just as irresponsible as you are by wasting time on a forum instead of following your instincts that something is wrong. Take your drama and go to the doctor. SMDH.
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  • helsbels222helsbels222 member
    Not exactly sure what you are looking for here. You asked a question and you were given great advice. Not certain why that's not good enough. Do you need one of us to call your doctor for you or drive you to l&d?
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  • Knottie41914738Knottie41914738 member
    I posted because I was curious as to if others were experiencing the same thing and if I was panicking over nothing. I clearly put that my mom didn't have much movement at 8 months so I was posting to see if others had experience less movement in the 8th month. I didn't look at other people posts until late after I seen the rude comments on mine. I was seeing if everyone had a disrespectful manner to their responses. If you don't like that people are asking questions then don't comment on their posts? When people are concerned about something do you think it's necessary to be rude and say shitty things to them? No.

    No one is asking you to be a doctor nor are they asking for you to be bitchy on their posts. I was posting to see if others had experienced this and to see if I was just worrying about nothing. And I never changed my story.

    Honestly, do you even read what you're posting? Saying that people asking questions is baiting? What would I be baiting someone to do? You're purposely putting people down for asking questions. Some of us don't know if things are normal or should be concerned. No one should be attacked for asking a damn question. There is no reason to act all crazy because someone is wondering if others have experienced the same thing. She said that she would get checked out to be safe...and I did? Continuing my conversation with her is not arguing. She could have taken what I said the wrong way and I clearly said that above. Everyone reads everything differently. But I wasnt clearly being rude and disrespectful like some of you. What is the fun of being awful to another person that is already worried about having a baby at any moment? Think about things before you comment on other people's posts so disrespectfully. There is no reason to be so rude to others. This isn't high school. I'm not responding to anything else disrespectful on this post. Hopefully you guys won't be this rude to others.
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  • TacoSarahTacoSarah member
    edited October 2015
    I'm not in the mood for a warning so here's a drama llama instead.

    After nearly 9 months I still can't gif from my phone. image<
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  • oxley09oxley09 member
    Knottie41914738 said:
    I posted because I was curious as to if others were experiencing the same thing and if I was panicking over nothing. I clearly put that my mom didn't have much movement at 8 months so I was posting to see if others had experience less movement in the 8th month. I didn't look at other people posts until late after I seen the rude comments on mine. I was seeing if everyone had a disrespectful manner to their responses. If you don't like that people are asking questions then don't comment on their posts? When people are concerned about something do you think it's necessary to be rude and say shitty things to them? No. No one is asking you to be a doctor nor are they asking for you to be bitchy on their posts. I was posting to see if others had experienced this and to see if I was just worrying about nothing. And I never changed my story. Honestly, do you even read what you're posting? Saying that people asking questions is baiting? What would I be baiting someone to do? You're purposely putting people down for asking questions. Some of us don't know if things are normal or should be concerned. No one should be attacked for asking a damn question. There is no reason to act all crazy because someone is wondering if others have experienced the same thing. She said that she would get checked out to be safe...and I did? Continuing my conversation with her is not arguing. She could have taken what I said the wrong way and I clearly said that above. Everyone reads everything differently. But I wasnt clearly being rude and disrespectful like some of you. What is the fun of being awful to another person that is already worried about having a baby at any moment? Think about things before you comment on other people's posts so disrespectfully. There is no reason to be so rude to others. This isn't high school. I'm not responding to anything else disrespectful on this post. Hopefully you guys won't be this rude to others.

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  • shayshayshahshayshayshah member
    Wow, I'm going to piggy back right now and say I've been told by a lot of people that there's "a calm before the storm" meaning baby's movement lessens before he/she makes their grand entrance. Any STM's find this to be true?
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  • rebeccalynn27rebeccalynn27 member
    shayshayshah said:

    Wow, I'm going to piggy back right now and say I've been told by a lot of people that there's "a calm before the storm" meaning baby's movement lessens before he/she makes their grand entrance. Any STM's find this to be true?

    As PP have already said what is normal for one isn't normal for another. DS was active until an hr before I pushed. I have -/+ 11 days until LO arrives and she's not as active as she usually is. Dr said its normal for me.
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  • shayshayshahshayshayshah member
    rebeccalynn27 said:

    shayshayshah said:

    Wow, I'm going to piggy back right now and say I've been told by a lot of people that there's "a calm before the storm" meaning baby's movement lessens before he/she makes their grand entrance. Any STM's find this to be true?

    As PP have already said what is normal for one isn't normal for another. DS was active until an hr before I pushed. I have -/+ 11 days until LO arrives and she's not as active as she usually is. Dr said its normal for me.
    Totally understand what's normal for one may not be normal for another, was just curious as I've heard it from so many people which is why I'd asked if anyone had found this to be true.
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  • nmwheel1nmwheel1 member
    shayshayshah said:

    rebeccalynn27 said:

    shayshayshah said:

    Wow, I'm going to piggy back right now and say I've been told by a lot of people that there's "a calm before the storm" meaning baby's movement lessens before he/she makes their grand entrance. Any STM's find this to be true?

    As PP have already said what is normal for one isn't normal for another. DS was active until an hr before I pushed. I have -/+ 11 days until LO arrives and she's not as active as she usually is. Dr said its normal for me.
    Totally understand what's normal for one may not be normal for another, was just curious as I've heard it from so many people which is why I'd asked if anyone had found this to be true.
    My daughter stopped moving much when I was in the beginning stages of labour and it was because she went into fetal distress and her heartrate dropped below 80 bpm. Thankfully I had already gone to the hospital and were instantly rushed for an emergancy c-section and got her safely out. This probably isn't normal and this is a good example why people shouldn't tell others not to worry because it's normal.
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  • logarithm3logarithm3 member
    I'm surprised that doctors tell you how many kicks you should feel per period of time - mine just asks me if I feel kicks "as regularly" as previously, which makes more sense. I never heard that movements decrease, they are however less intense sometimes as LO runs out of space
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  • shayshayshahshayshayshah member
    nmwheel1 said:

    shayshayshah said:

    rebeccalynn27 said:

    shayshayshah said:

    Wow, I'm going to piggy back right now and say I've been told by a lot of people that there's "a calm before the storm" meaning baby's movement lessens before he/she makes their grand entrance. Any STM's find this to be true?

    As PP have already said what is normal for one isn't normal for another. DS was active until an hr before I pushed. I have -/+ 11 days until LO arrives and she's not as active as she usually is. Dr said its normal for me.
    Totally understand what's normal for one may not be normal for another, was just curious as I've heard it from so many people which is why I'd asked if anyone had found this to be true.
    My daughter stopped moving much when I was in the beginning stages of labour and it was because she went into fetal distress and her heartrate dropped below 80 bpm. Thankfully I had already gone to the hospital and were instantly rushed for an emergancy c-section and got her safely out. This probably isn't normal and this is a good example why people shouldn't tell others not to worry because it's normal.
    How scary for you!! Was there a reason she went into fetal distress? Did you go into the hospital because of the lack of movement? Not trying to be invasive just always interested in people experience.
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  • mrsgabusmrsgabus member
    What has your ob said on previous visits ?

    Mine said if you aww concerned lay on your side and drink /eat something sweet . If still nothing then ER, but if your asking the question then I will assume you have already tried this .

    Anna is more active depending on where she is , what I eat and how much I pay attention .

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  • nmwheel1nmwheel1 member
    shayshayshah said:

    nmwheel1 said:

    shayshayshah said:

    rebeccalynn27 said:

    shayshayshah said:

    Wow, I'm going to piggy back right now and say I've been told by a lot of people that there's "a calm before the storm" meaning baby's movement lessens before he/she makes their grand entrance. Any STM's find this to be true?

    As PP have already said what is normal for one isn't normal for another. DS was active until an hr before I pushed. I have -/+ 11 days until LO arrives and she's not as active as she usually is. Dr said its normal for me.
    Totally understand what's normal for one may not be normal for another, was just curious as I've heard it from so many people which is why I'd asked if anyone had found this to be true.
    My daughter stopped moving much when I was in the beginning stages of labour and it was because she went into fetal distress and her heartrate dropped below 80 bpm. Thankfully I had already gone to the hospital and were instantly rushed for an emergancy c-section and got her safely out. This probably isn't normal and this is a good example why people shouldn't tell others not to worry because it's normal.
    How scary for you!! Was there a reason she went into fetal distress? Did you go into the hospital because of the lack of movement? Not trying to be invasive just always interested in people experience.
    We went in because I thought my water broke. First test said it did but second test said it didn't. The OB who performed the c-section came to see us the next day to discuss everything because it was pretty crazy and really rushed. He said there was no reason for her going into distress, her cord was fine and wasn't around her neck and my placenta was also fine. This stresses me for this labour but I've been told the likely chances of that happening again are extremely low and would be a complete fluke for this baby to do the same. Sucks not having a real answer to what happened.
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  • TacoSarahTacoSarah member
    shayshayshah said:

    Wow, I'm going to piggy back right now and say I've been told by a lot of people that there's "a calm before the storm" meaning baby's movement lessens before he/she makes their grand entrance. Any STM's find this to be true?

    My midwife told me this is absolutely not true and if the baby's movements lessen you must not ignore it and to call in at once.
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  • VexedMommyVexedMommy member
    brianna91chavez said:

    *trigger warning, loss mentioned*

    I'm a big advocate for going and getting checked out when it comes to less movement and here's why.

    When I was pregnant with my first I was 17 years old. I was going to an accelerated high school for girls who were pregnant or had already had their baby. One Thursday in September I went to the nurse at school because my baby girl wasn't moving as much as she usually did and something didn't feel right. The nurse pretty much blew me off and told me it was normal since I was 37 weeks. Like I said, something didn't feel right to me. I had my father come get me out of school so I could go to L&D. L&D put me on the monitors, did a biophysical profile, monitored me for a few hours and sent me home. They said everything looked fine.

    Fast forward to Saturday. I had just turned 38 weeks. Baby girl wasn't moving much again so I told my boyfriend I wanted to go back to L&D. Something didn't feel right to me. I get to labor and delivery and they go to put the heart and contraction monitors on me. The nurse tried for a good 5 minutes to find her heart beat. She noticed my pulse go up as I started to panic and told me "no no don't worry I'm going to get someone else". The other nurse didn't find a heart beat either.
    The doctor came in and told me that my baby had passed away and I would need to come in tomorrow to be induced. He said he didn't know what happened and we wouldn't know until after I delivered.

    After I delivered it was discovered that her cord was in a true knot and wrapped around her neck twice. The autopsy didn't have any further answers. It was deemed a cord accident.

    If something doesn't feel right, go to L&D. If someone tells you it's normal but something is still in the back of your head, go to L&D. Just go to L&D. That's what they're there for. You are the best and only advocate for you and your child. Whats normal for someone else might not be normal for you. What's deemed normal for most pregnancies could possibly be a freak accident like what happened to my baby girl. Kick counts matter and being aware of your baby's movement matters.

    I'm sorry for your loss.
    If there's something strange underneath the hood.  Who you gonna call?  Your Doctor.  If there's something weird and it don't look good.  Who you gonna call?  Your Doctor.  Immediately.  If it's new, painful, and possibly pregnancy related get your ass off the internet and call your doctor.  It's for your health and your child's. 




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