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MissMommyToYou · October 2015

So no one knows that I'm pregnant not my family, friends, or coworkers I literally mean No one except for you guys on the bump and I don't plan on telling anyone until I deliver
Do you guys think that I'm being selfish?
I personally just think it's my body and my business I don't know maybe its the baby brain talking but I just feel like I want to keep this to myself for now

suchaglencoco · October 2015

It's your decision not to tell people however, I'm guessing you won't be able to go full term without people figuring out your pregnant.
Have you asked yourself why you don't want friends or family to know?

MissMommyToYou said:
So no one knows that I'm pregnant not my family, friends, or coworkers I literally mean No one except for you guys on the bump and I don't plan on telling anyone until I deliver
Do you guys think that I'm being selfish?
I personally just think it's my body and my business I don't know maybe its the baby brain talking but I just feel like I want to keep this to myself for now

boymomstrong · October 2015

Its your choice who you include, but like the previous poster said i am sure people will begin to notice at some point... Also you will have to talk to your job if you plan to take time off and return to the same employment...

Why do you want this to be a secret? Are you not telling people and plan to lie about it? Or just not offering the information? Are you excited about the baby? Or is this more of a shock reaction?

tgortney · October 2015

Doesn't the father of the baby know? :-?
It's your choice to not tell anyone. I told my boss as soon as I found out due to the fact that, if I had a medical emergency and had to be out for an extended period of time. My boss was fully on the same page as me and I would avoid any miscommunication and/or unexpected time off. But that's just me. If it's not important, then let people question on their own (because they will when your belly gets bigger).

bbiutmcph · October 2015

I can't imagine that just telling people "so this is my son/daughter xyz" is going to be any better that what you are trying to avoid now. Also if you work you can't just call then from the hospital and say so I won't be back for 6 weeks. I mean I get wanting to be private but you can't keep a pregnancy secret forever and expect that just magically work out perfectly. Someone is off here...

bbiutmcph · October 2015

Also you have 3 other kids? Hoping for a girl? 200 to pay to see what you are having. But want a secret. Your post history is very troll like.....

MissMommyToYou · October 2015

Yes my husband knows and I'm resigning from my job in a month so hopefully I'm still not showing by then and my family lives hundreds of miles away and the only time we see each other is on holidays so I'll probably just wear oversized clothes then and I guess I want to keep it a secret because with my last pregnancy me and my husband had no privacy his mom and my mom planned everything cooked everything baught everything ugh we couldn't get a word in inch wise and I'm not the type to tell my mother or my mother in law no so I'm a big push over when it comes to them I know they mean well I just can't take all of the attention and wanting to know our every move uuuuuuugh Not this time around I just want a little piece and quiet

MissMommyToYou · October 2015

How is it troll like? Yes I have 3 boys so what? Like I said in my post you guys are the only one to know about this pregnancy...Lady get off my post with your BS because I'm really not in the mood goodbye

MissMommyToYou · October 2015

I don't plan on hiding the baby just the fact that I'm pregnant for now I really don't want all of the attention right now I have a very nosey family they mean well but trust me if you knew my family you would understand

tgortney · October 2015

Then you and your husband do you, Hun. No one is gonna say you have to tell people if you don't want to. We were just concerned about your job situation, but if you plan to resign then do what you want. It's not selfish if you don't want to share your business.

tripledaggerWed95976 · October 2015

MissMommyToYou said:

How is it troll like? Yes I have 3 boys so what? Like I said in my post you guys are the only one to know about this pregnancy...Lady get off my post with your BS because I'm really not in the mood goodbye

maybe take it down a notch..... Anyway, in response to your original post- it's up to you if you do/don't want to tell anyone but I've never heard of anyone not telling people until delivery. How do you plan on hiding the bump? Also wouldn't it be weird to then just show up with a baby one day if no one knew u were pregnant? I don't fully follow ur logic on it, but to each his own- you do what u think is best for u

MissMommyToYou · October 2015

I don't have to take it down a notch when someone's on my post calling me a troll because I asked a question...and well I guess I worded it wrong it's not that I don't plan on telling them I think I just want to make them wait until like super late in my pregnancy so that I can actually feel like me and my husband has a say in my pregnancy lol like I said before I'm making no sense at all it's probably just the baby brain I'm sure my husband will blurt it out anyways I'll most likely tell them I guess I just have to learn to say no when it comes to my mom and mother in law

suchaglencoco · October 2015

I don't get hiding the pregnancy for those reasons. Just put your foot down and tell them no. If they send you things (which I think is sweet and generous) send them back or donate them. And if they live so far away, I doubt they'll be cooking for you.
Stand up for your pregnancy, your relationship and your children. It's honestly that simple.

tripledaggerWed95976 · October 2015

MissMommyToYou said:

I don't have to take it down a notch when someone's on my post calling me a troll because I asked a question...and well I guess I worded it wrong it's not that I don't plan on telling them I think I just want to make them wait until like super late in my pregnancy so that I can actually feel like me and my husband has a say in my pregnancy lol like I said before I'm making no sense at all it's probably just the baby brain I'm sure my husband will blurt it out anyways I'll most likely tell them I guess I just have to learn to say no when it comes to my mom and mother in law

I know pregnancy is a hard and stressful time- it sounds like your struggling right now. I wish I could say the above post cleared things up for me but I'm actually more confused now. Maybe talk to your husband about this?

ecwk · October 2015

I actually think it's really really strange to attempt to hide a pregnancy like that. I also think it's damn near impossible to do. Also, I don't and will never understand your disdain for the fact people helped you and bought things for your baby and cooked for you.
Finally, you're all adults. If you've a problem with them 'interfering' with your pregnancy you need to speak to them about it. Trying to hide it to avoid that sort of conversation seems very juvenile to me.

MissMommyToYou · October 2015

Just because I want to know the gender of my baby does not mean I'm shouting it to the world If I did find out the gender it would be confidential between me and my husband so what does that have to do with anything? And yes I did ask gender questions for myself and it's not that I don't like them buying things I'll take anything that they purchase it's just the simple fact they take over every little decision like my last pregnancy my mother in law took it upon herself to move in when I was 3 months until I delivered I know they mean well they are just to much at times

ecwk · October 2015

MissMommyToYou said:
Just because I want to know the gender of my baby does not mean I'm shouting it to the world If I did find out the gender it would be confidential between me and my husband so what does that have to do with anything? And yes I did ask gender questions for myself and it's not that I don't like them buying things I'll take anything that they purchase it's just the simple fact they take over every little decision like my last pregnancy my mother in law took it upon herself to move in when I was 3 months until I delivered I know they mean well they are just to much at times

I find it hard to believe that you as a grown woman would allow your MIL to move in with you against your wishes? What did you do to prevent this happening?

MissMommyToYou · October 2015

Like I said before I'm not the type to say no to my MIL because she always pulls the guilt card like how much she's helped me and my husband out over the years so I always feel bad if I start to say no but I'm not going to post all of my personal business on here it's a lot more to the story I just wanted to know if anyone else has ever felt this way

ecwk · October 2015

MissMommyToYou said:
Like I said before I'm not the type to say no to my MIL because she always pulls the guilt card like how much she's helped me and my husband out over the years so I always feel bad if I start to say no but I'm not going to post all of my personal business on here it's a lot more to the story I just wanted to know if anyone else has ever felt this way

Well you don't need to post every detail but if you're not willing to stand up to her then there's not really much advice anyone can give. Have you ever actually relayed to her how you feel? It's just strange and sad to me that you feel you have to hide your pregnancy from someone who, although overbearing, seems to have best interests at heart. Do you honestly think that hiding it from her is the best long term decision?

skc040512 · October 2015

Wait however long you want to tell, but just remember if your mom or MIL is pushy now, just imagine how bad it will be if you hide your entire pregnancy from them. Also it'd be better for them to find out from you then to hear from someone who ran into you when you're like 8.5 months along.

I honestly think your best bet would be to wait until you're further along and tell them. You've gotta learn to say no at some point (this coming from the woman whose mother is the queen of guilt trips).

bbiutmcph · October 2015

MissMommyToYou said:

How is it troll like? Yes I have 3 boys so what? Like I said in my post you guys are the only one to know about this pregnancy...Lady get off my post with your BS because I'm really not in the mood goodbye

Your posts just struck me as odd. I pointed it out. You're now completely flying off the handle here. Considering you wanted a girl so bad, wanted to buy all the pink and now want to not tell people, I'm surely not the only person thinking it's odd. If you don't want people commenting on things, don't put everything out there.

MissMommyToYou · October 2015

You guys are right it would be really weird to have them find out from else where I didn't think of that part (baby brain) well on the other hand winter is around the corner so I have an excuse to wear baggy clothes lol well I guess I just have to suck it up and put my foot down this time around but I still think I'm going to wait a few more weeks to tell them just so I can have a moment of my pregnancy to myself

ecwk · October 2015

@MissMommyToYou nothing wrong with delaying the announcement!!!

Corts · October 2015

I think by hiding this news until the day you give birth, will be more stress than it's worth. Everyone loves a big pregnant lady and you may miss out on some help and celebrations if everyone else is in the dark. It is up to you of course. Good luck!

cMichelle0423 · October 2015

Based off of the info you've given in this post, I can somewhat relate to your worries about privacy. DH and I are expecting our 3rd and due to previous drama, and privacy issues with our last pregnancy, we decided to wait until I was 17 weeks and only told them then because of how much I was showing and how frequently we'd be seeing them the next few months with the holidays. We definitely would have waited longer if we could have.

I don't think it's wrong to wait to share the news until you're ready, but saying you don't want to say anything until the baby is already born, seems very extreme and maybe even irrational. Chances are they'd find out through someone else and that'd hurt their feelings. Which can cause even more issues, and no one wants to deal with family drama.

My MIL is as nosey as she can be, she's helped DH and I a lot over there years, and would do anything she could for us and our kids. But it will be a cold day in hell when I let her guilt trip me into anything. You need AND your DH need to stand up for yourselves and set boundaries. Period end of story. She will only do whatever you allow her to do.

kyraaD · October 2015

MissMommyToYou said:
So no one knows that I'm pregnant not my family, friends, or coworkers I literally mean No one except for you guys on the bump and I don't plan on telling anyone until I deliver
Do you guys think that I'm being selfish?
I personally just think it's my body and my business I don't know maybe its the baby brain talking but I just feel like I want to keep this to myself for now

nothing wrong with wanting to keep it to yourself for now. many women dont say anything until some time in the 2nd tri. i had some friends do that. however, it's going to be reeeally difficult not having a single person know.
if you're quitting in a month then i guess dont worry about the coworkers. however, i think close friends & family will be really hurt if they dont know anything about the baby until after it's born. if you're family lives so far away, i dont see how they could take over your pregnancy like you said they have before.
in the end, it's totally up to you & your DH who you tell & when. but i find it very, very odd that you dont want family to know until after baby is born.

edit: spelling.

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