I attend a community college and the student body isn't that big. I have a few associates that my boyfriend does not feel comfortable with touching my belly. They would randomly just rub my belly. Should I just tell them that my bf doesn't like when people touch my belly?
Re: How do I tell strangers not to touch my belly without being rude?
I wish I was more assertive bc there is absolutely nothing wrong saying directly "please don't touch me" but sometimes it's just hard to. We feel bad or rude and we shouldn't!
I have tried two different approaches and both kinda work... First. Say "oh please don't touch I'm tickleish and quickly move away" (usually they get the hint) ....second. Kinda weird but has worked too...say in a funny voice and with a funny face "NO TOUCH" with a finger wagging. They usually don't try again after that. But really if I could encourage you, just say directly "please don't" bc you (we all ) don't deserve to feel uncomfortable and don't owe anyone "an apology" for us not wanting their grubby hands on us.
from what you wrote are there certain people at school that you DO allow to touch your belly, but not others? I can see where that would be confusing. I'm a weirdo and if I saw someone else touching a belly to feel kicks or something I would probably want to join right in. (of course now I'd probably react differently after seeing how most people feel about the touching). Maybe it would be better to make a blanket "don't touch me in public rule" because that would probably cut down on it a lot.
It may have just been a choice of words that don't mean anything but you said that your boyfriend doesn't like certain people to touch you. Shouldn't that be up to you and not him?
ETA: I forgot to say that I would probably say "I'd rather you wait until I invited you to feel my belly" You may never invite them but it shows that they always have to get permission from someone before touching them.
*Kate*
February 2016
I set pretty good boundaries with dd so I hopefully wont have any issues this time but I usually back up away from them and make a face like I'm disgusted and annoyed by them because it's always someone I wouldn't even want I touch my arm!
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Just because you're pregnant doesn't mean it's all of a sudden okay to violate your personal space. They wouldn't do that to someone who's not pregnant. So there's no reason for them to do it to someone who is.
And of course, it is rude of strangers to touch you without your consent. Therefore, u should not feel like you're being rude if u tell them to stop. Be ur own person.
You need to cultivate a strong resting bitch face game. Nobody will come near you.