Maybe a 4? He's interested in the scientific part of it, but I dislike talking about that aspect with him because I feel like it takes the fun out of BM a bit... when I discuss being concerned it may take a while he gets annoyed because we're only on our 2nd cycle so he keeps telling me to relax (I am much more of a planner than he is!). He is excited to be a Dad, and I know he'll be a great one, but he wasn't happy when I mentioned I was on boards talking to people about TTC... he thought I'd stress myself out and worry too much so now I leave The Bump out of our conversations
Depends on which part. He's about and 8/9 on the idea of having a baby, not a 10 because we're both scared of taking care of a tiny human and that will dampen the excitement a smidge. But he's about a 1 as it pertains to the nitty gritty science of TTC. Knowing when I ovulate makes him anxious so he doesn't want to know ahead of time if that's why I'm initiating sex, but he'll ask me afterwards if I'm fertile which cracks me up. He knows that I temp obviously but I hide the OPKs from him and throw them out discretely, again so he doesn't get anxious.
It's cool to see the clear shift from when my period was "late" about 1.5 years into our relationship. I was nervous but excited for the possibility. He was mostly scared s***less and was pretty relieved I wasn't pregnant after all. And talking about having kids or parenting at that point in our lives would make him obscenely uncomfortable. Now when I talk to him about baby stuff he has opinions about how we should do things.
I'd say he's about a 9 - I found out that he's been googling ways to increase sperm count and talking to the l&d nurses and an OB (he works in a hospital) to see what we could do to increase our chances. Also, whenever we talk about it he gets really turned on. We're only on our 5th cycle though, so this might change!
My DH can BD for days and loves to plan the next time we'll get it in..so in that aspect a 10 however he's about a 2 for nitty gritty stuff. He thinks it's early. ..Just relax and well be fine
Hmmm, I think it varies. DH definitely wants to have a baby (finally, I was ready like three years ago, but I've been patiently waiting). And he's excited about it enough that he told his parents so that they can work on moving across the country to be closer to him even though he very clearly knew I did not want them to know we were trying. I think he get's a bit of the performance anxiety though, and when I offered to explain more of the nitty gritty, he declined. I think he wants it to happen, he just wants me to figure it all out for us. It's very fitting for the rest of our relationship... he's not a details guy.
Me: 30 DH: 32 ~~ TTC #1: Sep 2015 ~~ BFP: Mar 2016 ~~ Daughter: Nov 2016 TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019
Honestly, I think he's maybe a 5 but I'm more like a 2. I really don't want to drag him into my crazy obsessed world. I don't want the second opinions.
10. We walk around singing "all that she wants" by Ace of Base to each other. He even tries to read everyone's posts on TB but I kick him out, gotta have my own thing ya know????
TTC since May 2015 with domestic partner of 13 years. Me 33 OH 33. No ovulation or natural menstruation. Normal SA.
Diagnosed PCOS February 2016
First cycle 50mg Clomid 5/3/16, O'd CD 19 BFN
Second cycle 50mg Clomid 6/1/16 O'd CD 18 BFN Third cycle Clomid 6/29/16 O'd CD 16 BFP @11dpo! EDD April 3 and praying things work out!
8 to 9, depending on the day. We don't have to have many conversations anymore though. I tell him what phase of my cycle I am on so he knows what's happening and that about 10 days after I start my period we have to start having more sex. Otherwise, unless something crazy different happens there's not much to talk about.
10. We walk around singing "all that she wants" by Ace of Base to each other. He even tries to read everyone's posts on TB but I kick him out, gotta have my own thing ya know????
That's hilarious! I would love to be a fly on the wall at your house!
If one is not at all and 10 is heavily involved in charting/all things TTC, then I'm going to say 5. He talks about things when I'd like to, but is still more or less "I don't need to know about when you're ovulating, let's just do it whenever we feel like it." I've shown him charts and discussed things with him, but we're only a couple months in to TTC so we're both fairly relaxed about things at this time.
10. We walk around singing "all that she wants" by Ace of Base to each other. He even tries to read everyone's posts on TB but I kick him out, gotta have my own thing ya know????
10. I mean I'm surprised he doesn't have a bump account too haha. I'm very thankful he's so interested. It makes things easier, having him to talk with. He'll ask me about everything & where I'm at in my cycle. It's kind of sweet of him lol
Me:23 DH:24
Married July 19, 2012
TTC since March 2015 Early M/C Dec. 2015
2 fur babies: Thunder- Blue Heeler, Shiner- Lhasa Apso
Like a 9. The first couple cycles, I would have said about a 4 because he was so nervous at the thought of it actually happening. But on cycle 8 now, and he's really wanting it. He tells me he thinks about it multiple times every day, and he brings it up. He's taking a multivitamin now, with selenium, and researching things to keep sperm counts up. He doesn't even mind the TMI stuff anymore from me. He will even chart stalk if I ask!
Married 2011
TTC #1 since April 2015
Fur child: One awesome Golden Retriever IUI August 2016 : Cancelled due to polyp September 2016: Polyp removal/hysteroscopy October 2016: IUI #1- BFN November 2016: IUI #2- BFN December 2016: IUI #3 - BFN January/February 2017 - IVF + ICSI + PGD March 2017 - FET
Re: On a scale of 1 to 10, how excited is your man to talk TTC with you?
It's cool to see the clear shift from when my period was "late" about 1.5 years into our relationship. I was nervous but excited for the possibility. He was mostly scared s***less and was pretty relieved I wasn't pregnant after all. And talking about having kids or parenting at that point in our lives would make him obscenely uncomfortable. Now when I talk to him about baby stuff he has opinions about how we should do things.
DH: 35 | Me: 29
BFP #1- 07.25.12, EDD: 03.24.13, DD born 03.26.13
Surprised BFP #2- 02.25.15, EDD: 10/29/15 |*m/c 7w4d, D&C 04.02.2015
BFP #3- 01.21.16, EDD: 09.29.26 |*m/c-blighted ovum 2.19.16 8w1d, D&C 03.04.16
BFP #4- 05.24.16, EDD: 02.04.17 |*natural m/c- 07.08.16, 9w1d
BFP #5- 09/25/16, EDD: 06.07.17 GROW, BABY, GROW!
TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019
Third cycle Clomid 6/29/16 O'd CD 16 BFP @11dpo!
EDD April 3 and praying things work out!
Early M/C Dec. 2015
The first couple cycles, I would have said about a 4 because he was so nervous at the thought of it actually happening.
But on cycle 8 now, and he's really wanting it. He tells me he thinks about it multiple times every day, and he brings it up.
He's taking a multivitamin now, with selenium, and researching things to keep sperm counts up.
He doesn't even mind the TMI stuff anymore from me. He will even chart stalk if I ask!
IUI August 2016 : Cancelled due to polyp
September 2016: Polyp removal/hysteroscopy
October 2016: IUI #1- BFN
November 2016: IUI #2- BFN
December 2016: IUI #3 - BFN
January/February 2017 - IVF + ICSI + PGD
March 2017 - FET