Baby registry, Picking a name, etc

ciara6990 · October 2015

Hey everyone I'm 13wks and I wanted to know is it to early to pick names have a birth plan or even do a registry just wanna here some other thoughts from moms to be :-)

kimey1 · October 2015

I'm a week behind you at 12 weeks and we just chose a name. This week we decided on 2 potential names for each sex. We decided on the name when we got the MaterniT21 test results yesterday.
I'll look into strollers and big ticket items for the registry next month. There's so much to learn about strollers and carseats I find it mind boggling atm!
I'm still exploring birthing options. Watching the Business of Being Born, reading about possible complications that require a c-section, reading about people's experiences and pain meds have been helpful so far.

Taraphanie · October 2015

I'm almost at 17 weeks and we went today to start our registry. I'm happy I didn't wait because it's a little overwhelming everything you have to think about.
We also found the names we wanted but we will wait until birth to discover the sex.

Lilpenguin3 · October 2015

I'm 14 weeks and we chose the name around 8 weeks b/c it's the same for both and we both agreed and loved it. We are going to register next weekend after finding out what LO is b/c family said they would buy baby stuff for Christmas and this is the only weekend we have free before then.

eastdurian · October 2015

I just keep a registry on Amazon. I have not started one for this LO because there really isn't anything we'll need. Otherwise with DD I think about halfway through I started on Amazon.

I love baby names, it's never too early to start talking about them. Granted, with DD we had a name picked out right away and then decided we did not like it and went with a completely different name. This time we have a girl name mostly picked out but not a boy name.

Jules08 · October 2015

I think with my first, I started a registry around the anatomy scan. I may have actually started it a bit earlier and just added things to it that I had heard about and didn't want to forget, but I went through and made it fairly complete around the anatomy scan.

Names ... we had a list going around this time as well, but didn't really think about it a ton until after the anatomy scan. We didn't narrow it down/ pick until just a few weeks before I was induced.

Birth plan, I didn't do one. I honestly don't see the point. You cant really control what happens/ what your body does/ how you are going to tolerate labor. I was dead set against an epidural, but after 16 hours on Pitocin (contractions 1.5minutes long every 45 seconds for 16 hours) I needed a break. I got the epidural - it made me throw up non-stop which was WAY worse than contractions so I had them turn it off after 2 hours it felt pretty much all out of the system and then I went another 8 hours with no pain meds again. I mean, have your general wishes known, but be prepared to throw it all out the window if need be.

Pinguinageddon · October 2015

Names are p much whenever... There are people who have them picked out before they're born, and people who don't decide until baby comes out!
With the registry, you should probably start making a list of what you'll need and figuring out where you want to register about halfway through. You don't want to be bombarded with baby stuff you don't have room for too early, but you also want to have enough time to make sure you get everything you need before baby is due.
As far as birth plans: it's a good idea to be aware of all the possibilities involved (ie if you're at a hospital, talk to the doctor about the medicines and procedures they may use, and if you're having a home birth, be sure you talk to them about what you're both comfortable with as well). However, it's a baby, it's a body. There are so many variables that to have a "birth plan" seems a little... Ridiculous?

mrstrax · October 2015

Jules08 said:
Birth plan, I didn't do one. I honestly don't see the point. You cant really control what happens/ what your body does/ how you are going to tolerate labor. ... I mean, have your general wishes known, but be prepared to throw it all out the window if need be.

This. I think this is a great time to start talking to your doctor and researching preferences for birth but I have a friend with a 3 year old who still grieves her delivery because she was so set on her birth plan and then ended up with a tear requiring a transfusion so she couldn't do XYZ immediately after the birth.

As for registry and names, go for it! Start your research now, there's a ton of things to look into and so many possibilities for names.

randilea0110 · October 2015

DH and I have been talking about baby names since before we even started ttc and have a girl name picked and the middle name for a boy picked, still compromising on a first name.

As far as registry, with all of the research that I have been doing, I started a registry on babyli.st a couple weeks ago just so I couldn't write it all down on a piece of paper and then lose it or accidentally throw it out. I haven't made the list public yet, so no one else can see it other than DH and myself, and I don't plan on publishing the list until around Thanksgiving. My family has made it clear that all x-mas gifts this year will be for baby and I'm more than happy for that, so I need to give them at least a month to see the list and purchase any items.

Birth plans are not my thing. I know they can be great for some people, but I honestly feel that I would be terribly disappointed if everything didn't go as I had planned and it's just not worth it for me. I know that I want an epidural and that is about it, but even with that, who knows? I could easily change my mind by the time I am in labor. I'm all for doing whatever makes you feel more comfortable. If a birth plan does it for you, then by all means go for it!

Adalinda14 · October 2015

We were weird, we had full names for each picked out before we had been dating a year. Now we've been married over a year and we'll find out which one it is in just two weeks! As for the reg, we went and just looked around first. The next time, we scanned the big things you need no matter what that we still liked. The great thing is, you can keep going and adding and changing all you like, no need to stress on doing the whole thing in one go! We're holding off on the birth plan a little longer, still doing research and such, so that's really up to you. With the name and reg, make sure you're having fun and happy, that's all that matters!

mumidi · October 2015

We just starting talking about names last weekend. DH loved the girl name I did so it was easy. We can't think of a boy name so decided to wait until we find out if it's a boy or girl and then go from there.

I started an online Amazon registry this weekend mainly so I can save things I like. Since this is baby #2 we'll likely do a small BRU registry (mainly for the completion discount). I assume someone will throw me a sprinkle because it will be almost 5 years between our kids, but I don't mind if I don't have one. We don't really need much, but there are a few things I'd like to upgrade (I expect to have to pay for those things ourselves). If people want to gift us clothes, diapers, etc. that would be nice but I don't expect much this time around.

crazyliblady · October 2015

Personally, I started my registry at 6 weeks pregnant. I had been sicker than a dog for two weeks, and I needed a way to make pregnancy fun. I still haven't shared it, but I'm glad I started it.

SAS210 · October 2015

I'm 15 weeks and I haven't started any of that stuff yet. I've thought about names and my husband has thrown out a few (mostly non-serious ones because he's so helpful lol) but we have nothing nailed down. We're waiting until we find out the sex in mid-November to do all that stuff.

jonesl12 · October 2015

I rarely see " birth plans" work out. Try to have an open mind. In the ob office we discourage birth plans but encourage you to make a list of things you absolutely want to happen. Like : delayed cord clamping, circumcision, skin to skin directly after or Apgar first , do you want to give the first bath or have the nurse do it, do you want baby to have hep b vaccine before they leave the hospital and do you want the antibiotic ointment on baby eyes . Those are things you CAN control.
I've seen some absolute crazy ( almost comical ) birth plans and have even had a giggle with the moms about it post partum.

You can start a registry early but just know you will have to keep up with it . Its crazy likely some items on your registry will be discontinued or unavailable by the time your shower comes around.

Never too early to have a few names set aside

mojomama6 · October 2015

My mother picked my name when she was ten years old; I didn't name my fourth child until she was a month old. It's never too early or too late!
I started a secret Pinterest board just days after I got a +hpt. It's still secret, and may stay that way for months yet, if I ever make it public. As this is my sixth child, I don't expect anything from anyone, except the old lady who makes a blanket for every single baby born in the neighborhood. I was in. my third trimester when I made a registry with my first, and that was too late. My shower was also planned too late, and ended up being after the baby was born. Long way to say, it's better to do it "too early" than wait too long.
More important than a written birth plan, is knowing kind of what you prefer, and then making sure you and your doctor are on the same page. It doesn't matter what s/he supports in theory; unless you have a doctor with the enthusiasm to research with you to learn something new (which I've heard of on the Internet, but always from someone someone's friend knows, and never irl), if s/he has never seen the kind of birth you hope for, you're not going to get it without a fight. And you can fight for, say, a natural birth, by simply refusing any treatment you don't agree with, but you can't force a doctor to induce or perform surgery if you end up with someone who doesn't do elective procedures, yk? So ask what your Dr has seen and done,then go in with ideas but no plans.

JadaBlue · October 2015

I just want to echo what a couple of others have said about the utility of birth plans since others are derisive of them. Rather than a plan, I was given a checklist by my doula that helped me to think about issues/decision points that might occur during labor and delivery. The purpose of the list was not to try to plan the unplannable, but rather to spur me to think about what choices I might want to research/consider in advance. I found the process worthwhile.

RoseShadow873 · October 2015

I don't really know what a birth plan is. Is there really that much planning you need to do?

loveymay · October 2015

We've picked the first name out but haven't even started thinking about a middle name. My MIL wants me o start a registry, but I think it is a bit too early. I may get started after the anatomy scan though. I want to do some research on strollers/car seats etc to decide on which one we want, and I just don't have the energy to get started on that right now, lol.

Off topic, but @jonesl12 in your office, do they automatically add the circumcision fee to the bill? When I had my second appt, and met with the financial lady, she told me it would be $436 for circumcision, and to let her know if we find out its a girl and she'll remove the fee. We are not going to circumcise, and just found out its a boy, so I have to call them and tell them to take that off my bill. But I was irritated that she just automatically assumed that all boys get circumcised, she didn't even ask me if it was something I wanted. Not a big deal, but just something extra I have to call and take care of. I hope this isn't standard practice at most places. (I didn't tell her to remove it at my appt because my mom was with me, and it wasn't a discussion I wanted to get into if she questioned me about it).

jonesl12 · October 2015

loveymay said:
We've picked the first name out but haven't even started thinking about a middle name. My MIL wants me o start a registry, but I think it is a bit too early. I may get started after the anatomy scan though. I want to do some research on strollers/car seats etc to decide on which one we want, and I just don't have the energy to get started on that right now, lol.

Off topic, but @jonesl12 in your office, do they automatically add the circumcision fee to the bill? When I had my second appt, and met with the financial lady, she told me it would be $436 for circumcision, and to let her know if we find out its a girl and she'll remove the fee. We are not going to circumcise, and just found out its a boy, so I have to call them and tell them to take that off my bill. But I was irritated that she just automatically assumed that all boys get circumcised, she didn't even ask me if it was something I wanted. Not a big deal, but just something extra I have to call and take care of. I hope this isn't standard practice at most places. (I didn't tell her to remove it at my appt because my mom was with me, and it wasn't a discussion I wanted to get into if she questioned me about it).

It's in the paperwork given as possible charges and fees but not billed unless it actually happens. This is usually on the hospital paperwork as the person who delivers doesn't alway do the circumcision . That how it is where I work anyway .
Sometimes we do them in the office if they are a premie.

mojomama6 · October 2015

@RoseShadow873 I wouldn't say you need to plan, per se, so much as have an idea of what you want and don't want. For example, I am terrified of epidurals. My mother had lasting pain and, according to her surgeon, permanent spinal damage (bone) at the injection site. Also, needle to the spine- ick! But the vast majority of births in the United States are anesthetized in that manner. So it was helpful for me to have other ideas for dealing with the pain, and to have a doctor who had seen other natural births before. Hospitals do, in fact, like to have things go down a certain way- it makes their jobs infinitely easier- and there can be a lot of pressure, intentional or otherwise, to conform.
Or maybe you feel very strongly that you do want the epidural. It would help to know how soon your doctor is comfortable giving one, because some won't give the go ahead until after 4 cm dilation, since it can stop your labor at that point. Maybe you're so afraid if the pain that you're ok with potentially stalling your labor and moving directly to a c-section, or maybe you view that as unacceptable. Would you like to have the baby placed directly on your chest, or cleaned and wrapped first? Immediate or delayed cord clamping? Antibiotic treatment of the newborn's eyes for potential std infection is standard procedure (and required unless you opt out), but blurs the baby's vision, potentially interrupting bonding. Circumcision of a boy is usually done in the hospital, and has been known to occur without actually consent, under the blanket "consent to treat", so if you don't want it, make sure they know.
Flexibility is key, and not a single one of my five births has gone exactly as I imagined, but knowing what I want and don't want has helped make it easier to get as close to what I imagine while still making sure everyone is healthy.

kimey1 · October 2015

Thanks for this @mojomama6 - i'm still reading up about all the options to know what I want. As much as I'd like a natural, unmediated birth, at the end of the day it'll go as it goes depending on how my body and baby cope with it.

pinottoparenthood · October 2015

All I have to say about the epidural is...

TKaiser91 · October 2015

I agree with PP about birth plans. With dd I started to make one around 32 weeks. Went to my next appt and talked to the doctor about it. He said they don't take any paper work on birth plans but he'll discuss everything with a patient to understand exactly what they want and try to follow it as best they can. Reason behind not taking anything written down is because of previous women getting upset that their birth plan wasn't followed, because of one complication or another, and they tried to take legal action against the hospital. For me it wasn't a huge deal, and we discussed it at length. Even then, once I was in labor I stuck to everything except the epidural. I wanted a completely medicine free l&d and opted for the epidural at 7 cm dialated. Unfortunately the dr didn't get there till I was a 9 ( which was really only an hour later) and I've always wished that I stuck to my guns about it. Nothing to do for it now. I'll just try again this time around.

NachosAndPeaches · October 2015

I'm always in such shock at how many women want Unmedicated births. I just don't get it.

Sarcasm101 · October 2015

NachosAndPeaches said:

I'm always in such shock at how many women want Unmedicated births. I just don't get it.

Me neither. I don't think I will even understand it. You don't get a trophy for an un-medicated birth, you get a baby. Just like you would if you get an epi, poticin, etc.

pinottoparenthood · October 2015

Sarcasm101 said:

NachosAndPeaches said:

I'm always in such shock at how many women want Unmedicated births. I just don't get it.

Me neither. I don't think I will even understand it. You don't get a trophy for an un-medicated birth, you get a baby. Just like you would if you get an epi, poticin, etc.

Yess. You guys are speaking my language. My birth plan was epidural, yes please... and whatever is needed for healthy baby and healthy mom. I've had many friends go into it wanting a natural birth, and all of them have opted for the epidural. What I told them beforehand was basically just to be open-minded and if you decide you want or need the epidural, that's okay too... don't beat yourself up over it.

Honestly, I was very nonchalant about the whole birth thing... like oh it won't hurt that bad in the beginning, I can get the epidural before it starts to really get bad...

holy shit was I wrong.

Jules08 · October 2015

Sarcasm101 said:

NachosAndPeaches said:

I'm always in such shock at how many women want Unmedicated births. I just don't get it.

Me neither. I don't think I will even understand it. You don't get a trophy for an un-medicated birth, you get a baby. Just like you would if you get an epi, poticin, etc.

I couldn't tell you why I wanted one. Maybe just to see if I could do it? I was induced, but still wanted to go pain med free. At hour 16 I gave in and got the epidural (contractions on Pitocin are INSANE), but the epidural made me throw up nonstop. Like I used every bag and bowl in the room. IT.WAS.AWFUL. I had the epidural turned off and went the rest of my labor (another 8 hours after the epidural wore off) pain med free. This time, I will stick to no pain meds because my body can't handle them and because going that long without being allowed water was almost just as bad as the throwing up.

yodiggity · October 2015

NachosAndPeaches said:

I'm always in such shock at how many women want Unmedicated births. I just don't get it.

Me either. I'm not trying to be anyone's hero.

AGK2015 · October 2015

Sarcasm101 said:

NachosAndPeaches said:

I'm always in such shock at how many women want Unmedicated births. I just don't get it.

Me neither. I don't think I will even understand it. You don't get a trophy for an un-medicated birth, you get a baby. Just like you would if you get an epi, poticin, etc.

I can't speak for everybody out there, but I'm crossing my fingers for an unmedicated birth because my fear of the needles associated with an epidural outweighs my fear of the pain; if pitocin makes me more likely to want/need an epidural, that's a consideration, too. There appear to be other associated advantages and disadvantages to the epi and the pitocin, but the big one is about comfort: I would rather be in pain than in panic mode. I'm well aware that I might change my mind while I'm in labor but I'd rather make my preferences clear at the outset so I don't have to deal with unnecessary pressure to make the decision. Even now, I'm starting to get a little lightheaded at the thought of an epi, and there's not a needle within five miles of me; I'm pretty sure having the actual anaesthesiologist suggesting it would be worse.

But I'm the crazy yahoo who prefers her dental work unmedicated, too, so YMMV.

fourtsixand2 · October 2015

ciara6990 said:

Hey everyone I'm 13wks and I wanted to know is it to early to pick names have a birth plan or even do a registry just wanna here some other thoughts from moms to be :-)

I started picking out names before pregnancy was even a thought in my mind!

As for your registry and things like that, I say it's not too early. I started a registry account when I got my first sonogram at 12 weeks, because I would think of items, or be referred an item, and think to myself 'I can't forget about that!', so I'd add it to my registry.
The bigger items (stroller, car seat) and apparel can wait until you find out the sex of the baby.

It's okay to plan ahead and be excited!

mrstrax · October 2015

AGK2015 said:

Sarcasm101 said:

NachosAndPeaches said:

I'm always in such shock at how many women want Unmedicated births. I just don't get it.

Me neither. I don't think I will even understand it. You don't get a trophy for an un-medicated birth, you get a baby. Just like you would if you get an epi, poticin, etc.

I can't speak for everybody out there, but I'm crossing my fingers for an unmedicated birth because my fear of the needles associated with an epidural outweighs my fear of the pain; if pitocin makes me more likely to want/need an epidural, that's a consideration, too. There appear to be other associated advantages and disadvantages to the epi and the pitocin, but the big one is about comfort: I would rather be in pain than in panic mode. I'm well aware that I might change my mind while I'm in labor but I'd rather make my preferences clear at the outset so I don't have to deal with unnecessary pressure to make the decision. Even now, I'm starting to get a little lightheaded at the thought of an epi, and there's not a needle within five miles of me; I'm pretty sure having the actual anaesthesiologist suggesting it would be worse.

But I'm the crazy yahoo who prefers her dental work unmedicated, too, so YMMV.

Fair warning so you can talk with your OB ahead of time - my OB and hospital strongly recommend/require (depending on your situation) an IV port be placed while you're early in labor. You don't have to be hooked to anything, but it's one less thing to worry about should you need meds/fluids or an emergency c/s.

Also, since the epidural is in your back, you never have to see the needle. Not trying to convince you, just trying to help ease your mind for if you change your mind.

Either way, both IV ports and the epidural are (at least in my experience) a needle for placement only and then are only plastic tubing.

NachosAndPeaches · October 2015

Was just gonna say, you may want to consider a midwife or birth center (one at a hospital or with proper medical care) or the like, a lot of hospitals require what mrstrax said.

Also just in case you do decide you want an epi, the numb shot to get it hurts less than the numb shot in your mouth at the dentist. And then you're numb and can't feel the epi going in. Most women say their contractions were so bad they didn't even feel any of it.

AGK2015 · October 2015

Yep, I'll definitely be chatting with my OB about the need for an IV port. It's definitely something I'm uncomfortable with (I mean, they don't leave the needle in, but they do leave SOMETHING inserted in you), though at this point I'm preparing myself for the likelihood that it may be one of those things like bloodwork that isn't a decision that I can make. We may be packing an oven mitt or something so I don't have to look at it, though.

Jules08 · October 2015

AGK2015 said:

Sarcasm101 said:

NachosAndPeaches said:

I'm always in such shock at how many women want Unmedicated births. I just don't get it.

Me neither. I don't think I will even understand it. You don't get a trophy for an un-medicated birth, you get a baby. Just like you would if you get an epi, poticin, etc.

I can't speak for everybody out there, but I'm crossing my fingers for an unmedicated birth because my fear of the needles associated with an epidural outweighs my fear of the pain; if pitocin makes me more likely to want/need an epidural, that's a consideration, too. There appear to be other associated advantages and disadvantages to the epi and the pitocin, but the big one is about comfort: I would rather be in pain than in panic mode. I'm well aware that I might change my mind while I'm in labor but I'd rather make my preferences clear at the outset so I don't have to deal with unnecessary pressure to make the decision. Even now, I'm starting to get a little lightheaded at the thought of an epi, and there's not a needle within five miles of me; I'm pretty sure having the actual anaesthesiologist suggesting it would be worse.

But I'm the crazy yahoo who prefers her dental work unmedicated, too, so YMMV.

The needle in the spine was another of my fears with my first. My anesthesiologist had to do mine twice; somewhere in there it caused my right hip to become permanently numb.

AmadorRose · October 2015

NachosAndPeaches said:
I'm always in such shock at how many women want Unmedicated births. I just don't get it.

I want an unmedicated birth because I want to pee on my own and be able to get out of bed after I have LO. Also, headaches. I'm a migraine sufferer as it is and they make me a huge baby. From the women I've talked to have done it both ways, they preferred unmedicated because recovery was faster and they felt like themselves (though very tired) as soon as contractions stopped, rather than having to wait for the epidural to wear off.

I'm not trying to be anyone's hero and if I need it, I need it. I just want to try without.

cmjenkies · October 2015

AGK2015 said:
Yep, I'll definitely be chatting with my OB about the need for an IV port. It's definitely something I'm uncomfortable with (I mean, they don't leave the needle in, but they do leave SOMETHING inserted in you), though at this point I'm preparing myself for the likelihood that it may be one of those things like bloodwork that isn't a decision that I can make. We may be packing an oven mitt or something so I don't have to look at it, though.

The worst needle experience for me with my first was getting that stupid IV placed in my hand. It was uncomfortable and they had to do it twice and I hated it. Never saw the needle for the epi, didn't feel the numbing shot, so I didn't care. I don't remember any of it in great detail after it was all said and done to be quite honest.

mrstrax · October 2015

cmjenkies said:

AGK2015 said:
Yep, I'll definitely be chatting with my OB about the need for an IV port. It's definitely something I'm uncomfortable with (I mean, they don't leave the needle in, but they do leave SOMETHING inserted in you), though at this point I'm preparing myself for the likelihood that it may be one of those things like bloodwork that isn't a decision that I can make. We may be packing an oven mitt or something so I don't have to look at it, though.
The worst needle experience for me with my first was getting that stupid IV placed in my hand. It was uncomfortable and they had to do it twice and I hated it. Never saw the needle for the epi, didn't feel the numbing shot, so I didn't care. I don't remember any of it in great detail after it was all said and done to be quite honest.

Ooh, hand IVs are the worst! My OB (well nurses) did mine in the back of my wrist and it was so nice to have it out of the way so I could use my hands without feeling like I was going to rip it out (squick).

pinottoparenthood · October 2015

AGK2015 said:

Sarcasm101 said:

NachosAndPeaches said:

I'm always in such shock at how many women want Unmedicated births. I just don't get it.

Me neither. I don't think I will even understand it. You don't get a trophy for an un-medicated birth, you get a baby. Just like you would if you get an epi, poticin, etc.

I can't speak for everybody out there, but I'm crossing my fingers for an unmedicated birth because my fear of the needles associated with an epidural outweighs my fear of the pain; if pitocin makes me more likely to want/need an epidural, that's a consideration, too. There appear to be other associated advantages and disadvantages to the epi and the pitocin, but the big one is about comfort: I would rather be in pain than in panic mode. I'm well aware that I might change my mind while I'm in labor but I'd rather make my preferences clear at the outset so I don't have to deal with unnecessary pressure to make the decision. Even now, I'm starting to get a little lightheaded at the thought of an epi, and there's not a needle within five miles of me; I'm pretty sure having the actual anaesthesiologist suggesting it would be worse.

But I'm the crazy yahoo who prefers her dental work unmedicated, too, so YMMV.

Have you had a baby before? Because I have found that the fear of needles is greatly lessened when you're actually experiencing the pain of labor. Like I was begging, BEGGING for the needle haha.

loveymay · October 2015

pinottoparenthood said:

Sarcasm101 said:

NachosAndPeaches said:

I'm always in such shock at how many women want Unmedicated births. I just don't get it.

Me neither. I don't think I will even understand it. You don't get a trophy for an un-medicated birth, you get a baby. Just like you would if you get an epi, poticin, etc.

Yess. You guys are speaking my language. My birth plan was epidural, yes please... and whatever is needed for healthy baby and healthy mom. I've had many friends go into it wanting a natural birth, and all of them have opted for the epidural. What I told them beforehand was basically just to be open-minded and if you decide you want or need the epidural, that's okay too... don't beat yourself up over it.

Honestly, I was very nonchalant about the whole birth thing... like oh it won't hurt that bad in the beginning, I can get the epidural before it starts to really get bad...

holy shit was I wrong.

@pinottoparenthood yes! I'm a ftm, but my biggest fear so far about birth is how soon will they let me have an epidural! Lol! I have no pain tolerance, I wish I could take percocet during my periods, ha! I have no desire whatsoever to feel contractions.

AGK2015 · October 2015

@pinottoparenthood - I am indeed a FTM, and I'm sure it'll be fine if I either independently choose or need the meds. If my doctor tells me something isn't optional I'll do it, and I certainly won't consider it a failure if I myself decide to go with the epidural after all. It's definitely a preference going into the experience, but it's not a hill I'm prepared to die on, so to speak.

On the other hand, I have an abnormally high pain tolerance (and my mother, who is similar, insists that childbirth "didn't hurt"), so here's hoping I don't have to test your theory

pinottoparenthood · October 2015

AGK2015 said:

@pinottoparenthood - I am indeed a FTM, and I'm sure it'll be fine if I either independently choose or need the meds. If my doctor tells me something isn't optional I'll do it, and I certainly won't consider it a failure if I myself decide to go with the epidural after all. It's definitely a preference going into the experience, but it's not a hill I'm prepared to die on, so to speak.

On the other hand, I have an abnormally high pain tolerance (and my mother, who is similar, insists that childbirth "didn't hurt"), so here's hoping I don't have to test your theory

I hope so too!

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