Is anyone else still worried all the time?

yogahh · October 2015

Even though my 1st appointment went really well last week, and we saw/heard LO's HB (180 beats per minute- strong!) I still am constantly worried that something is going to happen. I try not to concentrate too much on these Debby Downer thoughts, but I still have moments of imagining going in for our 1st tri screening (11/2) and finding out baby stopped growing. At what point will the constant worrying end? Age 18? I am a natural worry-wart, so the uncertainty of what's going on "in there" has me always thinking. And having my boss announce to the whole office at just shy of ten weeks has me feeling like we are "jinxed" now. Silly, I know.. but where else to voice our silly thoughts and insecurities than TB?

jdrdnr · October 2015

I always have been a worry wort and still am with this baby. I worry is everything developing correctly, will this baby make it through the delivery. I pray it is healthy and happy and alive for the delivery. Once I feel kicks then I worry even more if I don't feel the same amount of kicks. Your def not alone! I try to stay positive as we have had 3 healthy babies but it is always in my mind. Drives the hubby crazy!

LondonToSavannah · October 2015

I'm the same way, I have my first ultrasound tonight...I'm sooooo scared and just want everything and the little bean to be on track.

I wasn't this scared my first pregnancy, but after a MC this summer I'm a wreck. Hopefully after ultrasound I'm a little less terrified?

Here's hoping!

But yeah, I have no advice.

Bltbear82 · October 2015

My first pregnancy I was worried until I could feel the baby moving, and then would be paranoid if he wasn't moving enough. Long story short, there's always something to worry about but try not to let it consume you. I remember telling my SIL that I just wanted my son to be born so I could stop worrying and she just laughed and told me I'll never stop. You'll get more reassurance though the more you progress and can feel them bouncing around.

Case in point, DS is 19 months and has a really bad cold so I was up every few hours last night checking his temp and breathing. It's just part of being a mommy!

mrstmoose · October 2015

I'm the same way @yogahh. I'm a natural worrier. But I'm just doing what I can to stay calm. One day at a time. And always looking forward to the next appointment! I doubt the worry will ever go away, I'm pretty sure my parents still worry about me.

laurenmdrn16 · October 2015

I have only recently been absolutely a mess with anxiety and worry. I was pretty care-free at first, but after talking with the genetic counselor and MFM specialist, I am constantly freaking out. Everything went great, NT scan was perfect, got my blood drawn for 1st tri screen so those results will be rolling in, but I still can't shake this weird nagging feeling. The last time I felt this was right before I went into multi-system organ failure so I am not finding any reassurance. I just want to stay home and wait for the other shoe to drop. I know it sounds weird, but I actually had a mini-breakdown in the hospital when I washed my hands. The smell of the soap brought me right back to my son's birth and I had this intense flashback that actually made me dry heave. I feel crazy and silly, but I just can't get that feeling out of my mind. I have this lump in my throat and have actually had to cry in the bathroom at work a few times.

I guess the only comfort I can give is that I am feeling it too and I believe it will pass. I get feeling "jinxed" and keep wondering if we should have waited longer to tell my son. I just can't imagine explaining to him if something is wrong. We will make it through and someday look back and realize all these fears and worries were for nothing.

cmeags · October 2015

Me too! I worry so much because of our miscarriage last year. I am within a week of where I was when I miscarried last time. We had an early ultrasound which showed a strong heartbeat so that really helped (we both cried of happiness - its been a journey!). I think I will feel better once the 1st trimester is over and we have another ultrasound.

Bluejay3030 · October 2015

I think the underlying feeling of worry is a perpetual state in parenthood.

I was very worried between weeks 5-9 even after a 7 week ultrasound because I was spotting/cramping constantly. Ever since the spotting stopped and I heard baby's heartbeat at 9 weeks I've been ok. Just back to the underlying worry that comes from wanting everything to be okay with baby. I hope as time goes on you're able to relax a little more.

And yeah, I would have been so mad at my boss if that happened to me! Not cool.

lest12 · October 2015

It's not silly. It's totally OK.

Semi-relatable, I worried about every little thing with my pregnancy with DS. I would be so nervous in between appointments, I would call and go in for no real reason, etc. I stressed about getting the house ready, the nursery furniture together, having enough clothes. I worry about so much with DS now, he is 16-months and I'm always worrying about something.

On the flip side, I haven't been worried nearly as much with this pregnancy. I just kind of feel like everything is going well. I almost don't even realize that I'm going to have another kid in just over 6 months. It's weird.

And now, I will worry that means I'm going to be neurotic and put too much stress on DS, or that I won't be worried enough to pay attention with 2.0.

nerdymama15 · October 2015

You are not alone! I too, am a worry wart, and on top of that, an eternal pessimist. Life in general has made me an eternal pessimist. I feel if I don't get my hopes up then I won't get caught unguarded. Being an eternal pessimist is hard when being pregnant. On one hand I want to be excited and think happy thoughts, and on the other hand I'm like thinking and stressing over everything that can go wrong -- especially after miscarrying our first. I'm at the point in this pregnancy that I was in the last when we had to go to the ER due to miscarrying. Well I'll be at that point Friday anyway. So I'm nervous as hell. I want to be excited and part of me is totally excited and having hopes and dreams, and then another part of me is like don't get excited because knowing your luck you'll lose this one too.
I have my first OB appointment Thursday. Have already had the ultrasound and bloodwork. Thursday I get the pap smear part and the results of my previous bloodwork, which I know my A1C and bloodsugar levels will be off the charts and I will be fussed at. When I'm not pregnant my levels are fine. When I get pregnant, everything goes to hell in a handbasket with those levels.

vinerie · October 2015

***TMI alert***

Every time I wipe, I think "I hope there's not blood" and then quickly get up the nerve to look down. I get nervous to wipe! So, yeah, I worry. And I worry about every little thing in my life. I wish I could turn off my worrying mind!

babycakes8214 · October 2015

You are not alone. I am a worrier by nature as well and it is basically consuming me.

I haven't had my first ultrasound yet so I'm hoping when I get that (13 more days!) that I will settle down a bit. Like PP said, I also try to think happy, positive thoughts but then my heart and head says "wait a second, don't get ahead of yourself." It's really frustrating.

If I could go back to my first pregnancy, before my mc, where I was so naïve and didn't think anything bad would happen, I would.

Sending you hugs and letting you know you are not alone in all the worry!

kwilson7613 · October 2015

vinerie said:
***TMI alert***

Every time I wipe, I think "I hope there's not blood" and then quickly get up the nerve to look down. I get nervous to wipe! So, yeah, I worry. And I worry about every little thing in my life. I wish I could turn off my worrying mind!

This. EVERY DAMN TIME. I'm 9 wks and don't go in to the midwife until next week, so I've been worrying that there won't be a baby there when I go or what not--we got pregnant almost without trying and i feel like I'm just waiting for something to happen.

cmeags · October 2015

vinerie said:

***TMI alert***

Every time I wipe, I think "I hope there's not blood" and then quickly get up the nerve to look down. I get nervous to wipe! So, yeah, I worry. And I worry about every little thing in my life. I wish I could turn off my worrying mind!

Yes! I am doing this too in the washroom. That was my first sign of miscarriage last year when I wiped.

yogahh · October 2015

vinerie I do the same. And every time its a huge relief!

I totally know that loss of symptoms is normal around this time, but it doesn't mean that it doesn't make me worry. I mean, I barely even have to pee anymore!! That doesn't help the anxiety at all.

LadySamLady · October 2015

I am worrying a lot, too. I was literally shaking the day of my NT scan. It was the best feeling in the world when she put the US thing on my belly and said "oh there they are, bopping around." I literally said, "so they're alive?" And she laughed but I was serious. I think you'll feel a lot better after your NT scan. I'm trying to stay calm now, but it is so hard!!

I even paid for that stupid baby heart beat app and tried to find the heart beat for like 45 mins..

It makes me feel better that I'm not the only one!

yogahh · October 2015

LadySamLady said:

I am worrying a lot, too. I was literally shaking the day of my NT scan. It was the best feeling in the world when she put the US thing on my belly and said "oh there they are, bopping around." I literally said, "so they're alive?" And she laughed but I was serious. I think you'll feel a lot better after your NT scan. I'm trying to stay calm now, but it is so hard!!

I even paid for that stupid baby heart beat app and tried to find the heart beat for like 45 mins..

It makes me feel better that I'm not the only one!

"They" Are you having twins???

rlworzalla · October 2015

yogahh said:
Even though my 1st appointment went really well last week, and we saw/heard LO's HB (180 beats per minute- strong!) I still am constantly worried that something is going to happen. I try not to concentrate too much on these Debby Downer thoughts, but I still have moments of imagining going in for our 1st tri screening (11/2) and finding out baby stopped growing. At what point will the constant worrying end? Age 18? I am a natural worry-wart, so the uncertainty of what's going on "in there" has me always thinking. And having my boss announce to the whole office at just shy of ten weeks has me feeling like we are "jinxed" now. Silly, I know.. but where else to voice our silly thoughts and insecurities than TB?

I feel this way constantly. I don't have symptoms other than sore boobs and an occasional craving, which I'm not bragging about and I know is a blessing, but it makes my mind think bad things since I've had consistent spotting and cramping. Dr says all is good but my mind still worries

LadySamLady · October 2015

@yogahh ha! oops! Not twins!! I get mixed up with the pronouns at this stage and you're not the first person to ask that! I actually say "he" to myself and husb because I'm convinced its a he but I never know how to refer to them/him/her (?) to others..I was saying "it" for a while but that was weird, too.

HELP MEEEEEEE

seashellz1223 · October 2015

Same here- I'm a worrier by nature but I think it's normal to some extent. My SIL told me that in her experience you are always going to worry about the next test result or the next scan- pretty much everything until you're holding your LO- and then maybe even more!!

TheThornBird · October 2015

Well, my mom says it never ends. I'm pushing 30 and she and my dad still worry about me constantly, ha. But she also said the pain of childbirth is nothing compared to the pain of having a rebellious teenager (which I totally was.....)

evamarta · October 2015

Ugh yas, queens, yas!

I have my first ultrasound on Friday and after a miscarriage a couple of months ago, I'm CONSTANTLY freaking out. My poor man, he's put up with lots of tears like a champ! It definitely doesn't help that a lot of my symptoms disappeared over the weekend but I'm trying to stay positive. I could definitely use a glass of wine right about meow but since that is not an option I'm glad I have you ladies to vent to!

:x

kbrands7 · October 2015

Bltbear82 said:
My first pregnancy I was worried until I could feel the baby moving, and then would be paranoid if he wasn't moving enough. Long story short, there's always something to worry about but try not to let it consume you. I remember telling my SIL that I just wanted my son to be born so I could stop worrying and she just laughed and told me I'll never stop. You'll get more reassurance though the more you progress and can feel them bouncing around.

Case in point, DS is 19 months and has a really bad cold so I was up every few hours last night checking his temp and breathing. It's just part of being a mommy!

This. There is always something to worry about, the worry just changes. Control the (few) things you can, try to roll with everything else without driving yourself mad.

Right now my major worries are always if DS is okay while I'm at work (Is he eating? Napping? Is the basement door secured so he can't access the stairs? Etc.). With this pregnancy I had been worried about having a bleed from a hematoma like with DS--but that happened last night. Baby and placenta are still healthy today, so that worry is off the table.

tgortney · October 2015

This is on my mind from the minute I wake up to my last thoughts going to bed. It has really consumed me and I try not to let it but it's horrible

the anxiety of it all is crazy. I also check every time I wipe. I have my next appointment in 1 week and 1 day and it feels like forever away :-S I'll be super nervous on the day of because I'm terrified of a MMC!

caterin · October 2015

I'm a worrier myself! Hoping for no miscarriage, baby is healthy etc. got a call from the doctors office this morning to come back in to discuss my abnormal pap smear:( this terrifies me! Hope it's just something small and treatable but i definitely can't think of anything else today!!!

sarawifenow · October 2015

I am right there with you. I just hit 2nd tri and have my ultrasound tomorrow but I am still worrying all the time. Now that my belly is starting to grow, I am feeling more confident and I think that after tomorrow I will feel much better. I think it's really natural to worry.

maggiemac15 · October 2015

Yes!!!! I'm so glad I'm not the only one/also so sorry other people are feeling as much a wreck as me!! I've had no symptoms other than sore and growing boobs and some cravings. Obviously I'm thrilled to not be getting sick, but just a little verification of what's happening would be so welcome. All my mommy friends are saying chill, but I absolutely can't!! Next appointment is Friday so I'm counting down the minutes until I know we're ok, then I'll do it all again until my next visit.

wsgjmw1 · October 2015

I think we are all in the same boat. I am constantly worrying and thinking about all the bad things that can go wrong. I am especially nervous for the upcoming appointment next week for the 1st trimester screening. Its nice and comforting to hear other woman are having similar thoughts and feelings. I think we all have the same hurdles to overcome until we feel "less" worried but at least we all have each other to lean on for support during the tough times of the first trimester!

camillaandcarson · October 2015

You are not alone at all. You are part of a huge club. Welcome to parenthood.

Having gone through this with #1 I also thought it would get better after baby was born, after baby was 1, etc. and it doesn't really get better, it never stops, but it does change with each change they go through as well.

Like at this age of my #1 I no longer worry about #1 being a baby in belly not making it, or #1 preterm labor, and other delivery issues or SIDS with #1 but there are so many new worries that replaced those during the current toddler age. And those worries will be replaced as that same toddler moves into the next stage of life with new worries.
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1mae2016 · October 2015

I am so worried, all of the time, for scenarios I make up in my own mind. Being a FTM I have no idea about the norms and what being pregnant even feels like- which currently can be described as miserably exhausting. But once I start feeling good I worry that maybe my pregnancy isn't sticking, or if I have a super active day I worry I may have caused too much stress to my body. I try to stay mellow and not worry but it completely goes against my nature.

finnybooboo · October 2015

Yes yes yes. I wasn't this way with my first pregnancy. I know raising awareness for miscarriage and infant loss is important, but seeing reminders and stories all over FB has been hard. I'll feel a little better after the NT scan in a few weeks but I'll be a nervous wreck until then. Just trying to live by the mantra of "right now, today, I'm still pregnant"

NinnyJean · October 2015

Glad to see everyone else is worried all the time too! I constantly count down to the next appointment so I can know things are okay.

My doctor called yesterday to say my blood work showed I'm a carrier of cystic fibrosis and my husband has to be tested to see if he is as well. Well my husband isn't a patient at this practice so it is taking forever for them to figure out insurance wise how to have him come in. All I want is for him to get tested so we can know whether or not there's a chance our baby has cystic fibrosis. Needless to say, I've been a worried wreck the past two days. Worries I felt before were nothing compared to now.

doozer1345 · October 2015

Birth and I imagine until your death. I've been more worried this go round just bc I'm at 11 weeks and am starting to get more regular cramping. No spotting. I just don't remember this with DD and I don't remember hearing cramping lasting this long.

seasalt123 · October 2015

I'm worried constantly. I don't find the ultrasounds frequent enough and I think it's inhumane to make women wait 12 - 20 weeks for their first ultrasound.

I know it's not for everyone but getting a home doppler has helped. I really limit my use of it, but when the stress becomes too much, I know it's there as an option.

Julesby · October 2015

NinnyJean said:

Glad to see everyone else is worried all the time too! I constantly count down to the next appointment so I can know things are okay. My doctor called yesterday to say my blood work showed I'm a carrier of cystic fibrosis and my husband has to be tested to see if he is as well. Well my husband isn't a patient at this practice so it is taking forever for them to figure out insurance wise how to have him come in. All I want is for him to get tested so we can know whether or not there's a chance our baby has cystic fibrosis. Needless to say, I've been a worried wreck the past two days. Worries I felt before were nothing compared to now.

I feel your pain! We thought we were in the clear after the NT and panorama were fine a few weeks ago. But, the final panel was delayed and came back yesterday. It showed that I am a carrier for Fanconi Anemia.Given that there is no known Jewish heritage in my family and this is more common in Jewish populations, this was quite a surprise. My husband is having his blood drawn on Friday, but it will be two weeks before we know. I keep trying to remind myself that the chances of us both being carriers are low, but it's not helping. Hopefully we'll both hear good news!

Edit: Didn't realize I stumbled into another BMC. I thought I searched for April discussions.

babygarris · October 2015

Yes. I'm always worried, every single day because this is my first pregnancy! And at the beginning you don't go to the doctor as often , so it's hard to know if the baby is doing OK

kimbirain · October 2015

Since my first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage and it took a year to get pregnant again, I am constantly worried. Then to top it off I found out I have Auto-Antiphospholipid antibodies, so that just makes my worrying a little over the top.

babykasper · October 2015

I worry too.

Dasha420 · October 2015

Yes.

2.red.heads · October 2015

I worry too. We have started telling a few relatives and friends and honestly it's not as great of a feeling as I was expecting. I'm 11 weeks. It's so hard to keep a secret but then to fiiiiiiinally tell it suddenly has me doubting myself. I think also because my husband seems to want to tell no one (he's just not as 'social' as me though). He is going to my 2nd appt in two days and then he'll be at the NT scan in a week. I think he'll 'really' believe that these twins are on their way when he sees/hears them in person!!

autumnlynne1221 · October 2015

I'm constantly worried too. As a sonographer I unfortunately see sad stuff often. So I'll be worried until this baby is born and then I'll be worried about newborn stuff lol.

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