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Should this even be a worry?

SamanthAnaliseSamanthAnalise member
edited October 2015 in 2nd Trimester
I will be seventeen weeks tomorrow and literally I cannot even go through a day without worrying myself crazy about miscarriage. I will think about it and worry about it all day every day, and I honestly don't know how to control it. I just already love my little princess so much, that the thought of losing her just really frightens and upsets me. All of my doctors appointments, everything has been great! They are always like, "Perfect!" I had the blood test for any chromosome abnormalities, like Downs, etc. done my last visit, and it came back negative for any chromosome abnormalities! Do any other moms-to-be experience this same worry/concern? Someone please help me and give me some positive feedback! Thank you!
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Re: Should this even be a worry?

  • Miss LilacMiss Lilac member
    Of course it's always a possibility, but past the 12 week mark you're literally looking at a 1% chance of miscarriage. You probably have a higher statistical chance of getting hit by a car. Are you losing sleep worrying about that all day long? Doubtful.

    Agree with PP, mentioning that kind of crippling anxiety to your doctor might be a good idea.
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  • kyraaDkyraaD member
    agreed with PP's.
    I'm a first time mama too & i have absolutely worried about miscarriage. however, it shouldn't be consuming you the way it is. worrying & stressing yourself out all day all night isnt good for you or baby. definitely talk to your OB about your fear & hopefully he/she can give you some reassurance.
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  • ChichigoChichigo member
    Have you experienced a previous loss? If so, counseling might be very helpful. Like PPs, I suggest talking with your doctor about your anxiety
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  • cwallen314cwallen314 member
    I have clinical anxiety and that's the first thing I thought of when I read your post. If you are worrying about something like that without any rationale (yes it's possible but it's also EXTREMELY unlikely at this point and like you said all signs are pointing to a healthy pregnancy) to the point of it interfering with your day...that's a problem. It reminds me of myself when I'm not on meds. Not to say that medication is the only route or right for you but I would def talk to your doctor about your all-consuming worry! Good luck with everything :)
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  • ladyblueberryladyblueberry member
    Have you tried doing things to combat the anxiety? Yoga, meditation, exercise, gratitude lists, affirmations? All are very helpful in putting your mind at ease. I've dealt with anxiety for most of my life and thankfully started seeing a new therapist before I got pregnant. Anxiety is not good for the baby so I worked even harder at trying to keep my thoughts in check once I knew I was carrying. Let me know if you need any resources for yoga, mediation, etc. 
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  • sarahuflsarahufl member
    Ditto PPs. I struggled with anxiety for a number of years and it is really hard/unhealthy. It got to the point where I was vomiting daily for months, so I started seeing a psychologist and doing more yoga/being more active. I struggle with fearing that this pregnancy may go wrong- even against the odds. But if it is occupying your thoughts so much you are going to drive yourself crazy. 
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  • veonkaveonka member
    Listen my hole pregnancy up until I actually saw my baby for the first time and herb her heart beating on the ultrasound I was full of worry so if your doctor and the ultrasound shows you that everything is going good just try to stay com
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  • Disneygeek77Disneygeek77 member
    Do you have triggers that intensify your anxiety. I had it with my second pregnancy and I had to stay away from articles, news stories and TV shows that dealt with pregnancy.
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  • fourtsixand2fourtsixand2 member
    It's perfectly natural to worry.  I'm a FTM and everything worries me....everything from not feeling 'sick enough' to worrying that bending over too fast with crush the baby.  It sounds silly, but I think it's part of that motherly protection - I think that begins before birth wanting to make sure your baby is safe.
    Unfortunately, miscarriages happen and there isn't anything that can be done to prevent it, but as long as you're taking care of yourself and the Doctor says you're good, that should ease some of your worry. :)
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