UO Thursday!

JaymeeLH · October 2015

Let's hear those unpopular opinions ladies!

Warning to those with thin skin, this is not a flame free zone

JaymeeLH · October 2015

I hate Star Wars. Maybe because my ex worshipped it, but I can't stand anything and everything star wars related.

tarier · October 2015

I loathe Taylor Swift's music to the point that it is like nails on a chalkboard to me.

NicknShan · October 2015

UOs up there. My love for Star Wars goes deep.

I cannot stand the use of GoFundMe. Even for families that are in need of a little help (yes - my family has been there after my dad was diagnosed with cancer and we needed to even rely on friends to keep our house - they are doing great now).

Wyattnash00 · October 2015

I don't love other people's children regardless of how 'awesome' you think they are. I also used to be an elementary teacher which makes me an even worse person. (I also need to find that 'how to gif thread' cause I'm jealous of all Of you).

AmberLiz99 · October 2015

New York style pizza is better than any other kind of pizza.

cdnvb4 · October 2015

I can't stand when people on TB say "A negative pregnancy test means 'not pregnant at this time.'" That's just false. For most people, there are several days at the beginning of their pregnancy in which they are actually pregnant but would still test negative. At least as far as I understand it, the beginning of a pregnancy is not defined as the first day you can turn a pregnancy test positive but as the first day of implantation. I get the frustration behind those posts and hate the "Am I pregnant?!?" posts as much as anyone else. But to me this particular response is as aggravating as the initial question that prompted it.

mrsschmity · October 2015

I don't get some of the outlandish ideas people come up with these days to propose and announce engagements, etc. Maybe I'm old fashioned. When H proposed to me it was just the two of us on an empty beach at dark, and we didn't do any cutesy/fancy announcement either. It was meaningful and that's all that mattered to me. These days it all seems to be a performance.

hlnelson4 · October 2015

Just keep trying it will happen or maybe you're just not meant to be patents. No, no, no. In my case it was thousands of dollars and 2 years of fertility treatments to finally get pregnant.

kara0729 · October 2015

tarier said:
I loathe Taylor Swift's music to the point that it is like nails on a chalkboard to me.

Aww man!! I'm not ashamed to admit I love her! Going to her concert THIS Tuesday AND my first ultrasound is that day...I don't know which I'm more excited about (j/k- ok obviously Taylor Swift errr I mean ultrasound)!

I just don't see how this is going to work out musically @tarier !

kara0729 · October 2015

My UO... I'm seriously worried that I'm gonna have a boy...I only planned on girls in my uterus. I debated not rolling the dice on another pregancy just because I'm nervous it will have a penis and I won't relate. I don't want a boy!!

**Edited for sensitivity...I want a healthy baby of course even if it's a boy. And don't worry, if it does go that way I will give myself just 24 hours to grieve my loss and then I'll jump on the "yay boy" bandwagon.

matthewsdm · October 2015

mrsschmity said:

I don't get some of the outlandish ideas people come up with these days to propose and announce engagements, etc. Maybe I'm old fashioned. When H proposed to me it was just the two of us on an empty beach at dark, and we didn't do any cutesy/fancy announcement either. It was meaningful and that's all that mattered to me. These days it all seems to be a performance.

Me too! Nothing is sacred anymore. Throw in engagement parties, gender reveal parties...everything is such a big, showy ordeal now. It makes me not want to be excited for anyone.

mrsschmity · October 2015

cdnvb4 said:

I can't stand when people on TB say "A negative pregnancy test means 'not pregnant at this time.'" That's just false. For most people, there are several days at the beginning of their pregnancy in which they are actually pregnant but would still test negative. At least as far as I understand it, the beginning of a pregnancy is not defined as the first day you can turn a pregnancy test positive but as the first day of implantation. I get the frustration behind those posts and hate the "Am I pregnant?!?" posts as much as anyone else. But to me this particular response is as aggravating as the initial question that prompted it.

Eh, it may not be technically correct, but honestly that's probably how I would respond. Most of the women asking the question "I POAS and it was negative, could I still be pregnant?" are in one of three categories:

1. They're POAS way to freakin' early at 5 dpo and expect to see a positive. No. Just no.
2. They POAS at an appropriate time, say 12 dpo, and it was negative. More than likely, you really aren't pregnant at this time.

3. They're a special snowflake who can't turn a test positive until 18 dpo, even though they are in fact pregnant.

At the time you POAS, that little stick holds the truth to the best of your knowledge.

GinnyJ2012 · October 2015

matthewsdm said:

mrsschmity said:

I don't get some of the outlandish ideas people come up with these days to propose and announce engagements, etc. Maybe I'm old fashioned. When H proposed to me it was just the two of us on an empty beach at dark, and we didn't do any cutesy/fancy announcement either. It was meaningful and that's all that mattered to me. These days it all seems to be a performance.

Me too! Nothing is sacred anymore. Throw in engagement parties, gender reveal parties...everything is such a big, showy ordeal now. It makes me not want to be excited for anyone.

****QBF*****
We had two engagement parties. We're from different states and it was how we met the extended families and friends before the wedding. It was also an excuse to have an awesome party. Both were cookout style with good food and lots of alcohol.

Our actual engagement was at a nice restaurant and just the two of us. We told his parents when we got back (we were staying there) and called mine on the phone (my dad was flying out of the country the next morning).

izzyp25 · October 2015

@kara0729 I actually feel the same. I really don't want this baby to be a boy. I feel SO bad that I feel like this and I know I should be thinking and saying I just want a healthy baby. I know I will be like you and will quickly jump on the boy train but still I feel ya.

cjt121413 · October 2015

I can't stand when people say "we're pregnant. " WE are not pregnant. I am pregnant. WE are expecting. If DH could get pregnant that would be AMAZING, but no. For now, only people with utes can get pregnant.

Also, you don't find out the baby's gender. You find out the sex. Last I checked the u/s shows body parts, not whether baby is wearing a pink dress or blue overalls.

cjt121413 · October 2015

kara0729 said:
My UO... I'm seriously worried that I'm gonna have a boy...I only planned on girls in my uterus. I debated not rolling the dice on another pregancy just because I'm nervous it will have a penis and I won't relate. I don't want a boy!!

**Edited for sensitivity...I want a healthy baby of course even if it's a boy. And don't worry, if it does go that way I will give myself just 24 hours to grieve my loss and then I'll jump on the "yay boy" bandwagon.

I was like this when I was pregnant with DS. I had some serious disappointment when we found out. But little boys are AWESOME. My little dude is the biggest snuggle bug and thinks his mommy hung the moon. If you have a boy, it won't be long before you are saying, "I can't believe I was ever so set on a girl. "

Lilwatz · October 2015

mrsschmity said:

cdnvb4 said:

I can't stand when people on TB say "A negative pregnancy test means 'not pregnant at this time.'" That's just false. For most people, there are several days at the beginning of their pregnancy in which they are actually pregnant but would still test negative. At least as far as I understand it, the beginning of a pregnancy is not defined as the first day you can turn a pregnancy test positive but as the first day of implantation. I get the frustration behind those posts and hate the "Am I pregnant?!?" posts as much as anyone else. But to me this particular response is as aggravating as the initial question that prompted it.

Eh, it may not be technically correct, but honestly that's probably how I would respond. Most of the women asking the question "I POAS and it was negative, could I still be pregnant?" are in one of three categories:

1. They're POAS way to freakin' early at 5 dpo and expect to see a positive. No. Just no.
2. They POAS at an appropriate time, say 12 dpo, and it was negative. More than likely, you really aren't pregnant at this time.
3. They're a special snowflake who can't turn a test positive until 18 dpo, even though they are in fact pregnant.

At the time you POAS, that little stick holds the truth to the best of your knowledge.

I was #3 on my first pregnancy! I was 4 days past missed period with a negative test so I thought I was not pregnant and we were about to start a fertility cycle. They did an HCG just to confirm before making me get my period and it was 8.5! Then it kept increasing... And now I have a one year old.

^^no clue why I wrote that out. Mostly because I love talking about me.

ETA: Even then I didn't post that stuff on an internet forum.

mrsschmity · October 2015

Eh, it may not be technically correct, but honestly that's probably how I would respond. Most of the women asking the question "I POAS and it was negative, could I still be pregnant?" are in one of three categories:

1. They're POAS way to freakin' early at 5 dpo and expect to see a positive. No. Just no.
2. They POAS at an appropriate time, say 12 dpo, and it was negative. More than likely, you really aren't pregnant at this time.
3. They're a special snowflake who can't turn a test positive until 18 dpo, even though they are in fact pregnant.

At the time you POAS, that little stick holds the truth to the best of your knowledge.

I was #3 on my first pregnancy! I was 4 days past missed period with a negative test so I thought I was not pregnant and we were about to start a fertility cycle. They did an HCG just to confirm before making me get my period and it was 8.5! Then it kept increasing... And now I have a one year old.

^^no clue why I wrote that out. Mostly because I love talking about me.

ETA: Even then I didn't post that stuff on an internet forum.

The difference there is that you didn't actually ask a bunch of internet strangers if you could be pregnant

emucoleman · October 2015

Wyattnash00 I don't like other people's children either! Well, most of them. Maybe I'm resentful of the idea that because I'm a woman I'm supposed to like all children.

Also, I hate it when people bring their kids to a non-kid-appropriate event. A few people brought kids to my baby shower when I was pregnant with DD and it was a madhouse. I mean, it was still fun, but it was really annoying to have kids constantly running around and yelling. I used to think I would feel differently after I had a child, but so far I still don't. If I want to go to something that's not kid-friendly, I either get a babysitter or I don't go.

mrsschmity I totally agree...my husband's proposal was really simple and we didn't have an engagement party at all. I always feel embarrassed for people who do the proposal on the Jumbotron at a sports game. Just no.

JaymeeLH · October 2015

Wyattnash00 said:
I don't love other people's children regardless of how 'awesome' you think they are. I also used to be an elementary teacher which makes me an even worse person. (I also need to find that 'how to gif thread' cause I'm jealous of all Of you).

Yup this. I have very little patience for kids that aren't my own.

WinniethePoohsPants · October 2015

I HATED it when people told me I looked beautiful during my 1st pregnancy. I looked like myself, but in a fat suit; so don't lie to me and think I'll believe you. I know that they were just trying to be nice, but seriously I looked awful and let's be real- nobody looks BETTER pregnant. I truly think the appropriate automatic response to pregnant women should be- "Good job! Can I get you anything?" and that's it.

goldie987 · October 2015

emucoleman said:
Wyattnash00 I don't like other people's children either! Well, most of them. Maybe I'm resentful of the idea that because I'm a woman I'm supposed to like all children.

Also, I hate it when people bring their kids to a non-kid-appropriate event. A few people brought kids to my baby shower when I was pregnant with DD and it was a madhouse. I mean, it was still fun, but it was really annoying to have kids constantly running around and yelling. I used to think I would feel differently after I had a child, but so far I still don't. If I want to go to something that's not kid-friendly, I either get a babysitter or I don't go.

mrsschmity I totally agree...my husband's proposal was really simple and we didn't have an engagement party at all. I always feel embarrassed for people who do the proposal on the Jumbotron at a sports game. Just no.

Totally agree. My parents offered to throw an engagement party, we said no, totally unnecessary. My husband's proposal was on a private balcony on a cruise at sunset because he knows I think the big productions/hugely public proposals are corny.

Lilwatz · October 2015

WinniethePoohsPants said:

I HATED it when people told me I looked beautiful during my 1st pregnancy. I looked like myself, but in a fat suit; so don't lie to me and think I'll believe you. I know that they were just trying to be nice, but seriously I looked awful and let's be real- nobody looks BETTER pregnant. I truly think the appropriate automatic response to pregnant women should be- "Good job! Can I get you anything?" and that's it.

I totally look better pregnant. I carry weight in my stomach so having a bump just takes me up a notch. I'm so excited for 2nd and 3rd tri body I could spit.

adiaz132003 · October 2015

I hate when people give you big news via text. Our friends announced they were PG by sending a text that said "solve this anagram, three words good luck. TEENAGER PRAWN". And then a couple days later posted the same thing of FB. First of all, if we are close enough that we got to find out before everyone else, don't f****** text it and don't make me solve any flipping puzzles!! Second, don't post it on Facebook and say "if you know the answer, shhh" at the end! What?! Just say "We are expecting!!" And be done with it!!!

Lilwatz · October 2015

adiaz132003 said:

I hate when people give you big news via text. Our friends announced they were PG by sending a text that said "solve this anagram, three words good luck. TEENAGER PRAWN". And then a couple days later posted the same thing of FB. First of all, if we are close enough that we got to find out before everyone else, don't f****** text it and don't make me solve any flipping puzzles!! Second, don't post it on Facebook and say "if you know the answer, shhh" at the end! What?! Just say "We are expecting!!" And be done with it!!!

Along those lines, I hate when people fb message sad emoji for devastating news. My mom was diagnosed with a terminal brain tumor a few years back and someone close to her and me fb messaged me, ":(

" Nope. No thank you.

Mr0616 · October 2015

There's a recent GTKY thread about describing your wedding. Yeah, no.
I got the bragging vibe from those questions.

Oh and I miss the TTGP board snark. Dearly. #bringbackthesnark

I also like hashtags. But keep it simple.

emucoleman · October 2015

WinniethePoohsPants said:

I HATED it when people told me I looked beautiful during my 1st pregnancy. I looked like myself, but in a fat suit; so don't lie to me and think I'll believe you. I know that they were just trying to be nice, but seriously I looked awful and let's be real- nobody looks BETTER pregnant. I truly think the appropriate automatic response to pregnant women should be- "Good job! Can I get you anything?" and that's it.

When I was pregnant with my DD I was always wishing people would give me more compliments on how I looked. I mean, yeah, I didn't look that great in reality, but I wanted people to lie to me. LIE TO ME PEOPLE.

JaymeeLH · October 2015

KOR121 said:
There's a recent GTKY thread about describing your wedding. Yeah, no.
I got the bragging vibe from those questions.

Oh and I miss the TTGP board snark. Dearly. #bringbackthesnark

I also like hashtags. But keep it simple.

I dunno, I feel like it was just a way to get some kind of conversation other than symptoms and intros started.
And I agree about the snark.

cjt121413 · October 2015

JaymeeLH said:

KOR121 said:
There's a recent GTKY thread about describing your wedding. Yeah, no.
I got the bragging vibe from those questions.

Oh and I miss the TTGP board snark. Dearly. #bringbackthesnark

I also like hashtags. But keep it simple.
I dunno, I feel like it was just a way to get some kind of conversation other than symptoms and intros started.
And I agree about the snark.

This. I actually got the idea from TTGP, where a few months ago there was a big GTKY about weddings. Thought it was fun. I love wedding porn.

lm45678 · October 2015

UO: I have no patience for stupid people. At all. People that ask questions without trying to figure out the answer themselves drive me nuts!!!!

I'm a nurse so this makes me often frustrated and a bad person.

I want to add that if you have a learning disability or developmental problem that is totally different.

JaymeeLH · October 2015

laurenm2123 said:
UO: I have no patience for stupid people. At all. People that ask questions without trying to figure out the answer themselves drive me nuts!!!!

I'm a nurse so this makes me often frustrated and a bad person.

I want to add that if you have a learning disability or developmental problem that is totally different.

We're going to get along well

Wyattnash00 · October 2015

emucoleman said:
Wyattnash00 I don't like other people's children either! Well, most of them. Maybe I'm resentful of the idea that because I'm a woman I'm supposed to like all children.

Also, I hate it when people bring their kids to a non-kid-appropriate event. A few people brought kids to my baby shower when I was pregnant with DD and it was a madhouse. I mean, it was still fun, but it was really annoying to have kids constantly running around and yelling. I used to think I would feel differently after I had a child, but so far I still don't. If I want to go to something that's not kid-friendly, I either get a babysitter or I don't go.

mrsschmity I totally agree...my husband's proposal was really simple and we didn't have an engagement party at all. I always feel embarrassed for people who do the proposal on the Jumbotron at a sports game. Just no.

So agree @emucoleman, we had a 'no kid policy' at our wedding. World war 3. I mean, call me selfish but my money, my wedding, the only circus I wanted were my friends making fools of themselves. People are amazing tho with what they'll say. Priceless.

samsonator · October 2015

I hate when people I see everyday greet me in the morning with an exaggerated "Hey!!! How ARE you????" I know they're trying to be nice, but seriously I just saw you 16 hours ago. I'm the friggin same. Can we not pretend to be completely invested in each other's day to day emotions ?

hgsurvivor · October 2015

cjt121413 said:
I can't stand when people say "we're pregnant. " WE are not pregnant. I am pregnant. WE are expecting. If DH could get pregnant that would be AMAZING, but no. For now, only people with utes can get pregnant.

Also, you don't find out the baby's gender. You find out the sex. Last I checked the u/s shows body parts, not whether baby is wearing a pink dress or blue overalls.

THANK YOU!!!
WE are not pregnant!!! This has been bothering me forever! ugh!!!!

Also, I had never stopped to think about the sex reveal vs gender reveal. You're right!

goldie987 · October 2015

I have celiac disease and hate it when people (I'm looking at you MIL) go out of their way to make something I can eat at family events because then I feel obligated to actually eat it even if I don't like it. I get that you're trying to be nice but I have no qualms with bringing my own food to things, I would even prefer it because then at least I know I like the food and have made it in a way that doesn't have any cross contamination risk.

JaymeeLH · October 2015

I'm going to restate something I said in my other thread. I have no desire or feel any need to be friends with 100% of the people on this board. If you give support, I'll give you support. But I'm not going to blow butterflies up everyone's asses because they feel they deserve it. Some of my best friends in the world are from my DDs BMB, but they are a select group. If we get along, awesome. If not, feel free to just not engage with me because I promise I won't be offended.

hgsurvivor · October 2015

mrsschmity said:
I don't get some of the outlandish ideas people come up with these days to propose and announce engagements, etc. Maybe I'm old fashioned. When H proposed to me it was just the two of us on an empty beach at dark, and we didn't do any cutesy/fancy announcement either. It was meaningful and that's all that mattered to me. These days it all seems to be a performance.

For me it's not the engagements or proposal announcements. It's the "Prom-posals" WTF!!!! It's a THING now that high school kids have to put on a big big production just to ask someone out to the prom. WHY????? It's just Prom!!!! And that word is stupid anyway - promposal. Ugh!
YouTube it if you want to see what I mean, but you might get angry haha.

Mr0616 · October 2015

@BVBabyHopeful yes!! What the hell is up with that?? I've seen homecoming things now too!

More crap that people can brag about on social media?? I'm talking about you teenagers!! And stuff like that is why I don't have a Facebook account.

If you don't post it on social media....did it really happen?!

FutureMrsCAF · October 2015

BVBabyHopeful said:

mrsschmity said:
I don't get some of the outlandish ideas people come up with these days to propose and announce engagements, etc. Maybe I'm old fashioned. When H proposed to me it was just the two of us on an empty beach at dark, and we didn't do any cutesy/fancy announcement either. It was meaningful and that's all that mattered to me. These days it all seems to be a performance.

For me it's not the engagements or proposal announcements. It's the "Prom-posals" WTF!!!! It's a THING now that high school kids have to put on a big big production just to ask someone out to the prom. WHY????? It's just Prom!!!! And that word is stupid anyway - promposal. Ugh!
YouTube it if you want to see what I mean, but you might get angry haha.

Yes!! DH is a high school teacher and tells me about the kids asking each other to dances. It is ridiculous. I'm pretty sure all of my dates asked me on AOL haha. Although, I have seen pizza with "Prom?" spelled out in pepperoni. I'd totally say yes to that.