I'm with you girls and in the exact same vein as the irritating "just wait" comments, have any of you had the "promise me this" spin yet? Oh promise me you won't let baby do this/you'll read this/do what I did/won't do what they did/drive one of these/buy one of those/be the exact same perfect 'know all' person that I am etc etc!! I respond with "no I'm not going to promise you anything but please, do carry on..."
I have gotten this once but it was entirely understandable. The last time my MIL was here she did the "just promise me..." and it was that we'll always use the car seats and buckle the kids in. I thought it was common sense and obviously this is something we'll do. Then she explained she'd just found out one of her friends sets her two year old grandchild in the car seat and never buckles her in.
For some reason i get the "you'll never sleep again" rant a lot.
I get it. I'm not going to sleep a lot. Can we not talk about it? No use in worrying over it right now. I'll do it because I have to. My brain and body have spent 9 months reprogramming themselves to handle this. I get it. I'm going to be awake a lot. It'll be ok.
Nobody ever tells you it'll be ok.. But i think it probably will be.
For some reason i get the "you'll never sleep again" rant a lot.
I get it. I'm not going to sleep a lot. Can we not talk about it? No use in worrying over it right now. I'll do it because I have to. My brain and body have spent 9 months reprogramming themselves to handle this. I get it. I'm going to be awake a lot. It'll be ok.
Nobody ever tells you it'll be ok.. But i think it probably will be.
I notice they never prepare you for when baby sleeps through the night. It can happen and when I experienced it with DS I spent the night unable to sleep, checking on him constantly, and generally pretty freaked out about whether he was okay.
Yesterday I was saying to my pregnant cousin (we are due a day apart, but this is her second) that even though the baby loves to kick my bladder I will take that over no movement at all. And she said just wait till next month, you will change your mind. Ummm.... Well I get incredibly anxious when baby doesn't move do I will take being uncomfortable over worrying that he is ok thank you very much!
It drives me nuts that a first time mom can't possible know as much! From the woman who still smokes and said she covers her infant in a blanket and uses bumper pads and because he first son was fine, it's not a big deal!!
Haha. I actually said something like this to my cousin this weekend. She is not expecting, but is really wanting to have a child soon. Well, her SO and her were fighting over who gets less sleep. Which drives me nuts already. Why is everything a competition? I asked them what time they had to get up to kind of understand their issue. Her SO wakes up for work at 7:30 AM every day of the week, and my cousin chooses to sleep until 9 AM. Hahaha I couldn't help but laugh out loud, and it came out before I could stop myself "and you guys want children."
"Just wait until you have 3. You have no idea what you're in for."
Thank you... you're right. I have no idea how multiple children can be even though I can handle my 2 just fine and can watch my niece and nephew at the same time with no qualms. Not to mention that I am the 3rd of 4 children and we never really gave our prents too much trouble. But yeah, you're right. Even though you have physical custody of 0 of your 4 bio and 2 step children, you have all of the answers. Please teach me your ways... (Insert huge eyeroll).
I've had a couple people who have said "trust me, you don't want kids" and "are you sure you're ready for this?" and "Just wait!", and I hate all of those. ESPECIALLY because we tried for 5 years, had 2 miscarriages and ultimately went the infertility route to get pregnant. I'm pretty sure we wouldn't have gone through all of that if we "didn't really want kids". I didn't exactly go into this with my eyes closed.
I've had a couple people who have said "trust me, you don't want kids" and "are you sure you're ready for this?" and "Just wait!", and I hate all of those. ESPECIALLY because we tried for 5 years, had 2 miscarriages and ultimately went the infertility route to get pregnant. I'm pretty sure we wouldn't have gone through all of that if we "didn't really want kids". I didn't exactly go into this with my eyes closed.
I can handle the "just wait" comments and "are you ready for this". I absolutely cannot handle the "trust me, you don't want kids" or "you're lucky you don't have kids". We struggled a lot to get pregnant the first time, knew infertility wasn't an option (after seeing a cousin go through it and clean out their savings only to later adopt, I decided I'd rather just adopt and we were seriously discussing this option). So having someone sit there and tell us we were lucky we didn't have kids, I was ticked. Hubby saw it and nicely made me leave the room rather than sitting there with dagger eyes trying to decide how to put the genius down.
I've had a couple people who have said "trust me, you don't want kids" and "are you sure you're ready for this?" and "Just wait!", and I hate all of those. ESPECIALLY because we tried for 5 years, had 2 miscarriages and ultimately went the infertility route to get pregnant. I'm pretty sure we wouldn't have gone through all of that if we "didn't really want kids". I didn't exactly go into this with my eyes closed.
I can handle the "just wait" comments and "are you ready for this". I absolutely cannot handle the "trust me, you don't want kids" or "you're lucky you don't have kids". We struggled a lot to get pregnant the first time, knew infertility wasn't an option (after seeing a cousin go through it and clean out their savings only to later adopt, I decided I'd rather just adopt and we were seriously discussing this option). So having someone sit there and tell us we were lucky we didn't have kids, I was ticked. Hubby saw it and nicely made me leave the room rather than sitting there with dagger eyes trying to decide how to put the genius down.
So did the people who said this have kids? If so, didn't it want to make you say, "Oh, so you aren't glad that you had your kids? You'd rather you didn't have them?"
I can't wait to ask my friends ALL of these questions. I'm the first of my group to get married and have children so I'm secretly looking forward to when their time comes!
I've had a couple people who have said "trust me, you don't want kids" and "are you sure you're ready for this?" and "Just wait!", and I hate all of those. ESPECIALLY because we tried for 5 years, had 2 miscarriages and ultimately went the infertility route to get pregnant. I'm pretty sure we wouldn't have gone through all of that if we "didn't really want kids". I didn't exactly go into this with my eyes closed.
I can handle the "just wait" comments and "are you ready for this". I absolutely cannot handle the "trust me, you don't want kids" or "you're lucky you don't have kids". We struggled a lot to get pregnant the first time, knew infertility wasn't an option (after seeing a cousin go through it and clean out their savings only to later adopt, I decided I'd rather just adopt and we were seriously discussing this option). So having someone sit there and tell us we were lucky we didn't have kids, I was ticked. Hubby saw it and nicely made me leave the room rather than sitting there with dagger eyes trying to decide how to put the genius down.
So did the people who said this have kids? If so, didn't it want to make you say, "Oh, so you aren't glad that you had your kids? You'd rather you didn't have them?"
Omg it just hit me. I have a cousin who asked if I was going to get an epidural. She is due a week before me and already has one child. I (FTM) told her no, not because I see anything wrong with it but because I'm a scared little baby about having a needle in my spine. She then tells me "just wait you'll change your mind" she is 3 months older than me and acts like there is a HUGE age differnce. It's not near as annoying as some you ladies posts but still. Ugh
I totally agree with the post about looking forward to everyone else in our group of friends and family getting married and starting a family.
I am the oldest cousin on both sides, and the only one with children! I am only the oldest by a year btw.
Family events have been so stressful the past 7 years since I am the only one with little ones running around ( breaking everything in their non baby proofed homes ).
It will be nice to have all of them finally understand why I get aggratived when they ask why I am leaving early or can't come over.
Ok, so this made me laugh today. I got the "just wait" comment from a woman at work. She was telling me how she's very conscious about chemicals in her house because of her two dogs. She then looks at my belly and says "just wait, you'll understand when you have yours." Seriously?!!?! First off, I love dogs. I have a dog and love her to pieces. She's truly a part of my family. But there's no way I would ever compare her to another woman's baby!! Second, did you push that dog out your vagina? I don't think so! Not the same thing at all.
Ok, so this made me laugh today. I got the "just wait" comment from a woman at work. She was telling me how she's very conscious about chemicals in her house because of her two dogs. She then looks at my belly and says "just wait, you'll understand when you have yours." Seriously?!!?! First off, I love dogs. I have a dog and love her to pieces. She's truly a part of my family. But there's no way I would ever compare her to another woman's baby!! Second, did you push that dog out your vagina? I don't think so! Not the same thing at all.
A friend of mine told me she was pregnant yesterday. I told her about those nice annoying comments she's going to hear and also told her to slap me the minute I start doing this as well :-).
I have had very similar comments from my SIL who is divorce with only one child. She has every other weekend to herself and goes out/vacations more than anyone I know. She asked me if I was "sure" when I was about 3mo along. I wanted to punch her in the face. My husband and I have had 2 miscarriages in the past and had to take blood thinners to get through this pregnancy. Not to mention the fact that we have been married 10yrs this year and are both college educated professionals....I feel ya! You just have to focus on you and your family. Haters are always going to hate
Tonight I got home to a lovely mess. My dog had been sick all over. My cousin called after I'd finished cleaning up the mess, bathing the dog and showering. She said "oh just wait until the baby has an explosive diaper"...well he won't be covered in feces, jump all over me, have left poop in every room of my house, and then fight me to take a bath. So yes I'll just wait for that diaper, sounds like a better alternative to 60LB doggy diarrhea. Ugggghhhhhh
Tonight I got home to a lovely mess. My dog had been sick all over. My cousin called after I'd finished cleaning up the mess, bathing the dog and showering. She said "oh just wait until the baby has an explosive diaper"...well he won't be covered in feces, jump all over me, have left poop in every room of my house, and then fight me to take a bath. So yes I'll just wait for that diaper, sounds like a better alternative to 60LB doggy diarrhea. Ugggghhhhhh
I agree with you. I'll take a bad baby diaper over dog diarrhea any day. My cocker spaniel will be 16 years old next month and she has incontinence issues, and I am cleaning up poo and pee most days from her. I'd rather clean up my daughter's diapers than that. We put my dog's crate away and keep her in our bathroom now because she was pooping in her crate and it would be all over the crate because she would step all in it and get it everywhere and I'd have to clean it every time I left her. At least in the bathroom, she has a lot of room to walk around, so if I have to clean it up, it's not as much of a mess.
Tonight I got home to a lovely mess. My dog had been sick all over. My cousin called after I'd finished cleaning up the mess, bathing the dog and showering. She said "oh just wait until the baby has an explosive diaper"...well he won't be covered in feces, jump all over me, have left poop in every room of my house, and then fight me to take a bath. So yes I'll just wait for that diaper, sounds like a better alternative to 60LB doggy diarrhea. Ugggghhhhhh
I agree with you. I'll take a bad baby diaper over dog diarrhea any day. My cocker spaniel will be 16 years old next month and she has incontinence issues, and I am cleaning up poo and pee most days from her. I'd rather clean up my daughter's diapers than that. We put my dog's crate away and keep her in our bathroom now because she was pooping in her crate and it would be all over the crate because she would step all in it and get it everywhere and I'd have to clean it every time I left her. At least in the bathroom, she has a lot of room to walk around, so if I have to clean it up, it's not as much of a mess.
I'm sorry you're dealing with it every day, my dog is only 1.5 so hopefully this was a one time thing. I feel a little guilty. Still, bring on the diapers.
Tonight I got home to a lovely mess. My dog had been sick all over. My cousin called after I'd finished cleaning up the mess, bathing the dog and showering. She said "oh just wait until the baby has an explosive diaper"...well he won't be covered in feces, jump all over me, have left poop in every room of my house, and then fight me to take a bath. So yes I'll just wait for that diaper, sounds like a better alternative to 60LB doggy diarrhea. Ugggghhhhhh
I agree with you. I'll take a bad baby diaper over dog diarrhea any day. My cocker spaniel will be 16 years old next month and she has incontinence issues, and I am cleaning up poo and pee most days from her. I'd rather clean up my daughter's diapers than that. We put my dog's crate away and keep her in our bathroom now because she was pooping in her crate and it would be all over the crate because she would step all in it and get it everywhere and I'd have to clean it every time I left her. At least in the bathroom, she has a lot of room to walk around, so if I have to clean it up, it's not as much of a mess.
I'm sorry you're dealing with it every day, my dog is only 1.5 so hopefully this was a one time thing. I feel a little guilty. Still, bring on the diapers.
Thanks. It can be difficult, but at least it's not diarrhea! BTW, I've found that to stop the diarrhea, don't feed your dog for one day, and then feed only plain rice until he/she stops and the tummy gets under control. Canned pumpkin also helps, but I've never used it since it isn't something I tend to have on hand, so I don't have any firsthand experience with it.
Re: "Just wait" rant
I get it. I'm not going to sleep a lot. Can we not talk about it? No use in worrying over it right now. I'll do it because I have to. My brain and body have spent 9 months reprogramming themselves to handle this. I get it. I'm going to be awake a lot. It'll be ok.
It drives me nuts that a first time mom can't possible know as much! From the woman who still smokes and said she covers her infant in a blanket and uses bumper pads and because he first son was fine, it's not a big deal!!
I actually said something like this to my cousin this weekend.
She is not expecting, but is really wanting to have a child soon.
Well, her SO and her were fighting over who gets less sleep. Which drives me nuts already. Why is everything a competition?
I asked them what time they had to get up to kind of understand their issue. Her SO wakes up for work at 7:30 AM every day of the week, and my cousin chooses to sleep until 9 AM. Hahaha
I couldn't help but laugh out loud, and it came out before I could stop myself "and you guys want children."
Yup, I was one of those people.
Thank you... you're right. I have no idea how multiple children can be even though I can handle my 2 just fine and can watch my niece and nephew at the same time with no qualms. Not to mention that I am the 3rd of 4 children and we never really gave our prents too much trouble. But yeah, you're right. Even though you have physical custody of 0 of your 4 bio and 2 step children, you have all of the answers. Please teach me your ways...
(Insert huge eyeroll).
I've had a couple people who have said "trust me, you don't want kids" and "are you sure you're ready for this?" and "Just wait!", and I hate all of those. ESPECIALLY because we tried for 5 years, had 2 miscarriages and ultimately went the infertility route to get pregnant. I'm pretty sure we wouldn't have gone through all of that if we "didn't really want kids". I didn't exactly go into this with my eyes closed.
Jamie
I can't wait to ask my friends ALL of these questions. I'm the first of my group to get married and have children so I'm secretly looking forward to when their time comes!
Two kids without custody of either.
I am the oldest cousin on both sides, and the only one with children! I am only the oldest by a year btw.
Family events have been so stressful the past 7 years since I am the only one with little ones running around ( breaking everything in their non baby proofed homes ).
It will be nice to have all of them finally understand why I get aggratived when they ask why I am leaving early or can't come over.
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Got that gem today.
Jamie
I'm sorry you're dealing with it every day, my dog is only 1.5 so hopefully this was a one time thing. I feel a little guilty. Still, bring on the diapers.
Jamie