"Just wait" rant

amye02 · October 2015

I'm a FTM, and I am so sick of being asked a question only to get a "just wait" followed by common knowledge or some horror story.
For example "are you tired..just wait when the baby comes you'll never sleep."

Are there things you all are tired of hearing?

victoria2015baby · October 2015

Yes!!!! I'm so sick of this comment too! I want to say, so you think I'm totally oblivious and haven't thought of that?! Am I not allowed to voice my feelings about this moment right now?! What the heck!

Taylovesbrad · October 2015

Yeah seriously I do not get the point of saying that.

Yeah tell me when I feel terrible, barely sleep, and look like a camel in reverse that it's only going to get worse.

I also hate birth horror stories people tell. Sure they are being real and honest but seriously just let me lI've in the dark until D day.

Mizuiro007 · October 2015

Taylovesbrad said:
Yeah seriously I do not get the point of saying that.

Yeah tell me when I feel terrible, barely sleep, and look like a camel in reverse that it's only going to get worse.

I also hate birth horror stories people tell. Sure they are being real and honest but seriously just let me lI've in the dark until D day.

This is one of the things I love most about my grandma. If I really asked she'd answer honestly but kept things super positive. Mostly she'd say that the biggest blessings g with the first is ignorance and she believes in preserving that as long as possible.

Gingermom15 · October 2015

When people tell me I'll never sleep again I tell them I already don't. Getting up at 4 am and going to bed around 10 that night, then waking up every hour and waiting until the alarm goes off sucks. It aggravates me so bad when I'm told I'll never sleep when the baby is born. Like people without kids sleep all the time or something? We can have effed up schedules, too. Maybe I'm being too sensitive, but I'm always sleep deprived and cranky. Hehe

littleSkittle14 · October 2015

It lessens with each pregnancy but there's always someone who has more kids, or kids closer together in age who feels entitled to dole out the "just wait" comments. So obnoxious.

I caught DH sayinf it to his sister when she was pregnant and I had to explain to him how obnoxious it is!

ColoradoHiker · October 2015

Taylovesbrad said:
Yeah seriously I do not get the point of saying that.

Yeah tell me when I feel terrible, barely sleep, and look like a camel in reverse that it's only going to get worse.

I also hate birth horror stories people tell. Sure they are being real and honest but seriously just let me lI've in the dark until D day.

My mom started describing (in minute detail) how her placenta broke apart in utero and how the doc had to manually find everything.. you get the idea. I was having an abnormally bad nausea day to begin with, and I had to tell her to stop. Then she got offended bc "it was just part of what happened, nothing to be grossed out about." Nope, I don't want to hear about the doc being elbow deep mom, sorry. Ignorance is bliss sometimes.

brydeebs · October 2015

So sick of everyone's birth stories!! Ahhh makes me crazy!!

celainev · October 2015

"Just wait until you have a crying baby to take care of."

I want to laugh in everyone's face who says that. I currently am the lead nurse to 68 elderly residents. That means on a daily basis I am responsible for 68 people who have health issues, cry, are extremely lonely, and need a lot of attention. And I love them all to bits. (Well, most of them.)

Taking care of one baby will not be much different.

But yea, tell me how hard it will be to take care of my own baby when I wake up every morning to take care of your mom/dad/grandpa/grandma.

Gingermom15 · October 2015

I also hate it when people tell me "just wait until you change a ripe diaper and it's all up their back". Unless the baby's bowels are the size of an adults, there is no way possible it would be worse then the things I've already dealt with. An adult with diarrhea the overflows from bed to floor, a confused guy painting himself and the bed with poop. They can't imagine the things I've seen.

SierraGood · October 2015

I have issues with my sciatic nerve and I work at Starbucks so my manger has me sit at the register rather than walk around. And the other day a customer felt the need to say "if you can't handle the pain now how do you think you'll get through labor" I wanted to snap!

Gingermom15 · October 2015

SierraGood said:
I have issues with my sciatic nerve and I work at Starbucks so my manger has me sit at the register rather than walk around. And the other day a customer felt the need to say "if you can't handle the pain now how do you think you'll get through labor" I wanted to snap!

What a b****

goldochsi · October 2015

I SO GET YOU!
I started avoiding a few people who recently had the baby or who are farther along.
I just can't stand it.
Who would have thought that e.g. "your belly will be growing more". REALLY???

goldochsi · October 2015

I think I'm going to write a thesis why mothers are in constant need to tell pregnant women "just wait" without beeing asked for ANY information.
Should be interesting!

Gingermom15 · October 2015

goldochsi said:
I think I'm going to write a thesis why mothers are in constant need to tell pregnant women "just wait" without beeing asked for ANY information.
Should be interesting!

Make sure to let us read. It should be interesting

stephaniearthurs · October 2015

chaelainev said:
"Just wait until you have a crying baby to take care of."

I want to laugh in everyone's face who says that. I currently am the lead nurse to 68 elderly residents. That means on a daily basis I am responsible for 68 people who have health issues, cry, are extremely lonely, and need a lot of attention. And I love them all to bits. (Well, most of them.)

Taking care of one baby will not be much different.

But yea, tell me how hard it will be to take care of my own baby when I wake up every morning to take care of your mom/dad/grandpa/grandma.

Ya I'm not a nurse and I'm a first time mom, but I feel like a baby will be a breeze for you!!

cav4christ · October 2015

goldochsi said:
I SO GET YOU!
I started avoiding a few people who recently had the baby or who are farther along.
I just can't stand it.
Who would have thought that e.g. "your belly will be growing more". REALLY???

The belly one gets me! Yes, I complain that my belly feels heavy and hurts occasionally, and I'm fully aware that it will continue to grow and expand until I really do get stuck in chairs. That doesn't mean that I'm not uncomfortable now, though! Can't people just say "geeze that sucks!" Or "I remember that phase. It's all worth it though!"

dp1320 · October 2015

I find myself having to catch myself from saying the "Just wait" to my friends because I remember how annoying it was the first go around! Now I just get looks of pity that my 2 will be so close in age (1.5 yrs). Well, it's a little late now!

ifishmanatl · October 2015

lol at the "camel in reverse" comment

blansaw · October 2015

I was at work and a custodian asked what I was having. I told him a girl, and he responded by telling me when he and his wife had their girl she was born dead.

Seriously, is that really what you tell a pregnant person?! All I could say was that I was sorry for his loss, and so far my Dr says things look good.

CArden74 · October 2015

Yesterday I was telling some friends how bad my joints hurt, particularly at night, due to the hormone our bodies produce to loosen us up for childbirth. The responses I got ran the gamut from, "Just wait until your feet are a size larger after you give birth then they were before and stay that way," to "Better start doing those kegels now and get ready for the pain."

What the f*ck. What part of "my joints hurt," is an invitation to inform me my feet are going to go a size up? Not to mention that no one in my family has had any such thing happen. Jesus Christmas, women! We are all different and so are our pregnancy experiences. Why do these ppl who used to be our dear friends, turn into such know it alls, hell bent on wrecking our day?

Funny how they remember so much in vivid detail about what it is to be pregnant and to parent but they don't seem to recall the rampant hormones pumping through my body making it highly likely that I will go on a murdering spree beginning with them. Just sayin.

momotheflyinglemur · October 2015

A coworker of mine brought his son into the office right after he got a shot. So he(18months-ish) was crying and upset. Luckily we had several treats in our kitchen so I lead him and mom over there and got him settled down pretty quickly with some animal crackers. That didn't stop everyone in earshot of the crying to emerge from their desks to give me annoingly knowing looks and repeat: "You better get used to that sound, momo."

Babies cry. I feel like that is something EVEN more obvious then that some of them don't sleep well. Jeez. That was an annoying day, I mean you could say something constructive like, "Aww, look at you, momo, going straight for the animal crackers when there is a crying baby." But you know what, that mom gave me a beautiful hand knitted blanket the next week, so that was really nice of her, but in general...

Ugh, people.

matika88 · October 2015

Most conversations:

"How are you feeling?"

"Pretty good, a little uncomfortable though."

"Oh, just you wait!!!"

Yes, I know it will only get worse from here. Thanks for the reminder!

Taylovesbrad · October 2015

@SierraGood omg I would have flipped!!! Dealing with constant pain for months on end is not easy either!!

CArden74 · October 2015

This.

JElizbetty · October 2015

When I take my daughter to school most of the moms always ask when we pass each other "how are you feeling?" I always reply with a chipper "good!" Some of them seem to genuinely care but others get really thrown off when I reply with good. They don't know what to say from there lol.

haylierm · October 2015

Omg are we the same person? Lol I posted a similar story a month or so ago. The topic of someone having a baby to "rekindle" their marriage came up and I said oh yeah, cuz there's nothing like getting pooped all over in the middle of the night to spark that flame. And my dad goes just wait! Uhhh wait for what? I'm specifically stating that its tough. Wait for when I have a baby to save my marriage which I just expressed I think is stupid? Huh?

haylierm · October 2015

CArden74 said:
Yesterday I was telling some friends how bad my joints hurt, particularly at night, due to the hormone our bodies produce to loosen us up for childbirth. The responses I got ran the gamut from, "Just wait until your feet are a size larger after you give birth then they were before and stay that way," to "Better start doing those kegels now and get ready for the pain."

What the f*ck. What part of "my joints hurt," is an invitation to inform me my feet are going to go a size up? Not to mention that no one in my family has had any such thing happen. Jesus Christmas, women! We are all different and so are our pregnancy experiences. Why do these ppl who used to be our dear friends, turn into such know it alls, hell bent on wrecking our day?

Funny how they remember so much in vivid detail about what it is to be pregnant and to parent but they don't seem to recall the rampant hormones pumping through my body making it highly likely that I will go on a murdering spree beginning with them. Just sayin.

Lol! Yes, how is it that people selectively remember things but not others?? My step mom wants to keep dragging me along on these insane shopping sprees. I certainly appreciate all the gifts for the baby but I am about to be 8 months. I ended up in bed for a day after the last one. If only there was some way for me to make some sort of list where I put the things I want and need for the baby so that I didn't have to go out with someone to shop for baby. .. (sarcastic font lol)

Eta I meant to say my step mom has given birth to two of her own children so she would remember what its like to be this pregnant. If that wasn't clear. Haha

haylierm · October 2015

The sleep comments directed at my husband have been bothering me. He has worked nights for years and years now. Yet somehow people don't understand that sleeping until one in the afternoon is NOT sleeping in if someone got off work at 430 am. People will come by during the day and say husband I STILL sleeping?!?! Uh I wouldn't call getting a full 7-8 hours of rest STILL sleeping. At our baby shower last weekend someone made a comment like you better enjoy all that sleep you get now. My husband works a full time job, a part time job, and goes to school. What is "all" this sleep you're referring to? Just because someone has a different sleep schedule doesn't make them lazy. Going to bed at 6 am and getting up at 1 or 2 is the same as you going to bed at 10 and getting up at 6 or whatever. I was tired of those comments before I was pregnant! Haha

CoreysMommy · October 2015

I have a 3.5 year old and everyone keeps saying "just wait until the baby gets here, then you'll really have your hands full"
Annoying !

Melissadmag · October 2015

Yup, this comment drives me crazy. At no other point is it okay to say things like this. If someone has the flu, do you tell them, well at least it's not pneumonia! If the person is suffering, they are still suffering. I'm sleep deprived and exhausted from growing a person in me for the last 7+ months. Yes, I am aware that when the baby comes I will be having to feed her every two hours, and be very sleep deprived, but guess what, that doesn't negate the fact that I am already sleep deprived from the pregnancy. So how about don't be a dick and just nod and smile and keep your comments to yourself. Maybe even offer to help so I can get a nap in, that would actually be helpful to my life.

SierraGood · October 2015

@Taylovesbrad it took a lot for me not to blow up on her especially since I had just found out the night before I'm starting to dilate some, so add slight panic to my daily discomfort and you have one cranky momma. Although I did give her quite the death glare.

susiaustin · October 2015

I have the just wait issues with my coworkers who all act like my mom, but most of them have grown children. The just waits are usually not as bad as random people. I wish more people were like my dad. My dad does the just wait thing, but he knows I'm use to kids and took a big part in taking care of my niece after my sister had her (post pardom depression among other things). He also told me that he saw me being a stay at home mom, or being a young mom from the time I was 14. Unfortunately that was what hurt the most when I was originally told no way no how I was having kids without lots of fertility treatments. Looks like I just needed my current SO who got me pregnant without any medical help. My dad's just waits are good things. "Just wait till you can come home from a horrible day at the office to snuggle her", "just wait till your mom and I come down after she is born and we get to go pretty dress shopping", "just wait till you see her face and know that nothing in the world will ever be more beautiful than this baby".... I thought my strict Roman Catholic dad would have bigger issues with his unwed daughter having a baby, nope he's thrilled to be a 3rd time "Pappy". I never use to speak to him like NEVER unless he was here or I was on the phone with my mom, who I speak to about 40 times a week. After my last hosptial visit he found an excuse to get my work e-mail (he needed help with an excel spread sheet I designed) now every morning he sends me the "just wait" emails to try to make my day a little better... My sister on the other hand is absolutely loving telling me the horror stories, my mom has been banned from telling me horror stories from the daycare she works at, but right now my dad's just waits are the best.. He does toss a rude one in there every once in a while "just wait till your getting up for work with no sleep, but also just remember she is completely worth it, and will be your greatest joy, and biggest frustration."

swalker3581 · October 2015

I can't stand people anymore. Why ask the simple question of how are you feeling? I've started to just say, "good" regardless of how I feel so they can't say anything else.

One day a guy I work with got on the elevator (I was already on when it stopped on his floor, got on and...) said, "You look happy. Not really, you really don't." So I responded with a smile, "It's best not to say anything at all then, isn't it?" Everyone on the elevator was silent, as I smiled and got off.

It's similar to when someone says, "You look tired." Really? Keep that $hit to yourself or I will call you out!

ssn109 · October 2015

susiaustin said:
I have the just wait issues with my coworkers who all act like my mom, but most of them have grown children. The just waits are usually not as bad as random people. I wish more people were like my dad. My dad does the just wait thing, but he knows I'm use to kids and took a big part in taking care of my niece after my sister had her (post pardom depression among other things). He also told me that he saw me being a stay at home mom, or being a young mom from the time I was 14. Unfortunately that was what hurt the most when I was originally told no way no how I was having kids without lots of fertility treatments. Looks like I just needed my current SO who got me pregnant without any medical help. My dad's just waits are good things. "Just wait till you can come home from a horrible day at the office to snuggle her", "just wait till your mom and I come down after she is born and we get to go pretty dress shopping", "just wait till you see her face and know that nothing in the world will ever be more beautiful than this baby".... I thought my strict Roman Catholic dad would have bigger issues with his unwed daughter having a baby, nope he's thrilled to be a 3rd time "Pappy". I never use to speak to him like NEVER unless he was here or I was on the phone with my mom, who I speak to about 40 times a week. After my last hosptial visit he found an excuse to get my work e-mail (he needed help with an excel spread sheet I designed) now every morning he sends me the "just wait" emails to try to make my day a little better... My sister on the other hand is absolutely loving telling me the horror stories, my mom has been banned from telling me horror stories from the daycare she works at, but right now my dad's just waits are the best.. He does toss a rude one in there every once in a while "just wait till your getting up for work with no sleep, but also just remember she is completely worth it, and will be your greatest joy, and biggest frustration."

I think you have an amazing father!

ChiccoBeanz · October 2015

I think that when some people see pregnant women, common sense is lost. The "just wait" comments, the food comments, sleep comments, clothing comments, weight comments, "was it planned?" Questions and so on, just shouldn't come up. My favorite are the know-it-alls who will tell you all sorts of incorrect info and try to force it on you.

My coworker asked another of she had an epidural. This woman went on a tangent about epidural drugging up your baby and she would never and etc. The other coworker, then startled, asked me if I intended on getting one. See, why do people always have to be rude and awkward. It was a yes or no question.

Or the coworker who knows I'm due in Dec but keeps asking why I haven't delivered my baby yet. What? Lady, you have a kid and a grand kid. You have nieces, nephews, cousins, God children. You even help set up schools get sex ed and pregnancy prevention/info classes for schools. Do you not know how this works ma'am?

People are weird.

erikaalzet · October 2015

I referred to my pregnancy in Facebook status before, or someone else may have though in those cases the purpose of the status was NOT the pregnancy (example: my BFF mentioned in a status she was excited for a FaceTime date with me and Baby last name). Anyway, if you don't read my statuses when they come up it would be very possible you didn't know I was pregnant.

I posted a photo of me and my husband at a wedding when I was about 27 weeks, namely because we both looked smoking and I love the picture. Overall positive response, not that it mattered, but some fool from high school then posts a meme to her page moments later like "so many people having babies... And I'm here like what country am I traveling to next?"

She may know many people pregnant right now, and it may not have been directed at solely me, but the idea that post baby all of life pauses is so strange to me. Most (not all) of my friends and family have continued to live the same vibrant lives they lived pre baby even post baby. My husband and I booked a cruise for July 2016, and plan on taking Baby Last Name down south with us when we visit some friends and scope out potential neighborhoods to move in April. Yes, life is goingn to require a readjustment of priorities and yes, I am sure there will be bumps in the road, but I cannot stand when people who are not in relationships or have no kids act like being married with children is a death sentence to your social calendar. And even more, I'd like to say those people that they don't know me very well and they can take several seats. Honestly, I know most of the people who have said that are also people who I know based on other things they have said are not terribly happy with where they presently are in life, so they may just be hating. But don't bring that my way.

That was long. But it really pissed me off.

MillyDally · October 2015

Lol! Yeah, I think this is one of my least favorite comments!! That's funny, like I don't understand that I will have a baby soon. Like, oh really? Babies are a lot of work? You don't say!! You mean to tell me they will need to eat at night? Say whaat?

Mizuiro007 · October 2015

I have to confess to doing this today. We were today for DS's first birthday. My SIL is six months pregnant and just starting to get big movements. She was complaining about baby waking her up at 4am. Before I realized what I was doing it popped out "just wait..." Maybe it isn't so bad that it was "just wait, one day you'll be able to get revenge."

angelicmommy · October 2015

The worst one for me...

Just wait till you poo on the table / bed.

REALLY? You had to bring that up?

Merroneymaria · October 2015

I'm with you girls and in the exact same vein as the irritating "just wait" comments, have any of you had the "promise me this" spin yet? Oh promise me you won't let baby do this/you'll read this/do what I did/won't do what they did/drive one of these/buy one of those/be the exact same perfect 'know all' person that I am etc etc!! I respond with "no I'm not going to promise you anything but please, do carry on..."

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