I'm pregnant with my first baby and got a text message from my sister in law the other day to let me know that she was throwing a "Grandma Shower" for our MIL. I've never even if heard of this idea? I should probably clarify that I'm not very close with my in-laws. We see them frequently but I'm 6.5 months pregnant and I don't think they've mentioned the baby more than 5 times. It's rather complicated. The message only said that she wanted me to know "before the invitations go out." She actually had already picked a date and had invitations printed before mentioning it to me. She knows that my husband and I both have hectic schedules (we each work 40+ hours per week and are attending law school in the evenings) and we are trying to get everything done before the baby gets here. (Plus, I'm high risk and they are expecting him to come early.) She happened to pick a day where neither of us can be available but she thinks I'm being petty and just pretending I can't make it. She even called my in-laws sobbing and so now they aren't speaking to me. Any feedback on how to handle a "Grandma Shower" and deal with the in-laws in a way that won't send me into preterm labor?
Re: Has anyone heard of a "Grandma Shower"?
Too bad she isn't thoughtful enough to throw you a shower. I am so confused.
Willashbaby- my DH is equally upset over this whole thing. His father came over to the house while I was at class to mediate some sort of agreement between the sobbing SIL and me. It's getting ridiculous.
I agree with PP that you and DH need to call MIL and let her know that you honestly didn't know about the shower and honestly can't make it. Sorry your in-laws sound nuts!
As for your in laws, I would completely let your husband handle that one. I also wouldn't give in to sil because it could just set a precedent of her getting her way - and once your baby is here things concerning your baby/family need to be your way!
DS1 2010
DS2 2013
DD1 2016
She died a few years back.
Sorry for the drama... all I can say is, drama isn't healthy for children. Stability and love and unity is healthy. My husband would NOT let crazy around our kids, grandma or not. I am so grateful.
This shower is absolutely ridiculous. Why would she take the gifts and the spotlight that is meant for you and YOUR baby?
Two years, two losses and three IUIs...
We are having TRIPLETS!
EDD 1/26/16
GGB born November 2015!
Sorry you are in this situation. I would say that since it appears that you were an afterthought to this "party" you should happily ignore them. It doesn't sound like your in-laws are currently in your baby's life so I don't see how it will change after lo is born. This party could be their way of keeping up appearances. Shake it off and do something for yourself instead. Pedicure and chocolate perhaps.
Asking you to attend a shower for your baby that isn't about you as well is silly, especially if you are expected to attend and weren't consulted on your availability. Good idea letting DH handle it from here