@acuteangles that is just so sad! If you helped create it, you need to be responsible enough to take care of it. If H was watching baby while I was out and was blowing up my phone and not interacting with the kid, you better believe when I got home we'd have a come to Jesus talk about his responsibilities!
My SIL is probably trying for another baby soon. I feel like a bitch, but I really hope it takes a while cause we're borrowing all their baby stuff and saved at least $500-$800 by using it. Plus, I really don't think they need another yet. My nephew isn't that well behaved and to add another? Oy.
Yea it would suck to not have the baby stuff to fall back on but judging when they choose to have another kid isn't cool. That's a personal decision and as long as they can financially support the child then who cares?
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We have a really strained relationship and she's really not a nice person so its kind of easy for me to judge since if she wasn't my husband's sister, i would never even want to know a person like her. plus i know for a fact her husband isn't ready for another kid so i feel like she'd be one of those people to pull a bitch move and just stop taking BC without telling him. Its purely selfish reasons for me not wanting them to have another soon i know and it's bitchy for me to say. It took us a year and half to finally conceive and that whole time the baby gear was just sitting in our garage, and now that we finally are pregnant, she wants another. it just irks me in terms of the timing. let them have a thousand babies if they want, but just.. again the timing of it all.
I think one reason dads are uninvolved is because when they do change the baby, feed the baby, etc. Mom hangs around criticizing. Our prenatal instructor called it "mother bear syndrome"!
My UO is that it would not be fun to have Feb. 29 for a birthday. I'm really hoping this LO doesn't decide to come that day.
I think one reason dads are uninvolved is because when they do change the baby, feed the baby, etc. Mom hangs around criticizing. Our prenatal instructor called it "mother bear syndrome"!
My UO is that it would not be fun to have Feb. 29 for a birthday. I'm really hoping this LO doesn't decide to come that day.
I'm sure there's something to this, at least in some situations, but I wouldn't let a criticism deter me from interacting with my baby, changing their diapers, feeding them, etc. I would hope that fathers would feel the same way, regardless of negative comments from the moms. That's their child and they should be more vocal about wanting to share childcare responsibilities if it is important to them. If it's not, well then that's just sad.
I agree with you on the 2/29 birthday! Originally H was excited about the prospect, but came to his senses eventually. I'm hoping we don't land on V Day OR leap year, but who knows what will happen!
I think one reason dads are uninvolved is because when they do change the baby, feed the baby, etc. Mom hangs around criticizing. Our prenatal instructor called it "mother bear syndrome"!
My UO is that it would not be fun to have Feb. 29 for a birthday. I'm really hoping this LO doesn't decide to come that day.
I'm sure Mother Bear Syndrome has something to do with it, as well as society's portrayal that men are the bread winners and not to be the nurturer...but my UO was more towards the disrespect some give their partners in not trusting their abilities to parent and suggest they're only "babysitters" and not one of the parents..
@monkeybutt80.. Don't worry, he'll get other kids sick, which will probably give it back to him, so you'll have your chance to stay home with a sick kid again next week.
Trailing off of that.. I can't stand when people come to work sick. We share the same computers, work surfaces, pens, etc... So when one comes in sick, a bunch of us get it (and in turn, the parents of young kids end up with sick kiddos, too). Makes me really annoyed... And even more annoyed that our employer has a pretty strict sick policy that makes people feel like they have no choice but to come in.
@monkeybutt80.. Don't worry, he'll get other kids sick, which will probably give it back to him, so you'll have your chance to stay home with a sick kid again next week.
Trailing off of that.. I can't stand when people come to work sick. We share the same computers, work surfaces, pens, etc... So when one comes in sick, a bunch of us get it (and in turn, the parents of young kids end up with sick kiddos, too). Makes me really annoyed... And even more annoyed that our employer has a pretty strict sick policy that makes people feel like they have no choice but to come in.
I agree re: people coming into work sick. So many people at my work have been sick with a cold, including one coworker who I work really close to. Sure enough, I got it! I can't help but resent him/them for getting me sick when they came into work sneezing/coughing all over the place and not practicing adequate hand hygiene. Ugh.
@monkeybutt80.. Don't worry, he'll get other kids sick, which will probably give it back to him, so you'll have your chance to stay home with a sick kid again next week.
Trailing off of that.. I can't stand when people come to work sick. We share the same computers, work surfaces, pens, etc... So when one comes in sick, a bunch of us get it (and in turn, the parents of young kids end up with sick kiddos, too). Makes me really annoyed... And even more annoyed that our employer has a pretty strict sick policy that makes people feel like they have no choice but to come in.
I agree re: people coming into work sick. So many people at my work have been sick with a cold, including one coworker who I work really close to. Sure enough, I got it! I can't help but resent him/them for getting me sick when they came into work sneezing/coughing all over the place and not practicing adequate hand hygiene. Ugh.
My old employer was very not friendly to people calling in sick. Basically if you aren't being admitted to the hospital you should be at work. I started a new job in July and I have a terrible cold and two of the other girls are coming down with something now and I asked if it's like office culture to come in sick? they were like no.... if we aren't feeling well we don't come in so we don't give it to anyone else. Now I feel bad that I probably got them sick but it was with good intentions that I came to work.
@monkeybutt80.. Don't worry, he'll get other kids sick, which will probably give it back to him, so you'll have your chance to stay home with a sick kid again next week.
Trailing off of that.. I can't stand when people come to work sick. We share the same computers, work surfaces, pens, etc... So when one comes in sick, a bunch of us get it (and in turn, the parents of young kids end up with sick kiddos, too). Makes me really annoyed... And even more annoyed that our employer has a pretty strict sick policy that makes people feel like they have no choice but to come in.
I agree re: people coming into work sick. So many people at my work have been sick with a cold, including one coworker who I work really close to. Sure enough, I got it! I can't help but resent him/them for getting me sick when they came into work sneezing/coughing all over the place and not practicing adequate hand hygiene. Ugh.
My old employer was very not friendly to people calling in sick. Basically if you aren't being admitted to the hospital you should be at work. I started a new job in July and I have a terrible cold and two of the other girls are coming down with something now and I asked if it's like office culture to come in sick? they were like no.... if we aren't feeling well we don't come in so we don't give it to anyone else. Now I feel bad that I probably got them sick but it was with good intentions that I came to work.
Yeah, I do understand that. Some employers aren't so friendly about taking sick time. We only get limited paid sick time, but no one ever gives anyone a hard time where I work about calling in when you're sick. And if you MUST come, at least wait until you're not so, so sick, and wash your hands and cough/sneeze into your elbow, not your hand, dammit!
Luckily, because of FMLA, we can call in "sick child" more easily without repercussions (although, it's often easier for my H to stay home with DD than me). For personal illness , though, you're allowed 2 sick calls in 90 days (if you call multiple days in a row, it's only considered 1 occurrence). Third sick call in 90 days requires a meeting with your manager and HR referral.
Regarding coming into work sick: I also used to work for a large company that pressured us into coming into work sick. If you called in sick, HR would say, "Just come in for a half-day and see how you feel," and then pressure you into just staying the whole day. People who frequently called in sick were often the ones to be passed up for promotions and raises, and you got the general feeling that the company saw them as the weak players on the team. All that being said, of course it's annoying when someone comes into work sick, because you will inevitably catch what they have! But it's not always as cut and dry as it appears.
In @Monkeybutt80 's case, I see both sides. On the one hand, she has a responsibility to the daycare provider and other children there to keep them from catching her son's cold, and sending him to school sick feels inconsiderate or selfish. But she also has a responsibility to her son, first and foremost, to provide for him, and it sounds like staying home with him today may have put her ability to do so in some jeopardy. There's no real solution here, and I feel for her that she had to make such a tough decision. I think the vast majority of us will make some questionable judgment calls ourselves as parents, but it doesn't mean you aren't trying to do the best you can for your kids.
@Monkeybutt80- we have sick child day places around here- do you know if you have one? They get quarantined based on type of illness and there are nurses.
I hate all things pumpkins, except for the look of a pumpkin. I don't like the taste, smell, spiced, whatever.
also my UO is from reading the dumb things people say posts I think people are WAY too sensitive.
I just like being able to complain there because if I don't say something at some point I feel like I will explode. It's not so much what is said, but how many freaking times I have to hear it. Like comgratulations, would you like a prize for being the one millionth person to mention that I am getting bigger? Repitition is not my friend! I know everyone has the best intentions and sometimes it's just awkward but ugh!
I would be pissed if my husband ever said he was "babysitting" our children lol.
I really hate pumpkin spice anything. I tried the lattes, frapuchinos etc. I was bummed out lol everyone makes them sound like the best thing ever.
I can't stand anyone who pawns their child off to other family members. I see it way to often. Especially when I know they're very capable of doing their parent duties. I don't mean having someone help you out.
As in when family/friends put a marker up with flowers etc? or When there's an official DOT sign up and underneath the PSA it says "In Memory of ____________"?
@jamieruns and @acuteangles thanks. It certainly hasn't been an easy day. and I appreciate the acknowledgment that it wasn't an easy decision.
@vitaLuna I can't tell if you are being sarcastic or not, but I agree that it isn't over and I am sure either my husband or I will have to stay home many days over the next several months. Last winter was brutal with one virus after another and even though I hope no one else gets sick and he doesn't bring it back, but sadly, it's likely that he's already passed it on or caught what was already circulating at daycare even prior to today, as most colds are contagious before showing any symptoms.
@Twindling I totally agree with you, and no one should take knowingly sick kid to daycare lightly. and I don't take it lightly either, hence my comment on feeling guilty to other children in his classroom. I know my child will survive, but I know that I am exposing others.I totally understand where you are coming from as I dealt with something similar (to a lesser degree than what you are experiencing with your child) with mine when he was younger. Overnight hospital observations for low oxygen levels were awful and watching him pick up one virus after another at daycare was so sad and exhausting. I would have worked from home today if I could; and I know my husband would have if he could.
At what point do you just say "this isn't okay to expose other children to" and keep him home. I understand not being able to afford to miss work...trust me, I nearly lost my job because of it. I mean what would you do if daycare called and sent him home? Just tell them "sorry we can't work from home today...be there at 5 to pick him up!"
yeah, I don't know. I guess I am selfish in that I don't want to risk my job or license. I honestly have no idea what I would do if daycare called me to tell me to pick him up; if I had a solution, I wouldn;t have dropped him off in the first place. They are aware that he has a chest congestion, as I told them this morning at drop off. Go ahead and beat me up some more for this awful thing that I admitted that I did.
@achae our daycare has the same policy, which is why I gave him motrin. He woke up with a 99.6 fever, I gave him motrin, when we left, he no longer had a fever. Like I said to Twindling, I have no idea what I will do if daycare calls me today asking me to pick him up.
I'm with the other ladies here too. I'm student teaching right now and DH runs his own company and is the only employee. I am allowed to miss 3 days total. That's me being sick, my kids, doctors stuff, and so on. Well guess what, I have until Dec. to go and I've used my 3 days but you can bet your butt that if I KNOW my kid is sick and DH can't be home with them that day I'll be risking graduation, certification, and thousands of dollars in tuition to stay home until my kid is better. You have to find a way as a parent. If you can't even be bothered to stay home with your sick child now what are you going to do when this one arrives and you have two kids passing an illness back and forth?
@DrillSergeantCat - I'm with you, pumpkin and most all food scented candles smell horrific. They make me gag! DH loves them! He bought a pumpkin candle that he only sniffs because I can't handle the smell. So gross!!!
@MississippiCatfish - I love teakwood!!!! I have a couple teakwood rich and teakwood a around the house, they smell amazing!!!
My UO- I'm not a pet person. I used to be before I had kids but now all my attention is on them and I just don't have time for them, so I don't bother.
As in when family/friends put a marker up with flowers etc? or When there's an official DOT sign up and underneath the PSA it says "In Memory of ____________"?
And just curious, why?
When people put flowers and markers up on the side of the road because we don't visit where people died, we visit where they're laid to rest. We don't put memorials in hospital rooms or, like in the case of my dad, the living room. So why put it on the side of a road?
My UO is parents who let their children be materialistic and self absorbed. Your 9 year old kid should not be laying on the floor of Verizon and screaming because he wants his iPhone 6s now. He shouldn't even have one of you ask me. I guess that's two UOs in one.
Tory Burch. I just don't get it. I see so many people with those ballet flats that are what... $200?? What the hell?
I totally agreed with you until I got a pair. Now I have 3 pair. They are so comfy and I can wear them all through my pregnacy. I still have my first pair which are over 4 years old but look new!!
As in when family/friends put a marker up with flowers etc? or When there's an official DOT sign up and underneath the PSA it says "In Memory of ____________"?
And just curious, why?
When people put flowers and markers up on the side of the road because we don't visit where people died, we visit where they're laid to rest. We don't put memorials in hospital rooms or, like in the case of my dad, the living room. So why put it on the side of a road?
If that's how they choose to grieve, I don't get why that's stupid.
As in when family/friends put a marker up with flowers etc? or When there's an official DOT sign up and underneath the PSA it says "In Memory of ____________"?
And just curious, why?
When people put flowers and markers up on the side of the road because we don't visit where people died, we visit where they're laid to rest. We don't put memorials in hospital rooms or, like in the case of my dad, the living room. So why put it on the side of a road?
I go to the crash site of my best friends accident on the day she died ever year because it was the last place she touched before she died, it's weird but it's how I grieve. My friend turned the crash site of her younger brother into a beautiful memorial. Every time I drive by any of those stupid flowers it causes me to take pause.
@Twindling I totally agree with you, and no one should take knowingly sick kid to daycare lightly. and I don't take it lightly either, hence my comment on feeling guilty to other children in his classroom. I know my child will survive, but I know that I am exposing others.I totally understand where you are coming from as I dealt with something similar (to a lesser degree than what you are experiencing with your child) with mine when he was younger. Overnight hospital observations for low oxygen levels were awful and watching him pick up one virus after another at daycare was so sad and exhausting. I would have worked from home today if I could; and I know my husband would have if he could.
At what point do you just say "this isn't okay to expose other children to" and keep him home. I understand not being able to afford to miss work...trust me, I nearly lost my job because of it. I mean what would you do if daycare called and sent him home? Just tell them "sorry we can't work from home today...be there at 5 to pick him up!"
yeah, I don't know. I guess I am selfish in that I don't want to risk my job or license. I honestly have no idea what I would do if daycare called me to tell me to pick him up; if I had a solution, I wouldn;t have dropped him off in the first place. They are aware that he has a chest congestion, as I told them this morning at drop off. Go ahead and beat me up some more for this awful thing that I admitted that I did.
@achae our daycare has the same policy, which is why I gave him motrin. He woke up with a 99.6 fever, I gave him motrin, when we left, he no longer had a fever. Like I said to Twindling, I have no idea what I will do if daycare calls me today asking me to pick him up.
I'm with the other ladies here too. I'm student teaching right now and DH runs his own company and is the only employee. I am allowed to miss 3 days total. That's me being sick, my kids, doctors stuff, and so on. Well guess what, I have until Dec. to go and I've used my 3 days but you can bet your butt that if I KNOW my kid is sick and DH can't be home with them that day I'll be risking graduation, certification, and thousands of dollars in tuition to stay home until my kid is better. You have to find a way as a parent. If you can't even be bothered to stay home with your sick child now what are you going to do when this one arrives and you have two kids passing an illness back and forth?
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But sarcasm aside, I hope you don't ever get judged on your parenting ability by others based on one action.
As in when family/friends put a marker up with flowers etc? or When there's an official DOT sign up and underneath the PSA it says "In Memory of ____________"?
And just curious, why?
When people put flowers and markers up on the side of the road because we don't visit where people died, we visit where they're laid to rest. We don't put memorials in hospital rooms or, like in the case of my dad, the living room. So why put it on the side of a road?
I think It's about comforting them, I don't think they put it there for any other reason besides to help comfort them in their loss. If I had to drive past a spot everyday I would probably like a some sort of roadside memorial.
When I see them I think that's it's horrible for that persons loss and I need to drive carefully there. I don't know why that person died there but I need to drive super careful... Hey maybe they remind people to not text and drive! That would be even better
I hate when women say that their husbands/SO are "babysitting" the kid(s) while they're out doing something...or that they need to get home because they don't trust their husband/SO to care for the kid(s). If you don't trust your partner with your most prized possession, why the eff did you have a baby with them!? And they're not babysitting, they're parenting!
End rant.
Edit: I miss gifs!
This! A girlfriend of mine posted on FB about going back to work and leaving her baby at home with her husband. She asked three different people to check on them while she was working. It's your husband with his son, I think he will be well taken care of! Have a little more faith.
If I had to drive past the spot every day, I wouldn't want that visual reminder. I also would want to go someplace they loved to be near their positive energy instead of where they possibly suffered.
@Twindling I totally agree with you, and no one should take knowingly sick kid to daycare lightly. and I don't take it lightly either, hence my comment on feeling guilty to other children in his classroom. I know my child will survive, but I know that I am exposing others.I totally understand where you are coming from as I dealt with something similar (to a lesser degree than what you are experiencing with your child) with mine when he was younger. Overnight hospital observations for low oxygen levels were awful and watching him pick up one virus after another at daycare was so sad and exhausting. I would have worked from home today if I could; and I know my husband would have if he could.
At what point do you just say "this isn't okay to expose other children to" and keep him home. I understand not being able to afford to miss work...trust me, I nearly lost my job because of it. I mean what would you do if daycare called and sent him home? Just tell them "sorry we can't work from home today...be there at 5 to pick him up!"
yeah, I don't know. I guess I am selfish in that I don't want to risk my job or license. I honestly have no idea what I would do if daycare called me to tell me to pick him up; if I had a solution, I wouldn;t have dropped him off in the first place. They are aware that he has a chest congestion, as I told them this morning at drop off. Go ahead and beat me up some more for this awful thing that I admitted that I did.
@achae our daycare has the same policy, which is why I gave him motrin. He woke up with a 99.6 fever, I gave him motrin, when we left, he no longer had a fever. Like I said to Twindling, I have no idea what I will do if daycare calls me today asking me to pick him up.
I'm with the other ladies here too. I'm student teaching right now and DH runs his own company and is the only employee. I am allowed to miss 3 days total. That's me being sick, my kids, doctors stuff, and so on. Well guess what, I have until Dec. to go and I've used my 3 days but you can bet your butt that if I KNOW my kid is sick and DH can't be home with them that day I'll be risking graduation, certification, and thousands of dollars in tuition to stay home until my kid is better. You have to find a way as a parent. If you can't even be bothered to stay home with your sick child now what are you going to do when this one arrives and you have two kids passing an illness back and forth?
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Yep. Re: your last sentence; thank you for making me realize that I shouldn't have this second kid bc I couldn't stay home one particular day from work and instead my child went to daycare half the day and my husband watched him for half the day.
But sarcasm aside, I hope you don't ever get judged on your parenting ability by others based on one action.
It might not have been worded perfectly, but it may have been intended as a legitimate question (which, really, you opened yourself up to by sharing). Twice as many kids = twice as much illness. It would be good to get a plan in place before baby comes so that you don't feel like choosing your career over the health of other kids in the daycare and their parents' careers is your best option.
@Twindling I totally agree with you, and no one should take knowingly sick kid to daycare lightly. and I don't take it lightly either, hence my comment on feeling guilty to other children in his classroom. I know my child will survive, but I know that I am exposing others.I totally understand where you are coming from as I dealt with something similar (to a lesser degree than what you are experiencing with your child) with mine when he was younger. Overnight hospital observations for low oxygen levels were awful and watching him pick up one virus after another at daycare was so sad and exhausting. I would have worked from home today if I could; and I know my husband would have if he could.
At what point do you just say "this isn't okay to expose other children to" and keep him home. I understand not being able to afford to miss work...trust me, I nearly lost my job because of it. I mean what would you do if daycare called and sent him home? Just tell them "sorry we can't work from home today...be there at 5 to pick him up!"
yeah, I don't know. I guess I am selfish in that I don't want to risk my job or license. I honestly have no idea what I would do if daycare called me to tell me to pick him up; if I had a solution, I wouldn;t have dropped him off in the first place. They are aware that he has a chest congestion, as I told them this morning at drop off. Go ahead and beat me up some more for this awful thing that I admitted that I did.
@achae our daycare has the same policy, which is why I gave him motrin. He woke up with a 99.6 fever, I gave him motrin, when we left, he no longer had a fever. Like I said to Twindling, I have no idea what I will do if daycare calls me today asking me to pick him up.
I'm with the other ladies here too. I'm student teaching right now and DH runs his own company and is the only employee. I am allowed to miss 3 days total. That's me being sick, my kids, doctors stuff, and so on. Well guess what, I have until Dec. to go and I've used my 3 days but you can bet your butt that if I KNOW my kid is sick and DH can't be home with them that day I'll be risking graduation, certification, and thousands of dollars in tuition to stay home until my kid is better. You have to find a way as a parent. If you can't even be bothered to stay home with your sick child now what are you going to do when this one arrives and you have two kids passing an illness back and forth?
-///////--------------- ETA quote fail--------- Yep. Re: your last sentence; thank you for making me realize that I shouldn't have this second kid bc I couldn't stay home one particular day from work and instead my child went to daycare half the day and my husband watched him for half the day.
But sarcasm aside, I hope you don't ever get judged on your parenting ability by others based on one action.
It might not have been worded perfectly, but it may have been intended as a legitimate question (which, really, you opened yourself up to by sharing). Twice as many kids = twice as much illness. It would be good to get a plan in place before baby comes so that you don't feel like choosing your career over the health of other kids in the daycare and their parents' careers is your best option.
She left her child in capable hands for 1/2 a day. She was honest with the daycare and sometimes there are no options. I find the whole witch hunt overkill. @Monkeybutt80 , sorry you had to make a difficult decision today. I get it can be hard sometimes.
@Twindling I totally agree with you, and no one should take knowingly sick kid to daycare lightly. and I don't take it lightly either, hence my comment on feeling guilty to other children in his classroom. I know my child will survive, but I know that I am exposing others.I totally understand where you are coming from as I dealt with something similar (to a lesser degree than what you are experiencing with your child) with mine when he was younger. Overnight hospital observations for low oxygen levels were awful and watching him pick up one virus after another at daycare was so sad and exhausting. I would have worked from home today if I could; and I know my husband would have if he could.
At what point do you just say "this isn't okay to expose other children to" and keep him home. I understand not being able to afford to miss work...trust me, I nearly lost my job because of it. I mean what would you do if daycare called and sent him home? Just tell them "sorry we can't work from home today...be there at 5 to pick him up!"
yeah, I don't know. I guess I am selfish in that I don't want to risk my job or license. I honestly have no idea what I would do if daycare called me to tell me to pick him up; if I had a solution, I wouldn;t have dropped him off in the first place. They are aware that he has a chest congestion, as I told them this morning at drop off. Go ahead and beat me up some more for this awful thing that I admitted that I did.
@achae our daycare has the same policy, which is why I gave him motrin. He woke up with a 99.6 fever, I gave him motrin, when we left, he no longer had a fever. Like I said to Twindling, I have no idea what I will do if daycare calls me today asking me to pick him up.
I'm with the other ladies here too. I'm student teaching right now and DH runs his own company and is the only employee. I am allowed to miss 3 days total. That's me being sick, my kids, doctors stuff, and so on. Well guess what, I have until Dec. to go and I've used my 3 days but you can bet your butt that if I KNOW my kid is sick and DH can't be home with them that day I'll be risking graduation, certification, and thousands of dollars in tuition to stay home until my kid is better. You have to find a way as a parent. If you can't even be bothered to stay home with your sick child now what are you going to do when this one arrives and you have two kids passing an illness back and forth?
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Yep. Re: your last sentence; thank you for making me realize that I shouldn't have this second kid bc I couldn't stay home one particular day from work and instead my child went to daycare half the day and my husband watched him for half the day.
But sarcasm aside, I hope you don't ever get judged on your parenting ability by others based on one action.
It might not have been worded perfectly, but it may have been intended as a legitimate question (which, really, you opened yourself up to by sharing). Twice as many kids = twice as much illness. It would be good to get a plan in place before baby comes so that you don't feel like choosing your career over the health of other kids in the daycare and their parents' careers is your best option.
First, it was worded offensively. The fact that she said that I "can't even be bothered to stay home with the kid" is a gross misrepresentation of what I explained. It's not like I chose to go get my nails done instead of staying home with my sick child. I do not appreciate the fact that she insinuated that I wouldn't prefer to stay home with my child when he is sick. I would always prefer to stay home with my child, sick or not, over working.
Second, I don't appreciate the sanctimommy type judgment. Yes, it is true that I have made sacrifices to both my career and my child at times by trying to have a career and have children at the same time. Maybe I should have given up one because it is physically impossible for me to be there 100% for work and 100% for my child at the same time. OR, maybe we should not be so harsh to mothers who make difficult decisions, not just between their career and their children, but in all aspects of their lives where they may feel torn between multiple responsibilities.
We're all mothers or, at least, soon-to-be mothers. @monkeybutt80 made a decision that may have negative consequences for her and those around her, but we need to remember one thing...every single one of us will be judged by something we will do as a parent. We all do only what we think is in the best interest of our children and we won't all agree with what that best thing is. That's okay! We're not robots and kids sure as hell don't come with a manual! Sometimes we make a decision and hope for the best outcome.
Having said all that...monkeybutt80, have you checked into care.com? You might want to consider that since you don't have family near you to help you out when this happens again or even just when you and hubby need a date night.
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Baby F.......02/02/2016
My UO is that it would not be fun to have Feb. 29 for a birthday. I'm really hoping this LO doesn't decide to come that day.
Baby F.......02/02/2016
Trailing off of that.. I can't stand when people come to work sick. We share the same computers, work surfaces, pens, etc... So when one comes in sick, a bunch of us get it (and in turn, the parents of young kids end up with sick kiddos, too). Makes me really annoyed... And even more annoyed that our employer has a pretty strict sick policy that makes people feel like they have no choice but to come in.
*Kate*
February 2016
They get quarantined based on type of illness and there are nurses.
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I really hate pumpkin spice anything. I tried the lattes, frapuchinos etc. I was bummed out lol everyone makes them sound like the best thing ever.
I can't stand anyone who pawns their child off to other family members. I see it way to often. Especially when I know they're very capable of doing their parent duties. I don't mean having someone help you out.
And just curious, why?
Baby F.......02/02/2016
We have been married since September 28, 2013.
We had our first child, Zoey, February 7, 2016.
@MississippiCatfish - I love teakwood!!!! I have a couple teakwood rich and teakwood a around the house, they smell amazing!!!
My UO- I'm not a pet person.
If that's how they choose to grieve, I don't get why that's stupid.
Baby F.......02/02/2016
to When people put flowers and markers up on the side of the road because we don't visit where people died, we visit where they're laid to rest. We don't put memorials in hospital rooms or, like in the case of my dad, the living room. So why put it on the side of a road?
I go to the crash site of my best friends accident on the day she died ever year because it was the last place she touched before she died, it's weird but it's how I grieve. My friend turned the crash site of her younger brother into a beautiful memorial. Every time I drive by any of those stupid flowers it causes me to take pause.
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Yep. Re: your last sentence; thank you for making me realize that I shouldn't have this second kid bc I couldn't stay home one particular day from work and instead my child went to daycare half the day and my husband watched him for half the day.
But sarcasm aside, I hope you don't ever get judged on your parenting ability by others based on one action.
I think It's about comforting them, I don't think they put it there for any other reason besides to help comfort them in their loss.
If I had to drive past a spot everyday I would probably like a some sort of roadside memorial.
When I see them I think that's it's horrible for that persons loss and I need to drive carefully there. I don't know why that person died there but I need to drive super careful...
Hey maybe they remind people to not text and drive! That would be even better
I loved the scented room oils Bath and Body Works used to sell. I'm disappointed they no longer carry them.
It might not have been worded perfectly, but it may have been intended as a legitimate question (which, really, you opened yourself up to by sharing). Twice as many kids = twice as much illness. It would be good to get a plan in place before baby comes so that you don't feel like choosing your career over the health of other kids in the daycare and their parents' careers is your best option.
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Yep. Re: your last sentence; thank you for making me realize that I shouldn't have this second kid bc I couldn't stay home one particular day from work and instead my child went to daycare half the day and my husband watched him for half the day.
But sarcasm aside, I hope you don't ever get judged on your parenting ability by others based on one action.
It might not have been worded perfectly, but it may have been intended as a legitimate question (which, really, you opened yourself up to by sharing). Twice as many kids = twice as much illness. It would be good to get a plan in place before baby comes so that you don't feel like choosing your career over the health of other kids in the daycare and their parents' careers is your best option.
She left her child in capable hands for 1/2 a day. She was honest with the daycare and sometimes there are no options. I find the whole witch hunt overkill. @Monkeybutt80 , sorry you had to make a difficult decision today. I get it can be hard sometimes.