I want our parents and siblings to be able to tell whoever they want so we're *trying* to wait until Halloween (12 weeks) to tell them. So hard!! I also want my kids to be able to tell who they want and I want to be farther along before we tell the kids for sure (ages 8 & almost 5). I have already told a couple of girl friends - gotta talk to someone!!
I told my mom the day after my BFP. I had told my boss due to chemical cleaning products we use and I couldn't have her know and not my mom. My dad on the other hand can't keep a secret (he has physically incapable due to an illness to know what he can't vs can say) so he'll find out minutes before the rest of my family so I get to keep it secret. My rule of thumb is that if I would tell someone about a miscarriage regardless of if they knew about the pregnancy then I tell them I am 6 weeks and so far my mom, my sister, and my best friend know. My mom and my best friend so I have someone to talk to and my sister so my mom has an outlet besides me DH won't tell M/SIL until the first ultrasound
One set was told within 2 weeks of us finding out. The other set will be told next week. As for the rest of the world, we won't announce for quite some time.
I've said before I was going to wait till after the first appointment in a few weeks but we're going out to drop off a car at DH's dads house tomorrow. I may have told my dad this yesterday when I called for his birthday and he said we should come over and hang out. Normally ok but everyone is going to a local Octoberfest tomorrow. And of course the 2 people who do know are going to be there as well. Even if they don't let the cat out of the bag it will be a glaring red flag that I'm not drinking at an Octoberfest event. So looks like the family might find out tomorrow.
I'm not too worried about it I guess. Everyone would be really supportive regardless of how the appointment went... I guess I just wanted something more definitive before I spilled.
We told our parents the week we found out. We told grandparents and some friends in weeks 6-8. They know not to tell anyone since it's not their news. Any if anything were to happen we know we would have their support. Like other PP's it's nice to be able to talk to mom about it
We aren't telling the work or general public till 12 weeks.
It's up to you guys to decide who to tell but I think most are happy to have the support of immediate family. I think waiting to be safe the first tri rule is a little outdated, from when miscarriage was taboo to talk about.
I didn't even know I was pregnant when I had some symptoms. My sister, having three kids, told me to get a test. So obviously she was the first one to know. My husband and I trust her not to tell anyone. We each have told only one friend, for support. We are waiting until after our first appointment Nov 5 to tell our parents. Just in case something does happen. But that will put us at 10 weeks.
I'm really struggling with this. I was planing on telling my parents after the first appointment around 9w. However I want to tell my mom & dad now (5w3d). The only thing stopping me is that I think it's a little unfair to have my mom keep the secret until 12w if I tell her this soon. It will be her first grandkid and I know she will be excited and want to talk to her friends (that are grandparents too). I know she could keep the secret I just feel it's too much to ask of her for this long. So I will find the strength to wait till after the first appointment so she won't have to hold it in for very long.
With DD, we told everyone when I was like 10 minutes pregnant. It was thanksgiving and we were staying with my parents. I was going to be partaking in pretzels and Coke for my thanksgiving feast so we went ahead and told them.
I'm going to be 6 weeks on Sunday and we're telling our parents and siblings on Monday. We were going to hold out longer, but my brother and SIL told me a couple weeks ago that she's pregnant (due about 5 days after me!!) and I can't hold it in any longer. I loved having their support and excitement last time and I think I'll feel a weight lifted once they know, especially my parents.
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Re: When will/did you tell your mother/parents about your pregnancy?
My dad on the other hand can't keep a secret (he has physically incapable due to an illness to know what he can't vs can say) so he'll find out minutes before the rest of my family so I get to keep it secret.
My rule of thumb is that if I would tell someone about a miscarriage regardless of if they knew about the pregnancy then I tell them
I am 6 weeks and so far my mom, my sister, and my best friend know. My mom and my best friend so I have someone to talk to and my sister so my mom has an outlet besides me
DH won't tell M/SIL until the first ultrasound
The other set will be told next week.
As for the rest of the world, we won't announce for quite some time.
I'm not too worried about it I guess. Everyone would be really supportive regardless of how the appointment went... I guess I just wanted something more definitive before I spilled.
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019I'm going to be 6 weeks on Sunday and we're telling our parents and siblings on Monday. We were going to hold out longer, but my brother and SIL told me a couple weeks ago that she's pregnant (due about 5 days after me!!) and I can't hold it in any longer. I loved having their support and excitement last time and I think I'll feel a weight lifted once they know, especially my parents.
DD born 7.27.2014
BFP 09.2015 - m/c 10.21.2015