My baby hates me

Re: My baby hates me

• LS8735 member

  October 2015

  I am a FTM lurking from August. I was scared at first, too, that other family members seemed more at ease dealing with my son. Don't get discouraged! It really is true that you and your baby will learn each other over time. I spend way more time with my son than my husband does and I am the one that can soothe him. You will learn what your baby likes best.

  
  

  
  

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• lolad5 member

  October 2015

  The other night I got in a fight with my mom and was crying and so upset. Baby girl had a horrible night and wasn't nursing well and she wouldn't settle. Sometimes our mood or attitudes affect baby. Try to keep calm. I've learned to talk to her and hum songs and it really helps those fussy times. Don't get discouraged. You're doing a great job

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• kmcshane0211 member

  October 2015

  Don't be so hard on yourself! Babies don't have the awareness to develop the kind of preferences we have to "hate" or "like" something. A technique either soothes/pleases them or it doesn't. Just watch to learn what specific techniques he likes. Then use them yourself!
  
  #1 He wants to be with you. You're his momma and he knows it. Learn as you will and give him lots of snuggles when he's content. You can give to him what no one else can!

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• awells189 member

  October 2015

  I found for me sometimes he calms better in my husbands arms because he can smell the milk on me. Don't worry, I promise your baby doesn't hate you (even if it feels that way). It will get better!

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• monicaP member

  October 2015

  awells189 said:

  I found for me sometimes he calms better in my husbands arms because he can smell the milk on me. Don't worry, I promise your baby doesn't hate you (even if it feels that way). It will get better!

  Me too. Sometimes it seems like she sees me as the boobs and my husband is the mattress.

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• MiromiM member

  October 2015 edited October 2015

  My mom left today too. She lives on the other side of the world. Literally. I mentioned to her how I felt and she said "Baby just has needs. They don't like or dislike right now. I just have more practice and tricks to meet those needs."
  
  ETA My mom also suggested covering my chest with a receiving blanket when I hold DD to "mask" the milk smell.

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• TeacherMom210 member

  October 2015

  kmcshane0211 said:

  Don't be so hard on yourself! Babies don't have the awareness to develop the kind of preferences we have to "hate" or "like" something. A technique either soothes/pleases them or it doesn't. Just watch to learn what specific techniques he likes. Then use them yourself! #1 He wants to be with you. You're his momma and he knows it. Learn as you will and give him lots of snuggles when he's content. You can give to him what no one else can!

  This is spot on. Also, ditto those who say that they can pick up on our moods. Babies know when you are stressed, anxious, or scared and they will get riled up because of it. I'm also pretty sure they can smell fear, which is why they give Mommy a hard time but Grandma, not so much.

   

  
  

   
  

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• awells189 member

  October 2015

  MiromiM said:

  
  ETA My mom also suggested covering my chest with a receiving blanket when I hold DD to "mask" the milk smell.

  Interested to see if this works!
  

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• jene10e member

  October 2015

  Babies pick up on your moods really quick. As a FTM, I learned that fast. Even though I get stressed or upset, I remain as calm as I can around my almost 3 week old daughter. She is a little feisty one and can throw me some curve balls so I just keep calm and carry on. It's part of being a mommy! :-)

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