When will/did you tell your mother/parents about your pregnancy?

okcountrygirl · September 2015

So this is our first pregnancy. I am 5 and a half weeks. My doctor doesn't see non risk patients until 10-12 weeks and DH thinks we should wait until after that appointment to tell anyone. Today I've been thinking though that I'd really like our parents and siblings to know so that I have people to talk to that have been through pregnancies. What are y'alls thoughts on letting the immediate family know? Also, I'm thinking since this is the first grandbaby on my side, I'd like my mom at my appointment. I'm not sure how DH feels about that yet...

josie12367 · September 2015

With our DD we told everyone immediately after I peed on the stick! FB waited till around 10 weeks. With this one we just told family on Saturday even though we originally said we'd wait till Halloween. We decided that even if we were uncertain of the future, we knew our family would be the most supportive no matter the outcome. It just felt so isolating to not have them know. FB will again have to wait till 10-12 weeks to find out.

helleebellee · September 2015

My mom and MIL are the type of people who love to spread stuff, so we're waiting for as long as possible.

dsmith211 · September 2015

So far my step sister and her SO know, but only bc we're going to food and wine with them Friday and it would have been pretty obvious and they would have found out Friday anyway. I think MIL has a general idea... We just bought a new car (SUV) and her response was 'Gee, that sure looks like a family car upgrade. *wink wink*'... On Facebook of course.

We're telling family after the first appointment on the 20th and then everyone else probably at Thanksgiving.

mrstmoose · September 2015

We aren't telling our immediate family until Halloween (although this is proving to be difficult. I really wanted to tell my brother and SIL last night when they were over). We will tell our employers at 12 weeks and are thinking of putting it on social media around Thanksgiving. I'm not in a huge rush for some reason. And I want it to be fun since this is our first child. I don't think there is any right or wrong way of announcing your pregnancy.

JessicaB0627 · September 2015

We told parents right away. I'm a horrible liar and there's no way I wouldn't slip up. Plus if anything happened we would tell our parents anyway.

wsgjmw1 · September 2015

I told my mom at six weeks. My mom and I drink together and I only could say no so many times in a row before she caught on. Other than my mom, nobody else knows. We haven't decided officially when we are spilling the beans.

vampirina · September 2015

This depends a lot on your family! I know mine would be super supportive if we had a loss (and i would definitely tell them if we had a loss) but I also know that they are incapable of keeping any sort of secret. So if we tell our parents, they'll be telling EVERYONE and if I do have a loss, I really don't want to have go through telling everyone else that the loss had happened. So we are waiting until after the 12 week mark.

So far, only my husband and my best friend know. It's definitely helpful having a friend who had been through pregnancy to talk to! My husband is supportive but doesn't always "get it" if that makes sense.

LadySamLady · September 2015

We told our parents after our first appointment confirmed the pregnancy. They are an integral part of our support system and we will need them should anything go wrong, there wasn't much gained by keeping it from them. We've only told people that we'd lean on for support with any good or bad news (parents, my brother/SIL & my 2 BFFs).

nsouplynn · September 2015

We are planning to tell our immediate family sometime next week. We are just waiting for our ultrasound. We only ask our families that they not say anything on social media. We will announce at the end of the month on social media.

cortney626 · September 2015

We're very close to our families. We told him right after the blood test results and BFP. I told my husband first and he thought my mom would have already known. We did wait until the next day though so I could send them flowers. Our immediate families know as well as close friends. I'm 8w3d and have had 2 ultrasounds, so all looks good so far.

yogahh · September 2015

I told my mom last weekend. We are telling his parents this weekend. I also haven't seen my doctor yet but wanted them to know in case anything bad happens. I'm almost 8 weeks based on lmp

kmd0501 · September 2015

I wanted to wait to tell my m but then I started having all these questions and I just couldn't keep it quiet anymore. And to be fair, we told both our moms and sisters. But no one else knows in the family until thanksgiving (it's part of our "we are thankful for..." speech this year). I wanted my moms support early and she would probably figure it out anyway when I came over and didn't have a glass of wine. Plus this is her first grand baby and she is just over the moon. I wanted her to enjoy it as long as we did. I found out at 3w6d and we told her at 5w.

emmabeattie · September 2015

I'm almost 7 weeks ,this will be my 5 the baby,we are waiting to tell everyone till after our scan at 12 weeks

asunna · September 2015

i just told a best friend...havent told anyone else yet

Spylon · September 2015

We told my parents very quickly. I was at 4 weeks. My siblings all know as well. We're telling my in-laws in two weeks when we see them. I also told my two BFFs. Basically, anyone I would want supporting us if anything happens.

vanessa11411 · September 2015

We told DD about it. We're waiting until after my first appointment to tell everyone else. I'm holding off as long as I can to tell my mom. She has a big mouth and I have a feeling she is going to be a bug a boo as soon as she knows.

kwilson7613 · September 2015

Similar to PP, we told our parents not long after the BFP. I wanted to wait, but my mom and I are close and it felt wrong her not knowing. I was almost 5 weeks then. My family is very close, so now my aunts and grandparents and siblings know as well. We also told our Sunday school class (we're the only ones without children yet). Basically, we felt like (not trying to start a debate!) baby is a life, and we wanted as many people praying for it as possible this early. I don't plan on telling social media until at least after my first appointment at 10 weeks. Those of you waiting until thanksgiving I couldn't wait that long! More power to you!

vinerie · September 2015

I think I may be alone in this, but I'm not eager to tell. And I have no good reason for that feeling. I'm close with my parents; we talk on the phone/face time ~ 3 x per week (we live in different parts of the country). There is no bad blood or anything. But I feel weird about telling them. I'm generally a private person in terms of my personal life, so maybe that's why? I want to share it with them, but I'm not relishing the moment in which I have to tell them. Which is why I haven't. I suppose I'm trying to figure out a way to enjoy the moment that I share the news. They will be overjoyed, of course, so there is nothing to worry about in terms of their reaction. I'm just...uncomfortable with it. Sigh.

lalala2004 · September 2015

I wanted to wait until I had an US picture, so I told them just this past week at 9 weeks.

missnc77 · September 2015

We told my brother first because I got my BFP the day before we left to go visit him, and he knows I love cocktails and wine. For me to not have a margarita while visiting him in Texas, or not enjoying whiskey drinks at his favorite BBQ joint, he would have known anyway. He then convinced me that I needed to tell my mom, who literally started crying on the phone and saying, "IS IT TRUE?!" like I just told her she won a million bucks. I wanted to wait until our first appointment to tell my dad, but it didn't go very well, and I told him immediately. After that scare, I actually realize I am one of those people that need my family to be cheerleaders, so I have no regrets telling my immediate family within the first 4 weeks. If things go sideways, I'll need their support to get through it. Husband is waiting until his mom visits us next weekend, then he'll tell her, his sister, and his dad.

katykatykaty · September 2015

This is number 3 for us, so I'm not anxious to tell people. Unfortunately we made the mistake of telling our almost 4 year old, who keeps telling random people that mommy has a baby in her tummy. I'm hoping we can keep her away from family and friends for another 5 weeks or so. I'm sure that's totally doable.

finnybooboo · September 2015

I've been going back and forth on it. We have our first US this week, so hopefully that goes well. Our plan was to wait until my DD birthday party on Oct 24th and have her open a gift that has a big sis shirt in it, but then I started thinking about all my family members that might go right on FB and post pics, etc. We might just have to make an announcement immediately after to not post anything on FB until we do. Biggest concern is we weren't planning on telling our employers until 12 weeks or so and I'm friends with my boss and other coworkers.

I have told some really random people though - like my neighbor, and one coworker who I know won't say anything. It's so hard to keep it under wraps!

okcountrygirl · September 2015

Oh Kwilson I know what you mean! We are also the only ones in our Sunday school that don't have kids! I swear everyone stares at us on Sunday when asked if anyone has any announcements! Our class is very prolific! Lol. We don't plan on telling them until after the appointment.

angelrx4 · September 2015

With DD we told my IL's the day we found out. My parents we waited until until after my first appointment. Last September I had a MMC at 7 weeks. We had already told my IL's. My MIL had already told most of the family. It was difficult for her to relay the MMC to everyone. This time, my MIL caught on pretty early when I declined wine and coffee a few times. My parents will find out after my first appointment next week.

okcountrygirl · September 2015

Also I have 3 co-workers and counting who know. Not by choice, it's just that I'm an OR xray tech so as soon as I found out, I had to start wearing 2 lead aprons and that's hard to hide....

saltedcaramel518 · September 2015

We're going to tell both sets of parents next weekend. I'll be 7.5 weeks. Both of our families live out of town, so we're going to beg our parents not to say anything until we announce it to everyone. It will probably be at Thanksgiving since that's the next time we'll be around our whole families. And yes, I realize I'm probably living in a dream world where our overly excited parents can keep this secret for so long.. Here's to hoping!

kbrands7 · September 2015

With this one and with DS we told my parents between 5 and 6 weeks. I like having their support and being able to talk with my mom about things-- plus, my mom knows me so well that each time, she has guessed it before we even told her. (Though she's always polite enough to not ask if I'm pregnant point blank.) After telling my parents, we have told our siblings, grandparents, and DH's dad over the past few weeks. We told a few super close friends this time too; last time we waited to tell close friends until right before we announced to everyone else. Ultimately, you need to do whatever you feel comfortable doing.

girlaskew · September 2015

My MIL would love to know right away, but she wil tell the whole family and there's so much drama there. We are gonna wait. Maybe until Christmas. Won't go FB public at all.

jbparker625 · September 2015

I called my mom right after my husband. I couldn't wait! It's too big to keep to myself

Bookhousegirl · September 2015

I told our immediate family (mine and my husbands) right after we found out. I'm extremely close with my mom and there's no way I could keep it from her. Now I'm really glad I did because I had a scary ultrasound yesterday and it's been really helpful to be able to talk to my mom and sister in law about it.

elsa1688 · September 2015

We told our immediate family (parents and siblings) at 5 weeks.

katie1782 · September 2015

We are definitely going to wait a while. I'm not confident in either my mom's or MIL's ability to keep a secret. Ideally if I'm not showing I would love to tell them at Christmas (almost 19 weeks). I don't have my ultrasound until 20 weeks so we won't have an ultrasound picture but I would like to do something cute. It is really fun right now with only DH and I knowing :-). Then we can tell everyone else including coworkers after the holidays. I guess time will tell how long we can keep it a secret though. At the very least I would like to wait until Thanksgiving when we can see everyone in person (14 weeks).

somethingbluetoo · September 2015

I told my mom this time at 5 weeks. In the past she made the tiniest hint along the lines of "why didn't you tell me sooner!?" After having two girls I know I would appreciate it a ton and it would make it special to hear if they were pregnant right away. I have six siblings and I've told a couple and one guessed but I also have a bunch who can't keep a secret or it can wait until we give them the news. That's just on my side of the family...my husbands family can wait to hear the news when I have this baby in my arms for a few months :P

Pregghers · September 2015

I'm going to try to wait for as long as possible before I tell my parents. I'm debating if I can make it through 2015 before having to tell.

chottomotto · September 2015

I'm never telling. My mother passed away just after my first child was born. My father is an ass and we have no relationship, so he'll probably find out from my uncle, who will find out from Facebook pictures at around months 5 or 6.

KLG8806 · September 2015

We told our parents this past weekend. I hand made mugs that said "Only the best moms get promoted to grandmas" ... and then for my SIL/BIL and their spouses I made Aunt and Uncle mugs.

We ended up telling a decent amount of our close friends this weekend as well because we were at a wedding on thursday and apparently it was VERY noticeable that I wasn't drinking... and that my boobs were huge. So that raised to questions and we just decided to come out with it.

We're going to make it FB public around Halloween... but most of the IMPORTANT people know.

I'm currently 8w1d today. We had a sono on friday and I was measuring 7w4d and the baby had a heartrate of 158!

seasalt123 · September 2015

vinerie said:

I think I may be alone in this, but I'm not eager to tell. And I have no good reason for that feeling. I'm close with my parents; we talk on the phone/face time ~ 3 x per week (we live in different parts of the country). There is no bad blood or anything. But I feel weird about telling them. I'm generally a private person in terms of my personal life, so maybe that's why? I want to share it with them, but I'm not relishing the moment in which I have to tell them. Which is why I haven't. I suppose I'm trying to figure out a way to enjoy the moment that I share the news. They will be overjoyed, of course, so there is nothing to worry about in terms of their reaction. I'm just...uncomfortable with it. Sigh.

Me too @vinerie. My parents are older (they had me later in life) and my mom, in particular, wants nothing more than daughters who have babies and who want to discuss childrearing etc. I'm not really a maternal, girly person and have always been work/travel focused. There's a part of me that's not looking forward to the many suggestions 'Why are you doing crossfit??? You need to eat more, I made you extra food. Should you really be working that much?' I just want to continue being me until the baby arrives without fussing or interference from anyone else. If it were up to me, I would send my dad an email about it and he could spread the word.

dshannah · October 2015

TW for late term loss

Told my mom at 4 weeks, 3 days (a few days after I found out) because I wanted to talk pregnancy stuff with her. And I know if something went wrong I'd want to tell her about it: she's been through everything, pregnancy-wise, including a stillbirth, and she's my go-to confidante on most things.

Told husband's parents three weeks later, because my husband didn't like that my folks knew and his didn't. We waited, though, for a good time to tell them (I.e. Not during his sister's wedding!).

No one else except random friends who want to know why I'm sleepy all the time!

sillyfox · October 2015

Waiting for the first ultrasound. So far DH told one friend and I told my sister (I'm in her wedding in January) but we're waiting to tell our huge family the news. He's tempted to spill the beans this weekend though, we have my dad & stepmom and his mom coming in town this weekend and US is Monday! Damn timing...

blockedrose · October 2015

Im planning on waiting til the 12 week mark, so around Halloween. Wanting to be sure that this one wants to stick around first.

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