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Holidays

asanchez88asanchez88 member
in August 2015 Moms
I am beginning to discuss with my husband holidays. I want to start a new tradition. family and friends will be invited to our home for a thanksgiving feast! We both have separated patents and with our newborn, it will be too difficult to drive her from house to house. People can come and go as they please. The biggest problem I run into is both of our moms will stay from the time that we start to when we finish. So this will make our dads not want to come at all. Any suggestions? is this a good idea? I'm not worried so much about our parents seeing each other however I am worried because I would like people to come despite their own issues. I guess an RSVP on the invite will help me guesstimate for the food....
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Re: Holidays

  • phawkes9phawkes9 member
    I have a similar issue with my family. To be honest, I had to stop caring about them and focus on my little unit. So I open it up to all and whoever shows up will show up and those who don't, well that is on them. Let them decide what is best for them and be okay with that. Not sure if that is the "right" answer, but it seems to be working for us.
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  • asanchez88asanchez88 member
    Thanks, just looking for good advice. And telling your story is helpful, I appreciate it!♡ honestly, it just seems like the only people that show up for anything is our moms and we'd like for more of our family to be involved. Anyway, we'll see how it turns out this year. Thanks again!
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  • pabeybabypabeybaby member
    Things can go differently from year to year as well. Like PP said, just focus on your own family, and try not to worry about the others. It's their loss if they don't come.
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  • SaratiffSaratiff member
    phawkes9 said:

    I have a similar issue with my family. To be honest, I had to stop caring about them and focus on my little unit. So I open it up to all and whoever shows up will show up and those who don't, well that is on them. Let them decide what is best for them and be okay with that. Not sure if that is the "right" answer, but it seems to be working for us.

    This exactly. We are doing this because all my holidays got split from when I could drive and I am sick and tired of splitting my holidays and j don't want my daughter to go through that either. tough noogies to anyone who doesn't show because they don't want to see their ex. Not my problem.
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  • ALFreeman88ALFreeman88 member
    My grandparents are split and refused to be on the same house after there divorce. Everyone used to cater to them and one year my mom just stopped and said you'll either show up or you won't but I'm done playing these games. Ever since then they are both always usually there for the holidays and most years seem to get along somewhat.
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