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Sex...34 weeks pregnant

Knottie12672852Knottie12672852 member
in November 2015 Moms
im sorry if there is already a topic like this! I couldn't find one. Having sex sucks and I hate it. I am perfectly fine moving and I'm not uncomfortable at all. It sucks on the inside BC he is laying as low as possible constantly tugging on my bladder so not only do I need to stop and pee every 5 min, certain positions make it painful like my bladder is on fire. can anyone else relate?
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Re: Sex...34 weeks pregnant

  • ashleywuliashleywuli member
    Ugh yes! I just tell my husband it's not happening. This is our third pregnancy, so he sort of expects it at some point. Honestly, don't do anything that hurts you or makes you uncomfortable. There are other ways to be intimate with your husband if you're up for that. Best advice i can give, is be open, honest and upfront with your husband about what you're feeling.
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  • dramaphiledramaphile member
    SJFTCA said:

    Ummmmm, it's kind of embarrassing to admit, but we haven't had sex since about halfway through the pregnancy. We tried last weekend, and it was nearly comical. None of the positions worked out too well and it physically hurt me down there. We've discussed it, and I'm just not comfortable with my body and now it's too difficult (we should have tried more before I got so big and uncomfortable), and he is just a bit freaked out by the baby being in there, so we're kind of on the same page. It sucks, but we've assured each other that our love is still there and we will just have to adjust to our new normal after baby. Just try to keep communication open.

    I'm with you, we've had a dry spell since we tried a couple of months back and between him being weirded out and me being uncomfortable, we just sort of gave up. Actually just had a conversation with DH about it, and he's feeling like he might want to try again, so we might. I'm not entirely against it, i'm just so tired most of the time that unless he initiates, I'm not going to ask for it. We'll see how the actual act goes! In the meantime, we're trying to do a lot of cuddling and hold on hands to get in our physical affection.
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  • shellperryshellperry member
    Cens 30ish weeks I've just kept it to no penetration just do oral when he's in the mood. It's more comfortable to me
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  • Shearz125Shearz125 member
    Yes! So uncomfortable... Ditto on the bladder thing. We tried once more last night but since about 30 weeks I've been having what seems to be big braxton hicks contractions immediately afterward.. At least I think that's what they are?? Anyway it's way too scary so I've told DH we have to stop. Anyone else get weird contractions after sex?
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  • bossmommabossmomma member
    Got sexy asked dh to climb the mountain, he laughed I laughed/cried and he's say baby it just don't work right now and you always laugh at me when we try....having sex after a certain point is like trying to shave your lady bits...should be approached with caution...lol
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  • rachswirachswi member
    DH is getting his workout in since the only truly comfy position is propped up by a bunch of pillows while he does the work. But he's willing to do it and I don't have to exhaust myself so it all works out. But we didn't hit a dry spell so he's been able to build up his strength as I have to progressively sit up more and he is able to put less weight on me.

    For his sake I'm hoping to be able to have sex as long as possible pre baby since idk how long recovery will take
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  • lraubaughlraubaugh member
    Ever since they told me at the hospital that her head is engaged in my pelvis already, he wants no parts of sex haha
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  • Unica1302+Unica1302+ member
    I'm almost 32 weeks and no sex in about 6 weeks. Sigh, the sad thing is in the past 4 weeks my sexual interest has increased but no position works for me. And frankly the orgasms are not very good for me. I've been compensating him but he misses and I do too. Lots of sex dreams lately tho which is making it harder.
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  • ASalton1ASalton1 member
    Ever since I spotted a little after sex at 25 weeks, my fiancé hasn't wanted to have sex because he is afraid he will hurt the baby or hurt me. But we've found other ways to "play" so we can remain intimate for the rest of this pregnancy. So far, so good.
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  • MercyC1130MercyC1130 member
    For the ladies who are in a dry spell, how's that making you feel? Some of you already kinda talked about that but I dunno.. I definitely don't want it as much as I used to but I want something. Lol. I just feel so unattractive and SO is not at all about touching me. Like even just rubbing my back or my belly. It bums me out. He assures me he still loves me and is attracted to me, but words man! They just words to me sometimes. Guess I gotta get used to him being weirded out by my body, but holy hell I'm not looking forward to another 4 months of nothing.
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  • shortiebsshortiebs member
    Just tried and the sensation to pee overpowered the pleasure. I was so disappointed. Its been a week or so. Quickies arent bad but im used to getting mine as well and its not pleasurable lately
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  • Laura&brad1Laura&brad1 member
    I started bleeding a lot after having sex and had braxton hicks for 3 days straight so we are to scared to try again I think because we had only done it maybe 3 times the whole pregnancy my body was like et the hell is this haha so we just do other stuff instead we both still enjoy it so not entirely missing out
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  • HopefulMNMomHopefulMNMom member
    I am about 34 weeks and we last had sex at 32 weeks. We were having sex pretty regularly up to that point but it has become pretty apparent that there's a real human between us now. He was kicking the whole time and my husband is nervous about hurting the baby. Nothing is comfortable to me and I worry too. I would like to try maybe a couple more times because I miss it but I think we're pretty much done for now.
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  • rachswirachswi member
    shortiebs said:

    Just tried and the sensation to pee overpowered the pleasure. I was so disappointed. Its been a week or so. Quickies arent bad but im used to getting mine as well and its not pleasurable lately

    Most of the time the actual sex is just a quickie since I am usually too tired to handle much more, but DH has gotten into the foreplay more so that I'm often getting mine before the sex even starts. Maybe that could work for you?
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  • semulcahysemulcahy member
    My midwife told me that your uterus has always contracted after having sex, but you just notice it more now! She said unless they're painful, or continue, they're nothing to worry about.
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  • wimamaof2wimamaof2 member
    rubirubi89 said:

    Team I plan on having sex all the way to the delivery room. :-bd

    Same with us!
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  • themildonethemildone member
    Haha I've been on bed rest since 28 weeks, so I'm not allowed to have sex...I totally do not mind. There's no way we'd be able to find a comfortable position! 
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  • MaeMae91MaeMae91 member
    MercyC1130 said:

    For the ladies who are in a dry spell, how's that making you feel? Some of you already kinda talked about that but I dunno.. I definitely don't want it as much as I used to but I want something. Lol. I just feel so unattractive and SO is not at all about touching me. Like even just rubbing my back or my belly. It bums me out. He assures me he still loves me and is attracted to me, but words man! They just words to me sometimes. Guess I gotta get used to him being weirded out by my body, but holy hell I'm not looking forward to another 4 months of nothing.

    Apparently my husband and I have a "sex is for procreation" thing going, we haven't had sex since my fertile window closed in February when I got pregnant. It was hard for a while because before we got married we used to be intimate in all kind of ways (I hadn't had actual sex before and wanted to keep it that way, so we got creative, lol) and after our wedding night, he just didn't want to anymore.

    I had to work through it and realize that sometimes libido takes a hit and there were other ways he was showing he loves me. Now, he doesn't like touching my stomach because he felt the baby move, his first time ever feeling a baby move, and it freaked him out, haha.

    We just take care of our own urges individually, if you know what I mean, and we just play and do other non-sexual things together. Probably once you don't have a baby in you, you guys will pick back up, but maybe try that until then?
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  • kwaldykwaldy member
    Sex? LOL...
    DH and I rarely have sex these days. My sex drive is like... zero and having sex makes me feel uncomfortable and, while I've asked the doctor if the things my body does are normal (they are), they still make me feel self conscious. Poor DH...
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  • Unica1302+Unica1302+ member
    MercyC1130 said:

    For the ladies who are in a dry spell, how's that making you feel? Some of you already kinda talked about that but I dunno.. I definitely don't want it as much as I used to but I want something. Lol. I just feel so unattractive and SO is not at all about touching me. Like even just rubbing my back or my belly. It bums me out. He assures me he still loves me and is attracted to me, but words man! They just words to me sometimes. Guess I gotta get used to him being weirded out by my body, but holy hell I'm not looking forward to another 4 months of nothing.

    For the first two trimesters I felt kind of bad bc my sex drive went to zero and his hadnt changed. He was great about it and we did manage a few times but it wasnt as good for me as it had been pre- pregnancy. Third trimester brought my sex drive back but I'm having a lot of hip pain and still the sex isn't as good for me as before. So now I feel crappy for both of us, we are both sad cookies. I'm terrified things won't go back to how they used to be. Trying to keep busy with baby prep and finding other ways to satisfy each other but I've noticed he is getting a little itimidated baby the growing bump.
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  • tayzavtayzav member
    My sex drive is pretty low this last trimester but I still do it so I don't have to deal with the attitude that comes with SO not getting any. Sometimes it's uncomfortable and sometimes it's not, just depends, probably on my own mood. We usually have sex once every day, if not as least fool around. Although now that I think about it it's been a few days. The other day my SO tried to get it on twice in one day, boy did that start an argument. He doesn't leave me alone, and since I feel like a hippo the last thing I want is to be groped and grabbed on. Not to mention the only time I want it is in the mornings because I feel just awful at night. Between eating throughout the day and the heartburn I get at night I'd just rather not.
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  • flasflas member
    Sex is on and off for us. I have so much down low pressure that it makes everything uncomfortable. Plus between conflicting schedules and two other kids we find ourselves often tired or busy. He never pressures me and never brings it up. Luckily my DH loves my body ( even though I'm feeling nasty) so he's cool with it whenever I am.
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  • athomas8369athomas8369 member
    Yep we have found many comfortable positions. We go for it and plan on continuing until baby is ready to come.
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  • wave1riwave1ri member
    Omg !! Best sex ever!! Can't get enough of it!! We have sex almost every day!!! It helps when your man is very loving and helpful!! Big "O" .. So goooooood!!!
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  • katiedhunterkatiedhunter member
    flas said:

    Sex is on and off for us. I have so much down low pressure that it makes everything uncomfortable. Plus between conflicting schedules and two other kids we find ourselves often tired or busy. He never pressures me and never brings it up. Luckily my DH loves my body ( even though I'm feeling nasty) so he's cool with it whenever I am.

    This is very much like DH and I. It's on and off but he would never pressure me into anything. With our 2nd DS we had sex the day my water broke. Come closer to due date we will be doing it every day!! Lol
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  • lynsewlynsew member
    edited September 2015
    OMG... Can't get enough of it! I'm constantly trying to get him in bed! We plan in keeping it up as long as possible
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  • maikafearmaikafear member
    Since I started showing my partner wants nothing to do with me sexually. He says he's just tired from working so much but it's obvious he's just not into me like that while I'm full of baby. It's really depressing and frustrating but I'm nearly at the end now so hopefully it goes back to how it used to be.
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  • knolliepollieknolliepollie member
    DH and I have had sex so much more than usual this pregnancy. Well, except for the first trimester because I felt so terrible. During the second, you couldn't stop me. I needed him daily! The third has its moments but we still have sex about 5 times a week. I'm a little nervous going so long after delivery. We've been together 8.5 years, married 3 and never have gone that long. Even on his college field trips (he was a geology major) I think the longest was 4 weeks. Granted, I feel my needs have changed now and when he travels for over a week the first thing I do is get him in bed when he's home lol. I suppose we will get through it. Everyone does, I think!

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  • taykerslaketaykerslake member
    Up until two months ago our sex life was pretty normal.. And then all of a sudden it was non existent. I was feeling bad about my body because of it and finally one day I just initiated and went for it. We had a talk afterwards and it's been back to normal since. Love love love that we are having sex regularly again!!
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  • BowWowBowieBowWowBowie member
    It's been off and on, mostly off just because he picks the absolute worst times to try. 
    It's not for a lack of trying, just me having and uncooperative body. I feel for him. 
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  • lrjac12lrjac12 member
    Actually we just had a talk about this last night. My pregnancy has definitely brought up some body issues for me so I constantly think I'm fat or unattractive. SO hasn't wanted to touch me in what feels like forever, so that was definitely adding to me feeling self conscious. He never wanted to talk about it and would get super defensive every time I brought the subject up. Finally last night I was able to sit him down and he admitted that he feels uncomfortable with my belly because he knows the baby is in there and her head is really low. He says he doesn't want to squish her or hurt us lol wth! I told him she's fine but I guess I understand. At least he finally told me what's been up with him and he said he still thinks I'm beautiful and sexy which is what I was worried about.
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