As all the PP's have stated, it is personal preference. I also think it depends on what kind of friends and family you have. I am currently 12+3, and only my closest friends and parents know, with the understanding that it won't be made public (FB announced) until later. I did allow my parents to announce it to their siblings, as most of them are not on FB, and they know how to respect privacy. My boss/work had to know extremely early (around 6 weeks) because the nature of my job is very rigorous and a lot of the gear we have to wear could affect fetal development. I wasn't allowed to go with them to a national training exercise, so the sooner they knew for planning purposes, the better.
I will announce on FB around week 20, and only once I find out the gender. I want to be able to post holiday pictures with my family/friends and not be bombarded with questions because I didn't announce I was pregnant first.
We were planning to wait until the second trimester but after we told our parents, my mother in law started telling EVERYONE that she knows. We recently went to an event that a lot of family friends were attending and everyone was coming up and telling us congrats. Talk about frustrating. With that being said, we are now almost 11 years and plan to announce soon....mostly because everyone already knows.
OMG this is exactly why my MIL doesn't know yet, she's terrible with keeping secrets! We have told my parents and a handful of friends. I'll tell more people around 12 or 13 weeks (I'm almost 11 weeks now)
We told my parents at 4 weeks (a few days after my BFP) and his parents the next weekend at 5 weeks. We announced To the rest of our families at 10 weeks, also to FB. I wanted to wait a few more weeks, but it was getting too hard to hide it at work with the terrible morning sickness. I already had an ultrasound and we got to see baby and hear its heartbeat. If we hadn't had the ultrasound yet, I would have waited to publicly announce until we saw it.
Only a few people know right now(mother, brother, ex-husband, and a couple of friends). We intend to announce the pregnancy on 11/14/15 (beginning of 2nd trimester).
We've told our immediate family, and some close friends. Some people at work know as well, but all these people I wouldn't mind having to share bad news with. I'm currently 9w1d.
We told SO'S family right after bfp at around 4 weeks and my parents around 6 weeks. We had our first ultrasound at 5w5d and just had another at 10w3d and made the announcement on fb. We did wait to tell the niece and nephew till we saw the baby and a strong heart beat.
Personally I've been so sick that I don't want to have to hide it and if we do suffer a loss I want to have support. I feel like there is such a stigma to not share how miserable you are or to suffer a loss in silence that I'd rather have support in both cases.
I've had two early MCs in the last year and a half, and looking back one of the things I regret about not telling more people about those lost pregnancies was having to act like nothing had happened. Those babies were real, their loss was a big deal, and I needed them to be acknowledged and mourned. Granted, it would have been tedious if EVERYONE knew... But I wish I had told more of the people who were close to me because they would have been very supportive. This time we told my mom right away, a couple of my close friends within a few weeks, and then our two teens after the 8 week ultrasound. We haven't told my 4yo stepson yet, and we're still on the fence as to when and how to tell more people, because of my age (41) and because of the continued risk of miscarriage. But since there are no guarantees, I've decided this time I want to just enjoy and celebrate the pregnancy as much as possible! So we'll probably tell more people after we get the results from the 10 week genetic test results.
I've had friends who announced as soon as they found out and their reasoning is in case something happens they can get support from their friends and family. MH is uncomfortable with anyone knowing right now other than close immediate family like our parents and siblings. We will probably come out after we're out of the first trimester.
We have started telling a few people. We told ONLY our parents at first. I had an ultrasound at 9 weeks and saw the heartbeat; after that, Ihave been telling close friends as I see them with the understanding that we're not announcing yet to the world at large. I have my NTL scan on Oct 8th, and after that if everything looks good I will go ahead and tell work and other friends.
Amanda
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I told one of my coworkers at 5 weeks and my mom at 7 weeks (though it turned out that she'd known BEFORE we did!). I know that seems backwards, however due to the nature of our job (we teach in a severe/profound/multi categorical classroom and lifting/transferring middle schoolers on a daily basis) it was definitely best that my coworker know early! We are waiting to tell other family and close friends until after my next appointment at 13 weeks (10/9!) I would love to tell DH's parents sooner, but he doesn't think his mom will be able to keep it a secret from extended family. We won't be announcing on social media at all with this pregnancy. I'm loving the secret!
We told our parents and siblings at 7 weeks, after we had our first appointment and an ultrasound. Now I'm 12 weeks, we've both told our bosses and ive told a couple of the people i work with. We dont plan to tell any extended family until around christmas time because everyone lives so far away, my extended family is in the middle of a nasty fight right now, and DH wants to announce to his grandma when we visit for christmas.
I had a MC at 11 weeks last march, we had only told my parents and sister. We were 5 days away from traveling to visit DH's family to announce our pregnancy. It was so hard to call them up and say we wouldnt be coming because we just lost the baby we were going to announce during the visit. Based on this we decided to tell our families earlier this time. We at least want our family to know this baby exists before something could go wrong and we would need their support. (Everything is looking great so far this time!)
I am a little more cautious about telling all my friends and coworkers really early, i'm mainly only telling the ones that i felt comfortable talking to shortly after my MC. Though i plan to tell the rest of my coworkers in the next week or two.
I'm 9w4d and only a few close friends and a few coworkers know. The friends figured it out at a party, and I had to leave work a couple of times due to nausea so I had to tell a few people. Word spreads quickly in my family and they love to post on Facebook so we wanted to wait a little while before we told them. We are getting my parents, my husband's dad, step-mom and step-sister and his grandparents together next weekend. I'll be 10w6d when we tell them. We are hoping to keep it away from social media for a couple more weeks after that.
I'll be 12 weeks on Saturday and we've only told our immediate families so far. My in-laws want to know when it's going on Facebook and it's getting to be annoying, lol. My MIL is even starting to share pictures on Facebook with quotes about being a grandmother. I'm actually surprised she hasn't spilled the beans herself because that's the type of person she is.
Anyway, even though we've had our first ultrasound and everything is progressing exactly the way it should be, we still want to wait until I'm out of the "danger zone" before it goes public.
I really wanted to wait until our first u/s which is booked at 12+4 weeks (this is usual for a low risk pregnancy in Aus) but people around me started to guess and I don't even think I showing many symptoms. The girls I play soccer with pretty much turned around and said we all know you are pregnant after I left out grand final celebration bbq early. I think people at work have guessed. I did change the date of my wedding so I guess that was the major give away but everyone has been happy for us so that's nice. Just hope all is well on the u/s
I'll be 12 weeks on Saturday and we've only told our immediate families so far. My in-laws want to know when it's going on Facebook and it's getting to be annoying, lol. My MIL is even starting to share pictures on Facebook with quotes about being a grandmother. I'm actually surprised she hasn't spilled the beans herself because that's the type of person she is.
Anyway, even though we've had our first ultrasound and everything is progressing exactly the way it should be, we still want to wait until I'm out of the "danger zone" before it goes public.
Oh hell no. I would be so pissed. My mom posted a "Prayer Request" that was not as vague as she "intended"...I was pissed and had her take it down immediately. I let her post it in our extended family group on FB but only because some had already commented.
I'll be 11 wks this weekend and so far I've told a couple of my coworkers and my son's sitter as they all see me first thing in the morning and there was no use hiding it from them This time I told my mom after my first doctor's appointment. With my son we waited until the second appointment, but that was mostly because she is not good at keeping a secret. She proved herself by keeping it a secret for a month even with three of her friends announcing they were going to be grandparents in the meantime, so we let her in on it earlier this time. I've been a little looser with the news this time around.
I'll be 12 weeks on Saturday and we've only told our immediate families so far. My in-laws want to know when it's going on Facebook and it's getting to be annoying, lol. My MIL is even starting to share pictures on Facebook with quotes about being a grandmother. I'm actually surprised she hasn't spilled the beans herself because that's the type of person she is.
Anyway, even though we've had our first ultrasound and everything is progressing exactly the way it should be, we still want to wait until I'm out of the "danger zone" before it goes public.
Oh hell no. I would be so pissed. My mom posted a "Prayer Request" that was not as vague as she "intended"...I was pissed and had her take it down immediately. I let her post it in our extended family group on FB but only because some had already commented.
Yeah, she is selfish and really lacks the ability to comprehend anyone else's feelings or opinions. I understand everyone is excited but it's really not up to them. We're the ones carrying the babies after all!
The other day my MIL texted me, "When can we share the latest (our last name) news?"
Um.... it's my news to share. So never. I will tell people. Thanks. I love my MIL and she is an amazing grandmother, but it's always hard dealing with someone else's parents!
Amanda
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Re: Have you told??
As all the PP's have stated, it is personal preference. I also think it depends on what kind of friends and family you have. I am currently 12+3, and only my closest friends and parents know, with the understanding that it won't be made public (FB announced) until later. I did allow my parents to announce it to their siblings, as most of them are not on FB, and they know how to respect privacy. My boss/work had to know extremely early (around 6 weeks) because the nature of my job is very rigorous and a lot of the gear we have to wear could affect fetal development. I wasn't allowed to go with them to a national training exercise, so the sooner they knew for planning purposes, the better.
I will announce on FB around week 20, and only once I find out the gender. I want to be able to post holiday pictures with my family/friends and not be bombarded with questions because I didn't announce I was pregnant first.
Personally I've been so sick that I don't want to have to hide it and if we do suffer a loss I want to have support. I feel like there is such a stigma to not share how miserable you are or to suffer a loss in silence that I'd rather have support in both cases.
It's a boy! Grow baby, grow! EDD: 4/22/2016
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Rhys - born 04.17.2013
Harry - born 04.18.2016
I had a MC at 11 weeks last march, we had only told my parents and sister. We were 5 days away from traveling to visit DH's family to announce our pregnancy. It was so hard to call them up and say we wouldnt be coming because we just lost the baby we were going to announce during the visit. Based on this we decided to tell our families earlier this time. We at least want our family to know this baby exists before something could go wrong and we would need their support. (Everything is looking great so far this time!)
I am a little more cautious about telling all my friends and coworkers really early, i'm mainly only telling the ones that i felt comfortable talking to shortly after my MC. Though i plan to tell the rest of my coworkers in the next week or two.
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Nov siggy challenge: animals eating Thanksgiving food
Rhys - born 04.17.2013
Harry - born 04.18.2016