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Another bump at work

jennOKjennOK member
in TTC after 35
A coworker told some of the teachers today that she's expecting. Yay for her. Although exact quote, "we didn't want anymore. I tried to ignore it as long as possible. (Talking about being pregnant).

Meanwhile I have every PMS symptom there is, and I'm pretty sure AF will be here any time. Somebody talk me down from this bag of cookies in my lap.
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  • Sporty1216Sporty1216 member
    Ack! Terrible thing to say--even if no one in the room was wanting desperately to be pregnant. I mean, if you really didn't want anymore, there are ways to pretty certainly prevent that. And if you do end up pregnant unexpectedly, maybe find some joy about the new life you are bringing into the world once you get over the shock. The worst.

    I'm not good at talking people down from eating cookies. I would eat them all.
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  • dolphin012dolphin012 member
    @jennOK I am so sorry you had to hear that today. That would upset me even if i wasn't ttc or even interested in having kids, let alone while ttc. A very insensitive thing to say all around. 

    I am also not a good person to go to for cookie restraint. I think you deserve the entire bag after enduring that today. 


    Me (42) w/ partner for 16+ years
    TTC #1: 11/2012 - 9/2013; 6/2014 - present
    Follistim + TI (3x): All BFNs
    Follistim + IUI (1x): BFN 
    IVF #1: 17 retrieved,15 fertilized, Day 3: 15, Day 5/6: 3 biopsied
    Result; 1 frozen blast (inconclusive PGS results)
    IVF #2; ER: 6/22 16 retrieved, 6/25: 5 transferred (CP), 2 frozen
    FET 9/17: BFN
    Current FET -- Transferred 2 day-3 embryos - BFN

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  • carrieandrcarrieandr member
    Ha -- @sporty1216 and @dolphin012 read my mind.  I was going to say that's an awful thing to say to anyone about your future child...and eat the cookies!  Now I want cookies.
    TTC#1 since Jan 2015
    BFP 2/19/15  •  MMC found at 9 wks  •  D&E at 11 wks (age 36)
    BFP 8/29/15      •  CP (age 37)
    BFP 11/18/15  •  DD born at 41 weeks <3(age 37/38)

    TTC#2 since May 2017
    BFP 10/18/17  •  MMC found at 8 wks  •  Misoprostal at 10.5 wks (age 39)
    BFP 2/16/18      •  CP (age 39)
    BFP 4/13/18      •  CP (age 39)
    BFP 5/07/18  •  MMC found at 10.5 wks  •  D&E at 11.5 wks      •  Testing showed it was a girl with Trisomy 22. (age 39/40)
    9/5/18 Diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve (4-5 follicles, one ovary had none and was very atrophied)
    RE says the low egg count is likely causing my recurrent pregnancy loss. Less eggs results in more aneuploidy.
    BFP 9/24/18  •      CP (age 40)
    BFP 5/11/19  •  Fraternal twins  •  MMC found at 10w5d (Baby A 6w, Baby B 10w)  •  Misoprostal at 11 weeks (age 41)













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  • jilligan14jilligan14 member
    OMG. What's wrong with people!?!?!

    I hope you ate the cookies. I might eat some cookies too, just for the cause and all...
    ME: 36 (PCOS), DH: excellent SA
    NTNP since 11/12, actively trying since 8/14
    m/c @ 7w (4/22/14), m/c @ 6w (11/19/14)
    11/15: Letrozole, Ovidrel, TI = BFP!!!
    Beta #1(14dpo)=349, Beta #2(18dpo)=2,805
    12/17/15: Got to see the heartbeat (105bpm)!
    1/25/16: NT scan = normal (HB=163bpm)
    EDD: 8/10/16 
    8/8/16: Baby boy born @ 12:25am, 8lbs, 20.5 inches
    5/18/17: BFP!!! (11dpo)
    Beta #1(12dpo)=176.4, Beta #2(15dpo)=607.1
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  • jennOKjennOK member
    edited September 2015
    I won't even get into what she said about having kids after 30. I left on that note. Lol

    Edit for stupid auto correct.
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  • thistle8677thistle8677 member
    @jennOK I'm sorry. Wtf is wrong with people?! :(
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  • emsmama15emsmama15 member
    I think it's especially cool to hear that from a 20-something mama.  I feel like most mama's in their 20s look at me like I'm crazy to be trying now!!  Two of my good friends had babies in their 20s and about a year ago, we were at dinner and they went on and on about how they couldn't imagine having a baby now and thank god that was behind them, etc. etc.  It really hurt my feelings.  I should have said something, but I didn't.  Clearly it bugged me that I'm STILL talking about it...  I just think that's really awesome that one of them supported you that way!!
    *** Child & current pregnancy mentioned ***
    Me - 41 (PCOS), Hubby - 43 (healthy)
    7/2013 - Sweet baby girl born (Clomid + TI)
    3/2014 - TTC #2, return to RE 7/2014
    12/2015: IVF #1 transferred two great looking embryos - BFP!
    First ultrasound: TWO beautiful little heartbeats!!
    Harmony: negative; level 2: babies look great and are boy/girl! :) 
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  • Sporty1216Sporty1216 member
    I'm sorry your friend said that, @emsmama15 It's hard to understand how or why people think that kind of comment is helpful in any way. I can't really imagine having had a baby at 22, but I don't tell my friends who did that I think they're crazy! Anyway. Things like this definitely help me try to focus more on remembering to be kind and empathetic and to remember that people have a lot going on that I don't know about when I am interacting with them, whether they are a friend, family member, barista at Starbucks, or Internet friend. :)
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  • thistle8677thistle8677 member
    @emsmama15 >:D<
    I've heard several times even AFTER 3 consecutive losses "Are you sure you even want another kid?"
    This will be my fiancés first child, it's so rude to have anything to say about something so personal.
    I'm sorry.
    @Sporty1216 I love that! That's how it should be! ;)
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  • C_GirlieC_Girlie member
    Bad enough your going to have to see her for pretty much her whole pregnancy. But the extra comments are the ultimate throat punches ((((hugs))))) to you :(
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