Another bump at work

jennOK

A coworker told some of the teachers today that she's expecting. Yay for her. Although exact quote, "we didn't want anymore. I tried to ignore it as long as possible. (Talking about being pregnant).

Meanwhile I have every PMS symptom there is, and I'm pretty sure AF will be here any time. Somebody talk me down from this bag of cookies in my lap.

Sporty1216

Ack! Terrible thing to say--even if no one in the room was wanting desperately to be pregnant. I mean, if you really didn't want anymore, there are ways to pretty certainly prevent that. And if you do end up pregnant unexpectedly, maybe find some joy about the new life you are bringing into the world once you get over the shock. The worst.

I'm not good at talking people down from eating cookies. I would eat them all.

dolphin012

@jennOK I am so sorry you had to hear that today. That would upset me even if i wasn't ttc or even interested in having kids, let alone while ttc. A very insensitive thing to say all around. 

I am also not a good person to go to for cookie restraint. I think you deserve the entire bag after enduring that today. 

carrieandr

Ha -- @sporty1216 and @dolphin012 read my mind.  I was going to say that's an awful thing to say to anyone about your future child...and eat the cookies!  Now I want cookies.

jilligan14

OMG. What's wrong with people!?!?!

I hope you ate the cookies. I might eat some cookies too, just for the cause and all...

jennOK

I won't even get into what she said about having kids after 30. I left on that note. Lol

Edit for stupid auto correct.

thistle8677

@jennOK I'm sorry. Wtf is wrong with people?!

Sporty1216

After 30?!?! S**t!

ETA asterisks because I can't remember bump rules about profanity and don't want to get kicked out. But seriously.

I will add that I went to the zoo with some moms I met at a babywearing group--they were maybe 22 and 29. I mentioned I was 40 and would love to have one more, but would probably not try for another after that due to age. The one gal was shocked and said "why not?!" And told me a story about her 42 year old friend who just had a kiddo. I appreciated her age-doesn't-matter attitude. It was a nice counter to all the "you'd better hurry it on up" narratives I feel I hear elsewhere, you know?

emsmama15

I think it's especially cool to hear that from a 20-something mama.  I feel like most mama's in their 20s look at me like I'm crazy to be trying now!!  Two of my good friends had babies in their 20s and about a year ago, we were at dinner and they went on and on about how they couldn't imagine having a baby now and thank god that was behind them, etc. etc.  It really hurt my feelings.  I should have said something, but I didn't.  Clearly it bugged me that I'm STILL talking about it...  I just think that's really awesome that one of them supported you that way!!

Sporty1216

I'm sorry your friend said that, @emsmama15 It's hard to understand how or why people think that kind of comment is helpful in any way. I can't really imagine having had a baby at 22, but I don't tell my friends who did that I think they're crazy! Anyway. Things like this definitely help me try to focus more on remembering to be kind and empathetic and to remember that people have a lot going on that I don't know about when I am interacting with them, whether they are a friend, family member, barista at Starbucks, or Internet friend.

thistle8677

@emsmama15 >:D<
I've heard several times even AFTER 3 consecutive losses "Are you sure you even want another kid?"
This will be my fiancés first child, it's so rude to have anything to say about something so personal.
I'm sorry.
@Sporty1216 I love that! That's how it should be!

C_Girlie

Bad enough your going to have to see her for pretty much her whole pregnancy. But the extra comments are the ultimate throat punches ((((hugs))))) to you