? For those whose husbands have been snipped or are getting snipped

Barker2+1 · September 2015

so DH made his appointment a few weeks back to get fixed. His appointment is at the end of October like 3 weeks ish from my due date. Well on Monday the dr mentioned I should be ready to go earlier because I am consistently measuring ahead and also since my blood pressure is high and baby is breach we may end up scheduling an earlier section. I feel she is jumping the gun on this and my reg dr agreed I go back next week. DH is now worried that he is still gonna be hurting if I go early and maybe he should try to reschedule for earlier. I think it is fine and want to roll the dice and if I go early well then it happens. From everything I have heard their surgery isn't so bad and he should be up and mobile with in 48 hours. Am I being insensitive? Was this your experience if your SO has already gone this route? Would you try to reschedule?

Updated: as words were evidently very hard for me this morning and hubby was getting sniped instead of snipped lol

thefithuntress · September 2015

Yikes. Can you fix your title to "snipped?" I don't want anyone's husbands to get sniped.

RaisingJulian · September 2015

thefithuntress said:
Yikes. Can you fix your title to "snipped?" I don't want anyone's husbands to get sniped.

Lmao I had the most horrible pictures in my head

scw89 · September 2015

What's the rush for him to get snipped before the baby is born? Could you schedule it after the birth, like once baby is a few months old and you're recovered? You aren't going to be able to have sex for at least 6 weeks anyways. This could help make it less stressful and rushed.

vrossolille · September 2015

I wanted my husband to get it done while I'm pregnant too. I won't touch him with a 10 foot pole until he does. Lol after 10 months of preggo sex I want to be ready to go as soon as we can!

Jessie42613 · September 2015

No matter how minor, it's still a procedure that your DH has to go through, and he should do it when he's comfortable and ready to do it.

grapesoda1111 · September 2015

sniped... Pew pew.

CarrieOct15 · September 2015

Tell your DH that you're either pushing a baby out or having major abdominal surgery, so he can stop being a wimp.

scw89 · September 2015

I wish I had advice for you on the snipping experience part. I honestly don't know how bad it is. Hopefully someone has an answer for you! I can't imagine he would be down for long since it is an outpatient procedure...

thegingeravenger · September 2015

One of my SO's best friends got it done. He said it obviously didn't feel great afterwards, but he felt mostly fine after a four day weekend. Maybe postpone until MLK weekend or sometime around there so that it isn't as stressful and so maybe LO will have a bit more of a routine?

Kern91 · September 2015

The first day is rough for them they just sit and ice their balls all day long. After that I heard it isn't so bad to move around and do things.

Personally, I wouldn't cut it so close to my due date if u do it before. You never know there could be a complication or he is tender a little longer than normal.

Also, someone mentioned about having sex right away don't forget you can still get pregnant even after or SO gets snipped but only the first couple of times because there is still live sperm sitting there. Just an FYI in case no one knew that. I have been researching this topic as a possibility for my DH after this pregnancy.

Good luck!

Ceridwen77 · September 2015

Glad I'm not the only one who opened this thoroughly confused and frightened about what I was about to read!

shellperry · September 2015

My had it done at 830 in the morning he was mowing the lawn by 3pm then again mine's not a huge baby when he's sick.

MargaretC5 · September 2015

If you may have to have a CS anyway have you thought about getting your tubes tied at the same time? If I end up with a CS that is what we are doing, if I have a vaginal birth DH is making his appointment to get snipped after. I figured if I need surgery anyway why make him go thru it too.

ashleywuli · September 2015

My husband just had it done. He is a HUGE baby and whined for about a week or two after. He was able to do anything he wanted he just said his balls were sore. Honesty, I think his "issues" really just had to do with the fact that he's a baby. I would call and see if you can get him in a week or two sooner than currently scheduled. This way, there is no possible way of a conflict.

nbpa3027 · September 2015

It's funny how things are so different regionally. Around me, doctors won't do the procedure while the wife/SO is still pregnant.

From the people I know who had it done, a long weekend was plenty of time to recover. The recovery also depends on how they perform the procedure. There are apparently two ways they do it and one is a bit more invasive. I don't know how early they are thinking you would go, but I would think that if it takes him more than a week to recover there is something else going on.

And to those that are thinking they will be ready to go right away--they told my husband that they go back for a sperm count after a couple of weeks and then at 6 months or a year and then if the count is zero you are clear to not use any protection. I actually know of 2 post vasectomy babies because they thought they were in the clear a few weeks later, but that wasn't the case.

apritch88 · September 2015

I know this is a totally morbid thought- but my hubby will be not be going under the knife until after baby has arrived.

What would we do if something happened at birth and the baby didn't make it? Then we couldn't try again without him having to have a reversal (which may or may not work)?

We will be waiting until baby is safely in our arms (and probably a few months old) before we take that step.

urby87 · September 2015

nbpa3027 said:

It's funny how things are so different regionally. Around me, doctors won't do the procedure while the wife/SO is still pregnant. From the people I know who had it done, a long weekend was plenty of time to recover. The recovery also depends on how they perform the procedure. There are apparently two ways they do it and one is a bit more invasive. I don't know how early they are thinking you would go, but I would think that if it takes him more than a week to recover there is something else going on. And to those that are thinking they will be ready to go right away--they told my husband that they go back for a sperm count after a couple of weeks and then at 6 months or a year and then if the count is zero you are clear to not use any protection. I actually know of 2 post vasectomy babies because they thought they were in the clear a few weeks later, but that wasn't the case.

OP, it's ultimately up to you and your husband, but I would recommend waiting until at least a few weeks after the baby is born. You'll be recovering for the first six weeks, so even if you waited a full month for him to get the procedure, you'd still have about a week and half until you had the green light for sex. By then, I would think he'd be fully recovered. That being said, I remember seeing a post a while back (don't remember which board) about a surprise post-vasectomy baby that her SO didn't believe was his... I can't imagine how stressful that situation would be, and what a strain it would put on your relationship!

Barker2+1 · September 2015

I should say that having it done before baby is his idea not mine. His thinking is having only one parent down at a time would be most beneficial to our 5 and 7 year old. This way I can help him heal without having to take care of three kiddos at once. It's funny someone mentioned the post vasectomy surprise baby. We are both well aware of the need for protection post vasectomy until his counts come back zero as I am actually a post vasectomy surprise baby lol. DH is unfortunately a big baby when it comes to being sick or injured. We are definitely done having kiddos regardless of how this pregnancy ends I just can't go through this again and my urologist is urging me to be done after this one. So that is not a concern for us.

Jennsoule · September 2015

My first husband was snipped two weeks after our son was born. Yes it's easier on them to have it done then us to have a tubal but he was bruised and swollen for about two weeks after.

FinePlacentaPie · September 2015

ashleywuli said:

My husband just had it done. He is a HUGE baby and whined for about a week or two after. He was able to do anything he wanted he just said his balls were sore. Honesty, I think his "issues" really just had to do with the fact that he's a baby. I would call and see if you can get him in a week or two sooner than currently scheduled. This way, there is no possible way of a conflict.

God, this is what I'm dreading. MH has his appointment next month and he is already the biggest whiner.

VexedMommy · September 2015

MargaretC5 said:

If you may have to have a CS anyway have you thought about getting your tubes tied at the same time? If I end up with a CS that is what we are doing, if I have a vaginal birth DH is making his appointment to get snipped after. I figured if I need surgery anyway why make him go thru it too.

This is my current plan.

dmiller1213 · September 2015

I would maybe have him reschedule. You are going to need him in tip top shape to help you recover and take care of baby. I don't see the point in risking that, if it's avoidable at all. Good luck!

addisyn13 · September 2015

I don't see the big hurry to get it done.
You mentioned you will possibly be having a c section, I know sex would be the last thing on my mind for afew weeks.

Barker2+1 · September 2015

I guess I am just really hoping not to have a c section. This is actually DH idea not mine. He feels that it would be in the best interest of our family to only have one parent down at a time. We also have a 7 and 5 year old. DH is a big baby when it comes to pain and requires lots of attention when he is sick. I think he thinks it would be easier on me to have all this done before baby comes while the boys are in school as opposed to waiting until this summer like I suggested. He says he also doesn't like how the hormones of the BC effect me and I am not a candidate for IUD. I made the point that condoms would work just fine but he doesn't like them and wants to whine about it. I am meeting with my Dr and this other other dr next week to discuss my blood pressure and uTI and baby being breach. Maybe I will have a better idea of what the next 7 weeks will look like. The good news is that my urologist is the one doing DH procedure and I have a super good relationship with the front office and scheduling lady.

elbou · September 2015

Barker2+1 said:

I guess I am just really hoping not to have a c section. This is actually DH idea not mine. He feels that it would be in the best interest of our family to only have one parent down at a time. We also have a 7 and 5 year old. DH is a big baby when it comes to pain and requires lots of attention when he is sick. I think he thinks it would be easier on me to have all this done before baby comes while the boys are in school as opposed to waiting until this summer like I suggested. He says he also doesn't like how the hormones of the BC effect me and I am not a candidate for IUD. I made the point that condoms would work just fine but he doesn't like them and wants to whine about it. I am meeting with my Dr and this other other dr next week to discuss my blood pressure and uTI and baby being breach. Maybe I will have a better idea of what the next 7 weeks will look like. The good news is that my urologist is the one doing DH procedure and I have a super good relationship with the front office and scheduling lady.

I think I get where you are coming from. We are definitely done after this baby (DH was ready to be done 2 kids ago...whoops!) and, as him and I were both ready to go a lot quicker than the 6 weeks last time, I would rather he get it done before baby comes. That way there is time to do at least the first count while I'm still pregnant. I figure if sex is uncomfortable and/or painful now, we might as well make the time off count for something. He still hasn't booked an appointment that I know of though, so I have no actual experience to go off of.

P.S. Recovery from the third was so much easier for me than the first or second. If you don't end up with a C-section, there is a good chance you will be back to normal much quicker than you thought.

ashleywuli · September 2015

Barker2+1 said:
I guess I am just really hoping not to have a c section. This is actually DH idea not mine. He feels that it would be in the best interest of our family to only have one parent down at a time. We also have a 7 and 5 year old. DH is a big baby when it comes to pain and requires lots of attention when he is sick. I think he thinks it would be easier on me to have all this done before baby comes while the boys are in school as opposed to waiting until this summer like I suggested. He says he also doesn't like how the hormones of the BC effect me and I am not a candidate for IUD. I made the point that condoms would work just fine but he doesn't like them and wants to whine about it. I am meeting with my Dr and this other other dr next week to discuss my blood pressure and uTI and baby being breach. Maybe I will have a better idea of what the next 7 weeks will look like. The good news is that my urologist is the one doing DH procedure and I have a super good relationship with the front office and scheduling lady.

My husband (biggest baby) just told me today, it was his one month anniversary of his snip. He has been fine for at least two weeks. If you can get him in sooner, maybe call the drs office and see if they can get him in sooner. Then you could be fine. But I do agree that you shouldn't both be down at the sametime. Good luck!

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