Push presents- aside from sentimental gifts, this is silly to me. Although.. I'm due on Valentine's Day soooo there is that ;;)
3D/4D ultrasounds- ugh. No way Jose. I feel like they make your baby look like an alien. I'll stick with the traditional... But @DrillSergeantCat your bear cub is adorable!
@bookqueen my husband went to let our dog out and came back with pizza! It was amazing. We discussed push presents on my last board and figured food was good.
Food is 100% acceptable, hahaha.
Benjamin born on - 4/5/12 BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
@DrillSergeantCat AMEN! We got this image from our tech and her response was "look how cute baby is already!" And my reply was, ".....where is their nose? Baby looks alien like
I think push presents are fine. We also don't do presents so we have to tell the other if we expect something. We don't really necessarily follow etiquette when it comes to our relationship so I wouldn't even think about it being tacky or not. I tell him everything so why not tell him I'd like something nice? I never expect him to read my mind and that prevents a lot of misunderstandings. Now, in reality, I didn't want a push present but I don't judge those who do. I do HATE when people say, "Isn't baby enough of a present? Do you not love your baby?" #-o
I don't get why it would bother you when people say "Isn't baby enough"? I wasn't thinking about any sort of gift the day my son was born. I was thinking about him and how happy I was that we were both healthy and how lucky I was. I think it's a legitimate question. I've never heard of a push present and I would never ask for one either. It seems absurd to me.
@MamaFroFro, because it somehow implies the person who does want one doesn't love their baby as much as someone who doesn't. I don't think we can judge based on that one thing. It's not personal to me because I'm just not a gift person but that doesn't mean I can judge someone for needing a pick me up in the days following giving birth. Yes, it's amazing that you have a brand new healthy baby but those days are SO ROUGH and if something nice from your husband makes you feel special when you are recovering from tears, struggling to BF, losing sleep, feeling like a mess, possibly have PPD, etc., I don't think it's silly.
For what it's worth I do think the push present goes back way before the name. My great Nonno bought my great Nonna a pearl ring and my Nonno gave it to my Nonna after my dad was born. My dad gave it to me after my son was born.
Hubby got me a Bose Soundlink for use while in labor, so while it was a "push present" it was something I'd wanted to buy for a while and use nearly every day!
@MamaFroFro, because it somehow implies the person who does want one doesn't love their baby as much as someone who doesn't. I don't think we can judge based on that one thing. It's not personal to me because I'm just not a gift person but that doesn't mean I can judge someone for needing a pick me up in the days following giving birth. Yes, it's amazing that you have a brand new healthy baby but those days are SO ROUGH and if something nice from your husband makes you feel special when you are recovering from tears, struggling to BF, losing sleep, feeling like a mess, possibly have PPD, etc., I don't think it's silly.
Makes sense. Thanks for helping me see it from a different perspective.
Another way you could think about it is that you shouldn't want birthday presents because surviving another year is a gift. Many people don't live another year. You shouldn't need Christmas gifts because time with family and Jesus should be enough. It's just what some people enjoy. Doesn't make them appreciate life, family, or religious figures any less than those who choose to celebrate without gifts.
Also, have you guys read Love Languages? It's basically about how you like love expressed toward you. Anyway, one of them is gifts. It was one of my lowest but I know some friends scored really high on that. So gifts mean more to them than they would to me. It's just how they are wired. Here is the quiz if anyone is interested in finding out their preferences :-) : https://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/
My UO: I hate whipped cream and I don't understand the need to put it on anything remotely sweet. I can't stand that I have to tell Starbucks not to put whipped cream on my apple cider. Why would you put whipped cream on Apple cider? That doesn't even make sense. On a latte? Absolutely not. A latte has foam and your stupid whipped cream just crushed it and ruined it for me. Especially when I have to scrape it off because you didn't listen to me, so now my foam is gone. Dumb
Gifts is my highest love language, for giving and receiving. I just love surprising people with little things!
That being said I wouldn't expect a push present. I don't think people are silly for doing them but expecting something huge is odd. This girl on my first BMB was super baggy about how she was going to get a Range Rover for hers. Haha
@Achae - 3D/4D ultrasounds freak me out too. Since I was pregnant with my 2 year old DS, I've been told multiple times that I should have a 3D done because it makes the baby more "realistic" and I'm thinking (as I'm looking at others 3D) is that nope, 3D's make the baby look like an alien or some sort of creature it shouldn't be. @DrillSergeantCat - your lil bear is adorable, but I've seen some that would give me nightmares.
About the "push present"...my personal opinion is that I feel the baby and I being healthy is the biggest gift I could get, so I don't care to have a "push present". Heck, I didn't even know that it was a thing. I had my first child 18 years ago and no one ever told me about it then and until I became part of this app, I didn't know about it...and that's 3 kids later. To each their own. I do think a Ferrari is ridiculous though.
I don't have a UO yet...so hopefully I think of one before the day is over.
Edited because I got the wrong person with the cute lil bear cub. Sorry @AdventureMama. Lol!
Hubby got me a Bose Soundlink for use while in labor, so while it was a "push present" it was something I'd wanted to buy for a while and use nearly every day!
Okay so I bought an iPad before I went into labor (I was induced and knew it was going to be a long process) but I in no way thought of it as a push present haha. It was something I had been wanting and thought that was a good of time as any to buy it.
I don't think there is anything wrong with being confrontational or direct (and I'm using those words interchangeably because people often mistake directness with confrontation). My friend and I are having a disagreement, and she has accused me of being "confrontational" (direct). I have addressed her calmly and rationally and not been offensive, but I have also been straightforward and honest and not danced around the topic. I hear this accusation being thrown around a lot, as though it's wrong or impolite.
I think culturally we are taught that being direct with someone is rude or aggressive, but I find no fault in speaking to one another candidly and openly, and there's nothing offensive about this kind of exchange. I don't find anything particularly wrong with not being direct since everyone has different levels of comfort on the topic, but I don't think it's wrong to be direct either.
@Achae - 3D/4D ultrasounds freak me out too. Since I was pregnant with my 2 year old DS, I've been told multiple times that I should have a 3D done because it makes the baby more "realistic" and I'm thinking (as I'm looking at others 3D) is that nope, 3D's make the baby look like an alien or some sort of creature it shouldn't be. @AdventureMama - your lil bear is adorable, but I've seen some that would give me nightmares.
About the "push present"...my personal opinion is that I feel the baby and I being healthy is the biggest gift I could get, so I don't care to have a "push present". Heck, I didn't even know that it was a thing. I had my first child 18 years ago and no one ever told me about it then and until I became part of this app, I didn't know about it...and that's 3 kids later. To each their own. I do think a Ferrari is ridiculous though.
I don't have a UO yet...so hopefully I think of one before the day is over.
Haha I think you meant this for someone else, I've never gotten a 3D ultrasound
Gifts is my highest love language, for giving and receiving. I just love surprising people with little things!
That being said I wouldn't expect a push present. I don't think people are silly for doing them but expecting something huge is odd. This girl on my first BMB was super baggy about how she was going to get a Range Rover for hers. Haha
A Range Rover, really?! :-&
I used to think 3D ultrasounds were strange, especially since I never had one done during my first pregnancy. I went in today for a recheck on my A/S since baby wasn't cooperative the first time around and the tech switched between regular and 3D a couple of times. It was really neat to see the details and I think our picture came out somewhat looking like a baby at 21w3d (but maybe I'm biased).
My UO: I hate whipped cream and I don't understand the need to put it on anything remotely sweet. I can't stand that I have to tell Starbucks not to put whipped cream on my apple cider. Why would you put whipped cream on Apple cider? That doesn't even make sense. On a latte? Absolutely not. A latte has foam and your stupid whipped cream just crushed it and ruined it for me. Especially when I have to scrape it off because you didn't listen to me, so now my foam is gone. Dumb
This is a huge pet peeve of mine. Thank you for agreeing work something I've never openly stated! I was afraid I was the only one!
When at a restaurant I think servers should wait before asking if you want cheese, pepper, etc grated on top. I don't know if I want those things if I haven't tasted it yet.. it might be perfect the way it is!
When at a restaurant I think servers should wait before asking if you want cheese, pepper, etc grated on top. I don't know if I want those things if I haven't tasted it yet.. it might be perfect the way it is!
I'm going to have to disagree here. I would never, ever turn down cheese. How dare you.
When at a restaurant I think servers should wait before asking if you want cheese, pepper, etc grated on top. I don't know if I want those things if I haven't tasted it yet.. it might be perfect the way it is!
When at a restaurant I think servers should wait before asking if you want cheese, pepper, etc grated on top. I don't know if I want those things if I haven't tasted it yet.. it might be perfect the way it is!
I hate when people see a missed call on their phone from an unknown person (no voicemail), and they call the number back like "hey I just got a missed call from here"..... Sorry, this company has like 15 employees and 10 phone lines, I have no way of knowing who may have tried to call you, especially if you don't know what this place is, or anyone that may work here. Stop wasting my time and find something else to do with yourself.
@lilqt3929, I have to guess.. is it almost a top view and baby has his/her hand by the side of his/her face?
Yes you're right, he was trying to hide his face from us. I'm the same way looking at these pictures, need the comfirmation to know what I'm looking at even with the regular pictures.
I really can't stand when people make fruit into "things". Especially babies. It just weirds me out lol. When people asked about hosting baby showers for me last time, I said yes, but my only request is no fruit babies.
My UO:
I really can't stand when people make fruit into "things". Especially babies. It just weirds me out lol. When people asked about hosting baby showers for me last time, I said yes, but my only request is no fruit babies.
(Pic for example.)
Sooo my SMIL hosted a baby shower for me for our first, and they made one of these. They (she and FIL) talked up this really awesome surprise they were going to do for WEEKS and weeks. It turned out to be that. It looked almost identical to your picture. She was insanely proud of it and took a thousand pictures and made me pose next to it for pics and literally showed it to every single party guest. It was the creepiest thing ever, honestly.
@AdventureMama lol I'm so sorry. I am seriously giggling over here...they are really creepy to me!!!! I've been to a few baby showers with them & I just have to walk away from them. Can't even get any fruit because they just weird me out too much.
@bookqueen my husband went to let our dog out and came back with pizza! It was amazing. We discussed push presents on my last board and figured food was good.
My husband let me eat all of his sugar cookies with the frosting on them!! Mmmmmmm
I did get a necklace shortly after she was born with her birth stone but I was a cross between Mother's Day and anniversary too. Not just a push present- plus it would have been a push for hours then get sliced open present haha
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3D/4D ultrasounds- ugh. No way Jose. I feel like they make your baby look like an alien. I'll stick with the traditional... But @DrillSergeantCat your bear cub is adorable!
BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks
BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
Also, have you guys read Love Languages? It's basically about how you like love expressed toward you. Anyway, one of them is gifts. It was one of my lowest but I know some friends scored really high on that. So gifts mean more to them than they would to me. It's just how they are wired. Here is the quiz if anyone is interested in finding out their preferences :-) : https://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/
That being said I wouldn't expect a push present. I don't think people are silly for doing them but expecting something huge is odd. This girl on my first BMB was super baggy about how she was going to get a Range Rover for hers. Haha
About the "push present"...my personal opinion is that I feel the baby and I being healthy is the biggest gift I could get, so I don't care to have a "push present". Heck, I didn't even know that it was a thing. I had my first child 18 years ago and no one ever told me about it then and until I became part of this app, I didn't know about it...and that's 3 kids later. To each their own. I do think a Ferrari is ridiculous though.
I don't have a UO yet...so hopefully I think of one before the day is over.
Edited because I got the wrong person with the cute lil bear cub. Sorry @AdventureMama. Lol!
I used to think 3D ultrasounds were strange, especially since I never had one done during my first pregnancy. I went in today for a recheck on my A/S since baby wasn't cooperative the first time around and the tech switched between regular and 3D a couple of times. It was really neat to see the details and I think our picture came out somewhat looking like a baby at 21w3d (but maybe I'm biased).
Baby F.......02/02/2016
Baby F.......02/02/2016
We went out to eat yesterday and the waiter just started grinding pepper in my soup without asking and I hadn't had any yet.
Baby F.......02/02/2016
I really can't stand when people make fruit into "things". Especially babies. It just weirds me out lol. When people asked about hosting baby showers for me last time, I said yes, but my only request is no fruit babies.
(Pic for example.)
I did get a necklace shortly after she was born with her birth stone but I was a cross between Mother's Day and anniversary too. Not just a push present- plus it would have been a push for hours then get sliced open present haha