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  • AchaeAchae member
    I'm not going to be one of those parents that sits at the stop sign with the car running waiting for my kid to catch the bus. I can see it in frigid temps but it's 70!
    (Probably just annoyed because I find it to be a traffic hazard. Buses are big, will you really miss seeing it if you parked 10 feet back?)
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  • wisco29wisco29 member
    VitaLuna said:

    It annoys me when people start posting on HBDB, UO, or FFFC days later. The next day is ok if you missed it, but commenting on HDBD/UO on Monday? Annoying. I realize it's trivial, which is why it's my UO.

    HDBD= Wednesday
    UO= Thursday
    FFFC= Friday


    Agree. It's okay if you reply to someone you were talking with that day or if you "missed it" but it's every single week. If you think of a uo on Saturday save it
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  • ohbaby714ohbaby714 member
    @ThecoffeeBunch good luck! Ours is next Tuesday and H is trying to sway me away from team green. I don't think he is going to have to try too hard but I'm trying to stay firm!
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  • notasycophantnotasycophant member
    @ThecoffeeBunch, I'm sure your lo will be perfect !
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  • minivanmafiaminivanmafia member
    ohbaby714 said:

    @ThecoffeeBunch good luck! Ours is next Tuesday and H is trying to sway me away from team green. I don't think he is going to have to try too hard but I'm trying to stay firm!

    You should! I actually really don't want to know so much so that I would be disappointed finding out now... I really want to wait!

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  • glitteryantglitteryant member
    edited September 2015
    ohbaby714 said:
    I have an acquaintance that I used to have a few classes with in college who is pregnant just post a status on Facebook asking for good "push present suggestions" for her husband to get her after she has the baby and people were suggesting diamond necklaces or a mother's ring. Is this seriously a real thing? I've heard of it before but I honestly thought it was a joke. Guess not? Just no.
    I didn't get one with my first, but it is for sure a thing.  I don't really see the problem if the SO wants to do it, but asking for one is kind of tacky.  
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  • notasycophantnotasycophant member
    ohbaby714 said:

    I have an acquaintance that I used to have a few classes with in college who is pregnant just post a status on Facebook asking for good "push present suggestions" for her husband to get her after she has the baby and people were suggesting diamond necklaces or a mother's ring. Is this seriously a real thing? I've heard of it before but I honestly thought it was a joke. Guess not? Just no.

    I'm not boasting because I'm not talking about my money. But my cousin got a ferarri from her husband as a " push present". I thought it was vulgar. Because everyone kept talking about the gift and not the baby. It caused quite a stir in our extremely large asian family. My late grandmother referred to the baby as "ferarri boy" for months.

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  • minivanmafiaminivanmafia member
    @ohbaby714 I have heard of them and always make comments to DH about one but always in a joking manor, mostly. We aren't great gift givers (too each other) and when we want something we kind of go on and get it so presents between the two of us are slim.... I think if a couple want to do it, go for it. But it seems like one more thing to "stress" over or compare to another family/couple about. No thanks. :)

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  • pbtoastpbtoast member
    notasycophant said:
    I have an acquaintance that I used to have a few classes with in college who is pregnant just post a status on Facebook asking for good "push present suggestions" for her husband to get her after she has the baby and people were suggesting diamond necklaces or a mother's ring. Is this seriously a real thing? I've heard of it before but I honestly thought it was a joke. Guess not? Just no.
    I'm not boasting because I'm not talking about my money. But my cousin got a ferarri from her husband as a " push present". I thought it was vulgar. Because everyone kept talking about the gift and not the baby. It caused quite a stir in our extremely large asian family. My late grandmother referred to the baby as "ferarri boy" for months.
    Ferrari boy! Oh no!
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  • CuriousKiddosMamaCuriousKiddosMama member
    glitteryant said:


    ohbaby714 said:

    I have an acquaintance that I used to have a few classes with in college who is pregnant just post a status on Facebook asking for good "push present suggestions" for her husband to get her after she has the baby and people were suggesting diamond necklaces or a mother's ring. Is this seriously a real thing? I've heard of it before but I honestly thought it was a joke. Guess not? Just no.

    I didn't get one with my first, but it is for sure a thing.  I don't really see the problem if the SO wants to do it, but asking for one is kind of tacky.  


    Yes, it's a thing. My husband got me diamond earrings and called them a push present/ anniversary gift since they were pretty close together. Specifically telling dh what you want though is like sending gift registry information out for a birthday party- tacky :)
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  • notasycophantnotasycophant member
    edited September 2015
    @pbtoast , we had a sneaky feeling she was being snarky. She almost had a dozen children and my grandfather never gave her a present for pushing anyone of them out. She probably thought it was ridiculous!

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  • pbtoastpbtoast member
    notasycophant said:
    @pbtoast , we had a sneaky feeling she was being snarky. She almost had a dozen children and my grandfather would have never given her a present for pushing anyone of them out. She probably thought it was ridiculous!
    And, if you ask me, I would agree with her that a Ferrari as a "push present" is quite ridiculous! I don't have an opinion on "push presents" in general- I think it's highly unlikely that it's something I'd receive but I don't necessarily think they are out of line. To each their own type of thing. But a Ferrari? That's a bit much.
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  • wisco29wisco29 member
    pbtoast said:


    wisco29 said:

    VitaLuna said:

    It annoys me when people start posting on HBDB, UO, or FFFC days later. The next day is ok if you missed it, but commenting on HDBD/UO on Monday? Annoying. I realize it's trivial, which is why it's my UO.

    HDBD= Wednesday
    UO= Thursday
    FFFC= Friday


    Agree. It's okay if you reply to someone you were talking with that day or if you "missed it" but it's every single week. If you think of a uo on Saturday save it

    But see the problem is I had a GREAT (or so I thought) UO yesterday and now have forgotten it today. I hope it comes back to me! I need to start writing them down and saving them up for the correct day. ;))

    Save it in your phone ;) that's what I do if I have a good one
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  • notasycophantnotasycophant member
    Same here. I don't mind them but I'm not expecting one either. Maybe tacky, but seeing my healthy baby for the first time will be better than anything material H could give me.
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  • SoSiriusSoSirius member
    edited September 2015
    I think push presents are fine. We also don't do presents so we have to tell the other if we expect something. We don't really necessarily follow etiquette when it comes to our relationship so I wouldn't even think about it being tacky or not. I tell him everything so why not tell him I'd like something nice? I never expect him to read my mind and that prevents a lot of misunderstandings. Now, in reality, I didn't want a push present but I don't judge those who do. I do HATE when people say, "Isn't baby enough of a present? Do you not love your baby?" #-o
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  • ohbaby714ohbaby714 member
    Okay now that I know it's a thing, I agree that the sentimental things are sweet. I also agree that expecting them or expecting something extravagant (such as a Ferrari :P ) is tacky.
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  • brushesnbrunchbrushesnbrunch member
    We aren't gift givers.. H loves giving gifts, but not on set days. We are big card people... I usually get multiple from H for anniversaries.

    I think the sentimental "push presents" are adorable, and I've told H that in so many words, but I would be shocked to get anything.. And I find it weird to get something random, like a purse or something. I would think it would be something that incorporated the child into it, not just a random object.
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  • pbtoastpbtoast member
    brushesnbrunch said:
    We aren't gift givers.. H loves giving gifts, but not on set days. We are big card people... I usually get multiple from H for anniversaries. I think the sentimental "push presents" are adorable, and I've told H that in so many words, but I would be shocked to get anything.. And I find it weird to get something random, like a purse or something. I would think it would be something that incorporated the child into it, not just a random object.
    My SO never gives cards. He'll give me a super nice gift with no card attached. I have told him numerous times that I'd rather get a sweet card than a gift any day. I don't think his brain works that way....but I'm trying to train him. ;)  So I'm jealous!
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  • ashcody2ashcody2 member
    I would never expect a push present, and I'm pretty sure I won't get one this time either - I didn't with my first but honestly I'd rather save that money for something we actually need. My husband and I don't do gifts too often for holidays or anything either, the only time I usually buy him something is for his birthday and for father's day because very, very rarely does he buy himself anything new - I'm talking like never. 

    I can't think of an UO for myself right now but will come back to it once I do, hopefully before the day is done lol - lately I've been having pregnancy/mommy brain something terrible.
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  • Fullerj21Fullerj21 member
    I think push presents are sweet but should not be expected. DH got me one with DD (was born right before valentines day) and it was a necklace and then a matching/smaller one which we will save and give to DD. He did it all on his own and I cherish it!!
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  • ohbaby714ohbaby714 member
    Fullerj21 said:

    I think push presents are sweet but should not be expected. DH got me one with DD (was born right before valentines day) and it was a necklace and then a matching/smaller one which we will save and give to DD. He did it all on his own and I cherish it!!

    That is so sweet! See I don't even see that as a "push present" the way others talk about them. That is just a sweet sentimental gift.
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  • notasycophantnotasycophant member
    I have another UO. I found Mehmet Oz's "You having baby" a sad excuse for a pregnancy book. The illustrations were nauseatingly bad and the content was pretty watered down. Too bad I can't return it. There's a pull out calender type thingy in the middle and even that's made sloppily.
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  • MississippiCatfishMississippiCatfish member
    I think push presents are a little odd, but we also don't do a lot of gifts in our relationship. I guess odd isn't really the word. I don't have a problem with them, just wouldn't have ever thought of it. We also didn't exchange presents on our wedding day.

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  • ashton2190ashton2190 member
    cantobean said:

    *preparing to be flamed*

    UO: I think fraternities, in general, are hotbeds of racism, sexism, binge drinking, drug abuse, and sexual assault. Not ALL of them, of course. But a lot of them are, and I think college campuses would be safer without them.

    I went to a small college that didn't have Greek life, so I guess I don't see any benefits to frats. There are other ways to make friends and serve your community, if that is ostensibly what they are for.


    Just want to say: I'm not trying to insult YOUR sorority if you were in one. I just think in general, the negative effects of fraternities (rampant racism and rape, namely) outweigh the benefits.

    The school I went to did not have a big Greek life. All of the houses were really far away from campus, so I think that minimized any impact. You never really heard about issues with the feats/sororities, but that also didn't mean we didn't have plenty of problems. When I was going to school, you could be in the bars of you were under 21 so of course people were drinking underage. The campus was right next to the downtown area which was basically a pedestrian mall of bars. Just google "vodka Sam" and you'll see what I mean
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  • egraves4egraves4 member
    cantobean said:

    *preparing to be flamed*

    UO: I think fraternities, in general, are hotbeds of racism, sexism, binge drinking, drug abuse, and sexual assault. Not ALL of them, of course. But a lot of them are, and I think college campuses would be safer without them.

    I went to a small college that didn't have Greek life, so I guess I don't see any benefits to frats. There are other ways to make friends and serve your community, if that is ostensibly what they are for.


    Just want to say: I'm not trying to insult YOUR sorority if you were in one. I just think in general, the negative effects of fraternities (rampant racism and rape, namely) outweigh the benefits.

    I was in a sorority for 3 years AND went to a school where 20% of the student population was Greek life and I feel the same way. Before I met my SO (who is not in a fraternity) I spent a lot of time thinking the guys in them were awesome... But a lot of my thoughts changed after realizing how many (not all of them of course) had bad attitudes and felt like they were of a better class because of what fraternity they were in.

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  • kbedfoxkbedfox member
    I was in a sorority and DH was in a fraternity, and I value the relationships and experiences I got in Greek life as much as any other I've had. I joined because I didn't know a lot of people at my university and had like 2 girlfriends, so it absolutely started off for social purposes. But I earned leadership roles, attended several conferences and seminars, improved academically, did hundreds of hours of philanthropy I wouldn't have done otherwise, and 4/6 of my bridesmaids were sisters. I could have done all of that outside my sorority, but I wouldn't have. Other people not in Greek life did, so I'm not saying Greeks are better because of their accomplishments or activities-- there are so many groups out there, I'd never say one was better than another. I also was involved in sports, student government, and the honors program at my school, but my sisters are the only people from college I still talk to, and I'm active in a local alumni chapter 3 states away from where I graduated. DH and I have talked about it, and if this LO wants to join a sorority, we will absolutely support her decision. I understand why Greek life has the reputation it has, usally among people who were never involved and/or exposed to them, and not everyone's experience is as positive as ours, but to generalize (your word, not mine lol) fraternities and sororities as racist druggies, drinkers and rapists is over the top.

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