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Probably goodbye (possible loss mentioned). D&C question

ekgray82ekgray82 member
edited September 2015 in May 2016 Moms
Hi ladies, so I went to my 1st appt today and it's not looking good. Baby had a heartbeat but should be measuring around 8 wks and was measuring 7wks +2 and had a small sac. I have a follow up appt next wk but Dr thinks I will probably miscarry. Have any of you had a D&C before? Have any of you dealt with a small gestational sac early on and everything turned out fine? I'm just trying to prepare myself for the worst in case my body doesn't do it on its own if it's going to happen or if maybe there's a ray of hope left. This next week is going to be so hard just waiting. We are heartbroken and scared for what's to come.
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Re: Probably goodbye (possible loss mentioned). D&C question

  • kns1988kns1988 member
    I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope things work out for you! You're in my thoughts. 
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  • vinerievinerie member
    I'm so sorry that you received this news. Sending good thoughts your way...
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  • sjecc09sjecc09 member
    So sorry to hear!

    I have had a D&C and truthfully, it was more painful emotionally than physically. I was uncomfortable after the procedure, but it wasn't painful. It felt like moderate cramping with bloating. I was able to go to work the next day, and I have a fairly physical job in healthcare. Just give yourself time to rest and heal emotionally and physically. Sending you positive thoughts and hoping for the best!
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  • saladflambesaladflambe member
    I'm so sorry :( 
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  • jessicalacey1226jessicalacey1226 member
    So sorry to hear! Sending some sticky dust your way! I had a D&C back in March. I was 8 weeks. For me, once I had confirmation that we lost our little one I just wanted everything to be done with as quickly and painlessly as possible so I could start healing physically and emotionally and start trying again. Like PP said, the worst part was emotionally. Feel free to send me a message if you what to talk more.
    Good luck!!
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  • AmandagStarkAmandagStark member
    T's & P's your way!
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  • toisanmuitoisanmui member
    I'm sorry to hear that... I had a D&C done last year in June. I went for an ultrasound at 12 weeks and it stopped growing at about 8 weeks. There is the option of taking a drug to try and flush it out of your system but the D&C would ensure that it is done. It was my first so I am not too experienced. I was told to go that route given that my body had 4 weeks and did not want to get rid of it on its own... Best of luck. It feels like cramping and I was given aneasthesia, but awake, it was just enough to make the experience seem shorter. Best of luck!
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  • FireInWonderlandFireInWonderland member
    T's and P's and hopes for you. So sorry to hear about your situation.
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  • awood04awood04 member
    I'm sorry to hear that. Hoping for the best for you though.
    I had a d&c in April. I was in the same boat. I just wanted it over with so we could start to heal and move on.
    We got to the hospital in the morning and was given an iv. They came to prep my for the surgery in the early afternoon. The surgery was really short but they put me under anesthetic. I woke up and got to go home after an hour. I took the next day off work but was back the following day.
    The pain was fairly mild after. Just like period cramps. Nothing Tylenol couldn't handle.

    Like everyone else said, the pain is nothing compared to what you're going through emotionally. Thinking of you.
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  • benicodebenicode member
    So sorry to hear.  I also had a D&C at 10 weeks/fetus measuring about 7.  I felt no pain after, not really even cramping.  It was just emotional.

    I wouldn't give up all hope if I were you.  You aren't measuring that far behind and your baby has a heartbeat.  I know it's difficult to be on edge like this - good luck, fx for you.
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  • avidkeoavidkeo member
    OP you are looking only measuring5 days behind? Do you know when your ovulated? Dont loose hope yet, 5 days is not much different at all! And if you implanted even one or two days later than that makes a huge difference!

    Hugs and im sorry you are going through this.
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  • DutchLucyLuDutchLucyLu member
    Sorry you are going through this and fingers crossed things work out!

      

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  • laurenmdrn16laurenmdrn16 member
    I hope everything turns out ok. I know with my son I had no clue when I ovulated so the measurements were waaay off at first. I will pray/send good thoughts that all is well.

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  • seashellz1223seashellz1223 member
    Thoughts and prayers.

     

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  • JessicaB0627JessicaB0627 member
    I have no experience with this but T&Ps to you. I'm sure it's awful not knowing for sure either way.
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  • autie5cpautie5cp member
    Sending prayers to you. May God ease your mind and heart.
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  • somethingbluetoosomethingbluetoo member
    I hope everything turns out to be ok and that your wait goes quickly!
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  • yogahhyogahh member

    Iavidkeo ! There might still be a chance. Don't give up hope. I am not knowledgable in this at all, but couldn't this just mean you conceived a bit later than though?

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    ekgray82 , check your inbox

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  • ekgray82ekgray82 member
    Thanks ladies. It's the small sac that really has him concerned, not necessarily the baby's growth. He said when the sac is especially small like that, it could mean there are some chromosomal issues going on. He just doesn't want to get my hopes up and trying to prepare me for what may come. I'm still trying to be hopeful, but knowing my Dr, it didn't sound too positive. This next week of waiting is going to be so hard! I'm hoping things miraculously turn around.
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  • Bluejay3030Bluejay3030 member
    ekgray82 said:

    Thanks ladies. It's the small sac that really has him concerned, not necessarily the baby's growth. He said when the sac is especially small like that, it could mean there are some chromosomal issues going on. He just doesn't want to get my hopes up and trying to prepare me for what may come. I'm still trying to be hopeful, but knowing my Dr, it didn't sound too positive. This next week of waiting is going to be so hard! I'm hoping things miraculously turn around.

    Fx for you, and hoping for the best. Hang in there, mama.
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  • CassandramariecCassandramariec member
    In case you want to hear the other side (non DC) I'll share my experience. Obviously, forewarning that loss is described.

    I chose to wait it out, both because of the slight chance, however minuscule, that it wasn't a blighted ovum, and because I wanted to proceed naturally. My doctor was supportive, had a few blood tests to check on numbers, and checked in weekly.

    In my case, I found out at 8w but the miscarriage did not happen until 14w. I typically have extremely painful periods, and this was... Well, something else. Both in pain, and blood/tissue loss. I took a few days off work, the first by necessity, the 2nd just in case, and only had light work scheduled that Friday. I was careful a few days more, but recovered without complications.

    Personally, I prefer to handle things naturally, and would do so again if I were unfortunate enough to be in that situation again, but it was a long 6 week wait in my case, knowing the miscarriage could begin at any time (over the holidays too) and of course, both painful and unpleasant when it did happen. I feel better equipped to handle some of childbirth because of it, but I can imagine many people would not want the wait or the experience. Most do not wait that long, I think, and I expect mine was worse because my body went along blithely unaware until 14w-- even with no baby, there was a lot more to pass. Do keep that in mind. In the end, choose what is right for you though.

    I hope, should the worst come to pass, you have a little more perspective to work with. I'll keep you and your little one in my prayers.
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