Bye bye ladies I obviously don't fit in here.

kimmecakes · September 2015

So it seem I get shot down in flames every time I answer a post.
I'm not usually the sensitive type however, my positive cheerful attitude really doesn't seem to be called for here.
May be my English sense of humour is misunderstood

, I don't understand.
Any way nice knowing the select few of you who have been sweet to me.
I wish you lots of luck on your pregnancy journeys.

myndihallberg · September 2015

I'm sorry you've had bad experiences here!! I hope you have a healthy happy nine months!

rebelone · September 2015

Okay so you are making a post to announce you are leaving because you had a bad reaction to one of the posts you responded to, therefore rendering the entire forum not worthwhile? Okay, bye then.

rschenck14 · September 2015

Kimmie,
I would encourage you to ignore the negative responses and stick around and talk with those that you share positive responses from. Its up to you and I wish you luck either way.

To rebelone,
Really is that comment necessary? Just think about things before you post. Obviously this is not the best encouragement for Kimmie and what are you hoping to benefit by your statement?

I get the whole truth and honest aspect to these forums, but everyone really needs to think before they speak. My mother always told me "If you don't have something nice to say, then maybe you should not say it". Opinions are one thing, but really think about how you word things and if people might find it offensive. The internet has really caused for people's filters to become wide open. Just my two sense.

kimmecakes · September 2015

I have had this many times from 6 weeks through to 10 weeks on a few posts, I came here for support while it's all very secret and I've been met with mainly negativity.
Can anyone recommend some where a little more supportive?

rebelone · September 2015

There's Baby Gaga or BabyCenter

rebelone · September 2015

rschenck14 said:

Kimmie,
I would encourage you to ignore the negative responses and stick around and talk with those that you share positive responses from. Its up to you and I wish you luck either way.

To rebelone,
Really is that comment necessary? Just think about things before you post. Obviously this is not the best encouragement for Kimmie and what are you hoping to benefit by your statement?

I get the whole truth and honest aspect to these forums, but everyone really needs to think before they speak. My mother always told me "If you don't have something nice to say, then maybe you should not say it". Opinions are one thing, but really think about how you word things and if people might find it offensive. The internet has really caused for people's filters to become wide open. Just my two sense.

I don't feel that it was necessary at all to create a GBCB post. What kind of a reaction does the OP expect to receive? Everyone is entitled to their opinion on here, and it can be received in different ways. It's up to you how you want to post and it's up to the reader how they will respond to it. I do find GBCB posts somewhat offensive and AW and I think it's judgey to the community when maybe the issue is with a few individuals. If you want to post publically your grievances with the community then expect to get the feedback.

RoseShadow873 · September 2015

That sucks you are leaving. I actually remember being fond of your posts. Have you been on any of the other boards on this site or just the April moms one? It looks like they have a lot of groups and stuff.

kimmecakes · September 2015

RoseShadow873 said:
That sucks you are leaving. I actually remember being fond of your posts. Have you been on any of the other boards on this site or just the April moms one? It looks like they have a lot of groups and stuff.

I tried other boards but finding them all much the same.
I did just lurk for a while but felt very sad seeing others being bought down when all the ladies wanted was a little support.
It's hard to watch it go on and not say anything.
At least I'm a more mature woman with broader shoulders, others may not be able to take it.
I have enjoyed some of the posts don't get me wrong but maybe I don't fit into the internet no filter world.

rschenck14 · September 2015

Rebelone,
I agree maybe if she felt like leaving she could have just left without saying something, but maybe she was hoping more people would take a stand against some of the comments that just really aren't necessary in this forum. Sometimes I think some people just start picking and its not worth it. For instance what were you hoping to get by your comments? I mean was it necessary to say what you said? Kimmie is leaving not because of one obnoxious response, but actually quite a few. Wouldn't it be better to just not say anything or to try and/or be encouraging to her? I just don't get it and maybe that's me. Although I don't think what you said was horrible by any means, but I just don't understand why it would be necessary to say something like that to someone who is already feeling bad. I think that was kind of the point Kimmie was making is that some people on this forum just keep going and picking at people and their opinions. I think there are a lot of us that can share opinions and be open minded, but some are not that way and it is very frustrating.

kaitlyn592 · September 2015

I'm sad to hear that you feel this way. I agree, there are negative people on these posts who can make others feel unwelcome but there are also even more people on the Bump who are awesome! I hope you will reconsider staying, just by some of the lovely ladies who have posted on this thread already. I know it's hard but sometimes we have to just ignore those negative or rude people and keep scrolling. For some sad reason of their own, they feel the need to put down others or boss people around. I think your cheery attitude is needed much more than these negative attitudes, so it's all the more reason of why you should stay!

kimmecakes · September 2015

Thanks @rschenck14 you totally get me. I'm saying it so that others are made aware that they make people feel down on themselves at such a sensitive time. 9 months is a long time to get through. Is it so hard to have a little common curtesy to each other??
The world is a harsh enough place as it is.

kimmecakes · September 2015

Thank you @kaitlyn592 . Bless your heart

kaitlyn592 · September 2015

And something else I'd like to add just on this general topic: sure, we are all entitled to our own opinion. However, there's a fine line between sharing your opinion and being downright rude and nasty. If you can't share your opinion while being polite and respectful, then you shouldn't share it at all, you should just move on. We're all here for the same exact reason; to gain support and advice from other women going through the same thing we are: pregnancy. There's no reason to be hateful, rude, nasty, or degrading to others. I think we should all act like adults and set good examples for our unborn children.

RoseShadow873 · September 2015

**Removed for TOU Violation**

kimmecakes · September 2015

Thank you @RoseShadow873

RoseShadow873 · September 2015

Ok so we're not allowed to talk about other websites? Honestly I kind of want to leave too. I tried to close my account before though and they wouldn't let me. There was literally no way to close an account.

hurricane1212 · September 2015

RoseShadow873 said:
Ok so we're not allowed to talk about other websites? Honestly I kind of want to leave too. I tried to close my account before though and they wouldn't let me. There was literally no way to close an account.

THAT was your violation?!?
Anyway, I thought things were going relatively smooth for a BMB, but they've kinda imploded today. What a shame.

CharminglySouthern · September 2015

I agree with @rebelone . If the overall tone of the community doesn't suit you, perhaps it's better to find a different community. TB is not rainbows and puppies. You will get support here, but you have to give it as well. Further, support doesn't always mean agreeing or telling you (the general you) what you want to hear.

rschenck14 · September 2015

CharminglySouthern,
Kimmie is not asking it to be rainbows and puppies at all, its the treatment of each other with dignity and respect. And again, she should not have to leave because of the tone, we should try to change the tone of the community to ensure its respectful and that we are supporting and not coming across as somewhat harassing/argumentative to each other. She never asked that people agree with her, but she also should not have to be badgered either.

bumptara · September 2015

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