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January 2016 Moms
hannahduff3
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Future Annoyances
hannahduff3
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Does anyone already have future annoyances? Lol
For example, I already know when it comes to family gatherings.... Easter etc. I'm going to be super annoyed at the passing of my baby around. I know I'll never get him throughout the day on days like that and it kills me! Lol I'm probably gunna feel the same way in the hospital room!
I'm aware that I could feel differently when the time comes but that's how I feel now! Anyone else?
For example, I already know when it comes to family gatherings.... Easter etc. I'm going to be super annoyed at the passing of my baby around. I know I'll never get him throughout the day on days like that and it kills me! Lol I'm probably gunna feel the same way in the hospital room!
I'm aware that I could feel differently when the time comes but that's how I feel now! Anyone else?
Re: Future Annoyances
If you choose to breast feed him, you'll be getting him to yourself every 2-3 hours
One thing I'm a little concerned about is my dad wanting to come over to see his grandson but being a butt about my dogs. They're family and he doesn't like them so he mostly avoids them, but I know he'll come over for DS. I'm not sure how to handle that.
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I've seen PP giving you sass about this, but I completely feel you. For at least the first year, I refused to go to large family gatherings because I knew that my daughter would be ripped from my arms in the name of "family" and that just irked me. I stayed home under the guise of "getting comfortable being a mom". She is my daughter, and while I'm glad that my family is very loving, she is my whole heart, outside of my body. Still, nearly two years later, I don't like to be away from her. I'm better about letting her run off and play (within sight, of course) now that she's older, but I hated that people felt comfortable demanding that they hadn't "gotten to hold her yet" and that I needed to hand her over. Family still is very involved in her life and she loves them very much, so it's not like I'm keeping her from making family ties, so ignore that sassy PP. I never once have regretted holding her rather than giving her up. Stand your ground. And yes, I definitely recommend getting a sling or Moby that wraps baby up nice and close and is complicated to get on/off so that you can use that as an excuse to keep baby on you. That won't work once baby can move around on his/her own, obviously, but it gets you past that awful infant grabby stage that all family members seem to have. Do not feel pressured to let anyone hold your baby if you would rather hold him/her. They have or had their chance. This one is yours. They'll learn to deal.
But to OP I haven't even begun to think about what I'll find annoying...but I have such weird quirks that I'm sure it'll be something ridiculous.
@ntyravgsp Haha! I seriously might. She often does act like a fussy toddler, perhaps it's time I start treating her like one!
Also, this is small but the childcare at my gym doesn't take kids till 6 months!!!!! My last gym (a YMCA) took kids at 16 weeks (less than 4 months). It's not like I am leaving them all day. They don't even have to feed LO.
FWIW when DS was little he didn't sleep a wink (well it felt that way). I loved when people would take him away and entertain him. The only thing that he liked was being carried around or rocked, no bouncer or play mat. Oh he would also accept bicycling his legs for about 5-10 mins, I guess it helped with his gas.
So if anyone took DS they were pretty much signing up to do rounds around the house with him. Otherwise he would cry like he was being tortured. No sitting around and goochy gooing on the couch. It was like their saintly deed for the year (in my eyes) if they volunteered to take him so I could have a conversation with family or just veg out on the couch.
-my father in law banging on our door non stop until we answer it... It annoys me now.
-my clients nagging me about appointments/times, not being understanding (this will be rare, most won't, but some will )
- people visiting me if they are sick (don't care if you think you are at "the end" of it... :-@ )
- my friends lack of understanding about how our life has/is changing. (Again this will only be a few, and I can already tell who it is.)
Obviously this all seems quite negative, I think most people are going to be great and excited for us, give us our space when we need it, and be there for us if we need them. I try not to already worry about these inevitable things too much, as it's going to happen and I'm just going to have to deal with it! I'm sure I'm annoying too for somepeople!
Grocery shopping seems like a daunting task with two also. Ds in the front of the carriage and baby in the bucket there won't be any room for food! Guess I'll have to wear lo!
Navigating the rest of our new england winter doesn't seem like much fun either!
Oh well, we will find a way and look back on all of this and laugh, hopefully!
My mother.
I can already tell you she's going to get on my nerves.