Stressful Situations

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• Sunny2015 member

  September 2015

  We are hopefully buying our first house and moving in soon, so we're very nervous and hopeful!! We also bought a car lol

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• Madylynne member

  September 2015

  I just recently relocated from Chicago IL to Sarasota FL, leaving my entire friends, job, & partner behind ( Unemployed for the first time in 6 years & having to rely financially on my partner & mother has been extremely hard. We are now trying to figure out when my partner will also be able to relocate out here & I'm really hoping he will be here for baby's birth.

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• tmo51324 member

  September 2015

  I just started a new job as a found out I was pregnant and am also moving in two weeks! We have to move in with my parents for a few weeks (all 5 of us plus bump) as our new house isn't quite ready so will also be moving twice!

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• leek71983 member

  September 2015

  SO has been deployed since before I found out. That has been tough. He comes home next week. I'm so happy and thankful to have him especially for the last trimester, but I know there will be some challenges and adjustments.

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• ssn109 member

  September 2015

  We bought a duplex last year to update and be owner/occupiers. We got held up on finishing the carpeting for the other unit, so it wasn't ready til this past March. We had tenants move in shortly after we found out I was pregnant, but they terminated the lease early and moved out. Then we had someone else sign a lease, but backed out only days later before paying the first month's rent. So we were counting on having a tenant so we could move out into a single family home, but now can't afford to. We are fast approaching winter, at which time nobody will be moving anywhere, so we may be stuck here a lot longer. Oh, and the apartment we live in now is barely the right size for a single person. Not two, and certainly not 3. So we don't really know where baby is going to sleep, or play, or really anything at this point.

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• Gingermom15 member

  September 2015

  SO is getting laid off in 3 weeks. We just found out yesterday, which puts a big kink in our baby birth plan. Hopefully he will have a new job by the time the baby is born, but he won't get any time off other than day of birth. We also won't be able to save as much as planned as unemployment is 60% of salary and will be using all of mine to cover expenses. The throttle system in his car is also going bad and costs twice the cars value to fix, so it's not worth the cost to replace. On top of having such reduced income we have to buy a newer car so he has reliable transportation to his new job.
  Sometimes life sucks. Nothing will put a damper on our excitement to meet our son in 12 short weeks or less. It will all be worth it

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• hplunkett2883 member

  September 2015

  I started a job the day after I found out I was pregnant. Now after being there for 6 months I have realized it is a job from hell and I am putting in my notice this week. Plus we plan on moving shortly after the first of the year. Life changing events...

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• haylierm member

  September 2015

  My parents in law are very horrible people. They both suffer mental illness imo but refuse to acknowledge or seek help. Over the years they have done many horrible hurtful things. Stealing money, saying hurtful things when money is refused, lying, trying to turn family members against each other. It caused a lot of problems when my husband and I were younger (high school sweethearts) but I've never tried anything like offering an ultimatum or being disrespectful to them or anything like that out of respect for my husband. Ever since we've been pregnant however, I have been much more honest about the things that bother me and the things that need to change if they are to be involved in our son's life. Well, to avoid writing a novel they basically blew the last straw recently. The mom made up lies and called the police and had the dad arrested. All kinds of madness. So basically my husband went to them and said get the help you need or our relationship is over. So they have been calling leaving messages basically trying to blackmail money out of us. They are making threats that they will steal, get police involved, call my husband's job to get him fired, etc. Obviously they are unfounded threats even if they acted on them they have nothing to back them up with. But its just so stressful to have this drama and makes me so sad for my husband that his parents would treat him that way. sorry so long, feels good to get some of it off my chest tho.

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• Melissadmag member

  September 2015

  Earlier this summer we bought our first house and moved in. The entire process was extremely intense emotionally and physically. 

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• Mizuiro007 member

  September 2015 edited September 2015

  Hubby was laid off a week after we found out about this pregnancy back in April. He worked any temp job he could over the summer while looking for a new job and finally started a new on a much lower pay and basically nonexistent benefits in September. He loved the new job until recently one of his coworkers has been getting into major trouble and he's afraid of being dragged down with him despite reassurance from supervisors.
  
  My dad has issues from past head traumas on top of being an addict. In the past few months he's maybe been sober enough days to total a week. When he isn't sober he experiences paranoia, hallucinations, delusions, extreme emotional fluctuations, cognitive impairment....and since I'm one of a few people still talking to him I get to see and hear a lot of it. I've also gotten calls from paramedics at his house which he then vehemently lies about. He calls and we talk and he doesn't remember so we'll have the same conversation five times a day, every day. I've been getting so stressed out I'm having almost daily BH which makes it hard taking care of an extremely active 11 month old.
  
  We moved toward the end of my last pregnancy and I didn't get much unpacked. We have boxes taking over most rooms and I've been spending any spare time I have sorting through them and trying to clean before this baby comes. Having to slow down a lot with the BH *and SPD I'm so worried I won't get enough done and I'm tired of living with it like it is.
  
  I worry about having insurance when baby comes. I worry about finances and if we can make it. Somehow things seem to always work out. We never have enough to be comfortable but we manage to get what we really need. Most importantly we have love.

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• Jeterpants member

  September 2015

  Approximately 2 months ago I started having severe pain in my rib cage. After spending 27 days in the hospital, undergoing numerous tests they cannot figure out whats wrong with me. They cannot run anymore testing safely until after I deliver the baby. Therefore I am now at home on bed rest, unable to work, on a feeding tube and taking numerous prescription meds, just treating the symptoms. I haven't eaten solid food since this all started as the pain seems to be triggered by eating. We are tapping into our savings far more than I ever wanted to since I can't work. The most stressful is not knowing whats wrong and how its affecting my baby with all the medication. Just praying everyday I can get to full term and that she comes out healthy and then hopefully they can figure out whats going on.

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• meansallison member

  September 2015

  My husband and I are both in the military. He is leaving in 2 weeks to be stationed in Virginia while I am still stationed in California. I won't be able to move out there until after LO is born. There is a very small chance that DH will be here for DS arrival. Because of this split 2 of our dogs are having to stay with my FIL until January. I hate that I am giving up my pups and husband for awhile. Luckily my in laws and friends are here so I still have a great support group with me!

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