2nd shower questions

Snoopylovesbelle · September 2015

My husband and I are throwing a shower for baby #2. There are so many great ideas for making showers unique while maximizing gift giving potential.

We are including a card for the registry, having a diaper raffle, and requesting books instead of cards.
I'm trying to decide how to include everything on the invite. Should I do separate cards or just list everything on the invite?

We are also requesting that gifts not be wrapped and guests include a thank you note and addressed envelope with stamp so it's easy for us to send out thank you notes after. Is this something anyone has done/seen?

Can't wait to shower this baby with love!! :x

jeanbug12 · September 2015

I am guessing this is MUD. Since all of that is a terrible idea. But while you are at it, could you just have the guests bring food too? Then you don't even have to spend money to feed guests!

nickilynn0516 · September 2015

I love the idea!

Just do a Facebook event and write all the instructions on there. That way you save on paper and stamps.

FinePlacentaPie · September 2015

*lurking*

This has to be TIC, right? To throw all of the worst baby shower ideas ever into one thread?

That's what I'm going with. Yep.

*lurker out*

fragglemom · September 2015

Do you really need to send thank you notes? Aren't you already thanking them at the shower? New moms don't have time for that stuff!

nickilynn0516 · September 2015

I believe it is @fineplacentapie

BTW Nice name!

Snoopylovesbelle · September 2015

Why is it all a terrible idea? :-??

ntyravgsp · September 2015

Since this is #2, you should also ask your guests to bring something small for your first kid so they don't feel left out/jealous of all the new baby stuff.

keshakdavis · September 2015

I don't think there is anything wrong with requesting books over cards. A friend of mine did that and the turn out was great!! If I were to have a shower I would request the same thing. What I would leave out is asking the guests to bring thank you cards with the stamped returns. No one wants to do that. I wouldn't. You can send thank you cards after the wedding, just make sure you have a way of knowing who brought what since you don't want the gifts wrapped. I'm curious to know why you don't want them wrapped.

Kelley421 · September 2015

I am glad you are throwing it yourselves, that way you get exactly what you want instead of relying on friends and family for the perfect shower!

ntyravgsp · September 2015

@keshakdavis could be that she thinks it's more environmentally friendly? Less waste/garbage from all the wrappings. I've seen it suggested before.

Krisdee123 · September 2015

Well and unwrapping gifts takes a lot of time to get to the good stuff.

Krisdee123 · September 2015

I do disagree with PP, you should supply food since people are bringing gifts. But you could ask guests to BYOB since you can't drink anyway.

Snoopylovesbelle · September 2015

I'm definitely supplying the food! I want people to want to come so we are having a very nice spread. Beer for the boys and sangria for the girls.

Snoopylovesbelle · September 2015

We have a lot of people coming so unwrapping everything will take forever and it seems like such a waste of paper etc.

Snoopylovesbelle · September 2015

A potluck is kind of a good idea though...hmmm

ambercakes92 · September 2015

Why would you throw your own baby shower, especially when you've already had a baby? I can understand having a party in celebration, but I think it's greedy that you're doing so much to minimize your costs/getting gifts and all the while maximizing your guests' costs (having them prepare their own thank you card...really? If you can't get your own thank you card, how sincere can you really be?)

ambercakes92 · September 2015

krisdee123 said:
I do disagree with PP, you should supply food since people are bringing gifts. But you could ask guests to BYOB since you can't drink anyway.

It was sarcasm.

UptownPearl · September 2015

Emily post will be rolling in her grave! But then again, if she is in a grave, does that mean some of her etiquette rules could be outdated? And since times have changed SO much and everyone has a different situation, how do we know how to tell people what to do? Maybe I'm just overthinking this and we should just stick everyone in the same box since there's no such thing as a gray area. Now I'm so torn on whether to demand you do things the way I say is right and letting you be an adult capable of making her own decisions!

AlabamaWorley · September 2015

Why is everyone being so rude to the OP? It's her special day to celebrate her baby, can't anyone be supportive anymore. Saying it will be the worst shower ever is really mean. Good grief, some of you can be such bullies.

Krisdee123 · September 2015

ambercakes92 said:

krisdee123 said:
I do disagree with PP, you should supply food since people are bringing gifts. But you could ask guests to BYOB since you can't drink anyway.
It was sarcasm.

Ohhh, gee that went right over my head.

ntyravgsp · September 2015

AlabamaWorley said:
Why is everyone being so rude to the OP? It's her special day to celebrate her baby, can't anyone be supportive anymore. Saying it will be the worst shower ever is really mean. Good grief, some of you can be such bullies.

ambercakes92 · September 2015

OP I would ask for either a gift or for them to bring food, but not both.

mamaksweez · September 2015

OP you have so many great ideas! Diapers are a necessity and books are so great to have! Your first child could get use out of the books too!
I also really like the thank you card idea! I've seen it where people have you address your envelope, but not bring their own card. Good idea!

Snoopylovesbelle · September 2015

I was just thinking if they brought they own they would pick one they liked and be more likely to keep it instead of just tossing it after they open it. I was still going to write that actual thank you part.

Maybe I could do an email or Facebook thank you instead so I'm sticking with the not wasting paper theme.

Snoopylovesbelle · September 2015

Having a second shower because this baby is a boy and the first was a girl and everything we have is super girly so it would be nice to have boy stuff too

Snoopylovesbelle · September 2015

A potluck would ensure everyone would get food they liked right? Maybe just have everyone bring a side or appetizer and we will supply the main dish?

Snoopylovesbelle · September 2015

Man this is gonna be a long invitation or thick envelope. Does anyone have any suggestions how I word everything to fit on a invite or should each thing be on a card?

mamaksweez · September 2015

I think you could include all the date/time/place stuff on the card along with its a pot luck and, just add a note on the bottom that you're doing a diaper raffle. Then on a separate paper you could put your registry info, and on a different paper print out one of those cutesy poems about the book instead of a card thing.

Snoopylovesbelle · September 2015

Very true!
You guys have good ideas

ntyravgsp · September 2015

Scullahoo said:
Age does have its benefits! So the diaper raffle, I've never heard of one before, does it mean guests buy tickets to win a pack of diapers?

No, they bring diapers and get a raffle ticket for a prize!!

Snoopylovesbelle · September 2015

There's 2 ways to do it- the bring a pack and get a prize. Some people assign a size to each person and you are entered in that way.

Kelley421 · September 2015

Please educate me on what MUD and TIC stand for? I have not seen these.

ashhsa · September 2015

UptownPearl said:
Emily post will be rolling in her grave! But then again, if she is in a grave, does that mean some of her etiquette rules could be outdated? And since times have changed SO much and everyone has a different situation, how do we know how to tell people what to do? Maybe I'm just overthinking this and we should just stick everyone in the same box since there's no such thing as a gray area. Now I'm so torn on whether to demand you do things the way I say is right and letting you be an adult capable of making her own decisions!

This is the best. Sums it up perfectly.

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ccoleeman · September 2015

OP I would recommend having every guest write their own thank you card and address the envelope at the shower. It'll give them a super fun activity to do, and it'll solve your thank you note problem! Maybe even suggest BYOStamps

Also since you probably have some of the basic neutral baby stuff, you should probably add general household items to your registry. I mean, who says new bakeware for mom doesn't indirectly benefit the baby!

tinne004 · September 2015

Regarding the diaper raffle, you could request people only bring size 1-3. Because you'll barely need newborn size. Get the most bang for your guests' buck! And they better not cheap out and get generic brands! Someone gifted me a large box of WALMART diapers and I was soooo upset

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kaym6 · September 2015

As far as invites go I personally am a fan of a good old fashioned group text.

jeanbug12 · September 2015

Snoopylovesbelle said:
I was just thinking if they brought they own they would pick one they liked and be more likely to keep it instead of just tossing it after they open it. I was still going to write that actual thank you part.

Maybe I could do an email or Facebook thank you instead so I'm sticking with the not wasting paper theme.

You could just take a picture of all the unwrapped gifts, post to Facebook and tag your friends with a "thanks for the ....". Then you get to save paper and time and you can show off the gifts you didn't open at the shower.

Snoopylovesbelle · September 2015

Pampers for the win!

Snoopylovesbelle · September 2015

I was thinking of putting the vacuum i wanted on the registry and a cleaning service...too much?

babybluu · September 2015

I second the group text idea or even the Facebook event idea. Those are always the classiest IMO. And if the invitation exceeds the character count it will just roll over into another message.

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