@carolinw- Awww, I wasn't trying to make you cry!! I'm sorry. Its tough on those emotional days though, I totally get it. I feel like I've had way more emotional days since we've been TTC than not. Or the silliest, stupidest thing will make me cry. Even if its a happy ending type thing, makes me tear up. You are right, your journey has not been as long as some of the others here, but that doesn't make it any less valid or mean that you aren't allowed to be frustrated. Shoot, we've only been TTC for 5 months over here, but its still hard for me. I've been 35 for almost a month now and I don't think that is helping any. My DH is going to be 43 in Oct and that lingers in the back of my mind as well. We had to wait to start TTC due to lots of different things so here we are. I've been thinking over the last few days that I'm mad at myself for not temping sooner and that I could have stopped using BC sooner and just been temping and paying attention to what was going on with my body. But I also am currently having anxiety trying to plan anything. Our anniversary is coming up and DH wants to do something but we wouldn't know if we got lucky this month until days before our actual anniversary. Not that there aren't plenty of things we could do even if we got a BFP but many of the things he's mentioned involve drinking.....So that's been tough for me because I feel like if I weren't temping, then I wouldn't even know what was going on and we could just do whatever. Sometimes too I think it would be fun to just be completely surprised when you get a BFP. But then I remind myself that FF says you have better chances of actually getting a BFP with well timed sex.
We all have our days or moments and you have to let yourself go through them.
If you don't work out already, I'd also highly recommend that too, its my best form of stress relief!
It is nice to have people to relate too because in real life, I don't have anybody to talk too about this stuff. I've been keeping DH out of most of the "how it works" to try to keep the pressure on his side low.
I would totally go away if you can!! I may vote that we celebrate our anniversary early over here due to the not knowing about the outcome of this cycle until such short notice. But, then again maybe that would be good reason to get away too. Have to see what happens. I don't think that we should really spend the kind of $$ DH has been talking about though, although it would be nice....we'll see. I've got a few other things in mind too.
And just a word of advice on the vineyards in VA- more than likely if you are going to try to stay overnight somewhere, chances are high that they are booked already and expensive, especially in the Charlottesville area. But its so gorgeous up there. And they have an apple orchard that we love going too, so I think we'll be making a day trip for sure just for that.
Testing Plans: ** opinions requested** I have a 12 day LP, which makes my testing date the 24th. HOWEVER, I coincidentally have a long-scheduled gyno checkup on the 23rd. Should I ask them to test me, or test myself in the morning before the appointment? I'm trying to figure out what would emotionally be better. I'm leaning towards testing myself so I don't get my hopes up that the nurse will bring me good news. What do you ladies think?
Rant/Rave/Chart Stalk: Last month I really got my hopes up, and then let them crash towards the second half of the TWW. This month I have been so busy that I haven't had time to obsess as much, and I feel pretty neutral. Chart seems normal. Eh.
GTKY: What was your first concert and what was your last concert? First concert was N*Sync!!! Last was Taylor Swift and I just recently saw Kristin Chenoweth too.
@rosenyc123- I would totally test yourself first before going to the dr. What if it was a BFN and you got upset at the dr. office? I"m sure its nothing they haven't seen before, but, I would want to know before I went in.
@rosenyc123 I would test before you go as well if it were me. Then you will have time with your emotions first either way. I would still mention to the doctor that you might be KU as well though and a test there can be confirmation of what you already know.
Story to share. I just had a very sweet exchange with DH. Yesterday we were talking about the TWW stress and he said he feels it two and he's excited to know. So I told him we have to wait 8 more days to test (I plan on testing 11DPO if I don't get my normal spotting ). This afternoon he texted me asking if when I said we have to wait 8 days if I meant until we test or until we buy the "pee sticks" then wait a couple more days?" I said "8 days till I wanna test but some get positives at 9 days after O" he replies "we need to go buy pee sticks in bulk from the dollar store" I said you wanna know ASAP huh?" And he said "if there's a chance it could be positive it's worth the money... I want a family". ...... Dude...... Tears!!!
Testing Plans: I got a faint positive on 2 wondfos this morning within the time frame, FRER was negative. I've been having some light pink/brown spotting with creamy CM for the past 2 days. Trying not to get my hopes up but that's not working very well. Testing again in the am.
Rant/Rave/Chart Stalk: My temp been staying up so far, I hope it stays up tomorrow.
GTKY: I'm not much of a concert person but I love a good music festival.
Testing Plans: I'm going to try not to POAS still the 23rd which should be 14DPO. My temp dipped down a bit today so if it keeps going down or stays lower I probably won't POAS till AF is a week late.
Rant/Rave/Chart Stalk: It has just been such a rough month. At the start of my FW DH and I had to travel for his cousin's wedding. We were sharing a hotel room with his brother so definitely no BD. The night before we went home my BIL went out and got wasted, was too drunk to get himself back to the hotel and when DH went to try to get him back safely he tried to fight DH. Somehow DH broke his foot in the whole mess and BIL broke a hand. DH was in pain and upset afterwards and not in the mood to BD. We got to BD once on my supposed O day (although I think it was likely O+1 because it was the day of the temp spike. FF gave me a solid line showing it as my O day though so who knows). We were planning to BD the next day just to be sure but I woke up to a phone call that my grandpa had passed away suddenly and unexpectedly during the night. I was very close to my grandpa and was absolutely devastated by the news. Needless to say I was too upset to BD and we had to get things together to travel cross country for the wake and funeral. I missed some days temping with everything going on also. If this somehow ended up being the cycle my due date would be right around my grandpa's birthday.
GTKY: What was your first concert and what was your last concert? First was Reliant K. They were performing at a friend's church and my mother felt like that was safe enough for me to go. Last was.... I honestly don't even remember. Some local band that had recently gotten some small national fame I think but I can't think of their name.
Best thread ever! Pumped to see all these BFP and makes me so anxious to test on Monday! I also ***TW*** just heard from my BFF that she is 5 weeks pregnant!!!! I would love to be pregnant together! Fingers crossed I get to join you all in the 1st trimester board!
Me - 33; DH - 33 Dating 1/18/06 Married 9/21/13 BFP #1 12/15/15 - C Born 8/27/16 BFP #2 1/10/20 - EDD 9/8/20
@carolinw even though I'm a newbie to this, I can def say that TTC is an emotional roller coaster, and I want to give you a big internet hug! This isn't an easy time. Maybe you can sit down with DH and tell him how you feel, and come up with activities/ways to spend time together that take both of your minds off of TTC.
Month/Cycle: 1/1
CD/DPO: 29/? ( I give up guessing without temps for this cycle)
Timing: ? (gave up guessing relationship to dpo)
Testing Plans: I've peed on many sticks and they all give the same response... No
Rant/Rave/Chart Stalk: So I'm extremely frustrated with my body no AF and no BFP like WTF. I can literally count like 2x in my life when I've missed AF. AF has been a monthly regular since the beginning. I'm also concerned that the stress I've put on myself in TTC is what is making me all wonky with these wild mood swings. I'm hoping I get my AF tonight. I just need this cycle to be over.
Good news is I temped for the first time this morning and used an OPK, just to get used to it. Getting ready to transition to WTO board tomorrow as I'm positive i'm not pregnant. It's been very exciting to see all the BFPs it's encouraging to know that temping etc… has resulted in literally positive results for you all.
GTKY: What was your first concert and what was your last concert? First concert Jay-Z and last concert No Doubt (yes it's been a very long time since I've been to a concert )
Wow! What a wonderful day for all of BFP! After having a really long day and another 2 people asking when I'm going to have children...it's made me feel so positive about the future! FX for all of us this month
***chart stalk *****
Month/Cycle: 3/3
CD/DPO: 19/2
Timing: All of the days
Testing Plans: I want to hold out until at least 10 DPO
Rant/Rave/Chart Stalk: so this is my first month of temping a due to the speradic temps....I've decided to swap to vaginally. I don't yet have CH but I'm pretty sure I've ovulated. This was a few days later than last month but I think I had my dates wrong as I based it on positive OPK and not temp rise. Do you think I've ovulated?
GTKY: What was your first concert and what was your last concert? Spice Girls and Alicia Keys
CD/DPO: CD 37, not sure what DPO because I started in the middle of the month, but this is my longest cycle yet.
Timing: hopefully -4, -2, 0, +1
Testing Plans: I'm taking a test in the morning. I'm trying sooo hard not to take it tonight, but I know the morning will be more accurate!
Rant/Rave/Chart Stalk: I'm still trying to figure this whole temping thing out, but my temperature rose slightly today. I hope that's a good thing. I've been reading the FF tutorials and looking at other people's charts, so I'm starting to figure out how this works.
GTKY: What was your first concert and what was your last concert? My first concert was Brittany Spears when I was in 4th grade. She was still doing the school girl act. My last concert was The Avett Brothers and Old Crow Medicine Show. I love them both, but Old Crow stole the show!
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
Holy moley! Congratulations ladies!!! Remember in early September how we said that August was pretty disappointing for most of us and we hoped Sept would be a better month?! Well here we go!
me 30; DH 35 TTC since May 2014. Aug 2014 BFP, EDD April 22, 2015. Low progesterone, started suppositories. Loss at 5w6d. Nov 19, 2015 BFP at 13 dpo, EDD July 29, 2016. MMC discovered 12/29 (9+4). Natural miscarriage 1/16 (12+1). AMH results 0.42, 1.2; FSH 12.1, AFC 10, dx DOR. RPL testing results normal. Nurse recommended progesterone suppositories in TWW. Clomid + trigger + TI cycle August 2016 - failed. Thin lining. Femara + trigger + TI cycle December 2016 - failed. Thin lining. Short LP (8 days). Acupuncture & Chinese herbs starting January 2017, lengthened LP to 10 days
@rosenyc123 What do you think would be easiest on YOU? Would you rather know in the morning and have the chance to face your disappointment in private, or would you be alright with trying to hold it together hearing it from the doctor (IF it's a BFN). I, personally, would probably feel better about knowing before hand....but I don't like crying in front of people either, so yea.
Wow I'm gone all day and missed all these BFPs! Congrats ladies!!!!!!
Month/Cycle: 2/2
CD/DPO: 20/3?
Timing: -3, -2, 0, 1
Testing Plans: trying to hold out until 10
Rant/Rave/Chart Stalk: I got dotted crosshairs today, I think due to the fact that I'm having watery cm and my cervix is still high!
GTKY: What was your first concert and what was your last concert? First concert hmm....sounds dorky, but Transiberian Orchestra! Last concert was country fest two years with Kenny Chesney.
I got my final answer just 30 minutes ago AF arrived! Officially off to the WTO threads, but I'll continue lurking to see all these wonderful BFPs, who knows maybe it'll be me next cycle. I'm hopeful
Um, can we officially record September 17th, 2015 as the best TTGP day ever?? It has made me smile thinking about how excited our bump ladies have to be tonight. And how they are sharing these moments with the daddies-to-be. Gives me hope and excitement.
Month/cycle: 6
CD/DPO: 24/5
Timing: -3,-1,0
Testing plans: 10 (maayyybbbbee 9 because I have so many wondfos, and I'm used to bfns)
Rant/Rave/Chart Stalk: had cramps allll day yesterday, but feel fine today, and no AF! Hallelujah. No clue what that was, but as long as it wasn't AF, I'm cool. Drinking wine on the porch after what could only be described as one of the worst work days I've ever had. Only one glass, just incase. All these BFPs have made my day better though.
Married 2011
TTC #1 since April 2015
Fur child: One awesome Golden Retriever IUI August 2016 : Cancelled due to polyp September 2016: Polyp removal/hysteroscopy October 2016: IUI #1- BFN November 2016: IUI #2- BFN December 2016: IUI #3 - BFN January/February 2017 - IVF + ICSI + PGD March 2017 - FET
Honorable mentions: Biggest IF support sister, sweetest bumpie, most genuine, LFAFer you'd most like to visit, great things come in small packages, pocket sized babe
Re: TWW Thursday
Month/Cycle: 4/4
CD/DPO: 24/ 6 DPO
Timing: -4, -3, -1, O, O+1, O+2
Testing Plans: ** opinions requested** I have a 12 day LP, which makes my testing date the 24th. HOWEVER, I coincidentally have a long-scheduled gyno checkup on the 23rd. Should I ask them to test me, or test myself in the morning before the appointment? I'm trying to figure out what would emotionally be better. I'm leaning towards testing myself so I don't get my hopes up that the nurse will bring me good news. What do you ladies think?
Rant/Rave/Chart Stalk: Last month I really got my hopes up, and then let them crash towards the second half of the TWW. This month I have been so busy that I haven't had time to obsess as much, and I feel pretty neutral. Chart seems normal. Eh.
GTKY: What was your first concert and what was your last concert? First concert was N*Sync!!! Last was Taylor Swift and I just recently saw Kristin Chenoweth too.
I just had a very sweet exchange with DH. Yesterday we were talking about the TWW stress and he said he feels it two and he's excited to know. So I told him we have to wait 8 more days to test (I plan on testing 11DPO if I don't get my normal spotting
...... Dude...... Tears!!!
CD/DPO: 25/10
Timing: -3 , -2, -1, 0, +1
Testing Plans: I got a faint positive on 2 wondfos this morning within the time frame, FRER was negative. I've been having some light pink/brown spotting with creamy CM for the past 2 days. Trying not to get my hopes up but that's not working very well. Testing again in the am.
Rant/Rave/Chart Stalk: My temp been staying up so far, I hope it stays up tomorrow.
GTKY: I'm not much of a concert person but I love a good music festival.
Holy BFPs, Batman! Congratulations @wellinaustin, @pooputtette, @mrstmoose, @oandmplus1, and @Jadore6132!!!!
ETA: lurker status
CD/DPO: 44/8
Timing: O x1
Testing Plans: I'm going to try not to POAS still the 23rd which should be 14DPO. My temp dipped down a bit today so if it keeps going down or stays lower I probably won't POAS till AF is a week late.
Rant/Rave/Chart Stalk: It has just been such a rough month. At the start of my FW DH and I had to travel for his cousin's wedding. We were sharing a hotel room with his brother so definitely no BD. The night before we went home my BIL went out and got wasted, was too drunk to get himself back to the hotel and when DH went to try to get him back safely he tried to fight DH. Somehow DH broke his foot in the whole mess and BIL broke a hand. DH was in pain and upset afterwards and not in the mood to BD. We got to BD once on my supposed O day (although I think it was likely O+1 because it was the day of the temp spike. FF gave me a solid line showing it as my O day though so who knows). We were planning to BD the next day just to be sure but I woke up to a phone call that my grandpa had passed away suddenly and unexpectedly during the night. I was very close to my grandpa and was absolutely devastated by the news. Needless to say I was too upset to BD and we had to get things together to travel cross country for the wake and funeral. I missed some days temping with everything going on also. If this somehow ended up being the cycle my due date would be right around my grandpa's birthday.
GTKY: What was your first concert and what was your last concert? First was Reliant K. They were performing at a friend's church and my mother felt like that was safe enough for me to go. Last was.... I honestly don't even remember. Some local band that had recently gotten some small national fame I think but I can't think of their name.
Chart (hopefully this works)
Edited to add: Congratulations to the ladies who got their BFP this week!
TTC#1: January 2015- September 2016
Infertility, Recurrent Pregnancy Loss
Rainbow baby born June 6, 2017 ❤️
Baby #2 due June 12, 2018
Wow congrats to all the girls who got their BFP!!!! Giving hope!!!
H&H 9 months!
BFP#1 & MC:August 2015 BFP: #2 10/01/2015 MC: 10/09/2015 BFP #3: 12/22/2015 @ 5 weeks MC/CP: 12-23-2015
Fertility Appointment: Feb 23/16, Hysteroscopy 03/02/2016,
BFP #4: 03/31/16 EDD 12/01/2016
Formerly: FtrMrsO
Me: 34 DH: 35
Married: Oct. 2007
TTC #1: June 2015
BFP#1 3/19/16 MC 3/28/16
BFP #2 5/26/16 EDD 1/31/17
Me - 33; DH - 33Dating 1/18/06
Married 9/21/13
BFP #1 12/15/15 - C Born 8/27/16
BFP #2 1/10/20 - EDD 9/8/20
FX @MoonPie701!
Month/Cycle: 3/3
CD/DPO: 23/9
Timing: -4, -2, 0
Testing Plans: probably around the 23rd but all these BFP's makes me wanna try today!!
Rant/Rave/Chart Stalk: I am home super sick with my 1 year old. My husband is working out of town. It's going to be a rough couple of days!!
GTKY: What was your first concert and what was your last concert? My first concert was Chicago and my last was Willie Nelson! (Gawd, I'm old!!)
CD/DPO: 29/? ( I give up guessing without temps for this cycle)
Timing: ? (gave up guessing relationship to dpo)
Testing Plans: I've peed on many sticks and they all give the same response... No
Rant/Rave/Chart Stalk: So I'm extremely frustrated with my body no AF and no BFP like WTF. I can literally count like 2x in my life when I've missed AF. AF has been a monthly regular since the beginning. I'm also concerned that the stress I've put on myself in TTC is what is making me all wonky with these wild mood swings. I'm hoping I get my AF tonight. I just need this cycle to be over.
***chart stalk *****
Month/Cycle: 3/3
CD/DPO: 19/2
Timing: All of the days
Testing Plans: I want to hold out until at least 10 DPO
Rant/Rave/Chart Stalk: so this is my first month of temping a due to the speradic temps....I've decided to swap to vaginally. I don't yet have CH but I'm pretty sure I've ovulated. This was a few days later than last month but I think I had my dates wrong as I based it on positive OPK and not temp rise. Do you think I've ovulated?
GTKY: What was your first concert and what was your last concert? Spice Girls and Alicia Keys
CD/DPO: CD 37, not sure what DPO because I started in the middle of the month, but this is my longest cycle yet.
Timing: hopefully -4, -2, 0, +1
Testing Plans: I'm taking a test in the morning. I'm trying sooo hard not to take it tonight, but I know the morning will be more accurate!
Rant/Rave/Chart Stalk: I'm still trying to figure this whole temping thing out, but my temperature rose slightly today. I hope that's a good thing. I've been reading the FF tutorials and looking at other people's charts, so I'm starting to figure out how this works.
GTKY: What was your first concert and what was your last concert? My first concert was Brittany Spears when I was in 4th grade. She was still doing the school girl act. My last concert was The Avett Brothers and Old Crow Medicine Show. I love them both, but Old Crow stole the show!
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
Can ya'll give me a sip of whatever you're drinking?! Congrats and h&h 9 months to you all!
(Edited to add response)
@missthumpa I would guess day 17. If you put a high temp in there for tomorrow, does it give you your CHs?
TTC #1 off and on since 2010
11/15 - Clomid + TI = BFN
12/15 - Clomid + TI = BFN
1/16 - Clomid + IUI = BFN
2/16 - Clomid + IUI = BFN
4/16 - Follistim + IUI = BFN
5/16 - 11/16 - Life / WTFing / Pity Party / Saving $
1/17 - IVF #1 (Fresh Transfer / 6 frosties) = BFN
3/17 - FET.... BFP! EDD 11/29
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
Congrats to all the BFPs!!!
TTC since May 2014.
Aug 2014 BFP, EDD April 22, 2015. Low progesterone, started suppositories. Loss at 5w6d.
Nov 19, 2015 BFP at 13 dpo, EDD July 29, 2016. MMC discovered 12/29 (9+4). Natural miscarriage 1/16 (12+1).
AMH results 0.42, 1.2; FSH 12.1, AFC 10, dx DOR.
RPL testing results normal. Nurse recommended progesterone suppositories in TWW.
Clomid + trigger + TI cycle August 2016 - failed. Thin lining.
Femara + trigger + TI cycle December 2016 - failed. Thin lining.
Short LP (8 days).
Acupuncture & Chinese herbs starting January 2017, lengthened LP to 10 days
Summer 2016 LFAF awards:
Winter 2016/2017 LFAF awards:
Me: 28 DH: 33
DD: Born 7/30/13, 2 years old
TTC #2: August 2015
Congratulations @wellinaustin, @pooputtette, @mrstmoose, @oandmplus1, and @Jadore6132!!!
Month/cycle: 6
CD/DPO: 24/5
Timing: -3,-1,0
Testing plans: 10 (maayyybbbbee 9 because I have so many wondfos, and I'm used to bfns)
Rant/Rave/Chart Stalk: had cramps allll day yesterday, but feel fine today, and no AF! Hallelujah. No clue what that was, but as long as it wasn't AF, I'm cool. Drinking wine on the porch after what could only be described as one of the worst work days I've ever had. Only one glass, just incase. All these BFPs have made my day better though.
IUI August 2016 : Cancelled due to polyp
September 2016: Polyp removal/hysteroscopy
October 2016: IUI #1- BFN
November 2016: IUI #2- BFN
December 2016: IUI #3 - BFN
January/February 2017 - IVF + ICSI + PGD
March 2017 - FET
3/2015: Start TTC
8/2015: PCOS Dx
4/2016: BFP, Loss (4+5)
2/2017: BFP
Honorable mentions: Biggest IF support sister, sweetest bumpie, most genuine, LFAFer you'd most like to visit, great things come in small packages, pocket sized babe