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edited September 2015 in April 2016 Moms
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  • littlesockslittlesocks member
    If you're going to have children you should do the best you can to put money away for their higher education.

    And no, I don't think just because money was set aside for college means the kid has to go. That's up to them. Helping them if they want to go doesn't mean they have to go.
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    I hate spaghetti! It's disgusting! I hated it before being pregnant.....now, I can't even stand the sound of it being eaten, let alone the smell....but honestly, I think it's a worthless entree dish.  
    Also, disinfectant spray as a fix-all.  Wash your stuff, or at least wipe it with a bleach wipe.  Spray is too sporadic.  And lazy.    
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  • AEG84AEG84 member
    briterfly84 said:
    I hate spaghetti! It's disgusting! I hated it before being pregnant.....now, I can't even stand the sound of it being eaten, let alone the smell....but honestly, I think it's a worthless entree dish.  
    Also, disinfectant spray as a fix-all.  Wash your stuff, or at least wipe it with a bleach wipe.  Spray is too sporadic.  And lazy.    
    Oh man, that is definitely an unpopular opinion with me. I've eaten spaghetti almost every day this week! Yummmm

    @pinottoparenthood, we've got several of those in my family. Some who claim it happened more than once. Damn, people, if it failed the first time, maybe you should do something different/more permanent if you don't want more! That said, I have read a few stories on TB about women getting KU while on depo or other low-user-error methods. So I know it does happen.
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    imrachellea said:

    I'm a Republican and I am terrified if Donald Trump wins the nomination. I don't know HOW he is winning the popularity right now...*sigh*

    Can we be best friends?
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  • AmadorRoseAmadorRose member
    @pinottoparenthood - I'm going to agree and add that if my parents could afford to feed, clothe, and shelter SIX children while making next to nothing, you're probably doing it wrong if you say you can't afford it. They don't believe in b/c because of their religion; after number 5 they started using condoms and still managed to have me. They went without vacations, nice cars, dental insurance, pretty much anything they ever *wanted* to be sure we all had what we NEEDED. I'm lucky to have insurance that covers literally everything with no OOP, but you best believe that my children need college funds and nutritious food way more than I'll ever need a manicure.
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  • AmadorRoseAmadorRose member
    My UO is that it should not be so difficult to fire DOD civilians. I'm surrounded by incompetent people who care more about their sweet paycheck than they do about providing adequate care for service members, who are incidentally the reasons they have jobs to begin with. They're also really, really sensitive and I just can't work with people who get hurt feelings so easily.
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  • AmadorRoseAmadorRose member
    mrstrax said:

    imrachellea said:

    I'm a Republican and I am terrified if Donald Trump wins the nomination. I don't know HOW he is winning the popularity right now...*sigh*

    Ditto. I kinda wish we could do caucus' survivor style and vote him off the island early. I'm still waiting for him to get the nomination and then be like "sucks to suck, I'm still a democrat and Hillary and I planned it all along".
    I totally thought of the hunger games at first..now THAT would be quality entertainment.
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  • AGK2015AGK2015 member
    I kind of admire Kim Kardashian's business sense; it takes a lot of savvy to build the sort of personal brand that she's created. Oh, and I think Kanye West is pretty damn talented.  I don't necessarily think they're the pleasantest of people, and I still won't watch Keeping Up With The Kardashians, but I'm not going to hate on them either.
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  • littlesockslittlesocks member
    erind228 said:

    I can't stand people who name their kid one thing, and the call them by a completely different name. Not like a derivative of the name, like Meg instead of Margaret or Rick for Richard. More like:" hi my name is Charlie, but I go by Brad." Why not just name your kid Brad then? Maybe this is a teacher pet peeve of mine, but I find it annoying.

    I've seen this happen when the boy is a junior and they go by their middle name instead to eliminate confusion
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  • Tippy05Tippy05 member
    littlesocks said:
    I can't stand people who name their kid one thing, and the call them by a completely different name. Not like a derivative of the name, like Meg instead of Margaret or Rick for Richard. More like:" hi my name is Charlie, but I go by Brad." Why not just name your kid Brad then? Maybe this is a teacher pet peeve of mine, but I find it annoying.
    I've seen this happen when the boy is a junior and they go by their middle name instead to eliminate confusion
    This is kind of what happened to my dad.  He and his dad have the same name, so my dad always went by the nickname version of his middle name growing up. 
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  • erind228erind228 member
    edited September 2015
    I can get the whole jr. Thing. I'm talking more like the kid just goes by their middle name. Like I have a kid named Harley, but he goes by Cody. I also have a William, but he goes by Brad. No jr. attached to their name. I also have a girl named Alexis in class, but she goes by Coryn. (Yes, spelled like that)

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  • pinottoparenthoodpinottoparenthood member
    @erind228 I'm a teacher and agree too! And kids who go by their middle names... why not just make that their first name then? I don't get it. 
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    pinottoparenthood said:

    @erind228 I'm a teacher and agree too! And kids who go by their middle names... why not just make that their first name then? I don't get it. 

    Thank you!!! :)
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  • AEG84AEG84 member
    pinottoparenthood said:
    @erind228 I'm a teacher and agree too! And kids who go by their middle names... why not just make that their first name then? I don't get it. 
    My brother goes by his middle name (well, an abbreviated version). Dad is Leigh Craig, goes by Leigh (yes, spelled that way). Brother is Leigh Clinton, goes by Clint. Parents wanted to use Leigh to carry on a family name, but didn't want both to be called Leigh. Some of the examples @erind228 gave are a bit baffling, though!
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  • pinottoparenthoodpinottoparenthood member
    AEG84 said:
    pinottoparenthood said:
    @erind228 I'm a teacher and agree too! And kids who go by their middle names... why not just make that their first name then? I don't get it. 
    My brother goes by his middle name (well, an abbreviated version). Dad is Leigh Craig, goes by Leigh (yes, spelled that way). Brother is Leigh Clinton, goes by Clint. Parents wanted to use Leigh to carry on a family name, but didn't want both to be called Leigh. Some of the examples @erind228 gave are a bit baffling, though!
    I can get that... I mean at least there's an actual reason. Still, I would personally prefer to give my child the name that he or she will go by! (Sidenote, Leigh is my middle name :-D)

    In fact, the name I LOVED for my son was Max... but I just wanted to name him "Max" because that was what he would be called, and my husband REFUSED to name him a "nickname". I didn't really like any of the longer versions, so it got vetoed in the end.
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  • pinottoparenthoodpinottoparenthood member
    I can see both sides of the college fund thing. My parents helped me some with college, but I went to a public state university and a pretty inexpensive grad school, and I graduated with $50,000 debt. And I'm a teacher. In North Carolina. Making 30k a year from now until forever. So on the one hand, it really sucks... and I am so jealous of my husband whose parents paid for his college in full. However, I am grateful that my parents did what they could, and we ARE paying the loans back. I am blessed that my husband makes good money... if it were just me, I don't know WHAT I would do. I hope to be able to help my son with college, but I don't think *some* student loans are all bad. Still, I shudder to think how expensive college will be by the time he is going... and I don't want my children to end up in a situation where they can't afford to pay back their loans. I don't think there's enough education and understanding about what it truly means to borrow that much money. I really didn't get it when I was in college.

    Also, if I had money in a college fund and my child decided not to go to college, I would NOT give that money to him or her.... down the road I might consider it if it was for something towards building his career/future, but not just like oh you're not going? Here's your college fund money then. Nope nope nope. Now if he was trying to start a business or something, then I could see letting him put some money into that. But honestly, I would be devastated if any of my kids chose not to go to college.
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  • olivemommaolivemomma member
    I think if you expect your kids to go onto college (as we do) you should be prepared to cover the costs. It's not fair to ask them to take on the debt of heaven knows how much higher education will be by the time our kids are 18. I will also likely give my child a phone at the appropriate age and a safe used car when she learns to drive. I don't think being given these things means a child can't appreciate the value of hard work and has to take everything for granted. There are many ways to teach them that. My own op is I don't find Channing Tatum all that attractive. My girlfriends think he is the sexiest man and I just can't get on board.
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  • minorfall27minorfall27 member
    pinottoparenthood said:
    I don't think people should have a child if they aren't relatively financially prepared. There was a post a week or two ago about affording bills for doctor visits/childbirth... I'm sorry, but if you can't even afford to give birth, how are you going to afford to raise a child? I know that not everyone is wealthy, and some people make it work on a shoestring budget, and that is awesome... but I would venture to say that those people have planned financially maybe even more than the well-to-do family that doesn't have to worry too much about money.

    I just don't understand why you would bring a child to the world if you can't support him or her.

    And along those lines, I think people who "accidentally" get pregnant are full of BS about 99.9% of the time, since birth control fails about .01% of the time. I hate when people complain about getting pregnant when they "weren't trying".... if you're not reliably and consistently using birth control, it's not an accident. It's called carelessness.
    I don't know.  I can see myself complaining about a super-high and somewhat-unexpected lab bills, etc.  Doesn't mean I can't "afford" them.  Just kind of means that...I can't believe I'm having to pay hundreds of dollars for *routine* lab work.  I can see myself complaining in a, "Pregnancy is a VERY normal thing.  Why is it so damn expensive in this day and age?"

    Also, got pregnant while preventing, with my first.  It happens.  Although the birth control I was on has a failure rate a bit higher than normal, it was the only OBC I could take.  I was on it successfully for 3 years.  Was EXTREMELY careful.  If I missed a pill by more than an hour, we would abstain for 3 days.  Just a different point of view.  I was not careless.  I was reliably and consistently using birth control.  It still happened.
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  • AmadorRoseAmadorRose member
    @olivemama - for what it's worth, my parents offered to pay for my college to keep me from joining the army. I refused and will have my BA by May, two years later than many of the people I graduated with. I've taken classes online from the other side of the globe, from the field where I've only had my phone to type assignments, and I promise you that I appreciate my education and the opportunities it will afford me because I earned them. I'm not saying there can't be a balance, but because of the radical shift in income my parents have experienced since I was a kid, I feel that all a person needs to be successful is ambition. It would have been nice to have my education paid for without having to do anything in return; however, I can promise you that I would've still worked, then spent all my money drinking and spring breaking. Instead I had to put my head on straight and do it myself, because no one was going to do it for me.
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  • CCLow87CCLow87 member
    If you're going to have an opinion and spread it around, at least know what you're talking about. IE: My opinion on vaccines is that I do them because my doctor says to. I don't debate them with people, bc I'm pretty uninformed. (I have a jillion other things I'm passionate about, I had to pick and choose.. lol) But don't go misconstruing things like facts and freaking people out when it's quite obvious that you don't know what you're talking about. 

    This is my UO: not directed at anyone here! 

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  • pinottoparenthoodpinottoparenthood member
    minorfall27 said:
    pinottoparenthood said:
    I don't think people should have a child if they aren't relatively financially prepared. There was a post a week or two ago about affording bills for doctor visits/childbirth... I'm sorry, but if you can't even afford to give birth, how are you going to afford to raise a child? I know that not everyone is wealthy, and some people make it work on a shoestring budget, and that is awesome... but I would venture to say that those people have planned financially maybe even more than the well-to-do family that doesn't have to worry too much about money.

    I just don't understand why you would bring a child to the world if you can't support him or her.

    And along those lines, I think people who "accidentally" get pregnant are full of BS about 99.9% of the time, since birth control fails about .01% of the time. I hate when people complain about getting pregnant when they "weren't trying".... if you're not reliably and consistently using birth control, it's not an accident. It's called carelessness.
    I don't know.  I can see myself complaining about a super-high and somewhat-unexpected lab bills, etc.  Doesn't mean I can't "afford" them.  Just kind of means that...I can't believe I'm having to pay hundreds of dollars for *routine* lab work.  I can see myself complaining in a, "Pregnancy is a VERY normal thing.  Why is it so damn expensive in this day and age?"

    Also, got pregnant while preventing, with my first.  It happens.  Although the birth control I was on has a failure rate a bit higher than normal, it was the only OBC I could take.  I was on it successfully for 3 years.  Was EXTREMELY careful.  If I missed a pill by more than an hour, we would abstain for 3 days.  Just a different point of view.  I was not careless.  I was reliably and consistently using birth control.  It still happened.
    I don't think complaining about a bill is the same thing as not being able to financially support a child. I don't really have a problem with that, aside from too much complaining is annoying :-)

    Also, I didn't say it doesn't happen... just that it's really rare, and the majority of people who claim birth control failure really weren't using it the way they should have been. There are exceptions of course, but statistically there are not NEARLY as many birth control fail babies as people claim. It's just not statistically possible. If you're not taking your pill at the exact same time every day or whatever, you're not using it correctly. (Not saying YOU, just using a generic you like people in general).
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  • pinottoparenthoodpinottoparenthood member
    CCLow87 said:
    If you're going to have an opinion and spread it around, at least know what you're talking about. IE: My opinion on vaccines is that I do them because my doctor says to. I don't debate them with people, bc I'm pretty uninformed. (I have a jillion other things I'm passionate about, I had to pick and choose.. lol) But don't go misconstruing things like facts and freaking people out when it's quite obvious that you don't know what you're talking about. 

    This is my UO: not directed at anyone here! 
    The vaccine thing is honestly ridiculous to debate though. The fact is that thousands of people used to die from these diseases and now they don't. Because of vaccines. I just don't see how there is another side. Unless the child is immunocompromised or something like that of course.
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  • minorfall27minorfall27 member
    pinottoparenthood said:
    minorfall27 said:
    pinottoparenthood said:
    I don't think people should have a child if they aren't relatively financially prepared. There was a post a week or two ago about affording bills for doctor visits/childbirth... I'm sorry, but if you can't even afford to give birth, how are you going to afford to raise a child? I know that not everyone is wealthy, and some people make it work on a shoestring budget, and that is awesome... but I would venture to say that those people have planned financially maybe even more than the well-to-do family that doesn't have to worry too much about money.

    I just don't understand why you would bring a child to the world if you can't support him or her.

    And along those lines, I think people who "accidentally" get pregnant are full of BS about 99.9% of the time, since birth control fails about .01% of the time. I hate when people complain about getting pregnant when they "weren't trying".... if you're not reliably and consistently using birth control, it's not an accident. It's called carelessness.
    I don't know.  I can see myself complaining about a super-high and somewhat-unexpected lab bills, etc.  Doesn't mean I can't "afford" them.  Just kind of means that...I can't believe I'm having to pay hundreds of dollars for *routine* lab work.  I can see myself complaining in a, "Pregnancy is a VERY normal thing.  Why is it so damn expensive in this day and age?"

    Also, got pregnant while preventing, with my first.  It happens.  Although the birth control I was on has a failure rate a bit higher than normal, it was the only OBC I could take.  I was on it successfully for 3 years.  Was EXTREMELY careful.  If I missed a pill by more than an hour, we would abstain for 3 days.  Just a different point of view.  I was not careless.  I was reliably and consistently using birth control.  It still happened.
    I don't think complaining about a bill is the same thing as not being able to financially support a child. I don't really have a problem with that, aside from too much complaining is annoying :-)

    Also, I didn't say it doesn't happen... just that it's really rare, and the majority of people who claim birth control failure really weren't using it the way they should have been. There are exceptions of course, but statistically there are not NEARLY as many birth control fail babies as people claim. It's just not statistically possible. If you're not taking your pill at the exact same time every day or whatever, you're not using it correctly. (Not saying YOU, just using a generic you like people in general).
    Fair enough.  Kids are expensive, but damn them lab bills.  100 bucks to tell me I don't do drugs.  Thanks.  /sigh.

    I know what you mean, and it kind of bugs me, too, in a way.  I get lumped into that crew, you know?  So I feel like I have to...defend my unplanned pregnancy, if that makes sense.
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  • Ready4thePartyReady4theParty member
    I'll help child pay for college. We had a college fund set up for DD since she was born. However I will not pay for all of it.

    I went to college with several kids w h o didn't pay a dime and they were more social than studious. I would have killed to not care about failing a class.

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  • mccartramccartra member
    I didn't pay a dime for college, but I still worked hard, graduated summa cum laude and a year early from a top engineering school. Having school paid for does not mean your child will not value his/her education or not work as hard.

    That being said, I don't think it's a parents responsibility to cover the entire cost of college, but I am certainly glad mine did.
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  • pinottoparenthoodpinottoparenthood member
    I borrowed tons of money for my college and was more social than studious ;-) So it goes both ways.
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  • amidthenoiseamidthenoise member
    I work in college athletics and every single parent I speak with expects their child to receive a full or significant athletic scholarship. They do not want to pay for tuition nor do they think their child should...the parents turn down offers of admission to great schools because they didn't have a plan to pay for college. My experience is definitely unique but the parents I deal with most often get their kids in sports so someone else can pay for their child's college education. Drives me nuts.

    I just think there needs to be a discussion between the parent and the child on how they are going to make college affordable and then make a plan (parent pays, kid takes loans, plan for scholarships...). I see too many families who haven't even thought about it at all....
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  • AEG84AEG84 member
    mccartra said:
    I didn't pay a dime for college, but I still worked hard, graduated summa cum laude and a year early from a top engineering school. Having school paid for does not mean your child will not value his/her education or not work as hard. That being said, I don't think it's a parents responsibility to cover the entire cost of college, but I am certainly glad mine did.
    I also had everything paid for (and still had a nice chunk left over after for a house down payment). Graduated with a master's in 4 years total. Buuuuut on the flip side, my younger brother had the same deal (actually had more $ just due to timing). He was in school for the better part of 10 years - 2 undergrad degrees and a master's degree - and managed to accumulate over $50k in debt, which my parents basically paid off. He probably would have benefitted from a little less support. Obviously one size fits all doesn't really work in this situation :)
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