Wow....im speechless. I agree with the expectant mother that said she feels bad just by eating cheeseburgers and drinking caffeine. God Bless this innocent baby.
I don't need any help in quitting. It's already done! God is the only one who can judge me. He forgives me and that makes me good! I'm a great mom and work full time 50-60 hours per week. I don't have to explain myself to anyone. My doc knows what is going on and baby is perfectly fine and healthy. Both my oldest children are normal happy and healthy. We have a firm foundation and continue to grow! So thanks again ladies!
God may forgive you but that doesn't mean your child won't have developmental delays, and his/her life you'll have to worry if it's because of your choice to smoke pot while pregnant. I hope your LO is fine and the decision to quit is true.
and, as @redfallon said, anyone can judge you, and you're right, we do.
I don't need any help in quitting. It's already done! God is the only one who can judge me. He forgives me and that makes me good! I'm a great mom and work full time 50-60 hours per week. I don't have to explain myself to anyone. My doc knows what is going on and baby is perfectly fine and healthy. Both my oldest children are normal happy and healthy. We have a firm foundation and continue to grow! So thanks again ladies!
Cool. So you don't mind if I use every single method in my power to find out who you are and who your doctor is so that I can call CPS on you?
I am guessing her first name is Andrea. Just a hunch...
I don't need any help in quitting. It's already done! God is the only one who can judge me. He forgives me and that makes me good! I'm a great mom and work full time 50-60 hours per week. I don't have to explain myself to anyone. My doc knows what is going on and baby is perfectly fine and healthy. Both my oldest children are normal happy and healthy. We have a firm foundation and continue to grow! So thanks again ladies!
If your doctor knows what is going, on he/she is legally obligated to report you for smoking an illegal substance while pregnant. So, good luck with that.
This is not exactly accurate. The doctor is not obligated to report until the child is born. So even if the OB knows what is going on now, no report is mandated while the baby is in utero. Even with a positive test for marijuana at birth, many states will not remove the child from the mother's custody like they will with other drugs. One of my closest friends who has worked in child welfare for about a decade told me that (at least in this state) a positive test for marijuana by itself isn't enough. I want to make clear that I am in no way saying that smoking marijuana while pregnant is ok. In my opinion, it absolutely isn't. I would never do it. Not worth the risk. There is too much research to suggest the risks are very real and very little to suggest that the benefits outweigh the considerable risk.
I just wanted to clarify about reporting requirements and child welfare response because a lot of PPs suggest that positive marijuana test is enough to warrant immediate removal from a mother's custody when this is simply not the case in many states. Even if it should be. Here is an article that provides more details regarding reporting of positive drug use in mothers and how different states respond:
My SIL has 2 children. The first is fine an dandy,she gave up the weed when she found she was pregnant.
She didn't stop the second time around. She was a perfect pregnancy, doctor had no concerns with baby. Then when he was born, things were still good. Then he missed milestones, he didn't smile, he didn't interact, he doesn't talk, he won't play with other kids, h has been categorized a flight risk she has gone through a 1/ 2 dozen car seats cause he figures out how to unlock them, she has to put pad locks on her doors cause if he gets it open he is gone. He is almost 5 now, and has been diagnosed with autism.
Is it related to the weed she smoked while pregnant? No one will ever know for sure. But she has had multiple emotional breakdowns and blames herself and the smoking.
Is the risk really worth it? Are you prepared to accept the possibility of your child being affected. Do you want to feel that guilt that she fights with everyday?
I don't need any help in quitting. It's already done! God is the only one who can judge me. He forgives me and that makes me good! I'm a great mom and work full time 50-60 hours per week. I don't have to explain myself to anyone. My doc knows what is going on and baby is perfectly fine and healthy. Both my oldest children are normal happy and healthy. We have a firm foundation and continue to grow! So thanks again ladies!
So God is the only one who can judge you, and He forgives you for smoking pot while pregnant. How convenient. So, basically, you have no consequences for any of your actions? Alright.
Anyone else find themselves wondering if she was this irresponsible and smoked with her first 2 kids as well?
Also, just because the first two turned out ok, if she did smoke, that doesn't mean this one will. Such a big risk. I haven't taken anything for my severe chronic migraines more than twice this whole pregnancy out of fear for my child. Even with prescription drugs, they often learn years later that those believed to be safe actually aren't. I can't comprehend how someone can take a probably illegal, unregulated drug and not be terrified of the consequences (I say probably illegal since OP not once claimed to have a prescription).
I tried to not comment, and keep my judging to myself. But really, I'm only human. I judge people. God has the final judgment, but people on Earth still have the ability to judge. Also, there are these people referred to as "judges" whose job it is to do just that. Breaking the law, much less what is being done to that baby, lends the strong possibility to ending up in front of one of those persons.
OBs do not report your drug use, they are not obligated to do so because doing so may prevent women from seeking prenatal care. However neonates showing signs of distress and/or withdrawal will be tested and this information can be reported.
Ultimately, do what is right for your child. Just because studies don't show it is harmful yet, doesn't mean it isn't. We have thalidomide to pregnant women for nausea and look how that turned out.
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Re: Thanks but no thanks
I don't know about you, but I poop in her
and, as @redfallon said, anyone can judge you, and you're right, we do.
I just wanted to clarify about reporting requirements and child welfare response because a lot of PPs suggest that positive marijuana test is enough to warrant immediate removal from a mother's custody when this is simply not the case in many states. Even if it should be. Here is an article that provides more details regarding reporting of positive drug use in mothers and how different states respond:
https://m.acog.org/Resources-And-Publications/Committee-Opinions/Committee-on-Health-Care-for-Underserved-Women/Substance-Abuse-Reporting-and-Pregnancy-The-Role-of-the-Obstetrician-Gynecologist?IsMobileSet=true
That's all I have to say.
I love how I can find Friday gifs to respond to OP!
Cuz ya know they were high the whole movie....
She didn't stop the second time around. She was a perfect pregnancy, doctor had no concerns with baby. Then when he was born, things were still good. Then he missed milestones, he didn't smile, he didn't interact, he doesn't talk, he won't play with other kids, h has been categorized a flight risk she has gone through a 1/ 2 dozen car seats cause he figures out how to unlock them, she has to put pad locks on her doors cause if he gets it open he is gone. He is almost 5 now, and has been diagnosed with autism.
Is it related to the weed she smoked while pregnant? No one will ever know for sure. But she has had multiple emotional breakdowns and blames herself and the smoking.
Is the risk really worth it? Are you prepared to accept the possibility of your child being affected. Do you want to feel that guilt that she fights with everyday?
Edited because spelling is hard.
Jamie
Also, just because the first two turned out ok, if she did smoke, that doesn't mean this one will. Such a big risk. I haven't taken anything for my severe chronic migraines more than twice this whole pregnancy out of fear for my child. Even with prescription drugs, they often learn years later that those believed to be safe actually aren't. I can't comprehend how someone can take a probably illegal, unregulated drug and not be terrified of the consequences (I say probably illegal since OP not once claimed to have a prescription).
I tried to not comment, and keep my judging to myself. But really, I'm only human. I judge people. God has the final judgment, but people on Earth still have the ability to judge. Also, there are these people referred to as "judges" whose job it is to do just that. Breaking the law, much less what is being done to that baby, lends the strong possibility to ending up in front of one of those persons.
Ultimately, do what is right for your child. Just because studies don't show it is harmful yet, doesn't mean it isn't. We have thalidomide to pregnant women for nausea and look how that turned out.
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