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Was I supposed to...

1stComesLove4211stComesLove421 member
edited September 2015 in October 2015 Moms
I'm a bit confused by something. I received a random text from an old friend asking what date my shower will be on... I have a 1 year old girl and am expecting my 2nd girl. I thought the rule was only for the first child, not one per child (unless gender is different or it's been a really long time)... Guess my question is, has this rule changed? I told her no shower this year, and I'm happy with my choice just thrown off by why she would ask.

I'm sorry if this has already been asked.

* Thanks ladies! My mom and MIL are both very traditional, I love them both dearly. However it's great to be informed of what's happening in the modern world! Thank you!
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Re: Was I supposed to...

  • millereliz13millereliz13 member
    It appears to be different for different families and regions, but in my region/family, it's only first child that has a shower. You are fine.
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  • amberrmariee20amberrmariee20 member
    It all depends on where you live, and your family and your SO's family. Typically here we have baby showers for every baby regardless the sex or time span. But some people only believe in a shower for the first child. There isn't really any specifc rule book, just like every mother will parent her child different. To each their own.
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  • 1stComesLove4211stComesLove421 member
    amberrmariee20 said:

    It all depends on where you live, and your family and your SO's family. Typically here we have baby showers for every baby regardless the sex or time span. But some people only believe in a shower for the first child. There isn't really any specifc rule book, just like every mother will parent her child different. To each their own.

    Oh ok! And I hope this didn't come across judgemental. I was going based off of what my mother taught me, she's very traditional when it comes to things like that. I might consider a 2nd one for a future child, but right now I'm focused on giving our 1 year old all the love and attention she deserves!... Plus I over did it at her birthday party, so no more big events for me! lol

    Thanks ladies for explaining!
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  • cc47033cc47033 member
    Maybe your friend was unsure of the "rule" and just wanted to make sure that she didn't miss anything. When my friends have a second baby I always like to get them a little something new for the baby. It's just so fun to celebrate babies!!!
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  • 1stComesLove4211stComesLove421 member
    cc47033 said:

    Maybe your friend was unsure of the "rule" and just wanted to make sure that she didn't miss anything. When my friends have a second baby I always like to get them a little something new for the baby. It's just so fun to celebrate babies!!!

    That was probably the case! I'm glad to have friends that care, I was just a bit confused/ worried because she was the first to ask! I love getting my friends gifts for all of their children too! Babies are just such treasures!
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  • christina4436christina4436 member
    No rule change she may just not be aware of proper shower etiquette ;-)
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  • babyvelasquez2015babyvelasquez2015 member
    No rule to baby showers! Just people's "beliefs". I see a lot of first and second baby showers... After that its more of the moms I know choose not to. I would just let her know no shower but u guys can definitely get together for lunch and catch up. :) my cousin is on her 3rd baby (due 4 days after me) and no shower but I'm still sending her a gift to welcome her new baby.
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  • CocoR04CocoR04 member
    edited September 2015
    In my area/social group, we just give gifts one-on-one to friends who have 2+ babies. My SIL lives in another part of the country and they give showers for every baby. It's all different!
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  • silly514silly514 member
    A group of friends threw me a surprise shower last night. This is my second and it totally blew me away... My family is of the same mindset as yours. I've said I wouldn't deny the opportunity to celebrate this baby. I'm also having different gender from my first so I do need some things... but my mom has headed off anyone family or friends of hers who have offered haha. It's definitely a regional /cultural thing!

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