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FACEBOOK PSA: please buy from registry~!~~

jschmitt82jschmitt82 member
in November 2015 Moms

So ladies I am in a conundrum! I have been reading a lot of posts about people having great turn out for their baby showers, but the people coming aren't really buying stuff of off their registries!! Anyone else have this problem? Well, my shower is coming up Oct 4th and I would really, really prefer if I got the stuff that I registered for because it is stuff that I need as opposed to stuff that I want, which of course there is a little bit of that mixed in too, but I really don't want people to just buy cutsie little things that I don't need! Would it be totally rude of me to put a PSA on Facebook, knowing that quite a few of my guests may read it, stating that I would really like items bought off of my registry? Not that I expect gifts in the first place, but if you are going to buy me something please buy me something that I need!

Suggestions, gripes, insults..... I am open to anything and can handle it all.

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  • jschmitt82jschmitt82 member
    Oh no no no. I am not one of those people. My MIL and SIL are hosting it for me. I have thought about the whole returning thing too, but am I really going to have the time and energy to do it? probably not, but I guess I will have to make time and find the energy.
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  • caitlin1784caitlin1784 member
    I have a registry and with the invite sent out a little card was attached saying where I was registered if people wanted an idea of what I like/need, but I wont be offended if I don't get items off of this; after all im not having the baby shower so people buy me gifts im just excited to have a girly afternoon! I had a friends baby shower a few months ago and her mum sent me a txt msg saying "if you need an idea of what to get her let me know", I ignored as I had already purchased her gift, 2 hours later I got another message with a link of an item that was WAY out of my budget (for me let alone someone else), I actually found that quite rude. I know its frustrating when you want people to help you out with what you want but any help is good help :)
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  • MargaretC5MargaretC5 member
    Also, a lot of people wait until the last minute to get a shower gift if they are planning to but from the registry, so don't panic if there is not that much purchased off it yet. My shower was on a Sunday and I think most people went shopping the day before.
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  • lakesideknitterlakesideknitter member
    CharminglySouthern said:

    Ditto the others, it would be very rude. At the end of the day, it's your responsibility to buy the necessities. The registry is there as a suggestion, in case someone needs an idea of what to buy, but no one is required to shop from it.

    This. Just be thankful someone is throwing you a shower and people are kind enough to bring gifts.
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  • mollypuss1mollypuss1 member
    mistycray said:

    Maybe YOU should buy what you need as opposed to expecting others to do it for you. Its YOUR baby. Im so tired of people on this board complaining about their showers. You are ultimately reaponsible for the needs of your baby, yall!! Stop acting bratty!

    =D>
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  • rachswirachswi member
    I was fortunate enough that my mom asked me if things were being bought off my registry and I told her some things were but I was a little worried (like you) that I would get more things I didn't register for that I don't want or already had. She first made the comment that a lot of the "needs" on a registry are not cutesie things that someone wants to buy you because even though the gift is for you and baby, the gift giver still wants people to ooh and ahh over what they got you and that won't happen with a snot sucker or a diaper sprayer. She then also told me that she would suggest to people to go together to get some of the slightly more expensive (but cute) items on my registry.

    But ditto what people said about sometimes the ladies who come who are already moms know something you need that isn't on your registry.
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  • grapesoda1111grapesoda1111 member
    I hated asking people to come to my shower-I honestly felt bad about them bringing gifts. I could never post on an social media site "hey here is my registry, please buy things from this only". 

    My hostess did ask if there was anything in particular I would want listed on the invite, she is pregnant too, so she understood when I told her I didn't want a bunch of newborn items. I think she put on there "Baby C and Laura would appreciate anything sizes 3 months and up" or something along those lines. It didn't come off as rude or say "buy me only this", but I still felt awkward about it. 

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  • lulamagoolulamagoo member
    What everyone else said.

    My mom and her generation generally like to buy off of the registry. They want to get something creative or something more personal. Because of this I have received some of my favorite gifts, both for our wedding and our shower for DS. I have also received some strange things but you know what, that's okay too.
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  • addisyn13addisyn13 member
    Why can't people be happy with what thy are given.
    People have asked me what I would like for me and or baby.
    I ask them, come and see us at the hospital for a cuddle.
    That's all I ask for.
    Any gift is a bonus.
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  • dmiller1213dmiller1213 member
    Doesn't sound like much of a conundrum to me...
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  • Peanut1128Peanut1128 member
    Just exchange the items that you don't want or need for things on your registry. It's not that big of a deal. If you can't return it, then donate it. Most registries offer a completion discount 8 weeks out from your due date, so you can buy all the items you wanted at that point and save some money.
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  • TKG83TKG83 member
    edited September 2015
    I agree with others, don't put anything on Facebook. I had my shower already and the ppl that didn't buy off the registry gave money or gift cards that I was able to put towards things that were on my registry. This way I was able to combine them and purchase more expensive items that I didn't think people would purchase for me anyway. Also, one of the ladies that came gave me one of the best gifts I could have ever asked for.... She gave me a tub filled with baby necessities, wipes, cream, wash cloths, hats, baby shampoo and baby wash, plus a whole bunch more stuff. None of that was on my registry but I love the gift!
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  • Cook3133Cook3133 member
    Yes rude, but you've already heard this. I second what was said about gifts from Stm+ and gifts. Registeries are just a guide or suggestion.

    I honestly don't think I got anything that I didn't eventually need. I don't think I had to buy powder, diaper cream, shampoo, other soaps for over a year. Heck even diapers
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  • Cook3133Cook3133 member
    ^^ I loved having so much extra! Seeing how my kids are close together they also have benefitted from it. Last year was my first time buying baby wash lol
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  • Kanne0729Kanne0729 member
    You do realize that people could still be buying from your registry just not having them update it when they make the purchase, right? Please do not write something like that on facebook, that is incredibly rude, people will buy what they want and if you don't like it then you can return/exchange it later and get what you do need. With my first child some of my most favorite gifts were things that people bought that were not on my registry. You're not entitled to anything actually so just be grateful that people are willing to attend your shower and buy you anything, this is your baby afterall, not theirs.
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  • nmwheel1nmwheel1 member
    If I seen someone post that, I'd honestly skip their shower and not send a gift even if I already bought it...

    Maybe 3 people bought off my registry... I maybe had 20 items on my registry because we are pretty minimal with what we assumed we needed. The rest of the stuff given to us that wasn't on the registry I think I ended up using way more than what was from my registry. That's the great thing about guests who have already had kids, they know what you'll really use vs what is just a gimmick.

    OP it's really your call, but be prepared for backlash or people not showing up. I would honestly never post something like that, that to me is right up there with the annoying Facebook status of "worse day ever..." Or some equally annoying negative crap nobody actually cares about (IMHO)
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  • makeoutside7makeoutside7 member
    I have already started receiving gifts in the mail that are not off of my registry and they are so thoughtful. A knitted hello kitty hat and rosette tutu. There was a lot of thought that went into that, she knows I love hello kitty! And a little yellow homemade quilt from my bff, all the way from Japan! So adorable and I love it. My husband and I already plan on buying whatever people don't get off the registry anyway. We will need those items no matter what so it's really not a big deal. If you really really need something, buy it yourself. Just my two cents. :)

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  • jschmitt82jschmitt82 member
    Don't get me wrong I can afford to buy all the things I need for my baby and rally I would rather but this waiting game to what I do or don't get from my registry is killing me. I have already went and bought many of the things from my own registry and then when I tell people they are like quit buying everything yourself and wait to get it for your shower. You can see how this is very conflicting to a person that is kind of a control freak and would have liked to have everything bought and organized two months ago!!!
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  • jschmitt82jschmitt82 member
    I appreciate all the honest feedback. ;)
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  • Emilie121011Emilie121011 member
    I understand your concern. At our wedding people bought us stuff that wasn't on our registry, but was "like" stuff we registered for. Not to sound ungrateful, but the whole point is to get items you actually like/want/need. Getting something similar is not the same in my opinion.

    But I wouldn't say anything. My shower is the same day as yours and I'm going to just see what happens and make returns if needed.

    As a side note I love home made non registry items. It means so much more!

    I actually registered with babylist and you can add homemade items to your registry there which is really cool!!!
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  • 2015mommy2b2015mommy2b member
    jschmitt82 said:
    Don't get me wrong I can afford to buy all the things I need for my baby and rally I would rather but this waiting game to what I do or don't get from my registry is killing me. I have already went and bought many of the things from my own registry and then when I tell people they are like quit buying everything yourself and wait to get it for your shower. You can see how this is very conflicting to a person that is kind of a control freak and would have liked to have everything bought and organized two months ago!!!
    @jschmitt82 I purchased things off my registry that I REALLY wanted and didn't want to have sell out prior to the shower. They were marked off as purchased on the registry and then I kept my receipts just in case. I considered the registry as more of a shopping list for myself with the bonus of people potentially gifting us items off of it.
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  • GracedGuestGracedGuest member
    With baby #1, I did a ridiculous amount of research and put a lot of effort into my baby registry. Then a lot of people at my shower didn't end up buying off it. I received so many great gifts, but they weren't the exact items that I thought I should have. I didn't tell anyone how I felt, but at first I was panicky, thinking "how am I going to afford all this stuff that I NEED?" But DH and I bought the necessities like a car seat, stroller, swaddling blankets, crib sheets, and my Fil bought us a crib. But those really were the necessities. honestly when baby came, I didn't miss all of that crap I put on my registry or I just used the great stuff I was given. You might be freaking out that you're not going to get everything you researched, but like other people said, you probably don't need a lot of those "necessities" that you think you do.
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