@MyCousinVinny I can't see siggies but I'm assuming you're not new to TB. Sex vs gender is a battle you're never going to win. I'm not saying give up the fight, but know when to walk away, ya know?
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I can't see siggies but I'm assuming you're not new to TB. Sex vs gender is a battle you're never going to win. I'm not saying give up the fight, but know when to walk away, ya know?
Well, I am planning to surprise myself and my hubby with a gender reveal cake and call over our parents and maybe cousins so we will find out what is the gender at that moment when we cut the cake I guess it will be so much fun and it will be excited! I am planning to do it for fun and won't invite any friends or make it a huge party that people will bring gifts or anything..
I will ask my doc to give me a closed envelope when she is totally sure about the baby's gender and I will give it to the my fav patisserie and order a cute cake, outside wil be creamy and just written it is a... And inside will be full of pink or blue creams or I don't know stuff like that:)
And about the baby shower this will be my first baby so I will throw a party at my 7th month. That's all ladies:)
I'm 13 weeks pregnant today. But did the NIPT blood test at 11 weeks. Baby is healthy and we also got to find out the gender. Couldn't wait to tell my BF. I knew he was going to be so happy So waited for him to get home and recorded the whole thing..... To me he's the only one I truly care about giving the news to. Everyone else is no big deal. I think the pregancy announcement itself will be shocking.
I think it sounds fun. I don't understand why some people are so opinionated and feel the need to argue with and put down every single post. We are doing a gender reveal. We are inviting our closest friends and family and everyone has expressed a ton of excitement to come. This is our 3rd baby, also our 3rd girl and so we are celebrating this baby in every way we can. My friends and family like to get together and this is a fun way to do so. We aren't seeking attention, we are celebrating our new baby, and we can do that however we want! I say you celebrate your baby however you want! Most people are happy and excited to celebrate with you, if not, they can not come.
I think it sounds fun. I don't understand why some people are so opinionated and feel the need to argue with and put down every single post. We are doing a gender reveal. We are inviting our closest friends and family and everyone has expressed a ton of excitement to come. This is our 3rd baby, also our 3rd girl and so we are celebrating this baby in every way we can. My friends and family like to get together and this is a fun way to do so. We aren't seeking attention, we are celebrating our new baby, and we can do that however we want! I say you celebrate your baby however you want! Most people are happy and excited to celebrate with you, if not, they can not come.
How is it a reveal if you already know? You're revealing to everyone else? I think the only thing that might be even remotely interesting about a sex reveal party would be seeing the parents reaction. Otherwise, what's the point?
I think it sounds fun. I don't understand why some people are so opinionated and feel the need to argue with and put down every single post. We are doing a gender reveal. We are inviting our closest friends and family and everyone has expressed a ton of excitement to come. This is our 3rd baby, also our 3rd girl and so we are celebrating this baby in every way we can. My friends and family like to get together and this is a fun way to do so. We aren't seeking attention, we are celebrating our new baby, and we can do that however we want! I say you celebrate your baby however you want! Most people are happy and excited to celebrate with you, if not, they can not come.
How is it a reveal if you already know? You're revealing to everyone else? I think the only thing that might be even remotely interesting about a sex reveal party would be seeing the parents reaction. Otherwise, what's the point?
Yeah, I was thinking the same. Also, some people being opinionated is not really something you need to "understand". I also haven't seen a single person who argues with and puts down every single post. I don't see how you would know that, given how you only joined a few days ago.
It's not hard to pick up on the negativity of some people in this group, regardless of how long I've been here. Whether you're rude on one post or all of them, what's the difference? If you're rude, you're rude. And I have seen rude comments on several posts. And if someone goes from putting down the idea of the party, calling the op manipulative etc. for several comments to then being offended by the word "gender" you're clearly looking to argue. If not, that's how it comes across (at least to me) You don't like reveal parties? Cool, don't go. But with as popular as gender reveal parties are now, I find it surprising that people are so opinionated and negative about the idea. Personally, I've been invited to several and all of them, the parents to be know what they are having and they are revealing to friends and family. It's more fun (to some people) than just texting/calling/emailing/face booking/telling in person that it's a boy or a girl. Also, our 2 daughters don't know the gender so the reveal is being done by them, with our closest friends and family there to celebrate with us. I sure hope my family finds that "remotely interesting", though I'm sure they will
Damn it I am trying to back to sleep here with my hot water bottle and tea but the random on this thread are just too entertaining....
1) throwing your own party for anything is AW... today is DH birthday so I made dinner reservations and invited people.... and that is not even with presents involved
2) I am not team green but I seriously don't get the big deal with announcing gender... its a penis or a vagina... not Everything your child wears has to have a tutu or a toolbelt
3) the best reason for a registry is a list of the shit you need to get.... putting shit on there that you wouldn't spend your own money on is rude and pretentious
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Hello:) Congratulations! I'm having a gender reveal in October. I think it would be fun if you do things separate. In the gender reveal we are doing diaper raffles so everyone that's invited will bring diapers and well that's a good way to have lots of diapers because will need them.
We will be doing a gender reveal this time around. This is our third, so no shower. We figured the reveal will be a fun way to do something and just get together, cook out and enjoy time with family.
Hello:) Congratulations! I'm having a gender reveal in October. I think it would be fun if you do things separate. In the gender reveal we are doing diaper raffles so everyone that's invited will bring diapers and well that's a good way to have lots of diapers because will need them.
@nicolestein2 You know how else you can get diapers? You can buy them and not hit up your loved ones (in this case repeatedly) for gifts.
Hello:) Congratulations! I'm having a gender reveal in October. I think it would be fun if you do things separate. In the gender reveal we are doing diaper raffles so everyone that's invited will bring diapers and well that's a good way to have lots of diapers because will need them.
Hello:) Congratulations! I'm having a gender reveal in October. I think it would be fun if you do things separate. In the gender reveal we are doing diaper raffles so everyone that's invited will bring diapers and well that's a good way to have lots of diapers because will need them.
Lmao. I was wondering if I was the only one that thought this was excessive. Is that like the ticket through the door? Ugh sorry sis, you didn't bring diapers. Either go get some or go home. Smh. I'm just not understanding all these pointless "parties" to repeatedly ask for things you should be buying yourself. Edited cause spelling.
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My hubby and I decided we want to be surprised, but I simply cannot wait 40 weeks! So, the idea is my mom is going to throw a party for us and she will be the only one who knows the sex of the baby, up until the big reveal. We are gonna do a glitter/confetti drop box on us. SUPER excited to know if our baby is a boy or girl, but we will be happy either way.
Hello:)
Congratulations!
I'm having a gender reveal in October. I think it would be fun if you do things separate. In the gender reveal we are doing diaper raffles so everyone that's invited will bring diapers and well that's a good way to have lots of diapers because will need them.
I really think that you might want to reconsider having a diaper raffle. Raffles are for charities, not gender reveals or even showers. It's in poor taste to dictate what people should gift you or how they spend their money.
A great way to get lots of diapers is to go to the store and purchase them. Amazon Prime is a great way to save money on diapers as well.
Oh for fucks sake, really?!? Since its been resurrected.... And for anyone who is confused about a diaper raffle, no it's not a ticket in the door. For someone running around trying to police everything I woulda thought you knew how it works... For the guests who bring diapers they get put into a raffle and whoever gets the winning ticket usually gets a gift in return from the host. If you didn't bring diapers you simply don't participate in the raffle and enjoy the rest of the party. The guests choose to play or not, so if someone brings a pack of diapers it's because they WANT to participate. Doesn't sound like charity to me.
Oh for fucks sake, really?!? Since its been resurrected.... And for anyone who is confused about a diaper raffle, no it's not a ticket in the door. For someone running around trying to police everything I woulda thought you knew how it works... For the guests who bring diapers they get put into a raffle and whoever gets the winning ticket usually gets a gift in return from the host. If you didn't bring diapers you simply don't participate in the raffle and enjoy the rest of the party. The guests choose to play or not, so if someone brings a pack of diapers it's because they WANT to participate. Doesn't sound like charity to me.
Raffles are often used to raise money for charity causes. We do them quite frequently to raise funds for ballet scholarships. In the same exact manner as you described.
In this case the Parents to be would appear to be the charity. I'm not sure why you can't grasp this. I guess it's simply not what you want to hear.
Even if the diaper raffle has a prize, it seems charity-like because the prize is probably an inexpensive token, maybe $20, while the parents are hoping to end up with a stash of diapers worth much more than that. I'd be annoyed if someone invited me to a gender reveal diaper raffle AND a baby shower. If we were really close I'd feel obligated to go, and I don't feel like showing up without diapers is an option. That would feel awkward. I really don't feel that one baby entitles a mother to the gifts or attention of 2 parties.
Meh, I'm all for "manipulating" people nto not buying me frilly pink crap by keeping the sex a secret until the shower. With my first I tried telling everyone to please only buy gender-neutral stuff if they wanted to give us gifts, and of course we ended up with a sea of pinks and purples. I'm not sure how I feel about gender reveal parties on their own, but combined with the shower seems like a good idea to me.
Meh, I'm all for "manipulating" people nto not buying me frilly pink crap by keeping the sex a secret until the shower. With my first I tried telling everyone to please only buy gender-neutral stuff if they wanted to give us gifts, and of course we ended up with a sea of pinks and purples. I'm not sure how I feel about gender reveal parties on their own, but combined with the shower seems like a good idea to me.
That's probably where you went wrong. People really don't like being told what to buy when it comes to gifts.
Meh, I'm all for "manipulating" people nto not buying me frilly pink crap by keeping the sex a secret until the shower. With my first I tried telling everyone to please only buy gender-neutral stuff if they wanted to give us gifts, and of course we ended up with a sea of pinks and purples. I'm not sure how I feel about gender reveal parties on their own, but combined with the shower seems like a good idea to me.
Here's an idea. If you want specific things- go buy them yourself!
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Meh, I'm all for "manipulating" people nto not buying me frilly pink crap by keeping the sex a secret until the shower. With my first I tried telling everyone to please only buy gender-neutral stuff if they wanted to give us gifts, and of course we ended up with a sea of pinks and purples. I'm not sure how I feel about gender reveal parties on their own, but combined with the shower seems like a good idea to me.
That's probably where you went wrong. People really don't like being told what to buy when it comes to gifts.
I would rather be told what types of things to buy and know they will like it. Wouldn't want to waste my money on something they won't even use.
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I remember a time when if you were thrown a baby shower (this was also back when you didn't have a shower for every child and there also wasn't 15 different parties made up to receive/ask for things for said 1st child) you simply just said thank you and appreciated people spending their own hard earned money on your child. Geeze, seems like so long ago now that I think about it. Thankfulness goes a long way you guys.
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I am the kind of person that only buys off of registries because I would like to get parents what they want/need for their kids. BUT I completely understand people that don't do that. If someone sees something they think is useful/adorable/it doesn't really matter if they have a reason or not, and buys said thing for you - be GRATEFUL.
Birthing a child does not entitle you (ultimately your child whom I am sure really cares what color clothes he/she is wearing) to gifts, but - should you receive them - you should be thankful for anything that comes your way instead of sounding like a total brat because you didn't get what you wanted.
I'm the person who always sees both sides of the issue I on one hand like the registry and giving people an idea about what I need. For the simple fact that sometimes you don't get things you need and way too much of things you don't. I'm always appreciative, but honestly for my first I didn't need 30 receiving blankets (which I actually did get- we kept the gift list in my DD's baby book). I needed bottles, but didn't get a one from anyone. So I like the idea of asking for certain IDEAS for items. Do I expect the exact what I put on my registry? No. Specifics I will go get myself (like my travel system!).
But yes, being appreciative of everything is a must! Even if its hideous, say your thank-you and move on I honestly didn't expect a baby shower this time but DH's family wants to throw one because while its not my first, it is DH's. I was taught you have one shower then done. I had one and hated it, and I'm not looking forward to this next one either:( But I'll fake my smile and pretend I'm a lady who likes to participate in these girly things...
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Meh, I'm all for "manipulating" people nto not buying me frilly pink crap by keeping the sex a secret until the shower. With my first I tried telling everyone to please only buy gender-neutral stuff if they wanted to give us gifts, and of course we ended up with a sea of pinks and purples. I'm not sure how I feel about gender reveal parties on their own, but combined with the shower seems like a good idea to me.
Here's an idea. If you want specific things- go buy them yourself!
I hardly think that letting people know you're shooting for gender neutral stuff constitutes requesting they buy some specific thing. Calm down.
Meh, I'm all for "manipulating" people nto not buying me frilly pink crap by keeping the sex a secret until the shower. With my first I tried telling everyone to please only buy gender-neutral stuff if they wanted to give us gifts, and of course we ended up with a sea of pinks and purples. I'm not sure how I feel about gender reveal parties on their own, but combined with the shower seems like a good idea to me.
Here's an idea. If you want specific things- go buy them yourself!
I hardly think that letting people know you're shooting for gender neutral stuff constitutes requesting they buy some specific thing. Calm down.
I think if you want gender neutral stuff then don't reveal the sex at all until delivery. You can't seriously expect people to know what you're having and not buy for that sex. Especially since they're spending their money. If there are specific things you just have to have then the only way to get said things is to buy them yourself.
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This is officially my first lurking post, anywhere. I may get lambasted for asking, but if the OP is registering, wouldn't they just register for gender-neutral items? Why would they need a note on the registry saying not to get pink or blue, if no one knows what she's having? When you select items for a registry, is color/pattern not a selection option?
As you can probably ascertain, I am not having a shower and thus have no idea how this works.
Also, for my Monty Python fans, this thread is 'bloomin' dead, has ceased to be.' Why did it get the paddles?
Wondering if any of you plan to have a gender reveal party or just tell everyone. A friend gave me the idea of combining the shower/gender reveal party because when people don't know the gender they are more likely to buy you practical/gender neutral things instead of cute pink blankets and stuff. Any thoughts? I'm not sure I'll be able to hold it in that long when the time comes but maybe!
We are planning an intimate gender reveal celebration with close friends and family on Halloween. My hubby and I have agreed to ditch the usual baby pink n blue and go with deeper color scheme.. violet (purples) for girl and jungle green (greens) for boy. We will be letting the folk at gender reveal know this as well.
"Instead of pink get us anything purple or orange; and if it's a boy anything green or brown. "
I'm a unique gal so I trust my circle will be expecting a creative twist and detail.
Yeah, um, I'm not a fan of sex reveals to begin with but to withhold the sex for the sole purpose of trying to manipulate the gifts that your guests give you is really icky. People will buy you what they want to buy you and you should accept graciously. To try to find a way to dictate their choice of gifts is kinda rude.
However, if you are wanting to reveal the sex at the shower for the sole purpose of being surprised with your family and friends and it's not about the gifts, then go for it. Otherwise, I'd think twice about this.
Tehehehe, really? The sole purpose of a baby shower is for to give those who love you and WANT to help you an opportunity to do so. I'm not sure why u find that rude or manipulative? It's helpful to friends n family to know what would BE useful and appreciated. There's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting neutral gender clothing/items from guests. are registries also manipulative and rude? C'mon that's silly. It's your baby not theirs and guest should respect your wishes anyway.
Yeah, um, I'm not a fan of sex reveals to begin with but to withhold the sex for the sole purpose of trying to manipulate the gifts that your guests give you is really icky. People will buy you what they want to buy you and you should accept graciously. To try to find a way to dictate their choice of gifts is kinda rude.
However, if you are wanting to reveal the sex at the shower for the sole purpose of being surprised with your family and friends and it's not about the gifts, then go for it. Otherwise, I'd think twice about this.
Tehehehe, really? The sole purpose of a baby shower is for to give those who love you and WANT to help you an opportunity to do so. I'm not sure why u find that rude or manipulative? It's helpful to friends n family to know what would BE useful and appreciated. There's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting neutral gender clothing/items from guests. are registries also manipulative and rude? C'mon that's silly. It's your baby not theirs and guest should respect your wishes anyway.
It's all in the last sentence here. It's YOUR baby not theirs. If you need to dictate what people choose to generously give you then you buy YOUR baby what they need/you want.
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Yeah, um, I'm not a fan of sex reveals to begin with but to withhold the sex for the sole purpose of trying to manipulate the gifts that your guests give you is really icky. People will buy you what they want to buy you and you should accept graciously. To try to find a way to dictate their choice of gifts is kinda rude.
However, if you are wanting to reveal the sex at the shower for the sole purpose of being surprised with your family and friends and it's not about the gifts, then go for it. Otherwise, I'd think twice about this.
Tehehehe, really? The sole purpose of a baby shower is for to give those who love you and WANT to help you an opportunity to do so. I'm not sure why u find that rude or manipulative?
It's helpful to friends n family to know what would BE useful and appreciated. There's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting neutral gender clothing/items from guests. are registries also manipulative and rude?
C'mon that's silly.
It's your baby not theirs and guest should respect your wishes anyway.
Well, exactly. It's your baby, not theirs, and if you (general you) have specific wishes on what you want your baby to wear, then you should be the one buying it. As a guest, I would hope that the person I'm spending time and money on wouldn't try to find ways to dictate what I choose to purchase for them.
If they want gender neutral items, they can register for gender neutral items, although it's never a guarantee that anyone will buy off the registry.
And like I said weeks ago (not sure why this thread was resurrected), to withhold information for the sole purpose of getting a specific outcome, a person would be manipulating the situation.
Yeah, um, I'm not a fan of sex reveals to begin with but to withhold the sex for the sole purpose of trying to manipulate the gifts that your guests give you is really icky. People will buy you what they want to buy you and you should accept graciously. To try to find a way to dictate their choice of gifts is kinda rude.
However, if you are wanting to reveal the sex at the shower for the sole purpose of being surprised with your family and friends and it's not about the gifts, then go for it. Otherwise, I'd think twice about this.
Tehehehe, really? The sole purpose of a baby shower is for to give those who love you and WANT to help you an opportunity to do so. I'm not sure why u find that rude or manipulative?
It's helpful to friends n family to know what would BE useful and appreciated. There's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting neutral gender clothing/items from guests. are registries also manipulative and rude?
C'mon that's silly.
It's your baby not theirs and guest should respect your wishes anyway.
Serious question - If people don't get your future child the color scheme of clothes that you have requested, would you find that rude?
I know this is a broken record to people that are very "I am going to do what I want, you don't have to come/buy/whatever if you don't like it," but etiquette is a real thing and is in place for a very real reason. This is to avoid offending those closest to you. And I know, YOUR friends and family won't be offended. But in all likelihood, SOMEONE would be - they just wouldn't tell you to your face. Same with second showers and other AW events like gender/sex reveal parties and diaper parties.
Etiquette usually states that you don't tell your friends or family what to buy for you/your kid. Registries are guidelines ONLY. No one is required to buy you a gift, let alone a gift that you dictate that they buy.
I agree with @kynbar5. I wonder when people went from being grateful for getting anything at all to demanding what they get and complaining about someone spending their hard earned money on something they didn't specifically request.
Oh man, I should have brought some popcorn reading these comments! Everyone believes different things and everyone is entitled to their own opinions! I love hearing people's opinions especially when I disagree!! But anyways, my family wants to throw a party to find out the sex of the baby but I don't want to! My DH thinks it's a great idea and is convinced we need to have one! I just want a baby shower but another question on the same topic... When the heck do you throw a baby shower? And when do you start registering??
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I can't see siggies but I'm assuming you're not new to TB. Sex vs gender is a battle you're never going to win. I'm not saying give up the fight, but know when to walk away, ya know?
I will ask my doc to give me a closed envelope when she is totally sure about the baby's gender and I will give it to the my fav patisserie and order a cute cake, outside wil be creamy and just written it is a... And inside will be full of pink or blue creams or I don't know stuff like that:)
And about the baby shower this will be my first baby so I will throw a party at my 7th month. That's all ladies:)
So waited for him to get home and recorded the whole thing.....
To me he's the only one I truly care about giving the news to. Everyone else is no big deal. I think the pregancy announcement itself will be shocking.
We are doing a gender reveal. We are inviting our closest friends and family and everyone has expressed a ton of excitement to come. This is our 3rd baby, also our 3rd girl and so we are celebrating this baby in every way we can. My friends and family like to get together and this is a fun way to do so. We aren't seeking attention, we are celebrating our new baby, and we can do that however we want! I say you celebrate your baby however you want! Most people are happy and excited to celebrate with you, if not, they can not come.
And if someone goes from putting down the idea of the party, calling the op manipulative etc. for several comments to then being offended by the word "gender" you're clearly looking to argue. If not, that's how it comes across (at least to me)
You don't like reveal parties? Cool, don't go. But with as popular as gender reveal parties are now, I find it surprising that people are so opinionated and negative about the idea. Personally, I've been invited to several and all of them, the parents to be know what they are having and they are revealing to friends and family. It's more fun (to some people) than just texting/calling/emailing/face booking/telling in person that it's a boy or a girl. Also, our 2 daughters don't know the gender so the reveal is being done by them, with our closest friends and family there to celebrate with us. I sure hope my family finds that "remotely interesting", though I'm sure they will
1) throwing your own party for anything is AW... today is DH birthday so I made dinner reservations and invited people.... and that is not even with presents involved
2) I am not team green but I seriously don't get the big deal with announcing gender... its a penis or a vagina... not Everything your child wears has to have a tutu or a toolbelt
3) the best reason for a registry is a list of the shit you need to get.... putting shit on there that you wouldn't spend your own money on is rude and pretentious
Congratulations!
I'm having a gender reveal in October. I think it would be fun if you do things separate. In the gender reveal we are doing diaper raffles so everyone that's invited will bring diapers and well that's a good way to have lots of diapers because will need them.
Edited cause spelling.
This thread was dead for 2 weeks! Who the what resurrected it?
And for anyone who is confused about a diaper raffle, no it's not a ticket in the door. For someone running around trying to police everything I woulda thought you knew how it works... For the guests who bring diapers they get put into a raffle and whoever gets the winning ticket usually gets a gift in return from the host. If you didn't bring diapers you simply don't participate in the raffle and enjoy the rest of the party. The guests choose to play or not, so if someone brings a pack of diapers it's because they WANT to participate. Doesn't sound like charity to me.
In this case the Parents to be would appear to be the charity. I'm not sure why you can't grasp this. I guess it's simply not what you want to hear.
I am the kind of person that only buys off of registries because I would like to get parents what they want/need for their kids. BUT I completely understand people that don't do that. If someone sees something they think is useful/adorable/it doesn't really matter if they have a reason or not, and buys said thing for you - be GRATEFUL.
Birthing a child does not entitle you (ultimately your child whom I am sure really cares what color clothes he/she is wearing) to gifts, but - should you receive them - you should be thankful for anything that comes your way instead of sounding like a total brat because you didn't get what you wanted.
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I'm the person who always sees both sides of the issue
I on one hand like the registry and giving people an idea about what I need. For the simple fact that sometimes you don't get things you need and way too much of things you don't. I'm always appreciative, but honestly for my first I didn't need 30 receiving blankets (which I actually did get- we kept the gift list in my DD's baby book). I needed bottles, but didn't get a one from anyone. So I like the idea of asking for certain IDEAS for items. Do I expect the exact what I put on my registry? No. Specifics I will go get myself (like my travel system!).
But yes, being appreciative of everything is a must! Even if its hideous, say your thank-you and move on
I honestly didn't expect a baby shower this time but DH's family wants to throw one because while its not my first, it is DH's. I was taught you have one shower then done. I had one and hated it, and I'm not looking forward to this next one either:( But I'll fake my smile and pretend I'm a lady who likes to participate in these girly things...
My hubby and I have agreed to ditch the usual baby pink n blue and go with deeper color scheme.. violet (purples) for girl and jungle green (greens) for boy.
We will be letting the folk at gender reveal know this as well.
"Instead of pink get us anything purple or orange; and if it's a boy anything green or brown. "
I'm a unique gal so I trust my circle will be expecting a creative twist and detail.
It's helpful to friends n family to know what would BE useful and appreciated. There's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting neutral gender clothing/items from guests. are registries also manipulative and rude?
C'mon that's silly.
It's your baby not theirs and guest should respect your wishes anyway.
Serious question - If people don't get your future child the color scheme of clothes that you have requested, would you find that rude?
I know this is a broken record to people that are very "I am going to do what I want, you don't have to come/buy/whatever if you don't like it," but etiquette is a real thing and is in place for a very real reason. This is to avoid offending those closest to you. And I know, YOUR friends and family won't be offended. But in all likelihood, SOMEONE would be - they just wouldn't tell you to your face. Same with second showers and other AW events like gender/sex reveal parties and diaper parties.
Etiquette usually states that you don't tell your friends or family what to buy for you/your kid. Registries are guidelines ONLY. No one is required to buy you a gift, let alone a gift that you dictate that they buy.
I agree with @kynbar5. I wonder when people went from being grateful for getting anything at all to demanding what they get and complaining about someone spending their hard earned money on something they didn't specifically request.
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Married 10/13/12
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