I hope that you change your mind and can look back on this and laugh one day. I would give anything to have a sister who tried to make the day special for me. My sister didn't even show up for my gender reveal because she wanted to go on a date instead that day.
I am more than happy with having a girl. My baby is healthy and that is what is important. I am disappointed with the fact that it made it seem as though I was not happy with a girl because of how it all went down.
You are responsible for your reactions, regardless of what other people say/do. I'm sorry things didn't go as planned but you really need to get some perspective. Your baby is healthy. You had friends/family willing to come celebrate with you. You have a sister who was trying to make things extra special for you. (We won't even go into the fact that this is a First World problem. It doesn't mean you can't be upset but perspective.) You are very blessed and need to focus on the good things. If you can't laugh at something like this, you are in for a long, hard life.
I hate gender reveal parties. They are so AWish and THIS post is a perfect example of why they are so ridiculous.
You used the word "ruined" several times. What exactly was ruined? You are pregnant with a healthy girl. You needed a whole party and attention devoted to you based on something that has 50/50 odds. There is no shock or surprise here.
You really need some perspective here. Does it actually matter if you found out you were having a girl with balloons instead of cake? Really? Listen to yourself. If this party was 'just for fun', then get a grip and laugh it off.
Apologize to your sister for your over reaction. In the grand scheme of things in life (or even this week, for that matter) this does not matter!
This is so irritating to me. I picture you pouting at the party making everything awkward for everyone. It was a good sincere idea and I can't believe that you'll never look back on it and laugh. That's sad. I hope your daughter isn't as high maintence as you or you're in for a rude awakening! Lighten up!
Wow, are you serious? Your baby is healthy, right? There you go, that's all that matters. Some people aren't so lucky!
I think what happened is hilarious and makes for a very good story, something that you and your sister should be able to laugh abput. I know my sister and I would. That's because I love my sister more than colored cake and would appreciate that she was thoughtful and put in extra effort. But then again my sister has to give me a shot in the butt every week just so I can have that healthy baby so maybe it's all about perspective.
I hope that you can forgive your sister for "ruining" your suprise.
We found out at the US but my sis begged to have a little get together for the rest of the family. Imagine this...
1. Baker made blue cupcakes instead of blue icing in white cupcakes.
2. The top of a tree broke off and almost fell on my husband and sister. It managed to break 2 tables and took all of our food with it.
Lady, I'm laughing. I was upset for maybe 10 min. I vented and I'm good. This is our first child and the first boy in out family in 13 years. IMO forgive sis and enjoy your life. I'm already laughing about it. Geez.
I agree with other posters that it's really the baker's fault. I don't think your sister should have strayed from your initial plan but her idea was cute. If you are very picky about how things will turn out then always do them yourself.
I think she's upset at the fact, had her sister not changed the plan in the first place (I hate surprises for this reason), then there would have been less room for this error to have happened. I can honestly say with my hormones right now, I would've been mad about someone changing my gender reveal into something completely different that they wanted, not me. Surprises are sweet in small doses, but you don't change someone's entire plan. Thats just my opinion though.
Gosh some of your are being incredible harsh when it comes to Lyndz and her feelings . She posted on here to vent . I would tend to doubt all of you that called her spoiled and selfish for being disappointed would be so gracious if this happened to you .
@BilBaby I agree that we all need to treat people respectfully and let them vent. I know we have all probably experienced frustration when things don't play out as planned. And I apologize if my response was a little harsh, I personally was upset to hear that she will never be able to laugh about this ever. I found her comments to be insensitive to those of us who for whatever reason don't have family around or willing to share in special events like this with us or put in effort for us. OP, I'm sorry if I my comment upset you, was just trying to add some perspective.
I appreciate the reply . I just began to feel this bully , jump on the bandwagon mentality as I started reading down the posts . I mean come on ? She doesn't deserve to be called spoiled , selfish . She was sharing her disappointment with us that's all
@lyndz74115 - thank you for this thread!!!! I mean, the injustice for YOU & your party geared towards revealing the sex of your unborn child. Wait, jk thanks because TB was getting boring for a second there.
I'm not gonna drag on and repeat all the valid points PPs have said, but I will say this.... your family LOVES you, clearly. Even dispite some pre-modonna'ish behaviour. Be GREATFUL for them. You live in AMERICA, your babies will have beautiful #blessed lives, you can AFFORD TO HAVE A GENDER REVEAL PARTY. Poor babies are washing up onshore all acorss the world DEAD because their mommy and daddys are trying to escape WAR.
Get. Some. Prespective. Girlfriend.
Oh, Happy Labor Day - you know, the day in which people gave their lives for our freedom! K!!
Sister tried to do something special, baker made a mistake, OP is mad at her sister.... Yeah reminding her of what really matters (healthy baby) and who really made the mistake (baker) is really mean of everyone. Being upset for a moment is one thing, but letting it ruin the entire event and never being able to get over it is another. This is a silly thing to hold a grudge for. As happened to a PP even giving the baker the envelope could have ended in a not so surprising cake.
ETA: Maybe I was too subtle... No one has been mean to OP, what I did in my post is called sarcasm.
Gosh some of your are being incredible harsh when it comes to Lyndz and her feelings . She posted on here to vent . I would tend to doubt all of you that called her spoiled and selfish for being disappointed would be so gracious if this happened to you .
It's a gender reveal party. An optional party. Her sister tried to make it extra fun and special. There is nothing to be angry about. Some people go their entire pregnancy thinking they are having one sex only to find out when baby is born that the u/s was wrong. And some people receive devastating news at their anatomy scan.
If you are worried about how you will react to the news of boy or girl in front of others then don't have a gender reveal party!
I'm appalled at the number of comments trying to place blame, on either the sister OR the baker. People make mistakes. I'm sure her sister feels horrible and unless the baker knew the exact plan I could see how he would think the cake was fine.
PSA: If you are a very controlling person who would be upset by someone screwing up your "plans" then DO IT YOURSELF! I know I can be a pissy bitch so when my Mother suggested we do a small gender reveal I handled the cupcakes myself. I posted this earlier but I think it needs to be repeated again. You can't get too mad at someone if you know you're a control freak, just take care of it yourself.
Amaragret , as a Navy wife whose husband has been on a deployment since week 10 of our pregnancy . You are beyond over the top girl !!
What's over the top about pointing out the fact that we are lucky to be living in a country where these things are possible? Thanks to you and your husband for getting out there and serving our country. Personally, and I can see we totally disagree on this - I think OP was over the top in being disappointed about a gender reveal mishap. There's too much othe sh*t in the world to get your panties in a bunch over than cake. CAKE.
I am just stunned at the harsh words over someone Legitimately being disappointed . It was a special moment she had thought about for many months I'm sure . Some of you are taking it to another level
I am just stunned at the harsh words over someone Legitimately being disappointed . It was a special moment she had thought about for many months I'm sure . Some of you are taking it to another level
You're correct in some of the words were harsh, and for that... I apologize, for being harsh.
I don't apologize for feeling like the frivolity of this is laughable. There are women on this BMB who have waited years to concieve, there are ladies on this board who have waited weeks to find out if their baby is healthy from bad scans, there are women who will wait months to find out the gender of their baby at birth, and there are people who legit find this ridiculous. Just sayin. Girl, boy, baby - the other thing that gets me is that children disappoint parents all the time. If OP can't handle her sister making a seriously "sweet" mistake, what's she going to do the first time she find out her daughter does X, Y, or Z? Go nuts? Prespective is all...........
@amargaret24 FYI Memorial Day is the day we celebrate veterans and service men and women. Labor Day is to celebrate the "laborers" and workers of this country and how their hard work make our economy strong. It's a day to remember how lucky we are to live in a prosperous country. You weren't far off but Labor Day is not specifically for Vets but for everyone.
Oh, Happy Labor Day - you know, the day in which people gave their lives for our freedom! K!!
@amargaret24 , Labor Day is the celebration of the labor movement and the contributions that working Americans have made to the well-being and prosperity of the U.S.. It is dedicated to the social and economic achievements of the American Worker.
ok, sorry guys. I'm wrong here. (not a problem admitting that). Thread is dead, I get it. I just think I'm over it with the complaining about such lame suff. Pregnancy is hard, we are all going through ups and downs. TB is a place to do 'whatever' about it. It just seems like the more we proceed with pregnancy, the more superficial things get. We made babies here, that's all.
I read some of these responses and I really don't understand why you are all being so hard on OP. I totally get why she's upset. You cut the cake and it's like "yay boy!" The initial excitement then someone says it's wrong and gives you a box of pink balloons and that original excitement just isn't there any more and not because she isn't happy to have a girl but because the situation just got weird. I see it like you tell someone you want one of two awesome gifts for your birthday and you open one gift and it's one of the things you wanted and then someone goes " just kidding- you get the other present" that would be weird and irritating even though you would have been totally thrilled with either gift. Do I think the sister spoiled the whole thing on purpose? Obviously not- things didn't go as she planned and I totally think you should drop being mad at your sister but I completely get being mad about how the whole thing went down. Just be sure your upset it directed at the situation and not your sister then take a deep breath and move on. But I definitely don't think she is acting spoiled, huh maintenance, etc. I DO think you will laugh at this one day though OP- even if right now your high tended emotions make you feel like you never will. But I get it I would have been upset to a certain degree as well.
Aww, it's all ok. That's why I'm not even big on these reveals lol. Hubby & I found out at the anatomy scan....bought little confetti poppers at the party store (PINK), covered the outside with construction paper to give to our families. Well, they popped out PURPLE instead, and everyone was very very confused lol. No biggie tho, we just said it's a girl & that was that. Life doesn't go perfect :-) gotta go with the flow!! Well always remember that moment now haha. Can't do anything but laugh about it, right? ;-)
Re: Gender Reveal Epic Fail
You used the word "ruined" several times. What exactly was ruined? You are pregnant with a healthy girl. You needed a whole party and attention devoted to you based on something that has 50/50 odds. There is no shock or surprise here.
You really need some perspective here. Does it actually matter if you found out you were having a girl with balloons instead of cake? Really? Listen to yourself. If this party was 'just for fun', then get a grip and laugh it off.
Apologize to your sister for your over reaction. In the grand scheme of things in life (or even this week, for that matter) this does not matter!
I think what happened is hilarious and makes for a very good story, something that you and your sister should be able to laugh abput. I know my sister and I would. That's because I love my sister more than colored cake and would appreciate that she was thoughtful and put in extra effort. But then again my sister has to give me a shot in the butt every week just so I can have that healthy baby so maybe it's all about perspective.
I hope that you can forgive your sister for "ruining" your suprise.
1. Baker made blue cupcakes instead of blue icing in white cupcakes.
2. The top of a tree broke off and almost fell on my husband and sister. It managed to break 2 tables and took all of our food with it.
Lady, I'm laughing. I was upset for maybe 10 min. I vented and I'm good. This is our first child and the first boy in out family in 13 years. IMO forgive sis and enjoy your life. I'm already laughing about it. Geez.
I'm not gonna drag on and repeat all the valid points PPs have said, but I will say this.... your family LOVES you, clearly. Even dispite some pre-modonna'ish behaviour. Be GREATFUL for them. You live in AMERICA, your babies will have beautiful #blessed lives, you can AFFORD TO HAVE A GENDER REVEAL PARTY. Poor babies are washing up onshore all acorss the world DEAD because their mommy and daddys are trying to escape WAR.
Get. Some. Prespective. Girlfriend.
Oh, Happy Labor Day - you know, the day in which people gave their lives for our freedom! K!!
If you are worried about how you will react to the news of boy or girl in front of others then don't have a gender reveal party!
I'm appalled at the number of comments trying to place blame, on either the sister OR the baker. People make mistakes. I'm sure her sister feels horrible and unless the baker knew the exact plan I could see how he would think the cake was fine.
What's over the top about pointing out the fact that we are lucky to be living in a country where these things are possible? Thanks to you and your husband for getting out there and serving our country. Personally, and I can see we totally disagree on this - I think OP was over the top in being disappointed about a gender reveal mishap. There's too much othe sh*t in the world to get your panties in a bunch over than cake. CAKE.
Wow.
You're correct in some of the words were harsh, and for that... I apologize, for being harsh.
I don't apologize for feeling like the frivolity of this is laughable. There are women on this BMB who have waited years to concieve, there are ladies on this board who have waited weeks to find out if their baby is healthy from bad scans, there are women who will wait months to find out the gender of their baby at birth, and there are people who legit find this ridiculous. Just sayin. Girl, boy, baby - the other thing that gets me is that children disappoint parents all the time. If OP can't handle her sister making a seriously "sweet" mistake, what's she going to do the first time she find out her daughter does X, Y, or Z? Go nuts? Prespective is all...........
You weren't far off but Labor Day is not specifically for Vets but for everyone.
And if you really feel you can't laugh about it, you honestly need to get some perspective.
But before this thread dies I just wanted to mention... @amargaret24 , Labor Day is the celebration of the labor movement and the contributions that working Americans have made to the well-being and prosperity of the U.S.. It is dedicated to the social and economic achievements of the American Worker.