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October 2015 Moms
s&jeggerton
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What is the most ignorant/rude thing someone has told you while pregnant?
s&jeggerton
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So I work as an ER nurse and last night I worked w/ a doctor I haven't seen in a while. The first thing he says to me... "okay this is getting ridiculous (points to my belly) when are you due again?"
Me:"Oct 22nd"
Him: "oh, you're never going to make it. You'll split open before then."
Me: "(Nervous laugh) Yah while I was getting ready for work my husband was telling me how pregnant I'm looking."
Him: "Yah well that's putting it nicely."
WTF is that supposed to mean. I sh*t you not later in my shift he came back up to me and asked me "why are you so fat" then laughed. I have half a mind to turn him into HR. What an ass.
Like any other pregnant woman I'm sensitive about my weight gain (45lbs).... which whatever, as long as my baby girl is healthy I am going to enjoy my pregnancy and be grateful to be blessed w/ this baby girl. I just can't believe a physician and colleague would be so incredibly rude.
Re: What is the most ignorant/rude thing someone has told you while pregnant?
Also, before we are mean to all ER doctors on account of one experience, I'd like to say that i was in ER just last week and was blown away with how empathetic all the doctors were! This guy is just a douche! [-(
I was once asked if I had any prior miscarriages by a guy at work, who I barely knew, in the building's break room. He was completely serious and wanted to know. I just stood there at a loss for words and pretended like I didn't hear him.
Our IT guy said something about my belly button and that I looked like I was going to drop a baby out at any moment. I looked at him and told him that was rude and very inappropriate to say to a pregnant woman. He tried following me around and saying he was right and I was rude. Now he won't help me with my IT requests.
One of the sites I visit for work a woman I see EVERY week asked when I was due (still October) and she says "No way! You're HUGE! No way you're due in October, it's gotta be before that"
And not really rude just annoying, I ordered a coffee at Dunks and the girl goes "you want decaf right?" Me: "um nope just regular coffee" Dr Dunks: "you really should be drinking decaf" ::staring at my belly:: me: "you really should go make my coffee!"
My Father: When are you going to stop drinking coffee. When are you going to stop working. You shouldn't lift that.
Then stop giving me a headache and you see it... you move the heavy object, don't just stare at me. Oh and I work from home.
Friend: Watch God curse you and give you another boy. You'll be trapped in a house with 3 boys and your husband.
Yes! That's how I feel trapped...with a F@^ing amazing husband and remember last Spring my miscarriage...2 or 3 boys could pop out of here and I would be happy!!
Strangers: You have boys and now you're having a girl?! Oh you're in for some tough changes. Girls are hard.
How do you think that just made your daughter standing right next to you feel?
After that post, mine seems silly but it hurt at the time.
My uncle saw me at a restaurant and said "wow, you are so fat!" I just stared at him blankly. It was very awkward for everyone around us but he didn't let it pass. He then said (after at least a minute of awkward silence) "you need to go on a diet". Mind you, I haven't gained very much weight at all during this pregnancy and my whole family knows how hard it was for me to gain weight in my other pregnancies (to a dangerous point) so it feels like an extra sensitive topic.
I have the same problem! I'm 23 but often I'm taking care of my errands alone, or with my mom. Just because my DH isn't with me people assume I'm a young single mother. I am in a 7 year committed relationship and own a home with DH we are financially stable. But no its always the stupid assumption because I'm young I'm in a difficult position.
I haven't had anything mean said to me during pregnancy but in college I was a bit over weight and I was wearing a coat that tied right under my boobs. It gave the illusion I was bigger than I really was and a receptionist at my dr office asked when I was due. She asked in front of a ton of people and i responded i wasnt pregnant. It was very awkward and uncomfortable. It crushed me. I went home and cried. Some people just dont think before they speak!
First Time Mommy!
Due Date: Oct 11th 2015
Ouch.
I have been told by at least 10 strangers that I am having a boy. Not a question, as a matter of fact. When I tell them it's a girl, they ask if I'm sure. I guess I should be flattered that they are adhering to the wives tale of boy moms being all belly, but I hate to think that if I wasn't all belly they would still tell me what they think...
Omg that is horrible!!!!!!! How could anyone think that is ok to say!!! And I agree they would probably be missing a face after that comment around me.
@caraslats I'm also having twins and people feel the need to talk about terrible stories like that! I really don't understand what they are trying to accomplish. My sister once said to me "at least she has the other one" referring to a story of her friend who had twins and one of the twins died. How insensitive.Multiple coworkers have implied that I might not come back after maternity leave. Ridiculous.