Partners go to every appointment?

nikkinbonnie · September 2015

Do your partners go to every prenatal appointment? I'm just asking because my DH would go to all of them if I asked him but it is a major hassle because of where we live and where he works in relation to where my OB is.

britlatrice · September 2015

My first two appointments he was there. He's a truck driver so he's not home during the week. His mom has been at my other appointments

AliSummer · September 2015

My DH is only going to the ones where I have an ultrasound. He's sitting next to me and I asked him about going to every one and he said, "no guy does that." But, I'm sure some guys do

mrsmtothek · September 2015

It just depends on your personal preference. I think the biggies are the ultrasound appointments. Initially we had agreed that he only needed to go to those, but when I told him I heard the baby's heartbeat at my last checkup he was like "OKAY THATS IT I'm coming to every appointment, I can't miss this stuff!" haha. In an ideal world, he'd go to every appointment, but don't sweat about it if he can't.

Meggs2559 · September 2015

My husband does (for our first and so far for this one), but he is able to with his job. I would be ok if he needed to miss though.

UnbreakableKimmySchmidt · September 2015

My DH went to the first appointment and it was great to have him there because there's so much information and I honestly can't remember it all. We're planning on him coming to all the appointments as of now, which works out well for us anyway since we carpool to work together!

cmerribury · September 2015

Just for the biggies (ultrasounds, genetic counseling, and dopplers).

geminioftwo · September 2015

My DH comes to all of mine. He didn't miss a single appointment with DS. And I had a lot since I had GD and had NST's 2xs a week! Plus the nutritionist. But we learned lots and he was happy he was able to be there for them all.

sarahufl · September 2015

My H almost didn't come to an appointment that was supposed to just be a routine ultrasound (I was spotting). Turns out the embryo hadn't implanted, which ultimately lead to surgery for an ectopic. We were both so grateful he was there that time that I don't think he wants to NOT be there going forward.

We'll see as the pregnancy progresses but right now, I am just too anxious to go alone.

vvbaby2015 · September 2015

This is our second baby and my husband would go to any appointment i asked him to attend. But really it will only be the interesting ultrasound visits and at the end... if you are dialated with contractons. I was glad my hubby drove me to my last apt because the midwife examining me sent us straight over to the hospital! No need for him to use his time off for my routine dr apts. Save the time off for when you really need it!

vvbaby2015 · September 2015

Also, we have a doula who will make several home visits and he can hear the heartbeat when she comes to check me.

Ready4theParty · September 2015

With our first DH came for the ultrasound appointments and my last appointment when I was over due and we had to schedule an induction. This time around he will do the same. The other appointments are pretty short if you aren't high risk. They just check you over and make sure everything is on track.

PeggyOlsonFTW · September 2015

DH will only come to appointments with ultrasounds. Asking him to come to every appointment is way too much work for him to miss, plus the other appointments are pretty quick - questions and heartbeat. I always ask him before hand if he has anything he'd like me to ask my OB for him.

ETA: I ended up recording the heartbeat on my phone so that DH could hear it and not feel like he was missing out on that aspect.

Taraphanie · September 2015

My DH wasn't sure he wanted to come for the first appointment. Finally he came and he got so impressed and happy to see our little bean on the screen and to hear the heartbeat, that now he wants to come to every appointment. I'm happy to have him there.

imrachellea · September 2015

Ours initial appt for gmail history (though nothing changed from the spot for DD), ultrasounds, the first Doppler, maybe those closer to the end but likely not. At most appts they check the heartbeat, check the fundal height, the lab stuff with urine test, and that's it. DHs job on those appt days will be to pick up DD from preschool.

misstopsail · September 2015

DH will probably come to the 18 week ultrasound.. Other than that I doubt he'll come to any.. His schedule is crazy and it's not realistic for him to come to each appointment.

NachosAndPeaches · September 2015

DH was deployed last time do I got used to going alone. Plus at the end I was getting two ultrasounds a week which totally desensitized me to the excitement of ultrasounds. He was gonna come to my first appointment but they changed the day/time and it's really inconvenient with his work schedule so I told him he didn't have to come. He's his own boss so he could come if he doesn't have scheduled meetings, but he's not sentimental about these things so I left it up to him.

mrstrax · September 2015

The nurses at our practice tell you when scheduling which ones they recommend for Dads - 1st appt/meeting the doctor for first HB and questions, 20 weeks for the U/S 37/38 weeks to talk delivery logistics and then any abnormal appointments (extra u/s, results from extra testing, etc). This is #2, so DH will take his lunch while I'm at most appointments because they're so far during DD's nap, but we'll have someone else come over for the u/s for sure. She's too young to have any awe/enjoyment of seeing the u/s.

kstone1030 · September 2015

This is my second but my husband's first. We have our first appointment Tuesday 9/8. I'll be about 11 weeks. As of right now we are unsure if he will be at all of them because of his boss. But I also believe at this point with the way my last pregnancy was he might be needing to drive me to all of them... My first I had very high blood pressure and always ended up going to the hospital to be monitored. With my first I was always alone I told him I'm terrified that it'll be like that again and that I don't want to be at the hospital alone.

St0v3s · September 2015

So far my DH has been at every one. He has tons of leave set up and his boss doesn't mind. I ask him the week of the appointment if he wants to go or not though so it's known he doesn't have to go if he doesn't want to

helleebellee · September 2015

My dh goes only if there's an issue. I had fifth disease with my fifth, how fitting, and had to have weekly u/ss. He came to most of the u/ss with my regular dr and all of them with the perinatologist. We had to travel 3 hours for those, so I'm glad he was there. He did come with me to my first appointment with my last, but that was it. I doubt he'll make it to any this time around since he lives out of state.

skyrockets · September 2015

My husband attended all of mine for first pregnancy, but it was really convienent for him to do so.

TheBorg7of9 · September 2015

nikkinbonnie said:
Do your partners go to every prenatal appointment? I'm just asking because my DH would go to all of them if I asked him but it is a major hassle because of where we live and where he works in relation to where my OB is.

No. Most OB appointments are super boring. My DH only goes when there's an ultrasound and not always then.

K&Elizabeth · September 2015

Last time, DH just went to the big ones- initial, 18 wk u/s, and my 40 wk and later appointments in case I got sent to the hospital afterward (ha! Wishful thinking). This time, he came to the initial and will come to the 18 wk u/s, but that's probably it.

cathysagal3 · September 2015

My hubby went to all appts with last pregnancy, He even went to see lactation consultant after our son was born. Lol!! Plans on doing the same this time around as well. He works from home & makes his hours so it wasn't a hassle at all. His brother on the other hand had to travel for business &rarely made any of the appointments with his wife's past 2 pregnancys. Just depends on partners work situation.

queen_frostine · September 2015

My husband wasn't sure he wanted to go to the first appointment because he thought there would be nothing to see, but when I made it they said they would do an ultrasound, so I gave him the appointment information and send him a link about ultrasounds at 7 weeks (how far I will be at that appointment). So he made plans to go. I plan to have him there when there will be stuff to see - heartbeat, ultrasounds, etc. Or some vital information. NOT for just peeing in a cup and taking my blood pressure. I will make appointments around my work schedule - he can usually get away, but we don't want to overuse the privilege. Plus, I'm pretty independent. I want him involved in the baby, but not my personal medical care.

erind228 · September 2015

My husband comes to the ultrasound appointment, and the birth. Honestly, I don't think I could justify him skipping work to watch me have my blood pressure, weight, and pee recorded every appointment.

amaniupendo · September 2015

My husband came to all but one of my last ones last pregnancy. I had some complications and was going twice a week toward the end and we couldn't swing it.

He and my daughter will probably go to most this time. My daughter has soccer practice Tuesday evening (my next appointment and we weren't thinking when we scheduled it) so they will miss this one.

Most appointments are super boring and always seem to start super late. I'll be glad to have the company.

Goldsgirl9 · September 2015

With DS my husband went to every appointment, he did not miss one. With this one I think he will only attend the major appointments which will be a little more than average because I have two previous losses.

mojomama6 · September 2015

I don't go to all the recommended appointments myself, I can't imagine that my partner would want to go to all of them. He'll come to any ultrasound appointments, but that's it.
I myself am only going to like three or four appointments the whole pregnancy, unless weird things happen. My ob is cool with it. I monitor myself between appointments, and he scans my records into his. He's the best.

littleredx2 · September 2015

DH only goes to the first appt, the anatomy scan appt and possibly one at the very end. He went to the last few appts with our first but now that's it's #4, he knows the drill so that's not so important to us either. It's hard for him to get the time off and easier for me to only have to plan appts around my own work schedule . Most of them are just so quick any.

kcbarbo78 · September 2015

My husband works out of state, so no. He wants to come to ultrasound appointments, but otherwise I don't really feel any need to have him there as long as things continue to go well.

runlong3 · September 2015

DH went to all of them last time around, and will most likely do the same this time. He likes being involved and hearing the heartbeat. It's also nice to have someone else listening to info or remember something important to tell the MW I forgot.

cmjenkies · September 2015

See I find it kind of strange to have them come to all. I don't really care to have my husband come along at all - with my first he came to the 20w U/S and that's the same as it will be this time around likely. He wants to come to the first U/S at 10/11w and if he insists, I will let him of course as I don't want to hurt his feelings.. It just makes me kind of uncomfortable having other people there for medical appts. I'd rather fly solo for this stuff.

LadyDuby · September 2015

DH insists on going to every appointment with me, mostly because I have crippling anxiety and can hardly talk to people so he helps, but he doesn't want to miss a single thing. Which I have nothing wrong with it because he's part of this too !

jenniferamcooper · September 2015

DH is a grad student and I go to the campus clinic (my GP delivers babies) so it's a 2 minute walk for him to go to appointments. We usually make a date out of it - Dr appointment and a coffee break.
It's definitely handy to have him there because I used to forget info all the time.

pinottoparenthood · September 2015

My husband went to all of the ultrasounds and would occasionally pop into another appointment if he happened to leave work early... he definitely didn't go to all of them. It was fun when he did come though because we would go out to dinner after :-) At the very end he came to a few of them as well.

cmar1006 · September 2015

Nope. My husband only went to an ultrasound appointment and another appointment where I thought I was going to expect bad news.

With my first he only went to the first appointment and the gender scan.

Tippy05 · September 2015

Mine only goes to the ultrasound appointments (the first about 6 or 7 weeks then the 18/20 week scan).

sprocketsngadgets · September 2015

With our first, DH went to all the ultrasounds, but I told him to stay home for the pee in cup/blood pressure/Doppler appointments. He would have been more than happy to come to every single one though. It will probably be the same this time as long as everything is going well

lizok22 · September 2015

No way

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