$420 is a lot of money. Many women on here are worried about their medical bills, preparing for baby, etc. So please tell us all about your great deals you got on maternity clothes! Sorry, that's not a good deal around here!
Really wasn't flaunting... It was my confession and like an "ugh just spent too much money"
Buying a few $50 dresses really isn't flaunt worthy. If they were $500 then it would be lol
And even though I spent a lot, I got a lot so it's a good deal to me.
It's not so weird to talk maternity clothes on a baby forum.
Sorry if I offended you. But, I think that's a bit of a stretch.
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I can't speak for everyone so I may be wrong but I think it may just come from your post history- I have noticed you tend to talk a lot about how much money you spend on various things, in very specific detail. I think it just rubs people the wrong way because it seems a little braggy. I don't mean this to offend or upset you, just to inform where comments like this might come from, because whenever you talk about money and get called out like this, you seem confused.
@bookqueen I agree and that sucks so bad. Is there another store near you that you could check? That price is awesome and if it's like target the next store may have it.
@bookqueen Do you ever get frustrated that he doesn't handle any of it? My husband says he's fine and happy to do it ( I think what he really means is he wouldn't trust me with it), but I do wonder at times, if he gets annoyed that I am so hands off with the finances or any financial decisions (or not even show any willingness to learn about it).
I guess the reason why I started thinking about this so much is that I started analyzing my behavior as a potential role model now that I know I am having a girl. It' so different than when I had my son. I get overly worried that my girl will grow up thinking that men handle finances and women don't (or can't). It's crazy, I know; but I worry about these weird things now that I am having a girl. I am not athletic AT ALL, I am seriously so uncoordinated, I don't even know how to ride a bicycle (that and no one actually taught me how to ride one when I was a child - I just had the training wheels on my bicycle until I lost interest in riding it). And that worries me that my girl will grow up thinking that she can't do what boys can do athletically. Basically, having a girl made me think about all the stuff that I am not good at and making me worry how it will affect her. This is crazy right?
Nope, it doesn't frustrate me at all. I enjoy doing the finances. I love being the sole person to see our debt go down and then surprise DH and say, "Guess what, we just paid off another credit card!" Or something like that, lol. It would certainly be a lot less irritating though if we didn't have to worry so much about money and I didn't have to ever tell him he can't buy something.
My husband handles are taxes, joint accounts, etc., but we don't have any joint credit cards! All of ours are our personal responsibility.
Do most married couples have joint credit cards? Now I'm curious.
We have a joint savings and joint checking account. We both also have separate check g accounts and separate credit cards. Our pay checks get deposited into the joint account and then we each get money to spend on whatever transferred into our own accounts. That way no one can give the other crap for how they spend their "fun money." The credit cards are only used for big purchases and to keep up our credit scores and immediately are paid off. I also sometimes have to buy stuff for work and then get reimbursed right away so I use my card for that
I hated maternity clothing shopping last time I was pregnant. Except my maternity skinny jeans from my favorite pre-pregnancy skinny jeans line, I hated how expensive maternity clothes were for the quality, and considering how temporary they were.
Where did these skinny jeans come from?
I lived in JBrand lightweight skinny black jeans pre p and I still do, I forget the full name but the model number is 915. The maternity line carries the same pair with maternity panel ( and the fit is slightly bigger in the hip and thigh area. ) but the model number is different- I can't remember. It's so lightweight, it doesn't look or feel like jeans. They look dressy enough I could wear to work on days I didn't have to be in a suit.
It's so annoying because of you don't have a clearance item in stock anymore, you shouldn't have the darn display on the floor!
Story of my life.. Will they sell you the display? I've asked before and sometimes have been pleasantly surprised with a YES! My bathtub and dining set were both heavily discounted display units.
@bookqueen Do you ever get frustrated that he doesn't handle any of it? My husband says he's fine and happy to do it ( I think what he really means is he wouldn't trust me with it), but I do wonder at times, if he gets annoyed that I am so hands off with the finances or any financial decisions (or not even show any willingness to learn about it).
I guess the reason why I started thinking about this so much is that I started analyzing my behavior as a potential role model now that I know I am having a girl. It' so different than when I had my son. I get overly worried that my girl will grow up thinking that men handle finances and women don't (or can't). It's crazy, I know; but I worry about these weird things now that I am having a girl. I am not athletic AT ALL, I am seriously so uncoordinated, I don't even know how to ride a bicycle (that and no one actually taught me how to ride one when I was a child - I just had the training wheels on my bicycle until I lost interest in riding it). And that worries me that my girl will grow up thinking that she can't do what boys can do athletically. Basically, having a girl made me think about all the stuff that I am not good at and making me worry how it will affect her. This is crazy right?
Nope, it doesn't frustrate me at all. I enjoy doing the finances. I love being the sole person to see our debt go down and then surprise DH and say, "Guess what, we just paid off another credit card!" Or something like that, lol. It would certainly be a lot less irritating though if we didn't have to worry so much about money and I didn't have to ever tell him he can't buy something.
My husband handles are taxes, joint accounts, etc., but we don't have any joint credit cards! All of ours are our personal responsibility.
Do most married couples have joint credit cards? Now I'm curious.
We don't do credit cards. The only thing we owe on is a car loan. I guess if we did they would be joint though. Our bank account is.
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It's so annoying because of you don't have a clearance item in stock anymore, you shouldn't have the darn display on the floor!
Story of my life..
Will they sell you the display? I've asked before and sometimes have been pleasantly surprised with a YES! My bathtub and dining set were both heavily discounted display units.
This! I scored a Chico carseat and stroller combo that was the last one, on the floor when I was pregnant with my youngest.
Someone wanna give me money? I almost cried spending $55 today on 3 maternity shirts and a mug. Lol!
On another note, I was so mad that I found a crib on clearance today for $80 and they had none in stock.
Haha I felt pretty good that I basically spent $80 total on 4 shirts, 2 jeans, shorts, leggings, and a maternity packers shirt! I didn't buy any actual maternity clothes with dd so I'm excited.
Bummer, could they look at another store close by to see if they had more and ship it or you could travel there? $80 is amazing For a crib We went to bru today and the cheapest mattress was 80!! H had a heart attack and was trying to think of a way to not have to buy it. I let him freak because I know they have cheaper ones at any other store
It's so annoying because of you don't have a clearance item in stock anymore, you shouldn't have the darn display on the floor!
Story of my life.. Will they sell you the display? I've asked before and sometimes have been pleasantly surprised with a YES! My bathtub and dining set were both heavily discounted display units.
We didn't want the display because we will be going through a move before it's even used. Don't want to damage it and not have even used it yet, lol. We only have one other Burlington within driving distance so I'm sure I could check there..
As for buying displays, if they are meant for display only then it's illegal to sell them to customers.
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@bookqueen Do you ever get frustrated that he doesn't handle any of it? My husband says he's fine and happy to do it ( I think what he really means is he wouldn't trust me with it), but I do wonder at times, if he gets annoyed that I am so hands off with the finances or any financial decisions (or not even show any willingness to learn about it).
I guess the reason why I started thinking about this so much is that I started analyzing my behavior as a potential role model now that I know I am having a girl. It' so different than when I had my son. I get overly worried that my girl will grow up thinking that men handle finances and women don't (or can't). It's crazy, I know; but I worry about these weird things now that I am having a girl. I am not athletic AT ALL, I am seriously so uncoordinated, I don't even know how to ride a bicycle (that and no one actually taught me how to ride one when I was a child - I just had the training wheels on my bicycle until I lost interest in riding it). And that worries me that my girl will grow up thinking that she can't do what boys can do athletically. Basically, having a girl made me think about all the stuff that I am not good at and making me worry how it will affect her. This is crazy right?
Nope, it doesn't frustrate me at all. I enjoy doing the finances. I love being the sole person to see our debt go down and then surprise DH and say, "Guess what, we just paid off another credit card!" Or something like that, lol. It would certainly be a lot less irritating though if we didn't have to worry so much about money and I didn't have to ever tell him he can't buy something.
My husband handles are taxes, joint accounts, etc., but we don't have any joint credit cards! All of ours are our personal responsibility.
Do most married couples have joint credit cards? Now I'm curious.
We don't do credit cards. The only thing we owe on is a car loan. I guess if we did they would be joint though. Our bank account is.
Everything we have is joint.
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$420 for like 6 items sounds like you got robbed. At least, that's how my wallet would feel!
Me and H have seperate bank accounts and credit cards. Nothing we do financially is together besides our financial decisions. This works really well for us. If I knew what he spent in a day on various things he's worked hard for, I'd probably die. However all our bills are paid, money is in savings & the girls both have college money stored aside so I can't complain. I read somewhere that many divorced are due to money arguments and I just don't want to see that happen to us. We have our car loan together and each of us has permission to be given information about the others bank account but that's it. It's worked for 10 years....I don't foresee it changing anytime soon.
We are totally combined financially. It started with a joint credit card for groceries and gas etc when we moved in together and then gradually we just started using it for everything. Once we bought our house we merged even further. We felt that with that much debt it barely made a difference to keep it separate. He has a couple investment accounts that I don't have all the info for but its all our money and he gives me updates.
The only thing I'm willing to spend more money on for pregnancy clothes (and clothes in general I guess) is pants. I'm 6'0" so most cheaper brands or store brands don't come long enough for me. Was panicking that maternity pants would be impossible but I found some on sale from j crew that came in long lengths. They were still $60 but for being pregnant in the winter I can't be wearing ankle grazers all the time. And they fit great so phewf. I got some others secondhand for a steal that will be fine to wear a little short (thank got for ankle length kinny jeans being acceptable). Otherwise it's all bargains for me. Do any of your cities have Varage Sale? I love that app for finding good used deals!
All our finances are joined, have been for 7+ years. For budgeting we use a tool called You Need a Budget (YNAB) and we have monthly budget meetings. We both have a slush fund to buy things from but big purchases are a joint decision. Works well for us.
My husband and I have joint everything. We make similar salaries and are same age and built everything together, so it makes sense for us. We consult each other before spending large amounts of money. That amt. changes depending on how well things are going. Sometimes it can be as little as 100, other times it's 500. I handled our bills and stuff for most of the relationship, but he's taken over because he found an app that he liked and wanted to help out more.
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This is interesting. I didn't realize so many people solely had joint accounts.
I've always read that you and your spouse should at least have a few separate credit cards so that you each can maintain your own credit history. I may be wrong, but I've read in the event of divorce or death, people who no longer have their own credit history end up having a hard time getting back on their feet.
I'm sure one of the financially savvy ladies here may have some insight?
This is interesting. I didn't realize so many people solely had joint accounts.
I've always read that you and your spouse should at least have a few separate credit cards so that you each can maintain your own credit history. I may be wrong, but I've read in the event of divorce or death, people who no longer have their own credit history end up having a hard time getting back on their feet.
I'm sure one of the financially savvy ladies here may have some insight?
So long as 2 individual social security numbers are tied to the accounts, you would each have an individual credit history.
Not having a clue that your husband had 50k in credit card debt when he keels... That would screw you.
What you own stands for what you owe when you die. Good luck getting HIS credit card company to NOT put a lien on your joint home if there is equity.
This is interesting. I didn't realize so many people solely had joint accounts.
I've always read that you and your spouse should at least have a few separate credit cards so that you each can maintain your own credit history. I may be wrong, but I've read in the event of divorce or death, people who no longer have their own credit history end up having a hard time getting back on their feet.
I'm sure one of the financially savvy ladies here may have some insight?
So long as 2 individual social security numbers are tied to the accounts, you would each have an individual credit history.
Not having a clue that your husband had 50k in credit card debt when he keels... That would screw you.
What you own stands for what you owe when you die. Good luck getting HIS credit card company to NOT put a lien on your joint home if there is equity.
Thanks for the info. Knew that spouse debts becomes yours after death, but wasn't sure about the credit history.
To be fair, there's a difference between having separate credit card accounts and having separate credit card accounts and not knowing what your spouse owes in credit card debt.
I agree that you can plan for a newborn and not know the gender. We didn't really have a complete nursery when DS was born and he mostly had green and yellow onesies and pjs.
I dislike when I tell people that we are finding out and they claim that I am missing out on one of the greatest moments ever. When DH and I found out we were having a boy at 20 weeks last time it was the greatest moment (just 20 weeks early). I am so thankful we did find out because my labour was hard and I ended up with a c-section and was too out of it to even remember my DS being born. I am glad that wasn't the moment where I heard "it's a boy" because I would not be able to recollect it.
I feel the same way! We were team green for the first time with our last pregnancy and although it was fun during the pregnancy, it was so anticlimactic! I had a fast and furious birth that had everyone scrambling and I overheard a nurse say "he" instead of having a big announcement. I really missed the fun of the 20 week announcement, and having a name picked out. To me, the big surprise at birth is meeting my baby and at that point I don't care if it's a boy or a girl. But I get super excited at the anatomy scan to find out! I'm finding out this time and probably always will from here on out.
@thoughtfulmommy I totally agree I too hate when people get all judgy about me wanting to find out. It's my child and I can do what I want, I don't care if you want to wait because it's your personal preference. It goes with my opinion about people judging moms for all sorts of reasons like; not breastfeeding, kid spacing, stay at home vs working moms, cloth diapers, etc... These are all very personal decision imo and everyone has different circumstances so don't give someone a lecture on their lifestyle choice of you don't know the whole story. Sorry for the rant, I've been very irritated at people lately and needed to vent.
I've never ever seen anyone get judged for wanting to find out, on here or IRL. I've also never met anyone IRL who was team green. I think it's the MUCH more unpopular choice these days. The front desk staff at my OB's office said it's super rare anymore and they get really excited when people choose not to find out.
I know quite a few team green people irl...h's cousin was for both their kids and she said she loved it! her sister is team green and she said people would tell her how annoying it was which she didn't see but now that she wants to buy for her sister and she doesn't know what to get for clothes it's super annoying haha.
I think buying for other people who are team green is sort of fun because you aren't overwhelmed by so many things it's more of what they actually need!
For our shower no one knew what we were having so we got so much stuff we actually needed and we didn't get a bunch of pink fluffy crap! I'm not a pink fluffy crap person...
Most people I know who are team green found out for their next kids. But team green is still much less common around here. I do think it's fun to find out, I've loved hearing from my friends when they do. I just know I want to wait, and always have. But it doesn't matter to me what other people do.
Also I am finding out about any genetic conditions my child might have but not its sex. So sometimes I laugh at myself for pretending to be doing it the "old fashioned way".
The things I want to knit that are more gender specific are things I knit for friends and love the patterns. I definitely wasn't judging their choices, I was taking advantage too!
RE: maternity clothes - I bought a dress, 2 pairs of shorts, and 2 shirts at Motherhood and it was $230. I felt like that was a lot considering the short amount of time I'll be wearing them. I won't purchase clothes from Zulily after having been burned numerous times.
Can I bring this one back or is it flame worthy. Haha. I went to goodwill today and bought 10 pairs of maternity jeans - some that look brand new - 4 sweaters and a cute nursery picture frame. THAT is a good deal my friends. I couldn't help but think about this thread. To be fair it is half off Saturday, I used my rewards card to get an additional 10% off plus it is my birthday month so I got an additional $5 off but me AND my BFF who is 6 weeks behind me with twins are both set on pants. Done. Boom.
Edit. Too excited. I spent $38 after rounding up to donate to education.
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I can't speak for everyone so I may be wrong but I think it may just come from your post history- I have noticed you tend to talk a lot about how much money you spend on various things, in very specific detail. I think it just rubs people the wrong way because it seems a little braggy. I don't mean this to offend or upset you, just to inform where comments like this might come from, because whenever you talk about money and get called out like this, you seem confused.
On another note, I was so mad that I found a crib on clearance today for $80 and they had none in stock.
BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks
BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
I guess I won the maternity clothes lottery yesterday. I got a bag of hand-me- downs from a friend whose done having kids. Score!
BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks
BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks
BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
It's so lightweight, it doesn't look or feel like jeans. They look dressy enough I could wear to work on days I didn't have to be in a suit.
Will they sell you the display? I've asked before and sometimes have been pleasantly surprised with a YES! My bathtub and dining set were both heavily discounted display units.
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Bummer, could they look at another store close by to see if they had more and ship it or you could travel there? $80 is amazing For a crib
We went to bru today and the cheapest mattress was 80!! H had a heart attack and was trying to think of a way to not have to buy it. I let him freak because I know they have cheaper ones at any other store
As for buying displays, if they are meant for display only then it's illegal to sell them to customers.
BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks
BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks
BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
Me and H have seperate bank accounts and credit cards. Nothing we do financially is together besides our financial decisions. This works really well for us. If I knew what he spent in a day on various things he's worked hard for, I'd probably die. However all our bills are paid, money is in savings & the girls both have college money stored aside so I can't complain. I read somewhere that many divorced are due to money arguments and I just don't want to see that happen to us. We have our car loan together and each of us has permission to be given information about the others bank account but that's it. It's worked for 10 years....I don't foresee it changing anytime soon.
The only thing I'm willing to spend more money on for pregnancy clothes (and clothes in general I guess) is pants. I'm 6'0" so most cheaper brands or store brands don't come long enough for me. Was panicking that maternity pants would be impossible but I found some on sale from j crew that came in long lengths. They were still $60 but for being pregnant in the winter I can't be wearing ankle grazers all the time. And they fit great so phewf. I got some others secondhand for a steal that will be fine to wear a little short (thank got for ankle length kinny jeans being acceptable). Otherwise it's all bargains for me. Do any of your cities have Varage Sale? I love that app for finding good used deals!
For budgeting we use a tool called You Need a Budget (YNAB) and we have monthly budget meetings. We both have a slush fund to buy things from but big purchases are a joint decision. Works well for us.
This is interesting. I didn't realize so many people solely had joint accounts.
I've always read that you and your spouse should at least have a few separate credit cards so that you each can maintain your own credit history. I may be wrong, but I've read in the event of divorce or death, people who no longer have their own credit history end up having a hard time getting back on their feet.
I'm sure one of the financially savvy ladies here may have some insight?
Not having a clue that your husband had 50k in credit card debt when he keels... That would screw you.
What you own stands for what you owe when you die. Good luck getting HIS credit card company to NOT put a lien on your joint home if there is equity.
To be fair, there's a difference between having separate credit card accounts and having separate credit card accounts and not knowing what your spouse owes in credit card debt.
I really missed the fun of the 20 week announcement, and having a name picked out. To me, the big surprise at birth is meeting my baby and at that point I don't care if it's a boy or a girl. But I get super excited at the anatomy scan to find out! I'm finding out this time and probably always will from here on out.
her sister is team green and she said people would tell her how annoying it was which she didn't see but now that she wants to buy for her sister and she doesn't know what to get for clothes it's super annoying haha.
I think buying for other people who are team green is sort of fun because you aren't overwhelmed by so many things it's more of what they actually need!
For our shower no one knew what we were having so we got so much stuff we actually needed and we didn't get a bunch of pink fluffy crap! I'm not a pink fluffy crap person...
Edit. Too excited. I spent $38 after rounding up to donate to education.