I"m so sick of the "18 more years and THEN you'll be able to hang out with your husband and have fun again" TF? seriously?? First off, i didn't move out until I was 23, second- those were 23 years that my parents would hang out, date night, fun family nights and they are still happily in love. Why does having a child mean everything in life ends? "Oh you wont be able to go on runs anymore." wut.... why not? Because my husband isn't capable of hanging out with his daughter?
*grumble grumble*
This! The mommy martyrs and their comments irk me! Just because you have a kid does not mean you have to give up your relationship with your husband. I'm not saying every chance you get pawn your kid off on the closest relative. But there is nothing wrong with a date night here or there. Or when they say you have to give up basic grooming and hygeine when you have a baby. I'm pretty sure DH can watch the baby long enough for me to shower and get an eyebrow wax. Smh.
Yeah the people with their "you get to have fun again in 18 years" comments . . .
First of all, your priorities and budget might change so that eyebrow wax might give way to tweezers in your own bathroom, dinner AND a movie becomes dinner OR a movie. Or you do things as a family instead of as a couple.
And it's not like no mom has ever gone running with her baby in tow or taken a shower. Actually when the baby is the youngest it's the easiest because you just put 'em in the bouncer or stroller and do your thing.
Also, whatever things you did regularly before baby, date nights, travel, etc. can become part of their routine. They grow up used to having a sitter ever Saturday while mom and dad go ou or taking a trip every summer. It's not like it's somehow traumatizing for a kid to be left in someone else's care for a short time. In fact, my sisters and I liked having a sitter when our parents went out. It meant we'd get pizza for dinner and get to watch a Disney movie instead of whatever my dad would pick out.
If I hear "you're so big you look like you're going to pop" one more time I'm going to rip my freaking eyelashes off!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you strange lady in the grocery store for offending me today. I love to hear how big I am for the 50th time this week.
@elmann1@sjembry93@mamaowl15 RIGHT? The part of that martyr mom mentality that especially irks me is that our munchkins probably won't be very impacted if they have a sitter on date nights... what WILL impact them though is seeing their mom never prioritize their dad and make time for him and keep that flame going... That REALLY will impact a kid. I'm a believer that if you're in a relationship and there's a kid involved than you need to make that relationship as strong as possible since it's the foundation for your family. Getting out and doing things here and there that make the parents happy is going to have a lasting positive effect on the baby! If hubby and I feel comfortable with it by that point we'll go away for a mini (like 2 day) vaca next year so we can just be with each other and be a stronger couple for our son.
I'm tired of having the same conversation 50 times a day:
When are you due: Oct 25th
Boy or Girl: Boy
(Then they get really excited for some reason that it's a boy. I get a lot of "Alright!!" and High Fives...
I've seriously considered having a t-shirt made just to get through the grocery store.
something like: It's a boy
He's due in October
Yes it's my first
Yes I'm big
Of course I'm excited, but I've also got places to be so don't ask me stupid questions stranger!
"If I can do it you can too!" (Referring to a natural childbirth and breastfeeding) support is good but don't compare me to you so if I fail I'm not as good as you!
I hate everyone assuming I won't be able to do anything after this baby arrives! Hello?!? Since when was parenthood a setence to a boring life. To my mil I will still be able to host Christmas lunch! To my sister just because you refuse to take your son out of your house doesn't mean I will! To the lady in the doctors waiting room, just because you are unhealthy by your own lifestyle choices doesn't make me "less pregnant" than you! I'm soooooooo tired of hearing anything related to my pregnancy wether it's positive or negative.
I haven't even had them yet and the twin questions are already getting to me... Do they run in your family? Do you have any advice on how to get pregnant with twins? (Is that a serious question?) How will you do it? I know it's only going to get worse after they're here--I may need to make a t-shirt as well!
My top 3..... 1.) you haven't had that baby .... YET !! My reply Ummmm why sure I did popped her out last night and back here today.
2.) wow what were you thinking having a baby at 34, and you have a 12yr old you were done raising kids why did you start over !?!?! (F-u is usually my choice reply here)
3.) awwwww your having a girl you must be so excited to finally have a girl they are soooooo much fun !!! ( when this is said in front of my 12 year old son I get really pissed !!! Especially when he asks if I will love a girl more than him, and has told complete strangers that his "mommy is finally getting a girl")
I get tired of the pity that I'm due in October and have to suffer through the summer heat and humidity. Um, yeah hot, humid weather sucks. And being 35 weeks pregnant isn't that fun, either. There have been a few times when combining the two made things a little worse, but honestly, it's not that bad. I don't need any pity.
"Get in your sleep now..." (I think to myself - it's not like I can bank it up and save it for later. I do have a life to live right now. Yes, I do indulge in naps now and then but I don't need to be told to sleep.)
I'm sick of people telling me that my baby probably won't be born on my due date. I'm aware. When I say 2 months or 58 days or 8 weeks, I mean until that date. I'm very aware of the uncertainty of it all. Also, stop reminding me about how painful labor and delivery are, it's the worst pain in the world and it's coming for me, I got it. Thanks.
My favorite is "Are you sure you are going to make it till October?" Seriously, I get it, I look full term thanks! Yes I still have 5 weeks to continue getting bigger. Why question my due date? I swear!!!!, Another one I got was "don't pop until you get home" Ughhhhh, I am a fairly petite girl and only 5'2" so I am sure I look done. But keep it to yourself people!!!
I Hate it when people ask me what I'm having and I tell them "a girl" and then they give me a sad look and say "didn't you want a boy?" No, I'm not Anne Boleyn thank you! I don't need to produce a male heir to avoid getting my head chopped off! I'm happy to have my THIRD girl. I will love her just as much as I would love a boy, and she is not a consolation prize for trying for a boy and failing! People are so obsessed with the baby's sex! I'm tired of them acting like I'm some kind of failure for only having girls!!
I am tired hearing the comments about my pregnant body! People used to say that I am really cute, but now I'm very much aware that at 36 weeks my stomach is huge and I'm all baby. I had a stranger ask me when I was due on Monday, and after I told her Oct.1st she asked me if I was sure. She then asked if I was having twins.
Im sick of: "Are you ready, i bet you just want that baby out yet" yes i want him out but only if hes ready. I'm 35 weeks, i still got a little time. "Your not going to make it" due Oct. 6th- we'll see I guess "Stopiing lifting- thats too heavy" hell if I get scolded at for picking up something... im gonna crack, you might as well tell me to sit in a corner and dont touch anything. So annoying.
Ooh! I thought of another one! When people see that you're obviously exhausted and in pain despite your best attempts at hiding it and they ask you... "so... are you going to do it all agian?"
Hey now. 1st. Just let me get through this first pregnancy in peace. But 2nd. WTF! I didn't get pregnant to be pregnant, I got pregnant to have a baby! Seeing as I would like a couple more... which you already know... YES I'm going to "do it all again."
When I was pregnant with my son, I had so many people tell me "you're not going to make it till June!" (I was due June 16). As it turns out, he was born May 24, but how were these perfect strangers to know that I would develop pre-e and require an emergency c-section at 36 weeks, 5 days? And for the record, only 7 lbs 11 oz of the nearly 60 I gained was him. So by telling me how "huge" I looked, people were actually saying I was fat. Gee, thanks . . .
I am SO over my body being a topic of conversation. With anyone. If you wouldn't say it, touch it or ask about it with someone who is not pregnant, don't do it now. I can do exactly zero things about how my body is carrying this baby and when she will arrive.
Also, sick of hearing my MIL say "You need to have her on September 27th so Nana (my MIL) can share a birthday with her princess (my baby)!" OK 1.) Stop calling her your princess. 2.) I have zero control over when she decides to be born. And I swear on every thing that is Holy if I'm in labor on the 26th I will do everything humanly possible to get her out before midnight. And if I'm in labor on the 27th I will do my very best to hold her in until 12:01am on the 28th just to spite her.
Me too! I usually respond by saying I'm ready to be done. To which they say oh, you have a ways to go. Little do they know I've been ready to be done since day 1. Also, just because I haven't been puking everyday doesn't mean I feel good or I'm enjoying myself.
Me too! I usually respond by saying I'm ready to be done. To which they say oh, you have a ways to go. Little do they know I've been ready to be done since day 1. Also, just because I haven't been puking everyday doesn't mean I feel good or I'm enjoying myself.
I feel similarly. I've been ready to crank this baby out since February. LOL.
I'm sick of the "your life is OVER" comment. Um FYI my life is just getting started thank you very much!
Also we're planning a home birth with a midwife and I'm sick of my people asking me "have you changed your mind yet" "but it's gonna hurt" (no DUH) "on your FIRST?" "I'm scared for you" "well hopefully you'll change your mind before it's too late/you go into labor". You can't be upset with me for the decisions that I make for MY daughter! I wouldn't do it if I thought it would be dangerous for her. Get YO life!
Oh also sick of people telling me how small I am and how appreciative I should be because "when I was pregnant...". I know they prob mean it as a compliment but when you FEEL huge, that's not exactly what you wanna hear every second of everyday!
I'm also sick of people snickering and saying "you say that NOW," when I say I'm going to have an unmedicated birth. The last comment I got like that was from a MAN no less! Excuse me sir you have no idea what I am capable of.
I'm also having my baby at a birthing center and have gotten comments about how there better be a hospital close and if something happens it could be too late to save the baby. Just because it's a hospital does not mean it's the safest place to be! I am low risk and birth is natural so keep your damn horror stories to yourself!
If anyone else asks me "are you sure it's not twins" I don't know what I will do.... Nope one heathy baby boy folks! I know I look big but I'm short! 34 weeks!
We live in Georgia, summers here are 90+ just about everyday. And pretty much all summer I have had these annoying hot flashes that pop up out of no where. So even when we're inside with the air on, I'm still a shiny, sweaty mess! It so frustrating, not to be able to control this. And of course it always seems to happen the most when we're out with the other couples (8 people total ) all his friends, so maybe it's nerves. But I hate when people say: are you hot? No I'm not hot at all, my face is just shiny, I have a paper fan, going 90 on my face! Yes! I'm hot! I'm carrying an extra 25 lbs, with my lo kicking my bladder, and this weather makes it hard to breath! Fall, please hurry!
I'm sick of hearing how because my husband was 9 lbs and i was 8 lbs that my baby is going to be huge. So huge i shouldn't even bother buying any newborn clothes.
This is literally the first thing out of my mother's mouth everytime we look at baby clothes together. It's like how can you be so sure? My best friend had 2 babies that each weighed 9 lbs and the both wore newborn. Not everyone is the same but I would just like to cover my bases.
I got my very first "are you having twins?" yesterday, it only made me mad because it was a 14 year old girl and when I told her no, she and her little friend shared a look and snickered when they walked away. You and I have a very similar build and I just don't understand how rude other people raise their children to be.
Sick of hearing "are you sure it's just one in there, you're huge!" Or getting a look of disbelief when I say my due date (oct 4)...um that's only 4 weeks away, I am supposed to be this big! Or if I complain and ask my husband for help because I am pregnant and have limits he says "you did it to yourself" "you wanted this" no I didn't do this to myself I'm not the Virgin Mary...and just because I wanted to have a second baby doesn't mean I have to love being pregnant! I also hate when people see me struggling with my 3 year old and they say "and you want another one...good luck"
Sick of hearing "are you sure it's just one in there, you're huge!" Or getting a look of disbelief when I say my due date (oct 4)...um that's only 4 weeks away, I am supposed to be this big! Or if I complain and ask my husband for help because I am pregnant and have limits he says "you did it to yourself" "you wanted this" no I didn't do this to myself I'm not the Virgin Mary...and just because I wanted to have a second baby doesn't mean I have to love being pregnant! I also hate when people see me struggling with my 3 year old and they say "and you want another one...good luck"
I'm so sick of people acting disappointed we are having another boy. I was actually kind of relieved and excited - it feels like familiar territory and I loved his little clothes so much, I'm excited to get them out again and revisit the memories. Not to mention, he's HEALTHY and this pregnancy has not been rough in any way. Also, I know I look big, thank you.
I get sick of hearing, both when it comes to pregnancy and the more challenging aspects of parenthood, "well this is what you signed up for," or "you wanted this."
Yes, I wanted to be a mom. I wanted a second child. I even wanted to experience pregnancy. But that doesn't mean I have to sit back and enjoy the heartburn, sore hips, insomnia, toddler tantrums and dirty diapers.
These comments make me want to tell everyone who has a job and complains that it's Monday to STFU because "you asked for this."
Re: What are you sick of hearing?
First of all, your priorities and budget might change so that eyebrow wax might give way to tweezers in your own bathroom, dinner AND a movie becomes dinner OR a movie. Or you do things as a family instead of as a couple.
And it's not like no mom has ever gone running with her baby in tow or taken a shower. Actually when the baby is the youngest it's the easiest because you just put 'em in the bouncer or stroller and do your thing.
Also, whatever things you did regularly before baby, date nights, travel, etc. can become part of their routine. They grow up used to having a sitter ever Saturday while mom and dad go ou or taking a trip every summer. It's not like it's somehow traumatizing for a kid to be left in someone else's care for a short time. In fact, my sisters and I liked having a sitter when our parents went out. It meant we'd get pizza for dinner and get to watch a Disney movie instead of whatever my dad would pick out.
Rant over.......
1.) you haven't had that baby .... YET !! My reply Ummmm why sure I did popped her out last night and back here today.
2.) wow what were you thinking having a baby at 34, and you have a 12yr old you were done raising kids why did you start over !?!?! (F-u is usually my choice reply here)
3.) awwwww your having a girl you must be so excited to finally have a girl they are soooooo much fun !!! ( when this is said in front of my 12 year old son I get really pissed !!! Especially when he asks if I will love a girl more than him, and has told complete strangers that his "mommy is finally getting a girl")
Me: Don't be jealous.
No, I'm not Anne Boleyn thank you! I don't need to produce a male heir to avoid getting my head chopped off! I'm happy to have my THIRD girl. I will love her just as much as I would love a boy, and she is not a consolation prize for trying for a boy and failing! People are so obsessed with the baby's sex! I'm tired of them acting like I'm some kind of failure for only having girls!!
"Are you ready, i bet you just want that baby out yet" yes i want him out but only if hes ready. I'm 35 weeks, i still got a little time.
"Your not going to make it" due Oct. 6th- we'll see I guess
"Stopiing lifting- thats too heavy" hell if I get scolded at for picking up something... im gonna crack, you might as well tell me to sit in a corner and dont touch anything. So annoying.
OK
1.) Stop calling her your princess.
2.) I have zero control over when she decides to be born. And I swear on every thing that is Holy if I'm in labor on the 26th I will do everything humanly possible to get her out before midnight. And if I'm in labor on the 27th I will do my very best to hold her in until 12:01am on the 28th just to spite her.
Also we're planning a home birth with a midwife and I'm sick of my people asking me "have you changed your mind yet" "but it's gonna hurt" (no DUH) "on your FIRST?" "I'm scared for you" "well hopefully you'll change your mind before it's too late/you go into labor". You can't be upset with me for the decisions that I make for MY daughter! I wouldn't do it if I thought it would be dangerous for her. Get YO life!
I'm also having my baby at a birthing center and have gotten comments about how there better be a hospital close and if something happens it could be too late to save the baby. Just because it's a hospital does not mean it's the safest place to be! I am low risk and birth is natural so keep your damn horror stories to yourself!
Yes, I wanted to be a mom. I wanted a second child. I even wanted to experience pregnancy. But that doesn't mean I have to sit back and enjoy the heartburn, sore hips, insomnia, toddler tantrums and dirty diapers.
These comments make me want to tell everyone who has a job and complains that it's Monday to STFU because "you asked for this."