September 2015 Moms
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Things women say...
wwenger
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I haven't had a whole lot of people say or do inappropriate things during my pregnancy, but just recently I have had one woman in my building who is super interested in this pregnancy and goes out of her way to ask me awkward questions. This morning, though, she took the cake. She waited for me so that she could hold the door, and right as she opened it onto our floor, she loudly proclaimed "Mornin', Mama! Anything going on down there?" :-| I don't know what makes this woman think that it's appropriate to ask me about how my vagina is doing in ANYcontext, least of all loudly in front of people from at least 6 different offices.
Re: Things women say...
The day of my shower I'm at the grocery store picking up ice and the fat lady behind the register had the nerve to ask me how many I was expecting! My friend that was with me looks at her and said how many are you expecting?? I about died the man behind us lost it. That will teach her. Some people just have zero tacked.
Not the same thing, but my worst memory is my MIL walked in after DD2 was born and the first thing she said to me was, "did you tear again?!" I started crying and wouldn't look at her!
She responded straight faced and unpleasantly with "You sure it's not now? Because it looks like you're going to have her right here, right now. Maybe you shouldn't be here?"
Me: Wow. .. Thanks for your unsolicited input there doctor. Feel free to go back to your day job now.
"Do you know what you're having?"
"Yes, a boy."
"Oh how wonderful. Girls are nice, but you'll really love your boy!"
"..."
So apparently I will love my male child more than any female child?? I didn't realize we were living in Tudor England and boys were more valuable to continue the royal bloodline. What would they have said if I was having a girl? "Too bad"?? I'm psyched to be having my baby boy, but I would be just as psyched to be having a baby girl.
When he told me I was like WTH?! I know labours gonna be hard for him and I'm probably gonna be awful to him (though I really hope not cause I know I won't mean any of it and I adore him...) but for real I can't imagine him not being there... Or him not WANTING to be there... I'm a little stabby over that one... :-w
She is about to get engaged and that's ALL we talk about, and now they're planning when they'll be having kids after, everything needs to be planned to the month... sooo this is what she said yesterday:
"I feel like my period cramps totally prepared me for contractions and child birth. I used to have them pretty bad."
Thankfully it was over text because DH and I laughed until we cried.
I am 37 weeks and to the point where I'm in one way or another shutting down pregnancy conversation. It's mostly at work that it happens. People rarely have anything validating or positive to say - usually a futuristic comment about parenting, totally invalidating the question they asked and my honest response. Please stop predicting how parenting my son will go and let me experience it for myself!
I'm also sick of due date convos. This morning a co worker came into the office and started talking to me even though I was obviously engrossed in my work. She says "I was soooooooo soooo surprised to see you here this morning, I thought you would've been out for sure!" Uhhh....yeah because I'm not dialeted nor have I had any signs of real labor yet! OH and due date is still 3 weeks away. Co workers, as much as you think you're right you're NOT!