Full time working moms

klutz4815 · August 2015

What do you plan to do with baby after maternity leave? Everyone in my family works also, so I don't have a close family member to help. I am worried sick! Daycare vs nanny? I'm so sad to have to leave my baby 8-5 M-F.

mperotti220 · August 2015

Thinking of a nanny...around me it's not that much more expensive and it's going to be a bad time to put a 3 month old in daycare with all the sickness so I'd just miss work anyway with a sick kid. I agree it's going to be so hard to leave such a little one!

Mags128 · August 2015

LO will be going to the daycare that DD already attends. I am sad some days when I leave her, but honestly she loves going to daycare. She has friends there. I think they are also great with teaching her things. It can definitely be hard and I cried the 1st day I dropped her off but it does get easier the older they get.

kharley · August 2015

We haven't decided yet. My husband and I have goverment jobs and we have to wait our shift bids to see what our schedules for next year will be to decide if we need a nannybor daycare. I currently work overnights so that's a major factor as well.

awrtz92 · August 2015

I'm not sure what I'm going to do. I don't live near my family and my mom thinks daycare is a bad idea. Kids get sick all the time there.

Magnolia+Mama · August 2015

Mags128 said:
LO will be going to the daycare that DD already attends. I am sad some days when I leave her, but honestly she loves going to daycare. She has friends there. I think they are also great with teaching her things. It can definitely be hard and I cried the 1st day I dropped her off but it does get easier the older they get.

This is the same scenario for us. DD has thrived in daycare and has many friends (we've made some too) so we plan to do the same with this baby. It is going to cost a small fortune, but (thankfully) DD's rate goes down when she turns 2 and we will get a 10% sibling discount on top of that.

hplunkett2883 · August 2015

Yes kids get sick at daycares. But think of it as building their immune systems. If it doesn't happen at daycare it will happen in preschool or kindergarten. It sucks but we can't keep our kids in bubbles they have to eventually be around other children. I would personally put my child in a daycare vs a nanny. My reasoning is at a daycare they learn social skills, among other things. I had my first 2 in daycare and transitioning them to school was a breeze. With my 7 yr old she had a personal babysitter (nana). She still lacks social skills. She is super shy and making friends is hard for her. She is not very outspoken and doesn't speak up for herself. I can't say lack of early socialization is the cause, but I can't say it isn't either.

hplunkett2883 · August 2015

just realized it posted twice

momotheflyinglemur · August 2015

Look up in home daycares in your area. See about neighbors, are there any other stay at home mom's in your area that may be willing to watch baby during the day. I am lucky that my aunt is going to move in with us to take care of LO but, having worked at both a really good and an "any ol" daycare I would try every option before sticking a baby in a daycare. 18 months or older, that is a different story. I would start putting my LO in daycare around 2 years.

preggoandglowing · August 2015

I'm actually in the opposite situation. We're blessed enough that both my mom and MIL are willing and able to care for the baby and I actually don't have to go back to work until she's 6 months. But being the first grandchild, I'm worried about her being in a bubble and lacking social skills, etc. This happened to my friend's daughter so they tried putting her in different groups starting at age 3 and to this day at almost 6 she is still very antisocial and doesn't like being around other kids. So I guess just trying to say maybe it isn't all that bad.

grkgdss00 · August 2015

I'm trying to find a home daycare in my area. My DH works from home so having a crying baby and nanny/ruckus while he's working is not an option.

breezypip · August 2015

hplunkett2883 said:
Yes kids get sick at daycares. But think of it as building their immune systems. If it doesn't happen at daycare it will happen in preschool or kindergarten. It sucks but we can't keep our kids in bubbles they have to eventually be around other children. I would personally put my child in a daycare vs a nanny. My reasoning is at a daycare they learn social skills, among other things. I had my first 2 in daycare and transitioning them to school was a breeze. With my 7 yr old she had a personal babysitter (nana). She still lacks social skills. She is super shy and making friends is hard for her. She is not very outspoken and doesn't speak up for herself. I can't say lack of early socialization is the cause, but I can't say it isn't either.

I agree with all of this. We'll be taking our baby to a daycare center. As much as I will hate to leave my little girl, I have to (and want to... Mostly) work. Since she is and may always be an only child I think it will be important she be socialized.

discohiker · August 2015

I'm going to wait and see how big my child is before making the call to have someone come to my home or send to daycare. My last child's lungs were still pretty small at 12 weeks, and he declined pneumonia shortly after going to daycare. I ended up pulling both boys out until after cold season was over. My oldest did well, but he was a much more robust kid as a baby. Thankfully I do have family nearby, and if I have to find someone to watch them until late spring in my house it is worth it.... Having our son be in the hospital for pneumonia was Awful.

hummingbird35 · August 2015

I work in an accredited daycare center. Baby will come to work with my two days and shuttle in between grandmas the other three! I am for exposing him to other children and building his immune system, but I am glad I have a backup with the gmas.

laurabwalker · August 2015

I am lucky to have my mom and I am thinking day care part time as well.

ksrkim · August 2015

hplunkett2883 said:
Yes kids get sick at daycares. But think of it as building their immune systems. If it doesn't happen at daycare it will happen in preschool or kindergarten. It sucks but we can't keep our kids in bubbles they have to eventually be around other children. I would personally put my child in a daycare vs a nanny. My reasoning is at a daycare they learn social skills, among other things. I had my first 2 in daycare and transitioning them to school was a breeze. With my 7 yr old she had a personal babysitter (nana). She still lacks social skills. She is super shy and making friends is hard for her. She is not very outspoken and doesn't speak up for herself. I can't say lack of early socialization is the cause, but I can't say it isn't either.

This!

ramfam2507 · August 2015

My MIL will watch baby until he turns a year old. Then he'll go to daycare. Same thing we did with our DD.

ketobaby · August 2015

Same situation. My LO will go to an in home day care.

maiatene · August 2015

With my son I was less concerned about him getting sick (because that's inevitable) and more about the people charged with taking care of him. Because he will be with them at least 8 hours a day I needed to be comfortable with them and make sure they were who that portrayed themselves to be.

I lucked up and my cousin watches him, but if I didn't have her I found a great daycare I would take him to in a heartbeat because their philosophies and sensibilities are in line with mine

jenbstevens · August 2015

I luckily have family that is able to help out when I go back to work but I would not want to put a newborn in daycare. Babies that small need individual attention to be stimulated, and they just don't get that at daycare. After 1 year when they can express their needs and really interact with the other kids it's great, but before that I would hire a nanny if it's financially feasible.

AllieDale322 · August 2015

Its going to be day care for us! I hate how expensive it is (we live in a city so it's actually like a second mortgage), but I know my child thrive there- much more to learn from that environment than being at home with one adult caretaker all day.

I'm also lucky that my job allows a "transition " program so I can go back to work 3 or 4 days a week for some time before ramping back up to full time. Knowing myself though I expect I will be looking forward to returning and having adult interaction haha!

MegStark · August 2015

It's daycare for us! LO will go to the same as DD. It was hard with DD to take her at first, but now that she's almost two, I've seen how great the daycare is for her. She makes friends, socializes, and learns something new every day. I've now become friends with the head infant teacher (she was DDs infant room teacher and our daughters are the same age), so she will be baby boy's caretaker as well. I trust her, and she's all excited. Much less anxiety about daycare this time around. I swear it was one of my biggest worries during first pregnancy.

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