May 2016 Moms
concreteayngel
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Does DH stand for damned husband?
concreteayngel
member
Excuse me for venting for just a minute, but I am having a total meltdown right now and have no one else to talk to.
My husband and I live in a smallish 2 bedroom apartment. The second bedroom is currently an office. We just recently got rid of our couch because it was a massive 7-person sectional which took up most of our living room. We sold it, and planned to downsize, and with the extra space, move his desk into the living room so that we could clear the 2nd BR to be the nursery. What does he do? Agree to take his mother's monstrous ORANGE sectional that is even larger than ours was.
I ask him what about the nursery? He says "we'll figure it out later. Right now it's not an issue." I say "But I already know it's going to be an issue, so why make another issue for later on down the road?"
Let me back up a bit. About a month ago, before the BFP, he quit his job, with my support, because he was miserable and being badly abused by his boss. (Being screamed at, called unrepeatable names in front of other colleagues, for some sketchy Chinese tech company with NO HR department!!) Fast forward to today. I'm nearly 5 weeks KU, we have no health insurance, not a ton of money in the bank, and my income is the only steady income we have. Meanwhile, he is building his own company and also doing freelance work for a couple different companies. He is owed several thousand dollars from a few of these companies, but he doesn't get paid until they get paid from the companies he's commissioned. We are waiting for Medi-Cal to come through, but until it does, I'm stuck. I can't see a doctor until then, and I'm also pretty sure I have a kidney stone to boot. He has turned town full time employment with benefits, because he enjoys doing what he's doing and is "building his empire."
He's very excited about the pregnancy, our first, but at the same time, accuses me of "playing the pregnancy card" when I'm not feeling well. Or huffing and puffing about me asking him to pick up some Tylenol on the way home because we only have Excedrine, which isn't baby friendly. I just feel so overwhelmed, and it feels like he's doing everything he can to complicate our situation even further. I know I'm not making him sound very good. He is a wonderful, selfless man who would do anything for his family, especially me. He's always been a workaholic, I knew that from the start. He's always said "I work this hard now so that I don't have to later on when we have a family." And that's what he's doing right now, I get that. But he seems hopelessly clueless about what i'm going through. What's a girl to do? 
Re: Does DH stand for damned husband?
As a bit of a helpful side note... 1/4 cup of extra virgin olive oil & 1/4 cup of lemon juice mixed. Down that twice a day and your stone will pass painlessly in a day or two. I've suffered chronic stones for years. Also it helps if you have pregnancy constipation