I have been struggling with some people asking me questions about my pregnancy and things completely unrelated to my pregnancy; things that are simple to answer and things that are difficult to answer. There are a few close friends in particular that I am most annoyed with, but I've been trying not to show it. How do I politely ask them to stop with questioning me about EVERYTHING? I feel bad because I know it's just my hormones for the most part, but I'm still struggling with just keeping my cool with it all. This is also my first pregnancy, and I'm 20 weeks along; the annoyance has only gotten worse as I progress in the pregnancy. I'm usually a very closed off person, but since I have gotten pregnant, everyone seems to want to know everything about me and my little family. Again, how do I politely tell people to respect my space, and to inform them that if I want to talk with them about baby stuff or life stuff, I will do it in my own time, without any prying?
Thanks y'all, I appreciate you reading this and helping me understand.
Re: Dealing with people's constant nosiness and questions
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I know that my family and close friends are very excited so they like to check in. I haven't had a lot of questions other than the normal "How are you feeling?"
I guess it's hard for me to give you my opinion or advice without really knowing what it is that's annoying you...
You can politely give a short answer to their questions and then redirect the conversation by asking them about themselves. If it is a particularly prying or rude question I've always wanted to say, "that's an awfully personal question, why do you ask?" This often puts them on their heels and gently tells them they are overstepping.
If we had more details on what kinds of questions you're getting we might be able to be more precise. Good luck.
Expecting multiples makes for even more unwanted questions. Conception of a child is a very personal thing, yet it seems perfectly fine for anyone (even strangers) to ask about fertility treatments.
"How are you feeling?" Can be annoying even when someone has good intentions. If I obviously look like crap and green with nausea, I don't want 20 people asking me how I'm feeling.
@Scullahoo bring on the MIL rants. Pregnancy and MILs do not mesh well- we may even need a sticky for MIL rants!
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I also despise people contastly asking how I'm feeling, I don't want to talk about it whether I feel great or like hell. Mostly I feel the later. What, has the fact that I've resorted to messy buns for the last 4 months given you the indication that I don't feel super? Gee I thought I was hiding it so well.
Are you going to find out what you're having?! 'Yes'. Most common response: why?!
A co-worker of mine recently asked if another co-workers wife had to have a c section like a week after they had their baby and I overheard it. I was so thrown off. Like why is any of your business if their baby came out her vag or not?!
I really am just not one for small talk...