Thank y'all and HUGE hugs to the others who are going through this as well. It's difficult, but with each other, I know we'll be able to get through it. Y'all are awesome.
@brushesnbrunch thanks for the gif. Almost started crying when I saw what it said on the bottom.
Big TW to today, in general. If I hadn't had a mc in January, I'd probably be at the hospital having a baby as today was the due date. Then, I wouldn't have met all y'all wonderful ladies here, so it's not too bad. Just trying not to dwell on it or I'll be seriously depressed.
Ugh same. Due date would have been today. Sorry for your loss!
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Hey Hun just a FYI if your out and waiting for authorization for refill you can get a emergency supply to cover you till dr OKs it.
That's not necessarily true. Per the pharmacist's discretion, you may be able to get a 3 day supply of certain types of medications. And that's only applicable if the office can not be reached and it's a medical emergency.
Edit to add: the laws about emergency supplies and conditions also vary state to state.
I am at my wits end with my insurance company/doctor. I have been trying to get information on the Informaseq test since week 9 and still have had no results. I have a high deductible insurance plan with an HSA and all I want to know is how much it will cost me. The insurance company refuses to tell me even an estimate. They say that my doctor needs to submit my chart for manual review to find out if it is covered but even if it is covered I will still have to pay for it in full out of my HSA. My doctor has tried sending it to them 4 times now and they keep saying that they have not received anything. Now my doctors office will not call me back about it. I don't think it is going to be covered since I am under 35 but my father was adopted and died of a hereditary genetic condition so I would feel more comfortable with the test if I can afford it. I know how much it would cost for self pay but I was told that I can not use self pay if I have insurance. It might cost over twice as much if I am not approved. It's so damn frustrating!!!
I had this same problem because I have a high deductible plan too (thank God I will be able to switch to something better during open enrollment before baby is born).
I'm going to be 35 when I deliver but still didn't want to chance getting stuck with a big bill. This is what my doctor suggested. There's something called a tetra screen. It's more old-school and not as comprehensive but a lot less expensive. If something abnormal shows on it they can order the more comprehensive test and it will be completely covered. We're doing this at my appointment on Thursday.
I spoke with my doctor about the quad screen and she said it was a lot less accurate and had a higher rate of false positives. The plus side would be that it will for sure apply to my deductible and if it comes back negative it would be cheaper. If it came back positive though I would be recommended to further testing that would be more expensive and more invasive. Part of me wants to go to another clinic as self pay just to have the test run but I don't know if that is appropriate.
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This is for 1st response on the thread
Hey Hun just a FYI if your out and waiting for authorization for refill you can get a emergency supply to cover you till dr OKs it.
That's not necessarily true. Per the pharmacist's discretion, you may be able to get a 3 day supply of certain types of medications. And that's only applicable if the office can not be reached and it's a medical emergency.
Edit to add: the laws about emergency supplies and conditions also vary state to state.
Hey ladies, thanks for the support. I could have gotten it last night but I didn't have time during my day to stop by the pharmacy before they closed. Mostly I just was amazed at the guy in front of me and his sparkling personality. And I had to eye roll to myself when he said what he did about the urgency of the script he was refilling since, like mine, it was an antidepressant. I know people have medical needs, but you don't have to be rude about it.
My TW goes to my dog, who is old enough to know better than to pee inside, but did so several times within the span of an hour even after being taken outside. She was having fun and playing and just decided not to let us know she needed out, and peed. Everywhere.
@DrillSergeantCat To say that is rude because things can't always go according to plan. I had Cushing's due to medications and depression so as soon as my depression was treated and I was off of the birth control I was taking, my Cushing's resolved and I found out I was pregnant. I didn't plan on having more children at all. I also have PCOS and I wasn't on treatment for it so I shouldn't have just been able to get pregnant at all per my Endo and OBGYN. I didn't have regular cycles even on birth control. I wasn't on Metformin. I was losing my hair and I gained 30lbs. I couldn't physically pick my child up when I had Cushing's. I couldn't even move patients but my work was able to work around the Cushings. It sucks but I needed to ensure my child was going to be cared for because it hurt just to sit in a car with a seat belt. When I have my daughter I am awake when she wakes up and we are doing everything together. We go to parks, visit family friends, go to the zoo and are out being active. My child is 3 years old with ADHD and Anxiety Disorder. My child has become violent towards me and those who cared for her because she wasn't being understood so we couldn't do what she needed. It's not how most people think it is. I have an SO that I live with. He is home often unless he is at work or class. I get a lot of support from him and friends. I have ADHD, high Anxiety, OCD and depression. I have had to be on anti-depressants this pregnancy. I also have low platelet count and I am having a hard time gaining weight. I can go on and on but the whole point is, life doesn't always work how we want it even if we plan it to.
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To say that is rude because things can't always go according to plan. I had Cushing's due to medications and depression so as soon as my depression was treated and I was off of the birth control I was taking, my Cushing's resolved and I found out I was pregnant. I didn't plan on having more children at all. I also have PCOS and I wasn't on treatment for it so I shouldn't have just been able to get pregnant at all per my Endo and OBGYN. I didn't have regular cycles even on birth control. I wasn't on Metformin. I was losing my hair and I gained 30lbs. I couldn't physically pick my child up when I had Cushing's. I couldn't even move patients but my work was able to work around the Cushings. It sucks but I needed to ensure my child was going to be cared for because it hurt just to sit in a car with a seat belt.
When I have my daughter I am awake when she wakes up and we are doing everything together. We go to parks, visit family friends, go to the zoo and are out being active.
My child is 3 years old with ADHD and Anxiety Disorder. My child has become violent towards me and those who cared for her because she wasn't being understood so we couldn't do what she needed. It's not how most people think it is.
I have an SO that I live with. He is home often unless he is at work or class. I get a lot of support from him and friends.
I have ADHD, high Anxiety, OCD and depression. I have had to be on anti-depressants this pregnancy. I also have low platelet count and I am having a hard time gaining weight. I can go on and on but the whole point is, life doesn't always work how we want it even if we plan it to.
Not meaning to be rude. It's an honest concern. Don't get me wrong, though, I'm happy for you that you're pregnant. Having PCOS as well, I understand that. I really hope your baby is happy and health-issue free.
ETA - if your 3 year old is violent with you, are you not concerned that she will hurt the new baby?
@DrillSergeantCat that might be very true that precautions should have been taken but calling her out on a pregnancy forum saying she shouldn't be having her baby is a little harsh.
It also might somehow be against tou- seems like a lot of things are.
@DrillSergeantCat To say that is rude because things can't always go according to plan. I had Cushing's due to medications and depression so as soon as my depression was treated and I was off of the birth control I was taking, my Cushing's resolved and I found out I was pregnant. I didn't plan on having more children at all. I also have PCOS and I wasn't on treatment for it so I shouldn't have just been able to get pregnant at all per my Endo and OBGYN. I didn't have regular cycles even on birth control. I wasn't on Metformin. I was losing my hair and I gained 30lbs. I couldn't physically pick my child up when I had Cushing's. I couldn't even move patients but my work was able to work around the Cushings. It sucks but I needed to ensure my child was going to be cared for because it hurt just to sit in a car with a seat belt. When I have my daughter I am awake when she wakes up and we are doing everything together. We go to parks, visit family friends, go to the zoo and are out being active. My child is 3 years old with ADHD and Anxiety Disorder. My child has become violent towards me and those who cared for her because she wasn't being understood so we couldn't do what she needed. It's not how most people think it is. I have an SO that I live with. He is home often unless he is at work or class. I get a lot of support from him and friends. I have ADHD, high Anxiety, OCD and depression. I have had to be on anti-depressants this pregnancy. I also have low platelet count and I am having a hard time gaining weight. I can go on and on but the whole point is, life doesn't always work how we want it even if we plan it to.
Not meaning to be rude. It's an honest concern. You can't care for your daughter and you have tons of health issues yourself. Regardless of PCOS, you should have taken some precautions (ie condoms) to ensure you didn't become pregnant.
ETA - if your 3 year old is violent with you, how can you justify bringing her into your home with an infant? Are you not concerned that she will hurt the new baby?
You are being rude. I am allergic to the plastics in most condoms. I have a lot of allergies. Just like I can't use Neosporin because I'm allergic to it. I can care for my child when I'm not pregnant and don't have something like Cushing's. My child has behaviors and goes to therapy so she doesn't have those behaviors. I'm a pediatric nurse so I'm pretty sure my children will be just fine considering I work with their doctors to ensure I'm doing what they need. Please continue to tell me how its a concern and how I shouldn't be pregnant.
Tw to time and my emotions: it's going so slow but also super fast. I just printed out calendars for oct, nov and dec because it helps me be organized and I can write stuff down for h.... As j was looking at them I realized I only have 2 more to print and we will have another baby here! 3 more and dd will be 2 ( (
TW to my dog she got nasty diarrhea in her kennel. Not only is that gross but she rolled around in it and sloshed some onto the carpet in the living room. Only good thing is the carpet cleaning guy is coming out tomorrow morning to clean it. Until then my house smells like shit no matter what I do air it out, febreeze, room sprays, candles... Until it gets cleaned with the carpet cleaner it is going to stink.
TW to my long-distance friend that was bitching today about how when she starts TTC she better have a girl and her SO promised her a girl. I told her that I was just hoping for a healthy baby and didn't care about the sex. Even though everything looks good I'm a nervous wreck that something will go wrong. She said that even if I do have another MC it is really not a big deal and I will get over it! I know it is hard to understand if you haven't been though it, but how insensitive can you be?
My heart goes out to all of you ladies that are remembering your losses today. I'm glad you are all here with us now and hope you all have happy healthy pregnancies and babies!
TW to my long-distance friend that was bitching today about how when she starts TTC she better have a girl and her SO promised her a girl. I told her that I was just hoping for a healthy baby and didn't care about the sex. Even though everything looks good I'm a nervous wreck that something will go wrong. She said that even if I do have another MC it is really not a big deal and I will get over it! I know it is hard to understand if you haven't been though it, but how insensitive can you be?
My heart goes out to all of you ladies that are remembering your losses today. I'm glad you are all here with us now and hope you all have happy healthy pregnancies and babies!
Wow, you're friend was a douche today. Who says that!?
TW to my long-distance friend that was bitching today about how when she starts TTC she better have a girl and her SO promised her a girl. I told her that I was just hoping for a healthy baby and didn't care about the sex. Even though everything looks good I'm a nervous wreck that something will go wrong. She said that even if I do have another MC it is really not a big deal and I will get over it! I know it is hard to understand if you haven't been though it, but how insensitive can you be?
My heart goes out to all of you ladies that are remembering your losses today. I'm glad you are all here with us now and hope you all have happy healthy pregnancies and babies!
What?!??? Who says that? That's truly awful. What an idiot. (Sorry, I know it's your friend, but still.) Hugs to you.
TW to my PiTA SIL who can't call my husband to FaceTime when she's supposed to so he was all distracted and kiddo didn't get his teeth brushed while she distracted him during the bedtime routine. TW to my husband too who I bitched out the minute he got off the phone about why his damn sister couldn't wait 5 mins so kiddo could get his normal bedtime routine not the half assed one he did get. SIL is super self involved all the time and gets pissy if the conversation isn't all about her....which it was 20 minutes worth that I had to listen to. Argh bitch fest over.
Thinking of you ladies who have had a rough day today.
@AdventureMama - I just said that, no I'm pretty sure I would never completely get over it and then told her I needed to get off the phone.
I've been very surprised at some friends words following my mc's. Many that haven't been through it just don't understand and usually say something they think will be comforting, but isn't. But your friend? Yikes! I don't think that's a friend I would want to keep.
@cbou sometimes it doesn't matter if they've been through it, people still say idiotic things. Last September, I took my BIL to lunch for his bday, which was a few days before my EDD (baby would have been 1). I had found out his wife also had a mc and I asked how he was doing, offered to talk since we'd both experienced a loss, etc. and he said that they were pretty much over it because they already had 2 kids and there would be others. He actually said that! It took everything not to punch him in his insensitive face. Some people are just too wrapped up in themselves to understand they're being awful.
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@brushesnbrunch thanks for the gif. Almost started crying when I saw what it said on the bottom.
This is for 1st response on the thread
Hey Hun just a FYI if your out and waiting for authorization for refill you can get a emergency supply to cover you till dr OKs it.
Edit to add: the laws about emergency supplies and conditions also vary state to state.
I assumed it was standard my apologies for that assumption.
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My TW goes to my dog, who is old enough to know better than to pee inside, but did so several times within the span of an hour even after being taken outside. She was having fun and playing and just decided not to let us know she needed out, and peed. Everywhere.
To say that is rude because things can't always go according to plan. I had Cushing's due to medications and depression so as soon as my depression was treated and I was off of the birth control I was taking, my Cushing's resolved and I found out I was pregnant. I didn't plan on having more children at all. I also have PCOS and I wasn't on treatment for it so I shouldn't have just been able to get pregnant at all per my Endo and OBGYN. I didn't have regular cycles even on birth control. I wasn't on Metformin. I was losing my hair and I gained 30lbs. I couldn't physically pick my child up when I had Cushing's. I couldn't even move patients but my work was able to work around the Cushings. It sucks but I needed to ensure my child was going to be cared for because it hurt just to sit in a car with a seat belt.
When I have my daughter I am awake when she wakes up and we are doing everything together. We go to parks, visit family friends, go to the zoo and are out being active.
My child is 3 years old with ADHD and Anxiety Disorder. My child has become violent towards me and those who cared for her because she wasn't being understood so we couldn't do what she needed. It's not how most people think it is.
I have an SO that I live with. He is home often unless he is at work or class. I get a lot of support from him and friends.
I have ADHD, high Anxiety, OCD and depression. I have had to be on anti-depressants this pregnancy. I also have low platelet count and I am having a hard time gaining weight. I can go on and on but the whole point is, life doesn't always work how we want it even if we plan it to.
It also might somehow be against tou- seems like a lot of things are.
Maybe we can move on from it the topic.
You are being rude. I am allergic to the plastics in most condoms. I have a lot of allergies. Just like I can't use Neosporin because I'm allergic to it.
I can care for my child when I'm not pregnant and don't have something like Cushing's. My child has behaviors and goes to therapy so she doesn't have those behaviors. I'm a pediatric nurse so I'm pretty sure my children will be just fine considering I work with their doctors to ensure I'm doing what they need. Please continue to tell me how its a concern and how I shouldn't be pregnant.
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Tw to time and my emotions: it's going so slow but also super fast. I just printed out calendars for oct, nov and dec because it helps me be organized and I can write stuff down for h.... As j was looking at them I realized I only have 2 more to print and we will have another baby here! 3 more and dd will be 2
My heart goes out to all of you ladies that are remembering your losses today. I'm glad you are all here with us now and hope you all have happy healthy pregnancies and babies!
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Edited bc I didn't read both pages before responding.
Thinking of you ladies who have had a rough day today.