Thanks for the advice ladies @CaraBoonie and @kristanoah! Spoke to DH about how to tackle this and he agrees that it should be him who tells them at a time when I'm not present so that I can't get dragged into it. I think (hope) it might be easier for her to swallow because I don't want my mum or sister there either. Just me, DH and our midwife.
We've decided if it comes up in conversation before he's had a chance to talk them were just going to deflect, deflect, deflect. Not the best tactic but, I really don't want to get stomped on because of what I want during labour and delivery.
I'm just worried about visitors having all thier shots flu and whooping cough. I know my dad will not(phobia of needles)and and I'll have trouble convincing my mom. Ug. Why oh why do people think vaccines are some kind of conspiracy! My dad got rsv at her first b-day from her germy grandmas who both came with colds. Who does that?
Hubby and I will be the only ones in the room for delivery. During labor I am okay if my mom or grandma pops in for a visit, but I have given strict "rules" to DH not to call his mom until my son is practically out. After he is born and we have had some time (kinda depends on the time of day anyway) and I am cleaned up and everything, I am okay with a couple people coming in at a time. The only people likely to actually want to be at the hospital to visit after are my mom, dad, brother, mother in law, father in law, step mother in law, our pastor, and my best friend. Other people will probably just want to come visit once we get home, which I have a lot of strong feelings on anyway lol. The first 24 hours after we get home I will NOT be answering the door regardless of who it is.
During the labour and delivery my DH, mum and MIL will be with me. DH and mum for me, and MIL for DH as I know he's going to be a nervous wreck, unless he surprises me on the day! After delivery I don't mind immediate family visiting, but that's all. I'm looking forward to some precious time together before he has to face the big wide world! I'll expect visitor's once we get home, but I'm going say we would like some privacy for a day really. Just to get a bit settled. :-)
Re: Let's talk visitors after babies born
We've decided if it comes up in conversation before he's had a chance to talk them were just going to deflect, deflect, deflect. Not the best tactic but, I really don't want to get stomped on because of what I want during labour and delivery.
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After delivery I don't mind immediate family visiting, but that's all. I'm looking forward to some precious time together before he has to face the big wide world!
I'll expect visitor's once we get home, but I'm going say we would like some privacy for a day really. Just to get a bit settled. :-)