Ugh BMB Trolls..

cmkimbrough · August 2015

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llybeck · August 2015

Not to be a jerk but you're kind of asking to start drama here...

If you're worried about "trolls", ignore them. Egging people on doesn't really help. I can see you're trying to come from a positive place but it might be best to just let it go.

Unknown · August 2015

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adecembermom2015 · August 2015

Respectfully must tell you it's against TOU to air this kind of grievance. People are allowed to lurk and post anywhere they'd like.

llybeck · August 2015

Are you new to TB? This is unavoidable and honestly I haven't seen anything that bad at all on this BMB. People can post and will post wherever they like and if they aren't violating the TOU, they aren't doing anything wrong.

Again, if it's bothering you that much the best thing you can do is ignore it and move on. You're not going to like or agree with everyone's opinions or the way they voice those opinions but that doesn't mean they can't post.

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adecembermom2015 · August 2015

Here it goes? I am not from the TTGP board. I'm pregnant, 24 weeks along. I was simply offering you a respectful warning that you are violating TOU. Someone is bound to report you. I was trying to be helpful.

BostonBaby1 · August 2015

Not only is your post against TOU, but it's incredibly insensitive to certain members of this community such as myself. As a psychologist, I would hope that you could have empathy for women that have had losses and are no longer pregnant. This post is appalling.

I have had 3 different DDs this year alone. 11/11, 12/18 and 3/27. I am currently home recovering from a D&E that I had last Friday.

Sadly, I have lost four LOs since March (single, twins, single.) I will participate where I would like to on TB. So long as I follow TOU and do not prohibit any other member's ability to enjoy the site, that is allowed.

adecembermom2015 · August 2015

@BostonBaby1 you are welcome everywhere and your posts are so very helpful to so many women on the bump. I ❤️ you and I'm praying you get your rainbow baby soon.

I agree that this post is offensive.

kristen2b · August 2015

cmkimbrough said:
I respect your viewpoint. It seems there is a lot of hostility that can be avoided if our BMB members knew to look for trolls on posts which have become inflamitory before a huge debate breaks out. Just an ounce of prevention and education!

I had the information and wanted to share with others. H&H 9 months!!!

*Inflammatory

flowerpower5838 · August 2015

I am a "member" of this BMB and I feel like making a post like this is going to do the exact opposite of driving away so-called trolls.

Also, while I don't always agree with some of the curt tendencies that some other posters have, they have every right to post here. In fact usually they have great advice even if it's not always communicated in the gentlest of ways.

Just take a look at the view count on some of these posts. Wayyyy more people than those in this BMB are looking at them.

Eta: words and clarity

redfallon · August 2015

cmkimbrough said:

Not new. No, but here it goes. I'm not going to feed it. That's all. Best wishes!!!

Joined July 2nd and under 20 comments seems pretty new...

redfallon · August 2015

llybeck!!!
:-h >:D< :x

letyourheartbeyourguide · August 2015

cmkimbrough said:

I have been posting this on individual threads, but I think this may need its own post. If yall notice, there are some crazy rude and callous posts showing up on our board. I know these rude posts are inflammatory, and can ruffle feathers. If it is any consolation, know these folks are trolling from the TTGP BOARDS. Seriously. Look them up. They do this stuff in every board. You should see what is being said to the new BMBs!!! So, the supportive folks on this board are actually pregnant, not just trying to make others feel miserable! We have been doing a really good job of having constructive conversations and disagreements. As a psychologist, I see a number of reasons they are doing this. But, overall, it makes me sad for them. Don't let the trolls ruin this for us! Let's try not to feed them when they try! I'm sure they will pop up and try to flame this : )

I'm lurking, so I'm assuming you'll call me a troll. That's ok.

I have to say that I'm surprised that, as a psychologist, you would find it productive to start a thread calling people crazy rude, callous, trolls, and trying to make others feel miserable. I wonder how you would diagnosis this very thread if posted by one of the "trolls".

kristen2b · August 2015

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ecwk · August 2015

This type of thread causes drama. You're achieving the exact opposite of what you appear to want. I agree that's it's frustrating when random people not on this BMB appear with the sole apparent purpose of stirring the pot. However I believe the majority are here to share information and give good advice. You cannot dictate who posts where, this is a public forum and it's pretty insensitive to try exclude women from participating just because they're not pregnant.

Lulucooks · August 2015

cmkimbrough said:
I have been posting this on individual threads, but I think this may need its own post. If yall notice, there are some crazy rude and callous posts showing up on our board.

I know these rude posts are inflammatory, and can ruffle feathers. If it is any consolation, know these folks are trolling from the TTGP BOARDS. Seriously. Look them up. They do this stuff in every board. You should see what is being said to the new BMBs!!!

So, the supportive folks on this board are actually pregnant, not just trying to make others feel miserable! We have been doing a really good job of having constructive conversations and disagreements. As a psychologist, I see a number of reasons they are doing this. But, overall, it makes me sad for them.

Don't let the trolls ruin this for us! Let's try not to feed them when they try!

I'm sure they will pop up and try to flame this : )

Lurking from the TTGP board so I suppose this is directed towards me and others like me. So I will respond to it, since you called me out.

The only person trolling here is you.

Not really much else to say.

littlemanmomma · August 2015

Not sure how this post violates any terms of use could you elaborate as to which one? Would honestly like to know Thanks. And yes there are trolls on here like every social media site on the world wide Web I think op was just trying to help the new people on here who read a few threads see all the crazy arguing and run in the opposite direction understand that this is really a supportive place that you can find a lot of good info and advice. The post was kinda insensitive in the fact it pointed fingers which if any of you have read my social media etiquette post you will know is what starts a lot of drama. That being said I hope that the new mom's see through the negative posts on here and learn to use the ignore function

kristen2b · August 2015

littlemanmomma said:
Not sure how this post violates any terms of use could you elaborate as to which one? Would honestly like to know Thanks. And yes there are trolls on here like every social media site on the world wide Web I think op was just trying to help the new people on here who read a few threads see all the crazy arguing and run in the opposite direction understand that this is really a supportive place that you can find a lot of good info and advice. The post was kinda insensitive in the fact it poi Ted fingers which h if any of you have read my social media etiquette post you will know is what starts a lot of drama. That being said I hope that the new mom's see through the negative posts on here and learn to use the ignore function

It's against the terms of use to air grievances (aka start threads) about other boards or members.

adecembermom2015 · August 2015

Also name calling and prohibiting enjoyment of the site violates TOU.

YouHadMeAtMeatTornado · August 2015

Lurking here, so I guess I'm a troll as well. Cool. From someone like @cmkimbrough, I'll take it. She is, after all, a psychologist y'all, and thus, fully qualified to diagnose trolls. So @cmkimbrough, thank you for that. I'm sure your professional opinion will mean the absolute world to the users of this board, trolls, and otherwise.

Now that I know I'm a troll, and (gasp!) not even a pregnant troll yet, I'm gonna go ahead and say that like @BostonBaby1, I will lurk and participate with support, advice, and some snark when and where I choose.

And finally, you should know... I reported your OP. I'm fairly positive it's a TOU violation. Have a lovely evening.

letyourheartbeyourguide · August 2015

Starfish51886 said:

Lurking here, so I guess I'm a troll as well. Cool. From someone like @cmkimbrough, I'll take it. She is, after all, a psychologist y'all, and thus, fully qualified to diagnose trolls. So @cmkimbrough, thank you for that. I'm sure your professional opinion will mean the absolute world to the users of this board, trolls, and otherwise.

Now that I know I'm a troll, and (gasp!) not even a pregnant troll yet, I'm gonna go ahead and say that like @BostonBaby1, I will lurk and participate with support, advice, and some snark when and where I choose.

And finally, you should know... I reported your OP. I'm fairly positive it's a TOU violation. Have a lovely evening.

"Pregnant troll" lol

YouHadMeAtMeatTornado · August 2015

Also, how did I miss this before?! (Troll eyesight is notoriously poor!)

cmkimbrough said:

If it is any consolation, know these folks are trolling from the TTGP BOARDS. Seriously. Look them up.

Um, WHAT?! That is unbelievably rude and insensitive. Like, "Hey girls, don't worry! These BMB trolls who are being sooooooo mean to us aren't even pregnant yet! So ha!" Our advice, support, and overall presence aren't valid because we're not currently pregnant? Do me a favor and diagnose the kind of personality who says something that cruel.

Just no, girl. Low blows like that are never ok. Post-it FOR LIFE.

MrsPittman13 · August 2015

I'm just here for the comments.

letyourheartbeyourguide · August 2015

MrsPittman13 said:

I'm just here for the comments.

But you forgot the popcorn!

ChiccoBeanz · August 2015

cmkimbrough said:

I have been posting this on individual threads, but I think this may need its own post. If yall notice, there are some crazy rude and callous posts showing up on our board. I know these rude posts are inflammatory, and can ruffle feathers. If it is any consolation, know these folks are trolling from the TTGP BOARDS. Seriously. Look them up. They do this stuff in every board. You should see what is being said to the new BMBs!!! So, the supportive folks on this board are actually pregnant, not just trying to make others feel miserable! We have been doing a really good job of having constructive conversations and disagreements. As a psychologist, I see a number of reasons they are doing this. But, overall, it makes me sad for them. Don't let the trolls ruin this for us! Let's try not to feed them when they try! I'm sure they will pop up and try to flame this : )

Yellow: WHO?! No seriously, WHAT type of person posts something like this? "If it is any consolation" ? Really? But the women you are talking about are the "trolls"? The pot is calling the kettle black here. How do you call people participating in your threads, that you most likely just don't agree with, trolls but then YOU make a post to TARGET them? That makes NO SENSE.

Turquoise: Um no, because @Bostonbaby1 is one of THE MOST supportive people you can find on this site. She answers any and all questions despite her difficult journey to motherhood. She is always respectful, even when people post disgustingly offensive comments like the one you posted to start this thread. There are more women on here that would be like her and help others, but when posts like this arrive, and essentially mock their misfortune they participate less. So thanks for that non-contribution.

Orange: Nope, no professional in their right mind would post such a thing. What's your license number? There are some people I want to introduce you to, especially as no real psychologist would be on a PREGNANCY website TROLLING women who are TRYING TO GET PREGNANT, or who have miscarried. It's disgusting, and it actually reflects the behavior of a miserable person, fancy that.

This whole post was a mistake... it's terrible that users post things like this. It really takes from the community. Anyhoo, like a PP said, We'll c u next Tuesday. Glad no one in my BMB behaves like this. Oh and if you want, you can totally call me a troll. Anyone who picks on women from the TTGP Board or women who have suffered a loss, is an issue.

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Everycol0r · August 2015

Lurker here... TTGP in the hooouse

@ChiccoBeanz gotta be honest with you girl, didn't think I'd ever be saying this to you:

And OP, you said you're not gonna feed the "trolls"? Well you laid out our favorite dish.

PS. The above is sarcasm. I'm not a troll.

ChiccoBeanz · August 2015

cmkimbrough said:

I'm not feeding it. My BMB isn't feeding it. And yes, I am sure it will be closed down. For the reasons I listed in the OP.

I'm still waiting for the answer to my question. What type of person comes on to a PREGNANCY website to troll women who are TRYING to get pregnant and that have suffered losses? Please explain. That HAS to be the purpose of your post. There can't be any other reasoning behind it. We must know.

letyourheartbeyourguide · August 2015

cmkimbrough said:

I'm not feeding it. My BMB isn't feeding it. And yes, I am sure it will be closed down. For the reasons I listed in the OP.

You're not feeding it? Honey, you are it.

CharmBombExplosion · August 2015

cmkimbrough said:

I'm not feeding it. My BMB isn't feeding it. And yes, I am sure it will be closed down. For the reasons I listed in the OP.

YOU STARTED THIS. Jesus, what kind of person calls out an entire board on multiple threads, starts her own thread about it, then claims she doesn't want to start drama? This is complete bullshit. Do you feel better about yourself? Is this what helps you sleep at night? I feel sorry for you. It's pathetic.

ChiccoBeanz · August 2015

@EveryCol0r we may not always agree, and I can totally be a b*tch ( again apologies), but I won't EVER stand for someone picking on women trying to get pregnant or who have suffered from loss. Like this is nuts to me.

Everycol0r · August 2015

ChiccoBeanz said:
@EveryCol0r we may not always agree, and I can totally be a b*tch ( again apologies), but I won't EVER stand for someone picking on women trying to get pregnant or who have suffered from loss. Like this is nuts to me.

YouHadMeAtMeatTornado · August 2015

cmkimbrough said:

I'm not feeding it. My BMB isn't feeding it. And yes, I am sure it will be closed down. For the reasons I listed in the OP.

Not feeding it, eh? I'm feeling very well fed. Quite full, actually.

Knottie1456889319 · August 2015

Ok ladies, I think we have had enough. Let's move on.

jessica122015 · August 2015

Lurking troll here, I just want to personally thank you for diagnosing every person who disagrees with any thread as a "troll". As a "psychologist", I thought you'd be thrilled to know you have just diagnosed a vast majority of TB community, yay you! And as pp have stated, hard to believe that you're a psychologist by the way you're labeling people you don't know, judging situations and practically making fun of women who are TTGP/TTC.

Everycol0r · August 2015

lanatalia said:
Ok ladies, I think we have had enough. Let's move on.

That's not how this works. Sorry.

TTGP doesn't like being called trolls. It is offensive, rude and degrading. And belittling a loss mother, IF lady or TTGP lady (which all are in this thread) is sickening.

Lulucooks · August 2015

ALittleCountry said:

lanatalia said:
Ok ladies, I think we have had enough. Let's move on.

Oh, ok, just because you said so, I'll leave. Again. Not how it works. Are you not disgusted at OPs statements? Do you not see how they are offensive?

They aren't offensive. We should be in our barren holes!! With our empty wombs and sad eyes. It's the only right thing to do to not upset anyone else and steal their joy. :-&

/end sarcasm

ChiccoBeanz · August 2015

lanatalia said:

Ok ladies, I think we have had enough. Let's move on.

NOPE. A line's been crossed here. You can't call people out then get upset when they come. Enjoy!

littlemanmomma · August 2015

isnt their some Jerry Springer everyone could go watch? if the op violated the tou what do you think all the other personal attacking post are? this is a mess could we all get our drama fix somewhere else please if it bugs you ignore the op

there is such a thing as social media etiquette

Everycol0r · August 2015

Lulucooks said:

ALittleCountry said:

lanatalia said:
Ok ladies, I think we have had enough. Let's move on.

Oh, ok, just because you said so, I'll leave. Again. Not how it works. Are you not disgusted at OPs statements? Do you not see how they are offensive?
They aren't offensive. We should be in our barren holes!! With our empty wombs and sad eyes. It's the only right thing to do to not upset anyone else and steal their joy. :-&

/end sarcasm

"We're not barren!! We're reproductively challenged!" - Charlotte York McDougal (sadly there was no gif I could find!)

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