I had a regular male customer today look at me (while I was helping a different one) and say "I hate to say it but you're gaining a little weight there" I immediately responded with "oh I know. I mean I have a basketball in my shirt I slowly fill up with water just to be bigger and heavier." The guy I was helping held back a chuckle but his face showed so much sympathy toward me lol
I've gotten the "you look huge!" comments too often. It's like they want me to punch them!
The one that really blew me away was when I was in the checkout with my daughter and she started whining because I wasn't going to buy her candy. The lady in the next lane pointedly looked at my left hand (that was missing wedding rings because I have been wearing them on a chain around my neck) and said "Well if you would learn to keep your legs closed you wouldn't have to worry about this kind of stuff. Pity they won't know their father..."
Also heard a couple mumble about "their tax dollars at work" while pointing at me and my daughter.
Uhm...EXCUSE ME?! Just because I didn't take my husband to the store with me (after he worked a 12 hour shift) does not mean I'm some slut who has gotten herself in over her head. Where do you get off saying that crap to me?? I mean I get I'm young (22) but seriously I'm going to scream if I hear another comment like that!
I got "what have you been doing?" From an old man. And my friend sort of saved me by saying "she got married!" Which was a nice save but then she followed it up with "then things started happening!" I have no idea what to say to that LOL. Whatever.
Ugh this happened earlier on in pregnancy, people kept on asking me what I'm having and I chose not to disclose that information. I would get asked why, "because I don't want to!" I swear, people just ask because they are being nosy and not genuinely asking because that are sincere or really care about the sex if your baby.bif I don't talk to some of these people day in and out regarding my personal life, how is it ok just to barge in and expect to know every detail of my pregnancy? I decided to tell some people but at my pace, it's my belly, my baby, my decision as to when and how I'm to reveal the sex of the baby!
People are so quick to judge! It takes a pretty miserable person to say something like that to a pregnant woman, @MamaOwl15. What a jerk. Even if you weren't married, or with a SO, people need to mind their own business. There are lots of single moms out there whose kids won't know their fathers for very good reasons, for the best, and lots of single moms busting their butts at work who either earn enough to support themselves and their babies thank you very much, or do need assistance because even with one or more jobs under their belt, they can't make ends meet. I don't know any lazy single moms sitting around collecting paychecks. Grocery store lady can suck it.
But the most annoying by far is "You know how that happens, right?" from my patients (usually older men). They think they are funny but I find it super annoying.
Oh my gooooooosh! I thought I was the only one getting this! It's hooooorrible!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It makes me feel SO uncomfortable. I just laugh it off but it REALLY makes me annoyed and embarrassed. I get a version of it daily by a guy in his 40's or 50's. Not even an old guy who lacks self awareness!
How fun would it be to respond with "Guess I better stick to anal"??
When we told my mom she said "you know how to prevent that right?" And my landlord said "well looks like yall have been busy" ..............awkward............
I just got my first one tonight. I was at the market waiting, for the butcher when the older lady in front of me asked how much longer. I told her about 10 weeks and she said "awww honey as big as you are you won't make it 10 weeks. If you do you'll probably need a wheelbarrow by then." She must've seen my face bc she immediately said "omg thst was so rude... you would think I would know better since I used to work with pregnant ladies." Then she tried to clean it up and ask which hospital I was delivering and if I was nervous. She then scurried off only to see me again in the checkout line and her face turned beet red when she told her friend what she did.
I wasn't angry but I could totally see me ripping her head off if I was in a bad mood.
I had a former parent (I'm a teacher) come up to me and ask me if I had just gained some weight over the summer or if I was pregnant. When I told her I was pregnant she said "oh awesome. I was afraid to ask in case you weren't pregnant". I said ya because asking if I just got fat is so much better?!? Come on people...use your common sense!
I'm a teacher and I just met the mom of one of my new students. The first thing she says to me is when are you due. When I told her she started complaining about how her son would have another transition to deal with. I totally get it since I teach special ed, but way to make me feel bad for choosing to have a family!
I went to get my nails done at a place I've never been before, and the lady doing my pedi did not speak English very well.. My feet are a bit swollen being 33 weeks pregnant but they're not too bad. She looked at me up and down a few times and asked me how much weight I've gained during my pregnancy.. A bit inappropriate in my opinion!! If she wasn't giving me a killer foot massage when she asked me this she would have got a foot in her face!
At the gym working on ankle mobility... A woman said to me, "Are your ankles swolen?" "I guess maybe a little." "Yeah, they definitely look swollen." Wow gee that seemed necessary to say...I know she didn't mean it in a bad way at all and she was just trying to sympathize with me, but I've been super self-conscious about it ever since.
My BIL asked me in all seriousness "How much bigger have your boobs gotten?" I literally just laughed out loud and was like "Seriously??" He's a real winner to begin with, but that just put me over the edge.
Most people are fairly respectful. however there is one older gentleman who has retired from the family run business I work for. He is very well liked by all but today I threatened to throat punch him. Asking a woman who is 32 weeks pregnant how the diet is working out multiple times in 1 visit is enough to threaten bodily harm! Oh and when you ignore him the next thing you hear is I thought you were going on a diet!
I went to get my nails done at a place I've never been before, and the lady doing my pedi did not speak English very well.. My feet are a bit swollen being 33 weeks pregnant but they're not too bad. She looked at me up and down a few times and asked me how much weight I've gained during my pregnancy.. A bit inappropriate in my opinion!! If she wasn't giving me a killer foot massage when she asked me this she would have got a foot in her face!
I have found that women at nail salons are the absolute worst. They have no tact, filter, whatever, and are not afraid to ask embarrassing questions, tell inappropriate stories regarding childbirth or pregnancy, or give unsolicited advice/opinions. Every. Single. Time.
I get "are you sure it's not twins??".. "oh my gosh, you're huge"... "you know how to prevent that right?"..."you have your hands full!" Or "wow you're brave"(this is my 4th)... "how much longer?" Followed by.."wow! You look like you're about to pop." People lose all filter around me. It is insane!
I went to get my nails done at a place I've never been before, and the lady doing my pedi did not speak English very well.. My feet are a bit swollen being 33 weeks pregnant but they're not too bad. She looked at me up and down a few times and asked me how much weight I've gained during my pregnancy.. A bit inappropriate in my opinion!! If she wasn't giving me a killer foot massage when she asked me this she would have got a foot in her face!
I have found that women at nail salons are the absolute worst. They have no tact, filter, whatever, and are not afraid to ask embarrassing questions, tell inappropriate stories regarding childbirth or pregnancy, or give unsolicited advice/opinions. Every. Single. Time.
Yes! During a pedicure a couple weeks ago my lady goes "Your feet are swollen. why?" "Oh...I'm pregnant." "Well yeah I know. I mean it's not supposed to happen so soon in your pregnancy, this happens a lot later." I hadn't mentioned to her how pregnant I was (32 weeks but I guess I look small??). Agreed that it was hard to stay mad considering she was giving me a sugar scrub and massage.
I live in a fairly large metropolitan area and traveling by train to work is essential. In the evenings I get the. biggest. assholes. sitting in the priority seating (they say over the loudspeaker that it's for elderly, pregnant, and disabled people but everyone clearly ignores it). Here are my 4 stories:
1) First time I asked a guy to move (this was recently after I passed out on the train from standing too long. I was desperate for a seat) he visibly rolled his eyes and got up very slowly. Then stood about a foot away and glowered at me until he got off 3 stops later.
2) Second time I asked someone to move he just up and left the train completely. I suspect he just went to another car but...why?
3) Last week (33 weeks, very obviously pregnant-looking I think) I was in a priority seat on a crowded train and I saw another pregnant lady standing. Since my experiences getting people out of their seats has been awkward at best and she wasn't trying to get a seat, I left it alone. The person in the seat next to me was an able-bodied-looking middle-aged woman (but who am I to say she didn't have a disability of some kind?). Another standing woman tapped me and sassily pointed out the pregnant lady and said I should give my seat to her. I attempted to minimize the condescension in my voice when I informed her that I too was pregnant, that I would give her my seat if I could. I continued to bristle at the encounter for the rest of the day. (she eventually got a seat, but she would only take one that had been vacated)
4) Today I was sitting next to a young man in the priority seats when I saw an older lady with a cane get on. She gamely held on to a bar but she wasn't keeping her balance well. The young man was asleep. After a couple stops a guy bugged the sleeping boy to give up his seat, which he did swiftly but with a little attitude. Someone was like "yeah man that's just what you do when you choose to sit there." The boy pointed to me and said "well she didn't get up either." To which I had to point out my pregnancy. Again.
I workout 5 days out a week at the gym and the usuals are always there. When I turned 5 months my pregnancy I had a pregnant belly given its my 4th pregnancy. I was warned I would show sooner than those who were pregnant with their first. Well one of the gym usuals was asking how far along I was after she overheard me tell other people I was 5 months pregnant just so she can say with her eyes popping out that I am HUGE
I absolutely hate the "questions" aka quiet disapproval from people like "oh can you eat that?" "Should you drink caffeiene?" "Are you allowed to take that?" As if I would willingly do something against the advice of my doctor to harm my child. If it's questionable, rest assured I've already checked into it please don't doubt my competency. In addition during the beginning of my pregnancy I hated the were you trying or was this a surprise question. Why is that your business? You'll likely either tell me I was too young to be trying or irresponsible for not being more careful if I didn't plan for our baby. (My husband and I weren't preventing but not actively trying and were EXTREMELY excited to find out we were pregnant) I mostly get the "you look small" comments which also irritate me as I'm right on track for growth, people should just not comment to pregnant women
When the people who's ONLY conversations when they were pregnant were about how hard and miserable their pregnancies were and they drew sympathy from every willing AND unwilling ear make comments like:
"Wow... you're pregnancy is just flying by! Mine lasted forever!"-- No, it's flying by for YOU since you're not the one pregnant!
"You're so luck you're having an easy pregnancy"-- No, just because I don't play the 'woe is me' card 24/7 does NOT mean this is easy for me!
"Well hopefully you are like me and pregnant for 10 months"-- Again, no. Pregnancy is 9 months, if I counted months by weeks instead of days I'd end up 'pregnant for 10 months' too!
At my baby shower my mom said to our table "it just looks like she swallowed a watermelon," she told me it was a compliment because "I'm all belly". That's ridiculous. I may be pregnant but its still not ok to comment on my size! "Watermelons aren't that big anymore" [-(
At my baby shower my MIL put her hand on my belly and said oh my I don't think you're going to make it until October 10th... I coulda punched her! Everyone else doesn't think I'm that big!
Re: Dumb things people say to pregnant women
And my landlord said "well looks like yall have been busy"
..............awkward............
I wasn't angry but I could totally see me ripping her head off if I was in a bad mood.
A woman said to me, "Are your ankles swolen?"
"I guess maybe a little."
"Yeah, they definitely look swollen."
Wow gee that seemed necessary to say...I know she didn't mean it in a bad way at all and she was just trying to sympathize with me, but I've been super self-conscious about it ever since.
My response "I'm pregnant and still weigh less than u".
Everyone around laughed. It's the truth.
He has always been one to make embarrassing comments that he thinks are funny, but really aren't – so I didn't let it get to me. But, man...
Dad- "well you are really starting to get a pooch"
Mom- "I told you she'd really pooch out around September"
Don't know why but I hate this!!!! It's like I've just gotten fat and not that I'm growing a human?!
Him : so this is your third kid?
Me : um ya, my 3rd baby
Him: by your third kid they just slide right out, right?
Me : NO.
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... Um no. That would put me at about 21 months pregnant!!
This guy is around 50 with 2 kids. He should know better.