Special Treatment!!

Haven77 · August 2015

I'm loving all the special treatment I've been receiving from family, friends, and even strangers! What are some of the funny things that you got help with when you pretended you needed something while being pregnant? Please Share!

smithers01 · August 2015

Making my plate, cleaning around the house ! Ah so many things lol! It is crazy the special treatment you get.
My biggest one was getting my shoes tied by hubby because it was so hard bending over and doing it myself with my littles. Lol

Haven77 · August 2015

I have to try that! I've been acting as if I'm totally paralysed. I don't even lift a finger, it's hilarious and I'm only 7 weeks. Just wait until I start showing lol.

St0v3s · August 2015

It was great at first but now I'm over it. They are starting to treat me like I'm disabled. I haven't had my body policed this much since I was in middle school.

Haven77 · August 2015

Lol really? What are they doing?!

JaysensMom · August 2015

That must be nice. I still have to do everything lol my husband will get the cat poop and lift the heavy stuff and that's about it lol

Selina+Kyle · August 2015

My "special treatment" isn't as fun as yours sounds. My DH has been researching the best foods to eat while you're pregnant and trying to make me eat them (while I'm nauseas and NOTHING sounds good)!

Haven77 · August 2015

@Selina+Kyle what has he picked out for you to eat? Lol

Haven77 · August 2015

@JaysensMom Welp, at least he'll be on cat duty for the next 9mos! Lol

Haven77 · August 2015

@emk20 can you stomach the breakfast? Lol I can't eat anything lol

Selina+Kyle · August 2015

@Haven77 Today he is determined I'm going to eat salad. It's usually something I enjoy but not these days!

Haven77 · August 2015

@emk20 I wish I could eat breakfast!

Haven77 · August 2015

@Selina+Kyle Hopefully it's a really tasty salad!

Selina+Kyle · August 2015

@Haven77 I will never know! I'm not eating that mess!

jonesl12 · August 2015

I like doing things myself. I'm not into being lazy but my husband mowed the lawn for me since I took a break 1/2 way through. I'm pregnant not disabled so I took the opportunity to pull weeds while he finished it up for me

emslade982 · August 2015

I have the opposite problem. Since this is my second pregnancy, my husband thinks it's NBD. But I'm just as tired and queasy as I was the first time around PLUS I have a busy 14 month old little boy. Can I borrow your husbands?

Jlnitti80 · August 2015

My husband travels for work 90% of the time so it's pretty much situation normal. The only big difference is he does the cat litter change out and box wash every Sunday now.

MrsCayEye · August 2015

No special treatment. Once people at work know it'll probably change, but they will likely go overboard and it will just be frustrating rather than helpful. At least that's how it was when I was expecting DS.

jae616 · August 2015

I wish. No special treatment here. I honestly think because this is my second pregnancy my hubby thinks I'm a pro at it now. Lol plus I have a very active 3 yr old running around.

itsbee · August 2015

This is kind of embarrassing as I usually like to keep a dish-free kitchen.. But we'd used the crock pot a few nights ago and didn't clean it out. It started to mold bc the lid was on so I put some soap and water in two nights ago to soak it. Then last night I was doing the dishes and asked my husband if he would wash it out since it smelled so bad and I didn't want to gag. I fully expected him to say no but he said yes and followed through! No way would that have happened pre-pregnancy!!

TrishGbb · August 2015

9 month break from the litter box! Woo hoo!

wildtot · August 2015

I love and hate it. Its nice to get the extra help from my DH but iv been put on bed rest so now i feel useless. At least he gets kitty duty. I have to work from home (which i avoided before). The only interaction i have are my cats and DH.

Taynic85 · August 2015

My last pregnancy I lost at 10 weeks and I'm 5 right now so for the moment I am taking it easy and enjoying help with everything and resting . but come second trimester I love doing things myself . I think it's cute when husbands reach but were women we are strong and capable of doing it pregnant or not .

jlpcarr · August 2015

lol wouldn't that be nice. Mine seems to think everything can be fixed with the power of positive thinking. Riiiight.

YouHadMeAtMeatTornado · August 2015

Lurking.

Is this real life? I can see not being able to tie your shoes in your third trimester, but really with this thread? I can't, you guys. It's too ridiculous. If you're so delicate in your first trimester that you can't tie your shoes or wash a dish, or are saying, "I've been acting as if I'm totally paralysed. I don't even lift a finger, it's hilarious and I'm only 7 weeks," you're making ALL pregnant women look weak and lazy.

As far as @Haven77 saying, "Just wait until I start showing lol," girl... just wait until you have a child. Then try acting paralyzed.

saladflambe · August 2015

Also a lurker, but why would you pretend you need something?

nlwz123 · August 2015

Starfish51886 said:

Lurking.

Is this real life? I can see not being able to tie your shoes in your third trimester, but really with this thread? I can't, you guys. It's too ridiculous. If you're so delicate in your first trimester that you can't tie your shoes or wash a dish, or are saying, "I've been acting as if I'm totally paralysed. I don't even lift a finger, it's hilarious and I'm only 7 weeks," you're making ALL pregnant women look weak and lazy.

As far as @Haven77 saying, "Just wait until I start showing lol," girl... just wait until you have a child. Then try acting paralyzed.

Yeah, I wouldn't take advantage of everyone (especially not so early). You're going to need some help eventually and you don't want to burn that out. Plus, it's good to be active while pregnant.

Lulucooks · August 2015

@Starfish51886. It does seem a bit dramatic doesn't it? Very damsel in distress. I prefer to only ask for help when I need it, because if you ask for it whenever, it may not be there when it's actually needed. The boy who cried wolf comes to mind.

Jules08 · August 2015

Ah no. I'm pregnant not broken.

DH and I have always split the housework, and it's business as usual. Our DS will be 4 in October, and I am still the go-to for 99% of the things he needs.

CupcakesRamazing · August 2015

I actually feel sorry for your husbands, that's total disrespect. I bet if your hubby's played up an injury you'd be on here bitching away.

sarahufl · August 2015

nlwz123 said:

Starfish51886 said:

Lurking.

Is this real life? I can see not being able to tie your shoes in your third trimester, but really with this thread? I can't, you guys. It's too ridiculous. If you're so delicate in your first trimester that you can't tie your shoes or wash a dish, or are saying, "I've been acting as if I'm totally paralysed. I don't even lift a finger, it's hilarious and I'm only 7 weeks," you're making ALL pregnant women look weak and lazy.

As far as @Haven77 saying, "Just wait until I start showing lol," girl... just wait until you have a child. Then try acting paralyzed.

Yeah, I wouldn't take advantage of everyone (especially not so early). You're going to need some help eventually and you don't want to burn that out. Plus, it's good to be active while pregnant.

Yeah, I'm with y'all on this. The only thing I have asked H to do is cook a few times because my sense of smell is on hyper-drive and the smell of the food cooking makes me throw up. But......that's it. Also, to clean out the gunk in the bottom of the toothbrush holder (which also made me throw up the time I tried).

nlwz123 · August 2015

sarahufl said:

nlwz123 said:

Starfish51886 said:

Lurking.

Is this real life? I can see not being able to tie your shoes in your third trimester, but really with this thread? I can't, you guys. It's too ridiculous. If you're so delicate in your first trimester that you can't tie your shoes or wash a dish, or are saying, "I've been acting as if I'm totally paralysed. I don't even lift a finger, it's hilarious and I'm only 7 weeks," you're making ALL pregnant women look weak and lazy.

As far as @Haven77 saying, "Just wait until I start showing lol," girl... just wait until you have a child. Then try acting paralyzed.

Yeah, I wouldn't take advantage of everyone (especially not so early). You're going to need some help eventually and you don't want to burn that out. Plus, it's good to be active while pregnant.

Yeah, I'm with y'all on this. The only thing I have asked H to do is cook a few times because my sense of smell is on hyper-drive and the smell of the food cooking makes me throw up. But......that's it. Also, to clean out the gunk in the bottom of the toothbrush holder (which also made me throw up the time I tried).

Yes, that's totally understandable. I'm not going to make my husband, whom I love very dearly, my slave for the remainder of my pregnancy.

DutchLucyLu · August 2015

I've been telling DH "Little Bean wants the last piece of chicken" and stuff like that, but he knows I'm totally kidding. I'll wait until I'm huge with swollen ankles and a bladder the size of a walnut before I ask him to start doing everything for me. If you're actually sick, that's fine, your partner should be there for you, but being pregnant is not an excuse to take advantage of the people who love you.

nlwz123 · August 2015

emk20 said:

I actually feel sorry for your husbands, that's total disrespect. I bet if your hubby's played up an injury you'd be on here bitching away.
I think this is a totally disrespectful comment. You know nothing about anyone's home situations or relationships and have no night to pass judgments on people's relationship balance. It is truly shocking to me how mean and bitchy some women r on here. Taking any chance to have a pop at women just asking innocent questions. A lot of women r hormonal and you could genuinely really hurt someone's feelings. But hiding behind a computer screen makes that all ok. And as for the women in here who have said that their taking up the offer of some extra cups of tea or mowing the lawn I hardly think that makes anyone a slave. Talk about over reaction to someone's comment

Oh come on...

Saying you don't plan on lifting a finger and laughing about it IS taking advantage of your SO. Let's not use our hormones as an excuse for any behavior.

sarahufl · August 2015

emk20 said:

emk20 said:

I actually feel sorry for your husbands, that's total disrespect. I bet if your hubby's played up an injury you'd be on here bitching away.
I think this is a totally disrespectful comment. You know nothing about anyone's home situations or relationships and have no night to pass judgments on people's relationship balance. It is truly shocking to me how mean and bitchy some women r on here. Taking any chance to have a pop at women just asking innocent questions. A lot of women r hormonal and you could genuinely really hurt someone's feelings. But hiding behind a computer screen makes that all ok. And as for the women in here who have said that their taking up the offer of some extra cups of tea or mowing the lawn I hardly think that makes anyone a slave. Talk about over reaction to someone's comment

Oh come on...

Saying you don't plan on lifting a finger and laughing about it IS taking advantage of your SO. Let's not use our hormones as an excuse for any behavior.
P Whose using hormones as an excuse no one has said they r. I was saying your irrational response could hurt someone's feeling. Nothing about using hormones as an excuse for any type of behaviour. Your just trolls looking to provoke a gang reaction when everyone else was happily commenting away.

FTR- I would say the same thing to someone's face. I don't need a computer screen to hide behind. Also, your grammar makes your posts difficult to read.

SisterMaryNapalm · August 2015

emk20 said:

nlwz123 said:

emk20 said:

CupcakesRamazing said:
I actually feel sorry for your husbands, that's total disrespect. I bet if your hubby's played up an injury you'd be on here bitching away.
I think this is a totally disrespectful comment. You know nothing about anyone's home situations or relationships and have no night to pass judgments on people's relationship balance. It is truly shocking to me how mean and bitchy some women r on here. Taking any chance to have a pop at women just asking innocent questions. A lot of women r hormonal and you could genuinely really hurt someone's feelings. But hiding behind a computer screen makes that all ok. And as for the women in here who have said that their taking up the offer of some extra cups of tea or mowing the lawn I hardly think that makes anyone a slave. Talk about over reaction to someone's comment

Oh come on...

Saying you don't plan on lifting a finger and laughing about it IS taking advantage of your SO. Let's not use our hormones as an excuse for any behavior.

P
Whose using hormones as an excuse no one has said they r. I was saying your irrational response could hurt someone's feeling. Nothing about using hormones as an excuse for any type of behaviour. Your just trolls looking to provoke a gang reaction when everyone else was happily commenting away.
----qbf----
They're not trolls. In fact many of these ladies are the reason I have gotten pregnant whilst retaining my sanity. This place is snarky and honest. There was no-one being mean or cruel. OP's post was clearly referencing taking advantage. I'm pregnant and hormonal but that doesn't mean I can't hear honest opinions and I'm offended that you would respond this way to someone calling OP's frankly absurd post. I love the small bits of attention I'm getting from DH, I can get on board with that but paralysed? Ugh. I'm a teacher and run a business, I can't afford to be paralysed.

DutchLucyLu · August 2015

@emk20, just because someone doesn't agree with you and tells it like it is doesn't make them bitchy, a troll or pathetic. You need to stop with the name-calling. This is not a grown-up way to deal with disagreement.

sarahufl · August 2015

emk20 said:

Ahhhh it all makes sense now. I didn't realise when I joined this forum there was already a pack mentality from Ttc forums etc. right. I'm offski. Can't be bothered to try to integrate into a pack of school girls in their little gangs. Too much effort.

lol, um- ok? There isn't a pack mentality- I don't know any of these people. It is just unreasonable to act helpless JUST because you are pregnant. If you are truly having that many difficulties maintaining a normal life, that is one thing. But to act completely helpless is absurd.

PrimRoseMama · August 2015

A) Don't cry wolf this early. For real. It may seem Tee-Hee funny & cute, but when you need real help towards the end & with a newborn you will not be laughing when you meet resistance.

Let's call a spade a spade. Using "pretend" needs is taking advantage of your family/husband's good nature because you are pregnant. That's not polite, considerate or nice. If roles were reversed you wouldn't like it. At 7 weeks unless you have HG or other debilitating symptoms then you should be able to function as close to normally as possible.

C) If you have more kids then this isn't at all funny or cute. Toddlers don't give a flying poop if you are tired, sick or can't move.

D) I'm keeping it real (as are my other ladies from the TTC boards). We aren't insulting you personally or name calling. Some of us have been where you are and beyond. Just because the Truth Bombs bruise your ego some doesn't mean we are Trolls or immature middle school girls. If anything we are trying to do you a solid.

E) Text talk & poor grammar make posts hard to respond to. If you are old enough to make babies & birth them, then you are old enough to string together rational thought. Your words communicate more than just your stream of thought.

F) when I was pg with DS I asked for help during first trimester with trash (made me vomit) & some baby diapers with DD (but my husband does this without asking anyway).

Towards the VERY END (35 weeks & on to 41 weeks) I asked for help picking up the floor, mopping & loading the dishwasher. I physically couldn't do those things at the time.

I get it, this thread was supposed to be light hearted & inspire giggles. It just looks smug though & mean-spirited to purposefully take advantage of those that love you.

Tippy05 · August 2015

Starfish51886 said:

Lurking.

Is this real life? I can see not being able to tie your shoes in your third trimester, but really with this thread? I can't, you guys. It's too ridiculous. If you're so delicate in your first trimester that you can't tie your shoes or wash a dish, or are saying, "I've been acting as if I'm totally paralysed. I don't even lift a finger, it's hilarious and I'm only 7 weeks," you're making ALL pregnant women look weak and lazy.

As far as @Haven77 saying, "Just wait until I start showing lol," girl... just wait until you have a child. Then try acting paralyzed.

I have to agree. Pregnant =/= broken and helpless. It's a bit ridiculous at this point. In the third tri when we're huge and swollen and uncomfortable, fine, but NOW? Come on...

kerismatic · August 2015

@Starfish51886 and @PrimRoseMama Preach!! =D>

If mobile wasn't being such a pain I'd totally gif a mic drop. You'll have to use your imagination for now.

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