Please dont feel bad about missing work. Im one of the few just like you who was miserable. I started getting morning sickness severe nausea and vomiting around 2 weeks! It was so terrible that I had to go and puke in the bathroom most of the day. My senior was so rude and discouraging and never let me go home. With all being said, my husband made me leave my job and said it wasnt worth it if it meant looking over work before my health first. Up till now I have severe nausea, fatigue, vomiting and dizziness. I pray we all get better soon!
There is no such thing as 2 weeks pregnant. That's called O day, (depending on your cycle) and at best you didn't even have implantation and actually become pregnant for another 5 or 6 days.
I'm on ur side! I'm 10 weeks and if I had to work I would of been fired! My last pregnancy was a breeze so I understand the ladies who hasn't experienced this to not understand it...... I would of never thought it was possible to feel this way but here I am..... In bed all day dreading going out anywhere... Don't feel alone BC ur not !!!
I haven't missed a day. I don't feel 100% but I think I'd feel worse if I sat at home all day. I think you just need to push yourself and get through it. I have pep talks with myself throughout the day. I know what I'm capable of and am definitely not over exerting myself. Haha
I'm wondering how this will affect me at work. I've had the following thoughts or things I've read:
the "suck it up" advice
how did women deal with it since forever
feeling very down about women who are in a less fortunate position than me
Less fortunate meaning I have a pretty flexible boss and a pretty flexible job. It's full time and one of the worst things is that I work in an open-office. Sucks for me on the daily but I know that when I think about the grand scheme of things, might not be so bad.
I just took off a lot of time from work for vacation and it was on vacation when I learned I was pregnant! So, vacation was mostly morning sickness! It has sucked. Today I'm feeling basically normal, somehow keeping nausea and cramps away, and I feel on top of the world. Not sure if that feeling will last but it makes me think work won't be so bad. My work consists of co-workers stopping by my desk allll the time, being in small rooms with people for hours at a time, and giving presentations. I am not worried about showing, being a pregnant lady doing all of this because as far as I know it won't suck as much as morning sickness! (There is, of course, the fact that I haven't planned out when to tell my workplace I'm pregnant. Luckily, I hope, I won't give birth until after our busy season.)
I was worried that I'd have to take all of this extra PTO and sick time, which I have, but that it doesn't look good. I can even work from home if I work it out with my boss but it would only work if I was at home--where I could barf or whatever in peace--and my mind was clear enough to work. I am sure I will feel guilty about missing work. I mean, its's bad enough that I feel pre-guilty about taking maternity leave/short-term disability, and that's a shame I think that.
I do wonder how my friends and coworkers did it, pregnancy with their jobs, but then I don't want to ask because I haven't told anyone but our parents that I'm pregnant! As for how to deal at work this coming week, I can only hope that what I've found successful so far will continue to work as well as giving myself more time before work starts to work out nausea.
Wow. Whether you agree or disagree with the OP, I would think some of you (adults) could think of kinder ways to say it. Share your own experiences and keep your judgements to yourselves. This looks like a message board written by catty middle school girls.
Wow. Whether you agree or disagree with the OP, I would think some of you (adults) could think of kinder ways to say it. Share your own experiences and keep your judgements to yourselves. This looks like a message board written by catty middle school girls.
^^ written by a middle school girl.
The real world isn't butterflies, it's real. Those of us with tough work ethics push through because we have to to provide for our families.
Probably shouldn't get involved, but I just wanted to interject my 2 cents here. I think the bottom line is, we're all very different and going to give different advice in different ways. We come from varied backgrounds, environments, and cultures which will determine our general outlook on things. Some may use tough love, others may use a TLC approach. Either way, look at the intent of the message to see if the person was trying to be helpful or not. If not, ignore it. If you don't like it or are offended, take it with a grain of salt and understand that's what has worked for that particular woman, and she's trying to help you from her perspective. That's what I observe and adhere to, and it works for me.
Wow, some of you are super harsh. I'm 11w1d and this is my first pregnancy. I too have missed A LOT of work- almost 3 weeks. It's been super rough for me as well and I commend those who are able to work though it all but all of our experiences are different. I could barely eat, nothing at all would stay down including fluids, I have lost 13 lbs and been so nauseas all day everyday. Luckily for me I own my own business but everyday I stay home I feel guilty and think about the people who don't have that luxury.
Just continue to talk to your doctor and do what you feel is best for your situation.
I think women can be so harsh. Things like "suck it up buttercup," and comments of the like are just rude and non-suppoortive. Blah. I'm one of those who had to quit my job early on(6 weeks in) due to the nature of my job. I work with Thoroughbred racehorses and wild ones at that. I was constantly at risk because I was so exhausted and dizzy. I found myself clinging to the side of a horses face as I was blacking out at one point. All of us women are different, I feel like because of the feminist movement we are all trying to be heroes. Some of us should take a break, chill out. You want to exhaust yourself and force yourself to work, that's your perogative but you shouldn't shame someone for calling out of work. Our lives are short. Sit down, take a break and take it easy. Exhaustion can be brutal, and in my case could be life threatening.
@CupcakesRamazing your comment ads zero value. What do you want? A round of applause for being so tough? I think you should "suck it up" and get the chip off your shoulder. You have no idea what other people go through and to assume you are any tougher is ridiculous. Your comments are offensive and aim to make other people feel poorly about themselves. Don't you have anything better to do with your time? Perhaps make some cupcakes to take the edge off...
If you're offended by someone being told to suck it up, I fear for you making it in the real world.
I make great cupcakes by the way, thanks for your rousing discussion point though
@cupcakesramazing they must be good if you had 30 lbs available to lose during your first tri... And don't worry about me in the real world, I worked through an MBA while working full time as well. I know a thing or two about work ethic.
@CupcakesRamazing you're right. That's was low and I apologize and feel ashamed. This discussion frustrated the hell out of me and it got the best of me. I wish all of you all the best.
I appreciate you coming back to apologize, thank you.
Clearly some posters have not read through all of the responses.
OP didn't go into detail with all of her issues until being called out and told to suck it up. Once she gave more information she was told to consult her DR.
No one is bullying her or tearing into her, just giving honest answers. I don't come to these boards for the women to sugarcoat things, I come to these boards to give real advice, get real advice, and for women to put me in my place when I need it.
Also, many of us who are in the suck it up buttercup camp have experienced more than just fatigue. (Since around 4 weeks I have thrown up around 8 times a day every day with the nausea from morning until night, among other great symptoms.) Repeating an earlier comment of mine, FMLA leave is within a 12 month period, not a calendar year. So, the more time you take off upfront, the less time you might have available when baby is here. To me, that time is too valuable to use up now.
Wow. Whether you agree or disagree with the OP, I would think some of you (adults) could think of kinder ways to say it. Share your own experiences and keep your judgements to yourselves. This looks like a message board written by catty middle school girls.
And yet you are the only one violating TOU and sinking down low to call folks names? Its not supportive of any community to name call. Also, you are judging us for judging. This response is the most combative I've seen.
There is nothing judgmental about "I'm sorry but fatigue is part of pregnancy. Suck it up and go to work." There is no name calling (calling her wimpy, whiny or otherwise disparaging her character). There is no bullying (threatening her life, property or means of making money). None of these things happened.
You, on the other hand, called us names. How does that make US the ones creating a negative environment?
I've been pregnant twice and I know how exhausting it is, especially in the beginning but I'm of the mind set to just "get on with it" as well. I would go to bed early, take naps if I could but I didn't miss work. I was trying to save all my time off for maternity leave!
With that being said, I have no idea how intense your fatigue is, but it's going to be a super long 9 months so if you can push through and go to work then I would do it. The end of the pregnancy is going to much more exhausting.
This 100%. I was lucky enough to become a SAHM shortly after I had our first LO, but I worked damn near every day of my first pregnancy. Most days I even had to walk to work and back home (which took about 30-45 min each way). You do what you've gotta do to help provide for your family. And just a heads up, but the first few weeks after you have the baby, are WAY more exhausting!
Re: Feeling guilty over not going to work?
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I think you just need to push yourself and get through it. I have pep talks with myself throughout the day.
I know what I'm capable of and am definitely not over exerting myself. Haha
The real world isn't butterflies, it's real. Those of us with tough work ethics push through because we have to to provide for our families.
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DD2 born 6/2016
Just continue to talk to your doctor and do what you feel is best for your situation.
I make great cupcakes by the way, thanks for your rousing discussion point though
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And yet you are the only one violating TOU and sinking down low to call folks names? Its not supportive of any community to name call. Also, you are judging us for judging. This response is the most combative I've seen.
There is nothing judgmental about "I'm sorry but fatigue is part of pregnancy. Suck it up and go to work."
There is no name calling (calling her wimpy, whiny or otherwise disparaging her character).
There is no bullying (threatening her life, property or means of making money).
None of these things happened.
You, on the other hand, called us names. How does that make US the ones creating a negative environment?
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