I am getting so fed up with the sex vs. gender militants lurking around here. I just don't care if people use these words interchangeably and am much more annoyed by the excessive amount of condescending posts correcting people every...single...time.
I don't know about this whole sling/wrap thing. Everyone's nuts about how they're such a good way to carry the baby and so good for bonding and I'm like "I'm placing the safety and wellbeing of my newborn in the hands of two metal rings and some cloth." Not so sure about these....
And also, not a huge fan of pink everything for baby girls. Not even a little.
I also was jut crazy about pink everything for my daughter. So I didn't buy ANYTHING pink just to make my point. She inevitably was gifted with pink things... And she loves them. She's two now. A girl wants what a girl wants.
I am getting so fed up with the sex vs. gender militants lurking around here. I just don't care if people use these words interchangeably and am much more annoyed by the excessive amount of condescending posts correcting people every...single...time.
No hate, just hormonal!
They have nothing better to do than look to stir up controversy
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I am getting so fed up with the sex vs. gender militants lurking around here. I just don't care if people use these words interchangeably and am much more annoyed by the excessive amount of condescending posts correcting people every...single...time.
No hate, just hormonal!
They have nothing better to do than look to stir up controversy
I get that people have things they are passionate about, but you're unlikely to change minds with some of the attitude I have seen. Rome wasn't built in a day - it's unlikely that you're constant berating about what is PC and what is not is going to have immediate results on something a person has been saying their entire lives. What's the phrase? You catch more flies with honey than vinegar or something?
I am getting so fed up with the sex vs. gender militants lurking around here. I just don't care if people use these words interchangeably and am much more annoyed by the excessive amount of condescending posts correcting people every...single...time.
No hate, just hormonal!
They have nothing better to do than look to stir up controversy
I get that people have things they are passionate about, but you're unlikely to change minds with some of the attitude I have seen. Rome wasn't built in a day - it's unlikely that you're constant berating about what is PC and what is not is going to have immediate results on something a person has been saying their entire lives. What's the phrase? You catch more flies with honey than vinegar or something?
I just want to be a respectful person who treats others kindly. I assume everyone else does, too.
I'm a cottage cheese person. I like it simple or with mandarin oranges. My mom makes this (grotesque) salad with cottage cheese, mandarin oranges, pineapple, and whipped cream. Blegh. Too much crazy.
On things we don't like... I'm still waiting for it to come out that someone has paid Trump to be an idiotic distracting factor. He could never seriously be president...
My UO: I click on posts with titles that I know will make people angry because I think it's entertaining to see how upset people get over such inconsequential stuff. I never comment on them, I don't want to fan the flames, but I usually keep following. I want to just pat some of the commenters on the head sometimes and tell them "you tried your best buddy, I'm sorry the internet works this way"
Mmmm, love cottage cheese. My mom makes something with cottage cheese, Jell-o and whipped cream that is delicious. But I also love it on its own.
My UO: I don't mind if people touch my pregnant belly. And it doesn't hurt my feelings toward the end when people tell me I'm huge or ask if I'm having twins. I do get huge. I'm practically a circus freak. It's not my fault. That's just what my body does. I would be offended if someone called me huge when I'm not pregnant. But while I'm pregnant . . .meh!
Married 7.29.05 :: DD1 5.11.10 :: DD2 1.23.13 :: Baby Boy due 3.13.16!
@mrspepper05 agreed. I don't mind a bump rub. I even had a stranger do it last time, it was weird I'll admit but no big deal. I'd never do it to anyone else though!
Love cottage cheese and so do my kids which is awesome because it has lots of protein! But I can see why the texture wouldn't be for everyone.
I understand the reasoning behind not giving trophies for participation, but if you saw the way my 4 year olds eyes lit up when he got one (or more realistically your future 4 year old) I guarantee you might be tempted to change your mind. The truth is he's not that good at sports, he's not going to get a million sports related trophies like his older brother has/will so his 'participation' trophies actually mean a lot to him. He is so proud to have a couple trophies on his dresser just like his big brother. I guess I fail to see the harm in that.
the belly rubbing thing bugs me a bit but I try to remember it is people trying to connect with my baby in a sweet way ... They just forget it is my belly getting stuck in the middle
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I totally don't have a problem with acknowledging positive participation for younger kids
As a high school teacher, I have a problem with the entitled kids I teach who think they deserve a 100 for every assignment they do, regardless of whether or not they followed directions or actually answered the essay prompt or whatever. They have the "participation trophy" mentality for everything they do. I have to shut it down really early in the year or we have issues
My UO: I click on posts with titles that I know will make people angry because I think it's entertaining to see how upset people get over such inconsequential stuff. I never comment on them, I don't want to fan the flames, but I usually keep following. I want to just pat some of the commenters on the head sometimes and tell them "you tried your best buddy, I'm sorry the internet works this way"
Yes this!!!! I love reading threads i know will get alot of attention! The warring parties always give me the giggles while i read them
I just can't get on board with participation trophies. I truly think they do a huge disservice to kids. It's not our job to make our kids happy 100% of the time, and disappointment and losing are great opportunities for life lessons on how to deal and overcome. I cannot stand sore losers who pout and throw tantrums when they dont get what they want. It's also a great time to encourage empathy so when the shoe is on the other foot they aren't bratty winners either.
I'm okay with participation trophies for younger kids. I think it's good to teach them that being active and playing sports is fun, and that it is important to try your best, whether you win or lose.
A lot of times, the best team will get a bigger trophy, which I think gives everyone something to shoot for.
Then as they get older, participation trophies can be phased out. But I don't think it's bad for little kids at all.
I think giving trophies to all kids at a young age is the beginning of the entitlement. Even little kids can learn that if they want to win or be good at something they have to work really hard at it to get better. I want my child to learn early that it's ok to lose, that losing can teach us how to get better, and we still have fun playing. We all have the capacity to learn and get better at everything, but being praised or given rewards for just existing is not helping kids it prevents them from meeting their potential. There is a really interesting study about self esteem and over praise the authors last name is Dweck.
I'm one of those people that agree with the trophies for all the younger kids. I'm also someone that thinks that competition is a good thing but I teach my kids that most of all, it's about having fun. I can't stand it when I see these parents standing back and screaming at their kids or getting upset with them over a GAME. Just my opinion but I'd rather my children just have fun than be all uptight and scared that they did something wrong.
Edited because spelling is hard lol
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There is a poster at the YMCA that makes me smile. It says something along the lines of:
your child's performance/success at sports is not a reflection of your parenting. Your child's ability to participate in a team, work with others, and their behavior on the field IS a direct result of your parenting.
(Very severely paraphrased but that's the general gist). I really like this poster.
See, I don't see fun being the most important thing in children's activities. I've always been involved in team sports, individual activities, etc and having fun isn't even on the list of things I gained from them now that they're over and done.
Sure I had fun a good majority of the time, but learning to work as part of a bigger unit and appreciating my place in the team - star or supporting cast, working hard to get better, sticking it out when it wasn't fun because I had made commitments, overcoming personal weaknesses, gaining confidence and leadership qualities, learning humility and empathy, gaining strategy and critical thinking, etc were much more important lessons and skills...having fun is a bonus not an end goal to me.
That doesn't mean I'll have a bulging forehead vein and red face at my children's stuff, but my goal is to raise well rounded, independent, confident and capable adults. It's not my job to shield my children from disappointment and tell them they're the most special child on the planet just because they got out of bed.
See, It's not my job to shield my children from disappointment and tell them they're the most special child on the planet just because they got out of bed.
This is the best thing I've read on the Internet. Now if only all my students' parents believed this.
See, It's not my job to shield my children from disappointment and tell them they're the most special child on the planet just because they got out of bed.
This is the best thing I've read on the Internet. Now if only all my students' parents believed this.
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
No hate, just hormonal!
Update : Tried it - was delicious. Made my husband try it and he is a fan too.
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
Me: 29 DH: 31
Married 10/13/12
TTC Since 8/2016
I just want to be a respectful person who treats others kindly. I assume everyone else does, too.
Agreed!
On things we don't like... I'm still waiting for it to come out that someone has paid Trump to be an idiotic distracting factor. He could never seriously be president...
I understand the reasoning behind not giving trophies for participation, but if you saw the way my 4 year olds eyes lit up when he got one (or more realistically your future 4 year old) I guarantee you might be tempted to change your mind. The truth is he's not that good at sports, he's not going to get a million sports related trophies like his older brother has/will so his 'participation' trophies actually mean a lot to him. He is so proud to have a couple trophies on his dresser just like his big brother. I guess I fail to see the harm in that.
A lot of times, the best team will get a bigger trophy, which I think gives everyone something to shoot for.
Then as they get older, participation trophies can be phased out. But I don't think it's bad for little kids at all.
Edited because spelling is hard lol
your child's performance/success at sports is not a reflection of your parenting. Your child's ability to participate in a team, work with others, and their behavior on the field IS a direct result of your parenting.
(Very severely paraphrased but that's the general gist). I really like this poster.
Sure I had fun a good majority of the time, but learning to work as part of a bigger unit and appreciating my place in the team - star or supporting cast, working hard to get better, sticking it out when it wasn't fun because I had made commitments, overcoming personal weaknesses, gaining confidence and leadership qualities, learning humility and empathy, gaining strategy and critical thinking, etc were much more important lessons and skills...having fun is a bonus not an end goal to me.
That doesn't mean I'll have a bulging forehead vein and red face at my children's stuff, but my goal is to raise well rounded, independent, confident and capable adults. It's not my job to shield my children from disappointment and tell them they're the most special child on the planet just because they got out of bed.